Chores are Development of Responsibility & Life Skills

As we are born and become children, majority of our parents/grandparents/guardians have taught us about responsibility, doing chores around the house and to gain experience and knowledge on to keep clean, tidy, and organized. Also teaches kids to obey, and prioritize life to do what is important first, and then make time for fun and play after.

When children wake up in the morning, they teach them on the importance of getting up to make the bed, brush the teeth, groom themselves, wash up and shower for good hygiene, and then they teach them how to eat, and then venture off to school with the grandparents/parents/guardian or with a school bus.

During school, the teachers and other staff of the school teach kids on importance of learning about the world, how to read, write, to learn about many subjects such as sciences, music, gym, dance, language classes, mathematics, chemistry, and the most important thing to teach children to be kind to other classmates, develop group skills during group work, also leadership.

When school is over and the children are on their way home, that skill to teach them about sharing, kindness, respecting others should also be implemented at home, so as they can continue that outside of school. The children come home, and the importance to wash hands, and change out of their clothes, and to start homework if they have homework that day and teach them to do homework first before they play with toys, tablets, colour and all that.

When it is time to make dinner and set the table, it is always a good idea to get your child involved in cooking, helping set the table with plates, cutlery, and then children should start to develop skills on washing dishes, and after dinner to help clean the table with a cloth, taking the dishes to the sink, and make the parents/guardian/grandparents life easier and for the children to help them out. This also teaches them for the future when they have greater responsibility when they get older.

Nowadays, it is so difficult to teach children these life skills because of the screens, video gaming consoles and technology that has taken over. Nowadays children always want to feel that sense of entitlement to do whatever they want, whenever they want without having to listen to their parents/guardians/grandparents. They feel the need to always want to be on their screens and not develop skills that will benefit them in the future. some Kids these days are immune to technology and less hands on skills, not having manners, not respecting and being kind to others, talking back to adults and also rude gestures and mannerisms. Some children are so spoiled and tend to have an answer for everything. We should never allow it for it to get that far.

Children see everything, they are observant, they listen to everything that goes on in the house. start them early, influence them in such a way where it becomes easier to ask them to do chores. Tell them to do things in such a way where they won’t feel threatened. Give them conditions that if they do not help clean, or do simple things like washing hands or whatever, tell them that they will not have a birthday party, tell them that they will not be allowed TV Time or play time if they do not eat, or listen to do things around the house. Also, nowadays children do not have an idea of responsibility and helping out family. They need to learn that.

Nowadays, children are untouchable, and if heaven forbid, you really yell at them and give them discipline, they will use it against you and they may involve teachers and other authorities. These days, showing children how to do chores, and get them off of their bums to help around the house, and develop these important skills is a chore and a very difficult task in itself. These screens, smartphones and devices are like a magnet to them.

As adults teach their children that it is bedtime, that means washing up again, brushing teeth, undoing the bed, getting clothes and everything ready for the next school day or whatever else, making their lunches, and everything.

Then the days that children are at home, it is important to teach them how to vacuum, wipe and mop the floors, dust the furniture, clean doorknobs, clean the kitchen counters and the table, take out the garbage, help wash the car and everything. Of course it is important to give them time to play, and do fun stuff as well. I am not saying that they should always be doing chores and everything, but they need to learn balance, time management and everything. There is a limit and time for it all.

It is the time now, and to be strict with children. strict in such a way that will not intimidate them, but to put them on track. Set rules, guidelines, time limits to screen time, and monitor what they look at and supervise them to make sure they are making good decisions while on the computer and so much more. That is the important thing.

When you see they are trying and everything and doing great work at school, and at home, give them gifts, or surprise them to a movie, take them out to an amusement park, take them to play in the park, when they obey and do good, give them an allowance of whatever amount you wish, teach them the value of a dollar when they do get allowances and teach them about spending accordingly.

One day when I have children of my own, all these things will be taught to them and I will not allow them to do whatever they want all the time. Not going to happen. they need to be taught lessons of life and develop skills.

If you have children and/or take care of them such as being a guardian, babysitter, or grandparents. What skills and what things do you teach them?

Book Smarts Vs. Street Smarts

Intelligence Vs. Education
Logic and common sense

I’d rather have street smarts, intelligence, logic and common sense. Yes, people go to school to get educated, get all these fancy degrees and all that, gain knowledge about mathematics, science, biology, English, and other subjects, people have this perception that if they do not earn high marks in school that they are not smart or anything, and then lose all the confidence in the world to try to prove a point. To me, those numbers mean nothing. Every person has their own ways of learning and at their own pace. Each person is great at something. What I look for in an individual is that they have intelligence, the know-how, common sense and logic in reality. Those are the most important things in life. Not a number. being book smart doesn’t determine if you are street smart. That must come within yourself and of course from the teachings of your past teachers, teachers assistants, family and friends.

I am not saying that book smart people don’t have the intelligence and common sense, and all that. That is not my intention to say that at all.

I went to grade school, high school and college, and my biggest strength was English class, social studies, civics, writing and reading. I did bring high marks and excelled in that above the 90’s. Other subjects did not seem to get me motivated to learn it.

A lot of people knew I had it in me to write and there were a few teachers I had that said, “Talin, you will go places in your life with your writing, creative writing”. She also stated “Talin, I know in my heart that you will make a difference in this world, do not worry about others who have bullied you emotionally and mentally”. Do what you love doing and do not worry about trying to prove a point with bringing high marks”.

Now, look where it is has got me. I have almost 2, 500,000 followers of my writings, my blog site worldwide in all of social media combined, University Professors from the US are using my words and my craft to use in their lectures and more. I’d rather make a difference in the world, use logic, common sense than having those fancy/schmancy degrees and trying to boast, and impress people, but it is not good to brag to people constantly about it.

Thoughts & Prayers Go Out To The Victims Of The Newtown, Connecticut Shootings Mass Killings

In this day in age, no where is safe anymore. Unfortunately this society and this world is being filled with hate, violence, and easy access to weapons. It tore my heart when I heard about this travesty and this terrible news. I just couldn’t believe how someone would go to a school, kill his own innocent mother, then take the lives of innocent children and adults who go to that school at Sunny Hook. I just can’t believe the nerve of some people. They are saying he has a mental disorder, but don’t you think that is a trend? People who murder and do terrible things to others, and then they say, they are not sane, and they didn’t know what they were doing? I know this 24 year old was very aware of what he did and how he got a gun and shot over 50 rounds is beyond me. There is something that doesn’t meet the eye here. How can people be so horrid? How can people be so violent? This society needs a big time make over. Families are ripped apart now, and especially just before Christmas too. It is a crazy world we live in. Crime can happen in our own backyards. It can happen anywhere where you least expect it. This is Columbine all over again. Not enough is being done to prevent shootings, killings and committing crimes. I know this will always happen unfortunately, but it shouldn’t. Time to crack down on severe punishment and enforce the death penalty to idiots like this who go shooting kids and teachers and a principal.

It is beyond disgusting and inhumane. There was this really clever and moving t-shirt I read online yesterday saying “Dear God, Why do you allow so much violence in our schools? A Concerned Student — Dear Concerned Student, I am not allowed in Schools, GOD – “. Now this is such a powerful thing. My mouth was wide open when I read this quote. It is so right and it applies to everything. People of any age are being influenced by violence, all these video games, and these violent shows, movies, and knowing how easy it is to obtain a weapon is something so ridiculous and things need to change. Society needs to change. The way the government handles punishment should change big time. You do the crime, you do the time. it is that simple. How can some people sleep at night? How can people be so cruel? It is something that I cannot put to words. These inexcusable acts, its such a disgrace to humanity. I have officially lost faith in humanity. I end up regaining my faith in humanity and then again I lose it. Its been happening frequently in the last few months, but since learning about the Newtown, Connecticut killings, is something I cannot stomach. These lives have been lost by senseless and idiotic person who found the thrill of killing other people.

My thoughts and prayers go out to all the victims and victims families during this horrific, difficult times in their lives losing loved ones, and children. It makes me sick to my stomach. I cried so much the other day and inside me just ached with pain and I just can’t imagine what the families and friends of those killed are going through right now. I am on your side and you all are on my mind and in my heart. I just cannot bare it. It is terrible. My condolences. Lets work together to stop hating, and start loving and appreciating each other without the act of violence and terror. God rest the souls of those who died.