Not Knowing How To Appreciate Somebody Really Hurts

When people who do not know the definition of appreciating you (me), or even think about you (me ) and only approach you (me ) only if they need something done, or anything from you (me), do not worry, what goes around comes around. Let nature take its course.

I always say this, people who are far away are always sweeter than the ones who are near and the ones who are near always get used, get volunteered into things, and expect so much more from, thinking you have time and can do things quickly. Unfortunately that is how it is. People do not realize I have feelings too, and I have so much going on for me too.

I am not complaining about doing things for others, and going out of my way to do so, but there is only so much you can do and then not be appreciated for it is absolutely hurtful.

This past week and for a while now, I have been so hurt beyond repair, my heart is aching so badly, to the point where I think about what happened when I go to bed, when I am sleeping, when I wake up, when I am going about my day, when I babysit, during when I am working, and even during my happy moments where I try to take it out of my mind. It is still there. I cried for many days and I have been so upset, disappointed on how people can be this way to others, especially if they are your own flesh in blood or whoever they are. It absolutely hurts like crazy. I really do not want to discuss what happened, but it hurts emotionally and mentally. It killed any spirit that I have left.

Its not so much about being chosen to be part of something precious and beautiful, it is the principle behind it and something to show gratitude, but unfortunately some people are not gifted with being thoughtful, and being appreciative toward others.

Well, I am not doing it anymore. Not going to allow others take advantage of me and take me for a fool. I really do not have time and energy for it anymore. Time to look after myself and go after what makes me happy, be with those who appreciate, love me for who I am, what I am passionate about and what I love to do with my own time. I have put my foot down. I am so tired of crying and being so hurt. Enough is enough.

Smartphones and Tablets — Have They Taken Over Our Lives?

As mobile devices serve a good purpose in life to communicate with others with texting, calling, spending time with apps, and having fun with them, but there should be limits. I feel that human face to face communication is diminishing, and that mobile devices have gone out of control. Social skills and speaking is deteriorating as our tongue freezes up and cannot come up with conversations instantly, whereas it is easier to communicate with texts and writing messages, but I prefer the old fashioned way, where people come together, enjoy, create memories, laugh, talk and do fun things together, to put the phones down and actually verbally do the talking instead of the fingers. I know that it is a personal mobile phone and you can be on it 24 hours a day, but you do not need to be on it constantly.

I feel that smartphones and tablets and the constant changes to technology and gadgets are taking over some peoples lives and they can’t seem to put them down at all, they wake up with it, go to bed with it, they use the washroom with it, they eat dinner while being on them, they use it while at a coffee shop or restaurant among friends 90% of the time people get together and do not look at each others faces, and its just overwhelmingly taken over. what is the point of getting together with people when all that will be done is looking at screens? Where do we draw the line? Its become so bad that when people are physically together, they text each other when they are beside each other, and they communicate with their phone instead of looking at each other and moving their mouths.

I too have a smartphone mobile device, but I know my limits. I do enjoy my mobile device too, but I do not let it control my life, or my way of living. I will not let a screen device take over my life and who I am. Some people need to know limits, and when to put down the phone, like when someone is talking to you, when you are among a group of people, when you are in the washroom and so on and so forth. I sometimes go more than 12 hours without looking at my phone, I sometimes don’t look at it all day, as I do not let it control me.

Although mobile devices are important to have for emergencies and to contact people instantly, but some people overuse it to the point where things get out of hand and disrespecting others who are trying to talk to you when your head is so into that device, and its not healthy especially the radiation it produces. From your point of view, do you limit your use? What are your opinions about this issue? I would love to hear from you.  Know your limit and be within it.

Why Do Good Soft Hearted People Always Get Knocked Down?

Recently, in life there have been some unpleasant things going on in general that I am not liking whatsoever. For example, when you are so great with what you do, and who you are as a person in your job like, and when so many people who are fans and supporters of that actor/actress on a TV show or Soap Opera, people high up always tend to ruin a good thing and they do not even realize that many fans and supporters hearts will be broken from a good hearted and soft hearted person getting let go from the excellent work that they do. It really is terrible knowing that you are just a number and can be replaced like your nothing when your time is up or not. They need to realize that, messing with fans emotions and feelings and taking fans for a ride is not a laughing and joking matter. It is quite serious and that is losing and betraying the trust of all of us who are/were supporters. These people controlling and making decisions seem like they do not even care. Its very sad and disgusting.

Its like ordinary people in daily general life. In the world people take advantage of you, and do not even care about you and your feelings and the outcome of it all, because they know that they can keep asking you, and counting on you to do things and you never say no and they know that they can get anything from that person, they know they can run and walk all over you because they know how to get things done, and they do not care who gets hurt from it all.

Its something that I cannot make sense of at all and I just need to ask why Good and Soft-Hearted people are often the ones who get knocked down, get mistreated and shafted when not needed anymore? It is so unfair, life is so unfair, especially to the good people, Easily being replaced or looking for another person to do the same thing to. I just cannot understand it at all, and I am trying to look for answers, that I cannot even look for.

In this life, sometimes being a soft-hearted, good hearted, person does not work in some cases. Learning to speak up,  being tough, putting your foot down, standing up for yourself and your rights and saying no once in a while does not  hurt, it just puts others to the ultimate test to see if they are real and good friends to you and to see if those people are walking all over you. Sometimes there are people who take others for a ride all if not most of the time and the Soft and Good hearted person does not see it and will do anything and everything for other people, but when it comes to that individual, and when you ask the same from others its always a struggle to get things in return. I know some do things all the time from people without asking anything in return, but its nice to be acknowledged once in a while and having others do nice things for you.

Some realize that what they are doing is wrong, and they still do it because they do not even have an ounce of decency in them and they do not care who they hurt in the process, unfortunately they always run to the good and soft people because they know that they can play with that persons heart, and emotions. It is sickening. I am just so frustrated because I have been there, I have been through so much with always saying yes, I have been naive, I have been blinded by being used, with people always putting me to the side when not needed anymore, and a lot of fake people are around and this society has become that. Fake people hurt others like crazy, and It puts a scar in your life, because no matter what you do, its like Damn if you do, Damn if you don’t. Now, from your perspective, what do you think of this? What do you do when this issue arises?

In the meantime, Do not worry, keep up being great, soft-hearted people in this world, they are great traits, keep it up, As for those fake people, and those who take others for a ride, someday, I hope that they will realize and sit down and think long and hard and say what I am doing is wrong, and I should stop it, apologize to people and make better choices in society with socializing with others. It will make the world a better, friendlier and nicer place. I hope that I will see that day.

Have you learned to be more tough in this life? How have you handled it? Would like to hear from you.

Never Let Anybody Use You & Your Kind Heart

Have you been in a situation where you are always the one giving in? Have you always been one that says yes to everything, but in return people shrug you off and do not even budge with you and your requests? I cannot even count how many times It has happened to me in the past several months. On facebook a lot of people want me to advertise, and promote events and everything, but in return when I ask them to advertise and share my blog and my fanpage a writer named Talin Orfali, all I get is a no or not helping me. I believe everything is both ways. I know I have not responded to messages and comments, but I will get to them and I will work on replying as soon as I free up a whole day to do so, but anyway, I am so tired of people using me and not acknowledging me. It is the worst feeling ever to me and not appreciating and supporting me is even worse.

Never let people use you and never let people take advantage of you. You gotta learn to say no once in a while. Just to see the reaction. Well, I am going to say no to people from now on. If they do not pull their weight and advertise my stuff, then no advertising for them. It is a two way street right? Not a one way street. Don’t be a victim of another persons using. Its one of the worst feelings ever. You do not need people who use you. Stay away from them. If it doesn’t benefit them, they do not care one bit. If they don’t care, I am not going to care, if they don’t pull their weight, I won’t. It is that simple. People always want to look out for their self-growth, and self-centeredness, not how the person feeling used feels. When you start feeling used, do not keep it inside you, address the issue to the person and say, hey until when am I going to bail you out? Until when am I going to keep doing this? Saying no is not a bad thing. Trust me. Its a true test to see who stood behind with you and who left.

Just a word to the wise, don’t be a victim and do not let others use your heart and your goodness. All the best to you all! You all are my Internet family, I want the best for everyone!

People Should Be Loved, Things Should Be Used. Not The Opposite.

Have you ever encountered people who use others and love material items? I am sure a lot of us have and it is a great course of concern when there are people who use others so much and take advantage of them so much that the only thing they care about are material gain and they appreciate and love materialism better than the people or person’s in their lives. Nothing else should matter in the world accept loving and appreciating people. I just cannot handle when people are being used like crazy and then tossed to the side when not needed anymore. I know I have blogged about this before in so many blogs ago, but I need to bring up and raise more awareness on this issue as its a really terrible thing to do. You can’t just toss people to the side, thinking its okay to do so. Someone can damage another persons life emotionally and mentally. It is not a good thing to do.

I am sure that we ourselves do not want to be used either. This issue is a serious matter. People do not realize it, but it is and its a ridiculous thing. people cannot just do this to others. Whatever happened to loving people? Whatever happened to appreciating people? Whatever happened to trying to include people in our lives? It hurts when people don’t want to have anything to do with you unless when needed, it hurts when people just toss you to the curb, it hurts when people play with your head and ask you how you are, and then afterwards asks you for a favor and then it gets embedded in your brain and people use your good heart, take advantage of you and everything else. Its beyond terrible. In General, if you see this happening or if this happens to you, learn how to say no and confront the situation.

It is very important to stand up for yourself and stand up for your rights in situations such as this one. Learn how to say no to people, always think about what your going to do for that person before you actually do it. Yes there are so many great people out there that never say no, who are soft-hearted, too nice, and will accept anything, do anything, but it shouldn’t be like it. Saying no is not a bad thing. Then you will figure out and see who stays behind and who is your true friend. It is very important to be observant in everything, and think with your mind before you think with your heart. Your heart is a soft place that always gets fooled, but when your mind thinks before the heart, 99.9% of the time you will get out of all your troubles and you will get out of anything. These days thinking with your brain is the way to go, then thinking with your heart is secondary. You have to really think about your actions before you do them and think about what your saying before you say it. It is very important or else people will find your weak point and use and take advantage of it all the time. You won’t know people are using you right off the bat. It takes a little time to realize it, but before it is too late, saying no is the way to go. Only say yes when you think its a valid reason and when you think its a great idea, but don’t just fall into any trap and don’t just fall into anything without taking two steps back and then analyzing it, then moving forward.

Do yourself that favor, you will see the difference you make in your own life and in your whole mind. Think then do at all times. In society these days, it’s the only way we will learn. Live and Learn, You can say no. Its not a bad thing. No shame in it. Try it out, you will see the results. Will people stay or go? You be the judge. Easier said than done right? No sweat. Just do it and see for yourself.

 

Being Used, Then Put To The Side When Not Needed Anymore…

Lately, I have been feeling really used by people and its not a pleasant thing to go through. I have been through so much in my life like people bullying me, and keeping me left out of things in peoples lives and all that was a thing of the past, but now I am dealing with another dilemma, and that is people using me. I am only approached to if people need something, then the rest of the time, they act like they do not even know you, and say who is she? It is really a terrible feeling and I hope nobody else has to go through those problems. I myself have been there so many times where people wouldn’t give you the time of day, but conveniently they are there when you are needed.

I must learn to put my foot down, my good nature and soft heartedness, I am always end up doing it for them. Now that Facebook, Twitter, Youtube is out many people ask me to advertise they’re links and I do it, but there is a limit. There is this quote which I really love but do not know who the writer is, but it says: “Never make people a priority, when you are just an option to them”. I should take that advice and words of wisdom and put to good use. I should say no once in a while, it won’t hurt me. I will just find out who my true friends are by just doing so. I know there are still great people in this world, but very rare to find these days and very rare to find people whom do not use others.

Now days, whenever I see pictures of people having fun with each other on facebook, they are at a party, then I have to find out after the fact of that gathering or something and it is extremely hurtful to me and feeling excluded from things is not something that I feel good about. I cannot even begin to think how many times I have cried myself to sleep, thinking I am just a book that is read and put back on the shelf and not needed anymore, or those clothes that have been worn and put back in the closet to never be worn again. Its terrifying to feel this way and its not a great feeling at all. All the times I have been bullied, and put to the side when I was a kid, comes back to haunt me and no matter how much we try to forget it, it always there. It just doesn’t make sense to me and I am still trying to figure it out.

I want to have fun in my life, I want to put all those bad feelings and put them in the past and start fresh, but its not happening for me and sometimes all I want to do is just have some fun, and be invited to gatherings, be invited and have great conversations with people whom I know, not just one or two word conversations then I get put to the side and I am not noticed all night and I am just there by myself where nobody would talk to me for long periods of time. Its crazy. I do have friends now and everything and I am greatful to that and I have people whom I go out with Friday nights and stuff, but I am just so tired of being used then put out to the curb on Garbage day because that is how I feel at times and its just so ridiculous. I do not get why people have to act this way to other people. Its not a great feeling at all and I know all of this first hand. I hope nobody else has to go through this.