The Purpose of Blogging – Why do we do it?

In the past few blog posts with the subject of communication and along the lines of what is relative to that, the way we feel, how we get our words and points across to the world and how we do it to reach out to others, and to share with the world our points of view, opinions, suggestions, to raise awareness on issues, to advertise, promote, social issues, recipes, tips, organizational ideas, simplifying life and so much more. We all have our own perspective and our own purpose when blogging and writing about our life. The question is why do we do it? Why do we spend time with writing? Why do we post our blog entries?

To answer those questions is quite simple. We all have a voice and existence in this world and there is just so many stories, journeys, experiences, moments, memories, being helpful, useful and beneficial information about life, travel, food, the holidays, situations, issues to address to the world and things that happen to us to share, to give our insight, and so much more. We spend time writing is because it gives us a boost, and the most important thing is how we feel, and how we want to communicate to the world. Blogging is a therapeutic yet rewarding feeling. It is like writing in our diary, but a virtual diary that we want to post public. We post blog entries to contribute something, an idea and something to share with the world.

Now with this being a virtual diary, there comes responsibility and thinking before we press the post button. There are private issues and things that should not be published of real private matters in ones home, in ones personal life. back in the day and maybe until now people have a personal and private diary, and I am sure you do not want certain people to open it up and unlock your diary of real personal things that you do not want people to see, its almost like the same thing with public blogging. You do not want to post private matters for the world to see, so always be mindful and think before you post something so personal.

Never keep your blogging private. It defeats the whole purpose of writing and expressing to the world. If you want to keep some of your writings private, make a diary, and keep it for yourself in hiding, but hiding a blog is pointless. Somehow no matter how private a blog is, somehow it can always be seen in a way.

Never stop blogging, never stop writing and most importantly never lose your purpose and perspective on why you started blogging in the first place. Never give up what you enjoy doing, never ever let anybody tell you to stop doing what you are good at. Well, nobody is perfect, however that should not define anything. You are in control of your own destiny, your own goals you want to attain from blogging and writing to the world. Remember you do not have to be a perfect blogger, its how you feel and what you want to accomplish. The beauty of blogging is something that is indescribable and the future of journal writing which is now.

So, what is your purpose? Why do you do it?

Communication Style – What is your Type?

As we go through life from the moment we are born, communication is and will always be a vital asset in our day-to-day lives. We need communication when we speak to our family members, boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, partners, groups, friends, colleagues, our bosses, fellow students, teachers, traveling, in social media, sending e-mails and so many different types of communication.

I attended a seminar “Inspire For Tomorrow” at my Armenian Community center and it was about communication, and I learned so much in a couple of hours. It put things into a new perspective, it gave me new light, new ways to deliver our speech, our stories, and so much more. There are several ways you can communicate, but here are 4 styles of communication, that I have observed in my life and my thoughts on it all:

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– The Driver — Someone who is direct, to the point, detail oriented, who speaks their mind, who produces results, attaining goals, gets into competitive situations, taking charge and being in control, wasting no time to beat around the bush.

– The Relater — Someone who cares about a situation, who can connect with others by thinking of the other person first, who’s relationships and friendships mean the world to a person, someone who is relaxed, and feel cared for, becoming silent, introspective and withdrawn, being helpful, coinciding with others, comforting others.

– Analyst — One who always seeks data, second guesses people, making decisions after analyzing a situation, testing people, giving people to focus on interpersonal and communication skills, those who despise making mistakes, double-checking everything, not being able to trust situations and people until doing further research on a person.

– Expresser — Someone who recognizes emotions, who expresses feelings, and what that person wants to say, the over sharing person who keeps on talking, and beats around the bush, making a small story into a big one, gets excited, giving feedback, boring people because of overusing communication, explaining ideas to the core then saying things out of turn which then makes it into an argument and problems can arise of sharing too much information.

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All those 4 styles have good and the bad, but we must find a way to be consistent when we communicate with others, using the right tone, words, following up with someone privately about something that you feel is gone wrong, not announcing it in a public, group setting, taking up issues with the person directly, instead of involving others in the mix. People will appreciate it when someone brings the other person to the side and discuss with them a problem, situation or something going on, then finding a solution to the problem, solving whatever issue, and finding the right words, tone to express those feelings.

We must always think about how we are going to present ourselves, no matter where you are, whether it is about self-regard, being assertive, emotional self-awareness, self-actualization, independence. It could be a beautiful thing, but it is in the way we utilize it all.

Communication is a never-ending learning process, and nobody is perfect and makes mistakes, however to always learn from them and progressing to do better, to improve in relationships, friendships, is something that is imperative. If you believe you have made a mistake, do not worry, focus on the future and make it better, improve the way you speak to others, always ask for advice, always have a mentor, someone whom you can talk to a person whom you can trust if you are unsure of how to deal with a situation if you are unsure yourself. It is always good to ask, then to stay silent.

Always be confident, express your ideas to others, be in communication, always tell a person how you feel about something without offending them. There is always a way to go around it. How do you normally handle situations that are presented to you? What have you learned from it all?

Why is communicating and expressing yourself so important? Everyone has a voice, everyone has something to contribute to the world, that is why everyday in technology, and things of the world are being invented, new innovations, new concepts, context, perspectives, theories, discoveries are being made across the world, because many people communicate, and want to get out what they feel is right for the benefit of the world and its people. Each one of us can make a difference in this world, and communication is one of them and we begin just doing that. Without that everyone would not have a voice and this world cannot continue to move forward. That is exactly why Communication is key and so important in our daily life.

So no matter how we express ourselves, the most important thing is the way we do it and a way where it will not hurt others, and where we can find common ground with everything in our lives.

How do you communicate? What is important to you to get across to others? Best wishes to you in your journey. We can all do something positive, say great things and to avoid messy situations, by just changing our tone and the way we communicate.

Never Apologize for The Way You Feel

A lot of the times in life we go through many feelings, emotions, and sometimes we tend to apologize for what we are feeling and telling people our emotions. You have every right to feel what you are feeling, You never have to explain yourself to anybody. Never be ashamed of your feelings. I know they say that you have to express your feelings everytime and tell people exactly how you feel, however sometimes you cannot control feelings, you cannot explain the way you feel due to a certain situation. I know no matter what you have to tell someone how you feel, and not keep anything inside of you, but some circumstances say otherwise. It depends on the person and whom you can confide into easily.

If you keep on living your life on other peoples terms and the way they want you to feel, the way they want you to live your life always telling you what to do, forcing, commanding you to do something is not somebody you want to associate with. Find the path and the people who can relate to you, do what you feel is right for you. Sometimes you need to get out from the norm, and do what is best for you. If you keep on living your life to please others, to always try and impress others, to always keep proving yourself and working hard for other peoples approval, you are not going to get anywhere in life and all you are going to do is just live for other people.

Sometimes you need to put your foot down and say, okay enough is enough. People talk so much about you and your life, gossip, spread rumors, put words in your mouth and what you should do with your life, however sometimes people need to look at themselves in the mirror first before they point fingers, criticize and belittle you. Some people have nothing better to do, than talk smack about other people, when they need to sort out their life and what they need to do. Remember nobody full knows you and about your personal life and what you are going through, and you never have to explain yourself to nobody.

Ignore people who talk so much bogus about you, and ignore people and block them out of your life. Life is too short. Be happy, be you, live your life on your own terms and your own comfort, and do not worry about anything else. People are always going to judge and point fingers. Don’t let it affect you and your life, well-being and who you are. True, compassionate and understanding people will be there for you every step of the way without explaining yourself. Remember others opinions of you, do no matter. Its how you make an opinion of yourself that matters. As long as you feel good about yourself and bring yourself up with good thoughts, confidence, the way you are is what matters the most.

People will always do and say mean things, but never let that take control of yourself.

I have realized a lot of things in the last little while, that you cannot expect people to understand you, your feelings and be on the same page as you, not everybody will be your friend and agree with you. I recommend that people should never stop being themselves, be who you are, feel what you want to feel. In the end we are all human beings in this world, we do make mistakes, we do wrong in social issues, we tend to sometimes associate with people whom we always have to try to fit in, do things to stay in the loop, however you never need to try to fit in, try so hard, and try to stand out, because there will be people who will appreciate you for you and there will be people who will love and cherish you and the memories shared and will share in the present and the future.

Wishing you the best with everything and remember never apologize for the way you feel. Always be thankful and just go on with life. There is only so much you can do and life will never give you more than you can handle.

The Benefits of Writing and Blogging in Social Media

All of us in this life have something special and incredible to contribute to this world, and whatever it is, each and everyone of us are gifted with something great. In this day in age with social media, blogging, writing and contributing to the digital world with our thoughts, words, feelings, emotions, issues, and other things is something so fabulous and the rewarding feeling of stepping out to social media and the benefits from it all is something that some people do not realize what an impact an individual puts on other people reading and engaging into peoples blog sites.

There are people always searching for something, and it is quite easy to get to a website/blog that has the topics that person is looking for when blogs are put as public and visible to search engines which I recommend people do, because what is the point of writing a blog to keep it private? I truly believe that when you sign up to write a blog, it is imperative to post it as public. There can be people reading the blog and then offer insight, comments, recipes, interests, music, about family, friendships, world issues, topics, hobbies, health, love, organization ideas, notes, tips, travel and so much more. You just need to moderate comments coming to your blog and everything will be alright.

The benefits of writing and blogging is something that is very important to me and my life. I have been writing for 12 years now, and so many articles written for my local community, for websites, for other social media sites among my WordPress blog of course. I saw so many benefits from it from not only engaging into other peoples blogs, and following people, but it makes the world a much smaller place and easy to interact and reach out to other people.

You do not need to be the perfect writer, or have the most perfect blog, you do not need to be 100% in your Blog writings, it is however you feel the need to write your blog and how you know it, how you want to express yourself to other people. Just make sure that your blog and what you write is something that you should always be careful and think about before pressing the submit, send, post button. Also with Social Media comes the social responsibility of the content we post, and what to post. Always use your discretion and if you are unsure about posting something, do not post it.

Enjoy your blogging journey, take in the benefits. You never know who stops by your blog, it can be someone famous, professors, preachers, and whoever is looking for information, inspiration, positivity, or whatever their heart desires. It is an amazing journey to go through. Even if you cannot blog everyday, no matter how many times you write, its amazing. There is no time limit or rules. Besides you make your own rules when it comes to your blog, but like I said use disrection and make wise decisions on what to post, and you will see the benefits soaring and you will see a whole new world to social media and blogging.

We are all in this together, we all have something to contribute and to share around the world. We all have different perspectives, opinions, suggestions, advice, feelings, emotions and so much more to give. Once we join social media, blogging, and the virtual/digital world, we can always do something fabulous with it, make a difference in this world and making everyone welcome to it. It is the way we handle it and the way we control it.

Blogging is a beautiful and incredible thing. Thank you to my fans, supporters, family, friends and so many others. Without my readers, blogging would not be possible. So again I say thank you.

Just have fun with it, do what you do, and enjoy the benefits of your social media journey through blogging and much more. many best wishes to you all.

How Committed Are You To Blogging? Do You Blog Daily?

In this day in age blogging has become a big sensation in the world and one of the top leading parts of social media. Blogging is a language where people talk about feelings, promote, talk about products, share recipes, share life experiences, travel experiences, educating the world, giving opinions, it gives a sense of entitlement about subjects, topics, and discussing and sharing with the world our beliefs, talents, beauty, fashion, medical, health, benefits, tips, tricks, and giving the world ideas and introducing ourselves and families among other important things of the world. Some of us making blogging part of our lives everyday, some blog daily, some blog bi-weekly, some blog, weekly, a few times and make it a part of life. Some people commit their lives as for some it is a career path they choose to take with journalism, writing, and blogging for perspective newspaper, television news companies. Some like it as a hobby or interest everyday or when they get a chance to write.

Now, How committed are you to blogging? Do you blog daily? Do you blog a couple or few times a week? Or a few times a month? On average how much do you spend time on blogging? Is blogging a part of your life or is it something that you do on your leisure time? Do you take time to blog even when life is so incredibly busy and fast paced? For me blogging is a commitment, but I do not let it take over my life. I don’t spend too long on my blog per day. Maybe about 1-2 hours a day to perfect, and to come up with different topics a day, then I start to write. It is very therapeutic for me. I love blogging and it gives me time to share my ideas, interests, and introduce myself, about merely everything that comes to my mind on that certain day, following the latest news in the world, and everyday, I take a list and I come up with the best topic to write about, and then sometimes when I do not have anything to write, I just post up a recipe of mine and I do not like to keep any of my blogging days blank such as when I go away on vacation for a week or when I am not able to get online, I do my blogs before hand and I work on them as much as I am able to and schedule my blogs for days when I am not able to blog.

I never like to miss a day in my blogging. When I know I won’t have time to get on my blog, I always make sure that day is filled with something. I love it very much. I am committed to it and its something that I like to give back to my fans, readers, supporters, family and friends from all over the place. Thank you so much for always giving me a boost and I wish everybody all the best with everything. My blog couldn’t have been possible without you all and I thank you all and appreciate it very much. Much love goes out to all of you.

Why Blog? Why Is Blogging Important To Me?

Hello! Today I am going to make things a little bit different, and I am going to interview myself and ask myself a few questions on Why to Blog? Why Blogging is so important to me?  Why I spend my time, And much more.  Well here is my interview with myself….

Why Blog?

Blogging is something very awesome. You share with the world your thoughts, feelings, opinions, and self-entitlement with the people around the world. Blogging is something that a lot of people do around the world and it is awesome to see. I like seeing different blogs, reading peoples different perspectives on every aspect of life, and basically putting words online and stories. Blogs are written to move people, to touch people, to make people smile and sometimes people write things that are not so pleasant to people and are pleasant to others. Everyone has different opinions and different outlooks on life. I love blogging because it empties my mind and I don’t need to keep things bottled up inside. I have a big support system all around the world. Thank you all for supporting me day in and day out and giving me that boost daily. I appreciate it so much.

Why Is Blogging So Important to Me?

The reasons why blogging is so important to me is because I want to make a difference in the world, I want to make life better for people, I want to make it a positive world where people can smile, be happy, and stop thinking in a pessimistic way, and think more optimistic about everything. I want to pull the plug on bullying, I want to send strong messages across the world for people to realize how important they are in this world, how much your existence matters in this world. I want people to take a look in the mirror everyday and call themselves beautiful and wake up every morning saying good things to yourself and to make your day a better one. Blogging is very important to me because it is something that I am so passionate about and I want people to read my blogs, I want to inspire people, I want to change the world for the better, I write things that come from my heart, soul and mind, I write things because I care about people and the world so much. I care about peoples happiness and every great thing in life. Blogging to me is therapeutic. I am so happy to have done blogging and writing. It makes my world go around and I love seeing humanity around me happy, smiling and full with energy.

Why Do I Spend So Much Time Blogging?

The reason why I spend time blogging everyday is because I love it, It is my passion, it is one of my priorities everyday. I write about issues, social issues, society, food recipes, world issues, bullying, organizational tips, etiquette, feelings, emotions and everything. It is a big part of my life and it is something I value with quality. Not the quantity of posts I have, not the quantity of numbers, but I care about quality of my blogs.

Who Would I Like To Thank For My Blog?

I’d like to thank firstly God, for giving me this talent I was born with to write, I’d like to thank my Family, My Friends, My Fans, My Social Network Family, My Internet Family, My Supporters, My Blog Readers and Comment’s they write to me. You all have a special place in my heart, and in my life. I love you all very much and I care about everyone in this world. You all are incredible people and thank you all for being part of my life since I was born until Now to all those who I have come across all my life. Much appreciated.

That’s a wrap! Hope you enjoyed it! Come back tomorrow for another blog entry!

Never Let Anybody Walk All Over You. Stand Up For Yourself

There is something important today I must discuss with everyone today. It is an important subject that I need to address to everyone, and that is about never letting anybody walk all over you and standing up for yourself when something goes wrong, or when someone says something mean and out of turn. I have learned from personal experience that not everyone will think like you, not everyone will have your strengths, not everyone will have the same opinion as you and outlooks on things and I know that everybody in this world is different and we all have our differences and opinions and among everything else. That is how the world goes around I guess, but what I cannot stand is rudeness, people insulting others, people making fun of others because they are difference, people who always rain on others parade, people who always bring the other person down when they are up, when people terrorize another person because of what he/she likes. I do not think it is fair at all for people to always be walked all over from these people.

Now, I have learned so many times and these last couple of years, as I have grown up, and I have become more independent, more aware of what society can be, and how mean and terrible some people can be toward other people and its not a nice thing. Do not ever let people walk all over you. Sometimes when your too nice of a person and always kind, those people often times do not know if a person is taking advantage of them, they won’t know that they are always being used and being walked all over, so a kind and person with a soft heart will always be there and will always give and not take most of the time. It is a terrible thing to feel when someones good heart can become so dangerous to society. I have learned to stand up for myself, I have learned to say no, and I have figured out who my true friends are from that and some of them left and some of them stood behind. Saying no isn’t a bad thing.

I remember a lot of people were making fun of me because I am different, a lot of people think I am strange for the things I like, like the Highway 401 East toward Montreal, I love driving, I love big transport trucks, I love the road to Montreal, I mean, everyone is entitled to like what they want to like and everyone is free, but what I cannot stand is when others making fun of others for the things they like. It is something that I do not tolerate anymore. The Other day, I stood up for myself, and it felt so awesome. I deleted this girl off of facebook, I deleted couple of other people who make fun of me and I turned the page. Its all about standing up for myself now. I will not let others take advantage of me, I will not let others make and poke fun at me. I will wash them up and down and I will do everything I can to stick up for me, because not always will there be people backing me up, so I need to do this on my own but it is awesome when others step up to the plate and do it for you. That is also incredible and I appreciate it so much. I have had that happen to me numerous amount of times and I love my support system, and I love my family and friends and supporters for always being there for me through thick and thin..If nobody will appreciate and like you for who you are, and if people are going to always poke fun at you, then its time to let them go. You do not need people in your life, that will put you down all the time and keep you down. Its not a very nice thing.

Do not let others discriminate you, do not let others put you down for anything. Sticking up for your rights and yourself is very important or else society will unfortunately take advantage of everything you have got. Always open up your eyes, always try to analyze people, and do not trust so easily. Not everyone will be your friend, and not everyone will understand your point of views and what you stand for in your life. Just be who you are, stand up for yourself, and never ever ever ever ever ever ever let anybody walk all over you. Just live life, smile, and do what is right for you.

I Maybe Coming To A City/Town Near you Soon!

Hello All! I want to do something more, than just write blogs everyday. I decided I want to get onto a more personal level with my readers, supporters and fans. I can be coming to a city/town near you soon to talk about my blog, to give motivational speeches, to give people confidence, positivity, shine some light on people who need it a lot. My Goal is to see a happy world, with happy people with optimism, great outlooks on life. What more amazing thing is there in life? When we have our health, that means wealth, and when we have happiness, everything else is possible. I want to come out, and this way people have the chance to meet with me, people have the chance to talk to me one on one. I can come talk in Schools, Colleges, Universities, Seminars, Conferences, Motivational Speaking Assembly, Meetings, and so much more. I can travel across the world, Canada, USA, Europe, Asia, Anywhere in the world. I love to travel and I want to change the world, I want to make a big difference in the world. I am tired and worried of seeing people being depressed, unhappy and negative. It is time for change and the change is now. If you’d like me to come and speak, I’d love to. Please contact me and e-mail me at talin.orfali@hotmail.com to schedule time and place and if you like more insight and information please let me know and I will gladly answer your questions and we will go from there. All the best to everyone.

Reader Appreciation Day!

Dear My Lovely Supporters, Readers,

I’d Like to say thank you so much for all your comments, your time reading my blog, giving me wonderful and positive feedback. I appreciate it all so much. I believe all of us have strengths, talents and the way to life and it should never be taken for granted. Blogging has become one of my priorities in my life and writing is my passion and finally I found what I really love doing and what I really am passionate about. I spent a lot of alone time and I was thinking about all the things I can do, and writing was one of them, and I instantly began to write for my Armenian Church and then it escalated from there starting my own blog in Google Blogspot, that did not pan out, so I moved to WordPress and I am loving it ever since. WordPress blogs and other bloggers have taught me a lot about life and how I am not alone in situations and I am so greatful to them all for taking the time to come to my blog and reply and giving me incredible awards, plaques, nominating me for so many different types of awards and you all carry a special place in my heart from my readers, supporters, family, friends and fans and all those websites of blogs that has my name on it, and among other websites. You all are so lovely and sweet and may you all be healthy, happy and everything else in between. All the best of the best in Life and may all your dreams come true. It is never too late to start dreaming. I LOVE you all very much and thanks again for everything.

Everyday should be Reader Appreciation Day but today I decided I dedicate it to you all.

Much Love,

Love,

Talin Orfali