Violence and Gun Violence – When Will it Stop?

In recent news, where the unfortunate happened at an Oregon College in US, where gunman Chris Harper took the lives of 9 people, shooting and killing them when after the suspect was also killed. So many senseless and inhumane acts of violence, and gun violence. When is it going to stop? Does the unimaginable have to happen, so that we can see change, take preventative safety and security measures? So many shootings and killings have happened in the last little while.

Columbine, Sandy Hook, African American Church in Charleston S.C, Aurora Colo Movie theatre, TV news Reporter Alison Parker and her partner Adam ward and Alison who was interviewing Vicki Gardner in August, 2015 who survived at Lake Moneta, Malls, Shopping Plaza’s, on the streets, and anywhere else. You are really not safe anywhere in this world anymore.

Not only in US, but around the world. I can’t even imagine how someone can have the thrill of shooting and killing innocent lives or anyone for that matter. It needs to stop. I know it is easy to say that, but to act on it is a different story. I know the solution. Stop with the wars in the world, initiating violence, stopping on influencing killings of anybody at any age, Absolutely 0 Tolerance on bullying physically and emotionally, putting more supervision in schools, workplaces and other places, taking guns off our streets, educate people that violence, barbaric acts and gun violence is not a joke, nor a thrill. It is a dangerous act that can lead to permanent damage and even worse, can kill someone.

People who lead our world, Presidents, Prime Ministers, and those who govern our world, need to really think about what they are doing, the pressures they put on people, initiating wars, sending innocent troops who have loved ones they leave for years and many months, sending war weapons and vehicles, not taking care of their own countries and people to live and let live. They need to be positive influencers in our lives and they need to make great and positive changes, we need leaders to govern our world who will do it because they want to, and they need to be personable, loving, kind, respectful and do great things for our people and in our world, to make it a better place for all of us. That is a leader. Not someone who is greedy and who promotes violence.

Violent video games of guns and violence also influence as well. Some people who play them may think, hey, if they can shoot and kill people in a video game, they say we can try it in reality and see what happens.

Also, some people get bullied so much physically and emotionally that one day they may reach out to guns and officially snap and kill people uncontrollably at the environment that they were bullied and abused. It all starts with the way people are brought up and who influences them to think its okay to bully others, who promote violence, mental and domestic abuse, allowing them to treat others terribly.

So many people go through so many things in life and we must help them. Include people in our circle, respect each other, give a helping hand, an ear to listen, be kind to one another, love each other, smile, give kind gestures and be the change in the world. Many people want change, but it all starts with how our actions, words that need to be positive, to be great role models, to initiate goodness, not talking behind people’s backs, spreading rumors, to stop making fun of others for the way they look, to stop judging and gossiping about people and things we really know nothing about.

I am absolutely heartbroken and devastated for the victims families, friends, colleagues. Senseless deaths and loss of innocence is so terrible. So many lives that could make a difference in our world, who had so much more life to live, who those people were important and loved by others, families and friend circles that will never be the same again, the grief, mourning and the loss is just completely unbearable. My thoughts and prayers go out to everyone who has lost loved ones due to another person’s disgusting and barbaric acts.

It needs to stop and it needs to stop now.

Spreading Rumors – Like Playing Broken Telephone

Have you ever been in a situation where you have been a victim of somebody else spreading a nasty rumor about you, which is not true? Have you ever been in a situation where someone else has come to you and spread rumors about somebody else? Well, spreading rumors is not a good thing to do, no matter what it is. I am sure a lot of us know the game “broken telephone” The more someone says something to so many people and how word of mouth goes around, many people understand it in different ways and in the end what someone says gets misinterpreted, misunderstood, and a whole new different story gets told. In the end the person getting the information will say it amongst everyone and it will be totally different.

I never believe in anything people tell me, unless I see it with my own eyes, hear it with my own ears, requesting proof, evidence, but I never ever spread rumors about somebody else or get involved in somebody’s business. It is not a great thing to do. Spreading rumors could result in consequences, it can ruin relationships, friendships, trust and can put yourself in a compromising position with friends, family and other people. It is not a good thing to do. Many media writers, and some tabloid magazines and sites will write and do anything to make that quick dollar and they do not realize it can do damage to someones reputation, and they do not even care. Maybe they do deep down, but in the end all they want to do is make money out of it, and the people high up in these places request to have false information spread out to the world, but they do not know how wrong it is. Even if it is wrong, the bottom line is that they always cover their butt with something and they do not want to admit it.

In this day in age in social media, social networking, entertainment and other tabloid websites lead us to believe whatever they write and say, but how do we know for sure what is real and what is not? It is super important to know and be aware of what we post. Especially online where information can be transmitted in seconds and everyone in the world can see and view what is written. We must always think about what to post, then post it. Sometimes it can lead to consequences too. The internet and social public places can be easy places where things can be spread like wildflowers. So be cautious.

So in future, we should always analyze things before we are quick to believe in something we read online, or something that is heard from other people. Unless there is real proof about something, or unless you witness and hear it for yourself, you should never be quick to judge, but judging is in human nature and that is something automatic that most people do, but I think it is time to step back and think if it is real or not real. These days, trusting this society and what has become of it, is something that needs to be thought of before we actually think its real. I have learned it the hard way. I now, do not trust easily and believe everything I hear easily. I am very careful and I am not naive anymore, like I used to be many years ago. Some things have happened where its been an eye opener for me, and that taught me so much about certain people and their actions. So in future, do not believe everything you hear, and do not fall for things quickly. Unfortunately many people fall for it. So use your judgement wisely and be very careful with what and whom you trust. All the best. That is all for now.

 

 

How To Avoid Conflict with Assumptions and Spreading Rumors

In my life, I have always learned to not get too involved in someone elses personal lives and business and to ask too many questions and details about a person’s life and I have been taught to never assume things about other people, make up stories about them and not to spread rumours and I have learned that if something that if someone tells me and tells me not to tell anybody, I honor their word and I never tell a soul. It’s just my style and I just cannot stand it sometimes when people ask way too many personal questions about family life, about sensitive things that not everyone should know about. I believe there are boundaries to everything and there is a limit with so much. Some people are so nosy and want to know so much. It becomes too much. When rumors start being spread around without knowing from the source, is not something very good to do.

Before sharing things and before spreading things around that you are permitted to do, it is always important to ask from the source and find out things from the source, because by the time you hear about it from different people, the story gets changed around, words are added here and then, and people understand things differently, then it will be chaotic and something will be blown way out of proportion. It is like playing broken Telephone when by the time the story gets sent around in the circle, the person at the end will have a totally different story and then spread it around. I think it is a good idea to always know if it is something you should say to others, and get permission always and never assume things about other people unless you find out from them and unless there is solid proof of something done, or something said. Sometimes there are witnesses who even lie, and there are so many people who will lie and make up stories about others.

I think the most important thing is to really get the facts straight. Relationships and friendships can be ruined by it, and a lot of damage will be done. I just sometimes say you know what? Its better I do not get involved, I do not say anything, and not share with the world something that is very personal. I just don’t want to deal with headaches and hardships later. I am always loyal to my friends, and when they tell me something personal, there is no way I will ever spread those things around. It is the most terrible thing anyone can do. Now with social media, the internet there are mixed signals and so many sites dealing with social media, there are billions of us on the internet everyday and transmitting information 24/7 365, and a lot of people do not get their facts straight and it becomes a catastrophe. So my advice to everyone is, never assume, never invent words with your mouth and go right to the source to find out information. The power of words can do serious damage, and its the most powerful thing in this world.

Has there been a moment in your life where people find false things about you and it gets spread like wildflowers? Have you been in a situation where you do damage control and tell people the right things instead of the way people hear about it? Have you defended someone? People just need to get their facts straight. That is all there is to it. it avoids conflict, problems, and it prevents from relationships, friendships and bonds to break and it can be a very hurtful thing to go through. So some people need to really think before they speak and ask from the source beforehand . I cannot stress it enough. Make things right now before things get out of hand because it can and really quick. All the best to everyone!

People Who Try To Destroy Others Reputation – Watch Out!

Have you ever encountered someone in your life or someone who knows and who willingly destroys and tries to ruin someones reputation by spreading lies, rumours and things that are not true about someone? Have you ever been in a situation where your reputation was on the line because someone says something terrible which was completely false? There are a lot of people who will do that and sometimes you never find out until later on. Sometimes that person finds out instantly. It is terrible to know that people out there would spread lies and do anything to ruin someones rep because they are either jealous or just for the sake of doing something cruel to other people they will stoop to something so low like that. It is not a good feeling at all. I don’t know how some people learn to be so conniving and so horrid to others it is beyond me. Please be so careful. It is happening so much lately.

In the media now, there are always people that bring celebrities down and they get into every detail of their personal life and make it a big deal and then they get shafted by people. It is not fair, it is not fair for anybody to go through all these terrible things, even ordinary people in this life. Nobody should be subject to other peoples lies, nobody should destroy other peoples lives so that they get the satisfaction to see people fall. People really need to stop these things and let people live their lives. All these accusations, all these problems people start is not nice at all. I am disgusted by some people who lie about others, who destroys someone’s life by being so jealous and cruel. Jealousy is the mother of all problems mostly and when that happens people will do anything to ruin others and their expense, not the person who is causing all these problems. It is not good to do these things to others.

Be very careful everyone. People should not believe other people unless they hear it from the source and you know sometimes people confess to things when they have never even done anything, but they confess because the other person has persuaded others that, that is what really happened, but the person who has been said bad things about ends up confessing and it can intimidate them, it can leave a lifetime of that feeling they had. It is not good to do things like that to people and end up being praised. People like that need to be stopped. When people say bad things about others and when people gossip so much, they will do the same to you. So be careful. I care about all of you and I do not want this happening to anyone. Has it happened to you?

All the best!