In life we will come across so many people in our lives, and some think that the more friends you have the more popular you will be and the more better you will be, and that is wrong. You can have so many friends, you can hundreds of people being your friend and some people will be more concerned about having quantity instead of quality, well, that should not be. I’d rather have a few friends who will be by my side, to back me up, and to support, love and appreciate me for who I am. Everything should be mutual when it comes to friends. It takes two to tango and it takes both to be the backbone that keeps the friendships up. Also, don’t trust people so quickly, don’t give in so easily. Ask yourself a few questions, will they be loyal to you? will they back you up? How will they treat you? Will they use you? Unfortunately in society these days, you need to double triple check before you make friends with people and this day in age, trust has become so rare and there are people of all walks of life. Do you really want to put yourself in a predicament of hanging out with someone who will back stab, betray and use you?
In this life we live in now, we need to analyze people very well before we give our all, before we share our most personal stories and our life’s journey with them. It does take time to get to know someone, and friendships and good friendships take time to build. So you build your trust in accordance to how someone is, their actions, words, kindness, their honesty, their loyalty and the way they are to you and how they treat you. When you are out with friends at a restaurant, take a good look and observe, if they are rude to the waiter or waitress, or if they are rude to any other person, it makes you think and question, will they be like that toward me? Will they burst at me like that someday? Actions do speak a lot louder than words and then words and action play hand in hand with each other.
We must open up our eyes a bit more, be more observant, and not to trust people so easily. Take your time to get to know someone before you give it your all. You will know the quality and the friends you have, by just the way they are, you will know what to do whether to pursue the friendship or not. Disrespectful people who do not know how good they have it and take advantage of ones goodness, good heart, and those who do not care, and those who use you, those who spread rumours and share whatever happens to the world, is not a true friend. Some people do not even know the definition of a friend and that is so unfortunate. Take your time, don’t rush into friendships so quickly because you will be burned if you don’t choose your friends wisely and you can be hurt. I do not want anybody hurt.
My family, friends, fans, readers and all my other supporters, I want the best for everyone, and I am speaking through experience. I’ve been burned so many times from fake people, I’ve been hurt so many times, but all it takes is opening up your eyes, being more assertive, being more aware, being more observant of people’s actions, eye language, facial reactions, body language and more. It is so important to take a look at all of that. It will save the hassle in the long run and it will make you decide if they are the right friends for you and if you should continue it or not. It all depends on a person’s personality and the type of friends to choose, but in the end look out for you. Don’t put everyone in one basket, balance it and don’t give in too quickly.
Just take your time. There is no rush to friendships. You will find the suitable people for you. It will take time and effort, but never ever think friendship will never happen for you. Just be patient and go with the flow. You would not want to go through havoc and trouble. Just believe in yourself and know that there are types of people for you that are suitable. Just relax and take it easy. I’d rather have only a few friends I can trust, depend on and share stories and things with, rather than having hundreds, that will only be their part time and not full time. So just go with your gut instinct and I wish you all the best.
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Your posts are consistently uplifting and I enjoy your conversational tone.
Smiles. I agree with Sabrina. I smile when I come here.
This is beautiful
Couldn’t agree more. Thank for sharing and for stopping by my site. All the best!
You said it all
I find the more assertive and able to think for myself, the more outspoken I become. I have lost alot of friends on Facebook that I met either in school or church. I realize they never were true friends. Most relationships are superficial. Just because someone has 1000 friends doesn’t mean they are all friends. I have a little over 200 but the way they inspire me, it probably surpasses all the friends the flakes have combined.
Blessings & Peace,
Friendship is a very important topic. Like you, I can speak from experience in saying that when times get tough you learn who your true friends are, and even worse, you find out what “friends” were really never your friends to begin with. I think your message is a great one: it’s better to have one friend who will support you through anything rather than 100 friends who run when times get difficult. Wonderful post!
Ah! True friends are so rare yet so beautiful. 🙂
The importance of great friends. You must have few friends that you can truely connect with and rely on. These would be the trustworthy people you have known for a long time. These friends will be there for you in tough times. They will do you favors without expecting anything in back. They should be able to make laugh and cheer you up. And no matter how famouse or rich a person is, everybody needs few such friends. Even if you have one such friend, its better than having 1000 friends who you can’t even rely on.
So true….but hopefully the number of quality friends is large enough to give you the support you need. Keep on going.