Getting Into Poetry Mode

Recently, I began to get into poetry mode. I really enjoy writing poems. I like it especially when I rhyme the words and make it flow perfectly together. In my previous blog post, I wrote a poem on Los Angeles and my love for the city. I tried my best to include all aspects about Los Angeles and what it is known for etc… I tried to cover all the bases on it all. Since I am going to be going to LA soon for the 3rd time, I thought it would be fitting for me to write about it.

My Los Angeles poem can also be made into a song lyric that can be sung by a professional that is famous or something as I am far far far from it. lol. I won’t even sing in the shower. That is not my talent.

In the next little while, you will see me posting poetry here and there. Not everyday though. I like to keep my readers in suspense as to what I am going to write about next. I like mixing it up a bit and write about all kinds of topics, types of writing, and of course the quotes and phrases I find online with of course giving the person credit if it is not my work.

I am excited to share it with my family, friends, fans, readers and the world.

Anyway, stay tuned for my poetry mode. You never know, the next blog might be just that. 🙂

Social Media Spam & Fake Accounts Beware

In the last few years, as technology of communication across the world has become a lot easier with transmitting information instantly across the world with just a single submit, post, or publish button. The world has come a long way with all that and it is incredibly amazing where technology has taken us. Some for the good, and some for the bad. The bad part about social media, e-mails and accounts are spam and fake ones.

I am sure some of us or if not all of us have encountered people saying “If you follow me, you can get instant thousands of followers back”, and then you see these accounts with fake usernames with so many numbers and a name with it like “Joy34342432456” or profile’s with suspicious fake photos, and then they try to add you as a friend, but you don’t even know them. After they send you e-mails saying “Hey, I saw your profile, you look great, and I want to get to know you and some sort of stuff” I am just getting so tired of all these bot’s and fake accounts that are circulating the internet.

I think the most important priority for these social media website creators, and those who work for these social media companies especially the IT, Security and safety teams, should really begin to clean out fake profiles. I know it is easier said than done and sometimes these fake profiles, hackers and everything made it so complicated to tell, but I can tell right away if it is a fake account.

So many things to look at when dealing with a spammer and fake account holder. here is my list:

– They only have 1 photo of themselves or they don’t have a profile photo and they put a picture of a unicorn or something. That becomes suspicious

– When they do not post anything on their profile pages.

– When you hashtag *#* or write about a certain thing on Twitter, an automatic bot will detect people’s status messages and retweet, like and follow you.

– They spam people to look at adult content videos

– They tag you in potential virus content that will mess up the security of your computer that will steal your passwords, and personal information.

– When they say, follow me and you get thousands of followers

– when there are e-mails that are like this “3535serger345gvdrgererwaefqw@swewed34325435fsfsada.com”

and so much more.

You must be so careful on what you add, who you add on your social media accounts.

I am going to begin to set up a petition online for these social media, and e-mail companies to really start cracking down on fake accounts, bots, and spammers to delete, remove and clean up the internet. Instead of focusing on new layouts, exciting new features and updates on these social media outlets, They should really be focusing on and managing security and safety of all the other users, by making it a little harder in the beginning when signing up for an account to ask several questions, to “I’m Not a Robot” or some sort of captcha, number to type down before creating a site, and go through extra steps to ensure safety and security of us all.

We should also be helping out these social media outlets. If you do see something that is not right or if you feel that you are being followed by robots or whatever, tell your social media outlet, report it, send an e-mail or whatever the case maybe, and they will investigate it and deal with it. There are millions and millions of accounts on these social media outlets and Facebook has over 1 billion people worldwide using it, so it can be quite difficult to combat all these accounts, so we as account holders should help them out and report these fake people or IF we can even call them that to them. It is so important.

Do not be discouraged of joining the social media world, just because of these things that are happening. Social Media outlets are awesome and it can be a fun, enjoyable and great place to keep in touch with loved ones, share photos, status messages and everything. I am not deterring anybody from this age in technology, I am just merely suggesting and advising people to really be so careful on who you add, and everything. If you do feel that it is suspicious, please report the account and delete and block it.

Have you been a victim of social media spam? What have you encountered?

Best wishes always, and remember to make wise decisions when Spammers and Bots come to you. best thing to do is to ignore, delete, report and then block. The social media outlet will see that it happened, as everything is on file at their end. Just be safe and enjoy social media.

My Dream to Meet Bradley Cooper – Hope it Becomes Reality

Before I go on about my dream to meet the Handsome and gorgeous Bradley Cooper, I want to tell you a bit about him. Well, as you may or may not know, Bradley is an actor, entertainer in film and he was born on January 5th, 1975. He was born in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania in the USA. He has been nominated and won many awards in the last few years. He has also been a presenter for awards. He wears suits and clothes very well. He is stylish and knows what to wear for every occasion. I can’t get over on how good and awesome he looks every single time. He is so good looking, it is unbelievable.

You may know the movies he played in to name a few from Wedding Crashers, Hang Over Trilogy, American Sniper, American Hustle, Aloha, Burnt, Joy, Silver Linings Playbook, Limitless, Serena, The Place Beyond The Pines, The A-Team, Valentines Day, He’s Just not that Into you, Nip/Tuck, Failure to Launch, Wet Hot American Summer and more.

He is so sweet and a great actor of whom I have grown to love and respect. At award shows, he is such a thoughtful and great person to bring his mother Gloria as his date and I can tell how close he is with his mother and that is something that is so beautiful.

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Now, it has been my dream to meet Bradley Cooper even before the Hang Over Trilogy Started. I began to tune into his movies when he played in Wedding Crashers. That was the first movie I saw of him. So, at that point, I scoured through the internet to find his name and I looked him up and it was incredible what I found. I saw some pictures and his biography. I then became interested in him. He is one of the celebrities that I adore so much. So, it has been many years now.

Bradley is absolutely so incredibly handsome, good looking, those blue eyes, his voice, his complete hotness, has a great personality of which I see when he is on talk shows such as Ellen, Jimmy Fallon, and I watched Inside the Actors Studio. He has so much talent and greatness.

I promise myself that if one day I do get the biggest luck in the world to meet him that I will not go all crazy on him to the point that I wouldn’t know what to do with myself, and be one of those super crazy fans that jump all over him. Don’t want to scare or creep him out. That is the last thing I would do. After all, he is just an ordinary person but the only difference is that he is well known, but other than that, don’t understand how some big fans go all super crazy. I understand that, but people really need to keep calm.

I know it gets exciting, you are in the moment and everything, but there are borders and lines you do not cross. No matter who the person is. I admit if I do meet him, I will be excited, but will contain myself and just have an ordinary and regular conversation with him and be happy that I got to meet him, take my photos with him and just enjoy the moments. I will probably forget my name and be in shock, but there is always that fine line.

Hopefully, when I go to Los Angeles and Hollywood in May 2016, I can have that chance. besides, last year in May 2015 when I did go to LA, the first billboard I saw getting out of the airport in LAX was his Movie Aloha. that there told me something. I was happy. Not happy because I could not meet him, but it could and will happen someday right?

If there is only a gift I would want, and that is this.

I wish Bradley all the more health, happiness and success now and in the future. Hopefully, one day I will be in that journey to meet him and making my wishes and dreams come true.

The Armenian Genocide – 101st Commemoration in 2016

To The Armenian Community of the World and as well as everyone,

2016 has officially arrived. It is never too early to remind and educate ourselves as well as others that this year in April on the day of the 24th, we must continue to strive to spread and raise awareness of The Armenian Genocide as it marks the 101st commemoration. Let us all continue that same energy we had for the 100th commemoration. We must not stop at 100. Recognition is the key component to prevention. No matter how many years have gone by. Never stop the peaceful demonstrations, the many events and the marching.

We must be big in numbers again all across the world to come together like how we did in 2015.  However even bigger. It speaks in volumes. We should always remember. We are still here on this earth, we have a purpose, we have a mission. It all begins with how we instill that to everyone and the importance of how crucial it is to spread Genocide prevention. Not only in Armenians, but everyone in the world who have been victims of genocide and to kill, torture and so many unspeakable, unimaginable criminal acts that we need to address.

Now, I know some people’s mentality that okay,  the 100th commemoration year of 2015 is now come and gone, next year is the 101st, it won’t matter anymore, and some people will not end up participating in Genocide peaceful demonstrations, and other events. That is what some people have told me and I was absolutely baffled and was in disbelief that some people actually said that. So, I guess the bloodshed of our ancestors and the horrific, and terrible days and years our people went through with all the suffering doesn’t matter anymore. Well, it does matter. These people’s lives were torn upside down, these children did not see life growing up because they were killed, women, men, babies all taken away, displaced, and massacred. They were also left to walk in the desert, and when they were tired and could not walk anymore, The Turks, punched, kicked, slapped and put them down to the ground and demanded them to get going and keep walking. Women were raped from Turkish soldiers too, while their children and spouses watched. We owe it to these victims, our ancestors and be there for them. Not only by just saying prayers and remembering, we must do more by going out and putting our time and effort to raise awareness. It is crucial.

We owe it to these victims, our ancestors and be there for them. Not only by just saying prayers and remembering, we must do more by going out and putting our time and effort to raise awareness. It is crucial. It is a way to pay respect and to take extra measures. I am not just talking about the Armenians, but the whole human race of the world.

The Turkish Ottoman Empire tried to destroy the whole Armenian race and wipe us all off the face of this earth, and they killed 1.5 Million Armenians and they also stole our precious land and our Mount Ararat in 1915. The Turkish Government still denies, lies, as well as make up stories that they never committed such terrible criminal acts to humanity of Armenians, and many other people in Greece as well as other places. They must admit their guilt. Justice and Recognition must be enforced.

Everything starts with how much of an impact we have and can spread around so that history never repeats itself. Where there is a will there is a way.

From:

Talin Orfali

Happy 2016! Welcome to a New Year!

Hello Everyone,

Welcome to a Brand New Year 2016. Cheers to everyone! I just came from a great party celebration. I saw many people that I have not seen in a while, also new faces. I became friends with a couple of people and we will definitely be keeping in touch and communicating. It definitely was great to go out this year. I had not gone out to a party for 3 years now outside the house. This year, I wanted to go out and let loose, enjoy and welcome a new year amongst many people.

I saw some of my fans and those who follow me and my blog as well as people who came up to me and said, that my face looks familiar. I guess because of my blog site and that my picture is everywhere lol. It felt great, and especially people coming and giving compliments in front of my parents. I love to write a lot and I assured them today that I will continue on with my passion in 2016 and that this year, I have fresh new articles coming your way, and I am going to strive to write every day. If not every day at least, 4-5 times a week. I am going to make it a mission to keep writing and reach for the stars day by day.

I look forward to this new adventure. Thank you to my family, friends and fans.

Thank you to those who have been with me through this journey and I look forward to 2016 with you and others who will be joining me. Blessings to all and have a fabulous 2016.

Love,

Talin Orfali

Merry Christmas & Happy Holidays

Dear All,

I would like to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas to all my family, friends, friends I met online/in person, my fans, my readers and everyone who celebrates Christmas. Although The Armenian Christmas is on January 6th, it is also great to celebrate on December 24/25th. Wishing everyone all the best. ❤ ❤ Hugs and Kisses to all.

I also celebrate on January 6th where its my Armenian Christmas too. This is an exciting time of the year.

Happy Holidays with great health, happiness, and great things. Best wishes always.

Cheers to you and your loved ones. 🙂

Love,

Talin Orfali

A Highlight,

This Christmas, It was my first time marinating and cooking my very first turkey…. The end result — SUCCESS!! 🙂
I usually cook chicken, and other meats, but it was my first for turkey. I am so proud of myself and I did it all on my own. 🙂 – I also cooked the whole Christmas dinner..

Over Sharing on Social Media Really Needs to Stop – Furious 7 Movie

2 days ago when I was observing my News feeds and amongst other social media websites, something really began to bother me in so many ways. One that hit close to home and one that I just cannot believe. I know that the social media has boomed and has become one of the most biggest information hubs of the world, and I never knew how some people can just post anything without thinking until a couple of days ago. I just cannot believe it. It is too much. I mean enough is enough. This really pushed my buttons this time. I cannot endure that disrespectful acts from people. Just because a film just came into theaters it does not mean that you have to right away ruin it for people, and post every single darn thing. It is not cool at all.

With all due respect of the Late Paul Walker and his memory who died in 2013, November..  To all those who were close to him, his loved ones, his Fast family, the fans, I find it very disrespectful and wrong of people who are spoiling, over sharing the movie and taking parts of the movie and putting it out there, spending all that time with creating gif’s, memes, and video posts already on social media sites. This is not good to do, especially when there are such highly devoted Fans of the Furious 7 family and dishonoring Paul’s memory that way. I see people already spoiling the ending and everything and showcasing it to the world to see. It is not fair. People really need to stop that. I do not find it to be amusing at all.

Film Makers, Actors, Actresses, and everyone involved in movies work so hard, the production is hard work, very hard. Some people do not realize how much work, time, tons of money and effort is involved in making these films shine, and for them to make to our local movie theaters, then we have people who copy and use their smart phones or whatever device, to record the movie, to blab it out for everybody else is just so insensitive and down right disgraceful to those people involved in that production and directing.

There is no excuse in the book. It is never right to copy, re-produce something without written consent and permission from the intellectual owner/s of that production or whatever the case maybe. Not just in movies, but in our general life. If something is not yours and if you want it, ask for it, get written permission, do whatever you can to get things in writing before sharing somebody elses work. It is the right thing to do.

Just because it is social media, it does not mean that we have to post everything and anything we hear about, see, and do. Some things are meant to be private.

Furious 7 has not even been a week yet since the April 3rd, 2015 release and I keep seeing all these videos of the movie, and most importantly the best highlights, especially the ending part. I mean seriously? Is this a way some people want to honor and Respect Paul Walker and his cast-mates and film makers?

I saw it on Sunday April 5th, 2015 and I have not given anything away, as should be, but people do not think, people blab everything and it is not very good. Go see it in the theaters or wait to buy the movie, but don’t spoil and ruin it for everyone else who has not seen it yet. I just find that to be really terrible and thoughtless.

So enough is enough… Over Sharing needs to stop. It is really ridiculous having to spoil something for people whom have been looking forward to seeing the movie Furious 7. Instead of keeping people in suspense, and their eagerness to go to the movie theaters or the anticipation of seeing it on DVD in your own homes when the movie comes out. It ruins the fun, it ruins the curiosity. Thanks for understanding my view-point, because it is just craziness.

 

RIP Paul Walker — I Love you so much.

Furious 7 – One Last Ride – For Paul Walker – In Theater’s Now

On Friday April 3rd, 2015, Furious 7 made its premiere and movie debut in theaters where in about 3-4 days now, it made over 384 Million dollars in the Box office and more. Just over half way through the movie, an unfortunate loss happened to the Fast family, loved ones and fans all across the world, when Paul Walker died of a single vehicle crash where he was a passenger in Los Angeles on November 30, 2013, which put a strain and scar on everyone as well as a terrible shock, which the news spread within seconds, and that feeling will never go away. The production of the movie came to an abrupt halt and got post-poned until the directors and film maker of the movie decided how they will re-write and complete the movie. Paul’s brothers Cody and Caleb completed the rest of the role of Brian O’Connor.

The movie was absolutely incredibly, tastefully and wonderfully done. There was so much action. The Late Paul Walker as well as Jason Statham, Kurt Russell, Vin Diesel, Tyrese Gibson, Ludacris, Dwayne Johnson, Michelle Rodriguez, Elsa Pataky, Jordana Brewster and more were actors of the movie. They are all so carefully and excellent chosen actors for Furious 7 and the movie series. I love you all very much.

When I watched it on Sunday April 5th in the evening, the whole theatre was packed. There was not an empty seat. They had the movie playing in different auditoriums because they could not keep up and each theatre was packed. I said to myself, to honor Paul’s memory, I need to go watch it as soon as possible. I could not wait until next week, when I initially had planned to see it. I went to go watch it with friends. I had this feeling and I knew I would be a total emotionally wreck I tell you, I could not stop balling my eyes out. You could hear sniffles and cries throughout the whole theatre as was myself. So many tears were flowing down my cheeks, and the ending of the movie was a beautiful tribute to Paul Walker. Paul definitely put a huge and everlasting impact on everyone. I will not be spoiling it for anybody.

I feel that I want to begin watching Fast and Furious from the beginning and make it like a marathon and watch One Last Ride – Furious 7 once again.

I had written this on Tyrese Gibson’s Facebook page on one of his photos and I said “you guys have no idea how much you all mean to me. I love you guys so much. I loved Furious 7 so much, and I want to go and see it again. It was a great movie and the ending and tribute to our Lovely Paul, was incredible and tastefully completed. I ADORE YOU GUYS SO MUCH…. My dream is to meet you all and tell you all personally how much of a great impact you all have put on me and my life. I have followed you guys since the beginning and will forever do so. I support you all 100%. RIP Paul, it will not be the same without you, but as I watch these movies, I will forever see his smile and beautiful soul shine.”

Paul, keep smiling in the heavens. Your smile is contagious and beautiful. He made me feel like I knew him personally, he made me feel like he was a good friend of mine, he made me feel like I was close to him. fly your angel wings, Race and rest in paradise PW. We all love you so much. God Rest your soul. With Respect and love, your forever and one of your biggest fans, supporter  Talin Orfali

 

Furious 7 – Paul Walker’s Last Film – Going to be in Tears

Vin Diesel names his baby girl Pauline after Paul Walker – That is so sweet. I got so emotional today and I still am.

Seeing Fast and Furious 7 is going to make me ball my eyes out. I probably won’t even be able to pay attention to the movie. Paul Walker was my all time favourite actor since before the FastFurious movies came out. I felt like I knew him personally and the way he acted toward his family, friends and fans as well as his cast mates was something that was so incredible. Paul will live through me and my heart forever. I always wanted to meet him and never got the chance to. I am still heart broken when I heard of his death. I just did not want to believe. I still don’t believe it, no matter how many times I see the photos, the footage, the news everywhere and articles too.

When I first heard of his death, I never made it a big deal, I said these things happen all the time when a hoax happens or rumors start floating around, then when I saw reports from ABC, CNN, NBC, CTV, right on my facebook news feed, I said Oh my goodness, it is real, then I saw the footage of the burned Porsche and my heart just stopped, I was in utter shock as I had been checking out Facebook on my phone, I kind of wish I didn’t, but I was waiting for a message, but however I remember I was out at a Christmas party just sitting down and enjoying the people and the music at the end of November, 2013 and suddenly my fun and everything just stopped right there, and plus I remember I had a really bad knee after spraining/dislocating it just 10 days before, that is why I was just sitting down and enjoying, so on top of that, I was just crying my eyes out. I wanted to go home.

I was not in the mood after. I don’t know that is how close I felt with Paul Walker. He was truly a beautiful person who cared about everybody and he was such a sweet and lovely soul. God rest your soul Paul. It was very untimely and something your loved ones and fans were not prepared of hearing that terrible news. You were an angel on earth and you have gained and earned your wings in heaven. I love you Paul and I always will.

I will watch your last movie in memory of you, but I can guarantee that I will be crying. Thanks for the memories and the beautiful name and legacy you left behind.

Social Media Mistakes We Should Not Make

In the last few years, communication, transmitting information instantly has become a whole lot easier with social media on the rise, and the way some people use social media is great, positive, empowering ways to help others, to inspire and use it wisely, however today I am here to talk to you about the social media mistakes that some people are making, and have made. Some do not even realize the mistakes they make because they think it is socially acceptable in society today, but I am going to decipher them to assist people on making the right choices in social media.

Here are the mistakes of Social Media:

1. Do not get so personal

Do not overshare your personal life with everybody. Nobody needs to know what you are doing constantly, where you are going 24 hours, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Some things are meant to be kept private. Do not share passwords, credit card information, address, your financial history, amongst what happens in your family, you do not need to share that you are doing laundry, cleaning, eating, having a beverage, when you go to bed, when you shower, and those common things. That is an open invitation to the world to your home and your life. Keep that off the internet.

2. Ridiculously time-wasting trends online.

Just because so many people are trending a ridiculous and derogatory trend, does not mean you have to join in on it. It is like if someone jumps off a cliff, don’t go and do the same thing for the sake of doing it to get out there to get your name noticed. Just don’t fall into that trap. It is a waste of time. Focus on more important trends that actually does make sense in the world.

3. Bringing personal issues that arise amongst friends

Never bring your personal issues with your friends onto social media. Whatever problems and concerns you have with your friend or friends, it is a good idea to take it up with them and not post it on social media and send out negative waves to everyone else. Some may not put peoples name onto it, but people will always put two and two together and decipher who it is, so do not bring personal matters on the internet. Solve problems face to face, be honest and tell each other the truth. Friends will appreciate that. You can lose friends and bonds with people and you do not want that. Do not be an open book and post everything. Things are always meant to be private.

4. Not delivering what you promise your readers

When you say you will be writing an article, or bringing up a particular issue about a certain subject and don’t write about it and do not post it, people will anticipate that article or story and then give up and won’t come back to your site because you are not delivering what you say you will write about. You lose your viewership and followers that way.

5. Not being original and not being yourself.

Do not go with the norm of the internet and make yourself into the common category. There is so much each of us can contribute to social media and the internet in different ways. Be yourself and do not copy everybody else. People can detect a phony and you do not want that type of reputation made against you. Come up with your own content, your style and how you want to portray yourself. If you are going to copy someone, give them full credit, the sources the information came from, who it is from, and try to contact them if you are able to that you are using their content on your website. Not crediting can get you into trouble.

6. Not Optimizing your social media efforts fully.

We all want to succeed and make a name of ourselves in social media, however with each social media site comes settings, layouts and how to keep your social media sites up to date. Look at your stats, followers, engagement to your site, look at different templates, make your social media site eye-catchy, use captions and headlines that grab people’s attention. Go behind the scenes and discover what you can do with social media outlets.

I keep hearing people say, “I do not know how to use certain features, how to get there“, so on and so forth. Well, of course, if you do not do the proper research and play and tweak with all the settings, you won’t know. Give them a try, if you need help, do not hesitate to ask, also each social media site has tutorials, help guides and directions on how to get to certain settings that you want. Don’t be afraid to try new things.

7. Not make yourself searchable on Search engines and social media sites.

When people say that, how come people are not coming to my site? How come people are not liking my posts and commenting? Well, it is because you do not have your site searchable, and because you have to add as much content as possible about a certain issue or whatever you want to address. When you are in social media, it means that you are not private anymore, it means that whatever you post can be searched, and you signed up to be on a social media site, so making stuff private is not so private. If you want a successful engagement to your site, then lift the restrictions in your settings.

8. Never spam and force people.

One mistake made by some people is that, they spam the internet everywhere, every group page, every website imagined, people post their websites, social media articles and content and force people to come by a website, and especially spam every persons news feed and repeat tweets about something thinking oh someone cannot see what I post, well, they can. Less is more. Always remember that. Never force people to engage into your social media sites. That there can lead to a red flag and people won’t want to come back and then those people will tell others not to come to your site, and then you will see your viewership decline. Let your viewership increase naturally. Don’t go overboard.

9. Never use people to share your content when you have never spoken to them or haven’t spoken to them in a while.

Oh there is a petition going around, there is a contest going around, there is an issue going around or simply just sharing what you have to contribute. Do not private message people you have not spoken with at all or for a while and ask them to sign a petition, or share a contest so that person can win or whatever and issues that need to be raised awareness of. It is using people and that is very wrong. don’t be direct by just sharing whatever you have with them. Do not talk to a person just for the sake of talking to them and then putting them on the spot to share something, to buy something or whatever it is. Not very polite and nice.
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That is about it, All the best and make the wise decisions when it comes to social media. If you are unsure of posting something, then it probably should not be on the internet. If you have any other ideas and other mistakes of social media that you have seen in your social media journey, feel free to add it in the comments section.

Thank you. If you have any other questions, concerns, do not hesitate to contact me.

Best wishes on your journey through social media. Lets grow together and make social media a positive, inspiring and wonderful journey through communication.

Setting A Good Example In Social Media Outlets

In recent years, technologists, entrepreneurs, creators of social media outlets have made it very easy to communicate with friends, family, co-workers, keeping in touch and as well as making new friends. When we are on the internet, we are automatically in a social media world. No matter how and why we use it for. We are all in this now.

Unfortunately we share social media with people who hide behind their computer screens that cause trouble and use social media to slander, to use social media in negative ways, calling people names, insulting and creating negative and offending memes that attack, bully and hurt somebody is something that is and should be uncalled for as well as unacceptable. A lot of these individuals/groups think that they cannot be caught, but they can be. Whatever is posted on social media is there forever and can never be deleted even if you press on the delete and remove buttons. People who hide behind the computer screen think they are superior and better then everybody else and think that Oh I can swear and, insult and hurt people and it is okay, but really it isn’t. You make a fool out of yourself.

People can get into serious trouble with posts if taken to authorities and have things investigated. It is so very easy to detect where and who these posts came from.

There are some website articles and photos I have seen and I have read some really nasty posts, rude, offensive, distasteful, cursing, snide remarks and comments and I wonder to myself how these people have been raised, why they have to do this, why they need to resort to this type of attitude where and how they can be so thoughtless and write things without thinking about it before clicking on that post, submit buttons. It is beyond me on how some people are allowed and be tolerated to demonstrate that kind of behavior online. No matter what it is, people do have a choice on what to post. If you really have nothing nice to say to somebody, please do not say it at all and do not post it on social media where everybody else can see. People of all ages are on the internet. The bottom line always comes down to choice.

I sometimes ponder to myself on what is coming to this world? Why does negativity, useless, pointless and utter stupidity of some people get so much attention, whereas great, positivity and good things people do go unnoticed on the internet and in our day to day lives? I mean yes they get so many viewers and become famous, however there are people who do something so terrible to get attention and when it gets posted, it becomes a trend within the hour or 2. Instantly the world knows about it and then it becomes a sensation. It is beyond me on why people spend so much time making memes, jokes on things that are so ridiculous.

Instead of spending time with uselessness, take a few moments to think about what to do before posting it. It saves a lot of hassle and ridicule. Also utilize your time better with positive, happy, inspiring and beautiful things that can change our world for the better instead of downgrading and pulling society down lower.

Some people have forgotten and do not know the purpose of social media. It means to keep in touch and communicate, as well as inspiring people, being thoughtful, to be kind, to be nice and to empower the world with our words to make this world wide web and the people in it a better place, to make someones day better. We all come to the internet in whatever we desire and to de-stress ourselves to read positive and great things, to have fun and be productive in what we do. As long as it is something that is a good example to contribute to our world, then it is all good.

Respect each other, and help each other out.

We have the choice to change the world to make it better and it all starts with what we choose. There is nothing and no excuse to say that you have “No Choice,” Because you do have “A Choice“. Think and use your time wisely on social media sites. Whatever is going on in your personal life, does not have to be broadcasted on social media. All the best and make the right decisions. It will impact you, your future and the social media world. Think before you submit.

Dedicated to The Late Paul Walker — Gone Too Soon

On the first Anniversary of Paul Walkers Untimely death, I wrote a poem for him a year ago.

Here it is again.

Dedicated to The Late Paul Walker — Gone Too Soon
By: Talin Orfali

Sometimes I Think to Myself on How Unfair Life Is,
Wondering How I am going to get through this.
Asking Myself why great people have to leave us?
Wanting to know the answer is why I am making a fuss.

Paul Walker Gone too soon from all of us,
To some, the News Felt like we got hit by a bus,
That feeling of mourning will take longer,
but for the Sake of Paul we must learn to be stronger

Our Blue Eyed Paul, Has Turned into Ashes,
We don’t realize how quick our life Flashes,
Paul Has now entered into heavens Gate,
Who knew, that this would be his final Fate?

Our Sweet Paul has gained his beautiful wings,
but we all know that this news really stings,
He is no longer with us on this earth,
but We know the great things he has done since birth,

Oh Paul How can life go on without you?
We have no choice but to pull through,
We know your life from us was cut too short
which has put a lot people out of sort,

Paul we didn’t get the chance to meet,
but I can look above and have that chance to greet,
You will always live on in our hearts forever,
This is not a goodbye, its see you later,
Gone too Soon Paul Gone to Soon.

The Purpose of Blogging – Why do we do it?

In the past few blog posts with the subject of communication and along the lines of what is relative to that, the way we feel, how we get our words and points across to the world and how we do it to reach out to others, and to share with the world our points of view, opinions, suggestions, to raise awareness on issues, to advertise, promote, social issues, recipes, tips, organizational ideas, simplifying life and so much more. We all have our own perspective and our own purpose when blogging and writing about our life. The question is why do we do it? Why do we spend time with writing? Why do we post our blog entries?

To answer those questions is quite simple. We all have a voice and existence in this world and there is just so many stories, journeys, experiences, moments, memories, being helpful, useful and beneficial information about life, travel, food, the holidays, situations, issues to address to the world and things that happen to us to share, to give our insight, and so much more. We spend time writing is because it gives us a boost, and the most important thing is how we feel, and how we want to communicate to the world. Blogging is a therapeutic yet rewarding feeling. It is like writing in our diary, but a virtual diary that we want to post public. We post blog entries to contribute something, an idea and something to share with the world.

Now with this being a virtual diary, there comes responsibility and thinking before we press the post button. There are private issues and things that should not be published of real private matters in ones home, in ones personal life. back in the day and maybe until now people have a personal and private diary, and I am sure you do not want certain people to open it up and unlock your diary of real personal things that you do not want people to see, its almost like the same thing with public blogging. You do not want to post private matters for the world to see, so always be mindful and think before you post something so personal.

Never keep your blogging private. It defeats the whole purpose of writing and expressing to the world. If you want to keep some of your writings private, make a diary, and keep it for yourself in hiding, but hiding a blog is pointless. Somehow no matter how private a blog is, somehow it can always be seen in a way.

Never stop blogging, never stop writing and most importantly never lose your purpose and perspective on why you started blogging in the first place. Never give up what you enjoy doing, never ever let anybody tell you to stop doing what you are good at. Well, nobody is perfect, however that should not define anything. You are in control of your own destiny, your own goals you want to attain from blogging and writing to the world. Remember you do not have to be a perfect blogger, its how you feel and what you want to accomplish. The beauty of blogging is something that is indescribable and the future of journal writing which is now.

So, what is your purpose? Why do you do it?

Communication Style – What is your Type?

As we go through life from the moment we are born, communication is and will always be a vital asset in our day-to-day lives. We need communication when we speak to our family members, boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, partners, groups, friends, colleagues, our bosses, fellow students, teachers, traveling, in social media, sending e-mails and so many different types of communication.

I attended a seminar “Inspire For Tomorrow” at my Armenian Community center and it was about communication, and I learned so much in a couple of hours. It put things into a new perspective, it gave me new light, new ways to deliver our speech, our stories, and so much more. There are several ways you can communicate, but here are 4 styles of communication, that I have observed in my life and my thoughts on it all:

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– The Driver — Someone who is direct, to the point, detail oriented, who speaks their mind, who produces results, attaining goals, gets into competitive situations, taking charge and being in control, wasting no time to beat around the bush.

– The Relater — Someone who cares about a situation, who can connect with others by thinking of the other person first, who’s relationships and friendships mean the world to a person, someone who is relaxed, and feel cared for, becoming silent, introspective and withdrawn, being helpful, coinciding with others, comforting others.

– Analyst — One who always seeks data, second guesses people, making decisions after analyzing a situation, testing people, giving people to focus on interpersonal and communication skills, those who despise making mistakes, double-checking everything, not being able to trust situations and people until doing further research on a person.

– Expresser — Someone who recognizes emotions, who expresses feelings, and what that person wants to say, the over sharing person who keeps on talking, and beats around the bush, making a small story into a big one, gets excited, giving feedback, boring people because of overusing communication, explaining ideas to the core then saying things out of turn which then makes it into an argument and problems can arise of sharing too much information.

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All those 4 styles have good and the bad, but we must find a way to be consistent when we communicate with others, using the right tone, words, following up with someone privately about something that you feel is gone wrong, not announcing it in a public, group setting, taking up issues with the person directly, instead of involving others in the mix. People will appreciate it when someone brings the other person to the side and discuss with them a problem, situation or something going on, then finding a solution to the problem, solving whatever issue, and finding the right words, tone to express those feelings.

We must always think about how we are going to present ourselves, no matter where you are, whether it is about self-regard, being assertive, emotional self-awareness, self-actualization, independence. It could be a beautiful thing, but it is in the way we utilize it all.

Communication is a never-ending learning process, and nobody is perfect and makes mistakes, however to always learn from them and progressing to do better, to improve in relationships, friendships, is something that is imperative. If you believe you have made a mistake, do not worry, focus on the future and make it better, improve the way you speak to others, always ask for advice, always have a mentor, someone whom you can talk to a person whom you can trust if you are unsure of how to deal with a situation if you are unsure yourself. It is always good to ask, then to stay silent.

Always be confident, express your ideas to others, be in communication, always tell a person how you feel about something without offending them. There is always a way to go around it. How do you normally handle situations that are presented to you? What have you learned from it all?

Why is communicating and expressing yourself so important? Everyone has a voice, everyone has something to contribute to the world, that is why everyday in technology, and things of the world are being invented, new innovations, new concepts, context, perspectives, theories, discoveries are being made across the world, because many people communicate, and want to get out what they feel is right for the benefit of the world and its people. Each one of us can make a difference in this world, and communication is one of them and we begin just doing that. Without that everyone would not have a voice and this world cannot continue to move forward. That is exactly why Communication is key and so important in our daily life.

So no matter how we express ourselves, the most important thing is the way we do it and a way where it will not hurt others, and where we can find common ground with everything in our lives.

How do you communicate? What is important to you to get across to others? Best wishes to you in your journey. We can all do something positive, say great things and to avoid messy situations, by just changing our tone and the way we communicate.

Never Apologize for The Way You Feel

A lot of the times in life we go through many feelings, emotions, and sometimes we tend to apologize for what we are feeling and telling people our emotions. You have every right to feel what you are feeling, You never have to explain yourself to anybody. Never be ashamed of your feelings. I know they say that you have to express your feelings everytime and tell people exactly how you feel, however sometimes you cannot control feelings, you cannot explain the way you feel due to a certain situation. I know no matter what you have to tell someone how you feel, and not keep anything inside of you, but some circumstances say otherwise. It depends on the person and whom you can confide into easily.

If you keep on living your life on other peoples terms and the way they want you to feel, the way they want you to live your life always telling you what to do, forcing, commanding you to do something is not somebody you want to associate with. Find the path and the people who can relate to you, do what you feel is right for you. Sometimes you need to get out from the norm, and do what is best for you. If you keep on living your life to please others, to always try and impress others, to always keep proving yourself and working hard for other peoples approval, you are not going to get anywhere in life and all you are going to do is just live for other people.

Sometimes you need to put your foot down and say, okay enough is enough. People talk so much about you and your life, gossip, spread rumors, put words in your mouth and what you should do with your life, however sometimes people need to look at themselves in the mirror first before they point fingers, criticize and belittle you. Some people have nothing better to do, than talk smack about other people, when they need to sort out their life and what they need to do. Remember nobody full knows you and about your personal life and what you are going through, and you never have to explain yourself to nobody.

Ignore people who talk so much bogus about you, and ignore people and block them out of your life. Life is too short. Be happy, be you, live your life on your own terms and your own comfort, and do not worry about anything else. People are always going to judge and point fingers. Don’t let it affect you and your life, well-being and who you are. True, compassionate and understanding people will be there for you every step of the way without explaining yourself. Remember others opinions of you, do no matter. Its how you make an opinion of yourself that matters. As long as you feel good about yourself and bring yourself up with good thoughts, confidence, the way you are is what matters the most.

People will always do and say mean things, but never let that take control of yourself.

I have realized a lot of things in the last little while, that you cannot expect people to understand you, your feelings and be on the same page as you, not everybody will be your friend and agree with you. I recommend that people should never stop being themselves, be who you are, feel what you want to feel. In the end we are all human beings in this world, we do make mistakes, we do wrong in social issues, we tend to sometimes associate with people whom we always have to try to fit in, do things to stay in the loop, however you never need to try to fit in, try so hard, and try to stand out, because there will be people who will appreciate you for you and there will be people who will love and cherish you and the memories shared and will share in the present and the future.

Wishing you the best with everything and remember never apologize for the way you feel. Always be thankful and just go on with life. There is only so much you can do and life will never give you more than you can handle.