Appreciating Someone When They Are Alive

With all these people dying that have happened so far this year in 2016 and other years is terrible and heartbreaking to lose a loved one in our families, friends, co-workers and others, however it seems to me that after someone dies, some people tend to appreciate them more, they become more popular, that person who has died starts trending even more than they were alive and they become more important than they were when they were present in this world. I guess some people do not know how to appreciate a person until they pass away. People need to show the same love, appreciation and importance to someone when they are alive. That is what counts.

After someone dies, don’t say, I wish I had spent more time with this person, I wish I had done things differently and be there for the person and give them more attention, love them and appreciate them more. Do it when the person is alive and can see and feel how important that person is to you. Not just talk about it, but to act on it. Actions speak louder than words. Care about a person when they are alive, not when they pass away.

As we have heard on the news, in our social media news feeds, news sites about Natalie Cole, Rene Angelil, Lemmy, Alan Rickman, David Bowie and others who have passed away, I keep seeing all their names trending even more, a lot more people begin to talk about a person more, their memory and everything. It matters, but it doesn’t matter in other ways because the person is no longer with us. Yes a legacy lives on and we will remember people, but the most important thing is to spread that energy to these people when they are alive.

Life is too short, be kind to each other, care, love, support, appreciate and be there for each other as much as you can. don’t have these feelings after a person dies and cannot feel it and see it. They can only see it from up in heaven when they look down to you on earth.

The Family Matters TV Show – Nostalgia Hits Again

As you may or may not know, Family Matters was an American Sitcom show which began in September 1989 to May 1997 on ABC. After the show moved to CBS from September 1997 to July 1998 when they went off the air. The Family matters Family is known as the Winslow Family. A family of Middle-class African American’s living in Chicago Illinois. After some time had gone in the first season, the show introduced the funny and nerdy neighbor (Steve Urkel – Played by Jaleel White). Urkel, then was made the highlight of the show and became the main character.

The show ran on 9 successful seasons. It’s popularity grew so much. Family Matters was created by William Bickley, and Michael Warren. It was developed by Robert L. Boyett and Thomas L. Miller. They completed 215 episodes.

The theme composer of the beginning was Jesse Frederick, Bennett Salvay and Scott Roeme and the opening theme was “As Days Go By”

The Family Matters cast was Reginald VelJohnson, Jo Marie Payton, Rosetta LeNoire, Darius McCrary, Kellie Shanygne Williams, Jaimee Foxworth, Joseph & Julius Wright, Telma Hopkins, Bryton McClure, Jaleel White, Shawn Harrison, Michelle Thomas, Orlando Brown, and Judyann Elder.

Their Screen name actors and actresses are, Carl Otis Winslow, Harriette Baines- Winslow, Edward “Eddie” Winslow, Laura Lee Winslow, Judith “Judy” Winslow, Estelle “Mother” Winslow, Richard “Richie” Crawford, Rachel Baines- Crawford, Steven “Steve” Urkel Stefan Urquelle Myrtle Urkel, Waldo Geraldo Faldo, Myra Monkhouse, and Jerry Jamal “3J” Jameson.

Steve Urkel says his funny lines such as “Did I do that?” begins laughing and snorting at the same time. His infatuation and love for Laura Winslow was what was so great and awesome. Steve Urkel always caused trouble. lol. It was quite funny and some of it was serious too.

You might be watching The Young and The Restless and the one who plays Devon Hamilton was little Richie on the show and his name is Bryton McClure.

It was a great quality show. Nostalgia hit me again and I remember when I was in Chicago, I was passing through a place that was exactly shown on the beginning opening theme of the show. I felt like I was in the opening credits at that moment. I will forever cherish and love this show. I also did re-enact the theme to that as well. This show really touched base on reality, on family, the struggles and as well as a comedic touch to it all. They touched base on serious matters and addressed it in a tasteful manner. Very well done.

I guess, some of us if not all of us who were growing up in the 70’s, 80’s, 90’s we all were glued to television before the internet was the internet.

You do not find shows like this these days that is for certain. Unfortunately, hope I am mistaken, but I don’t think and feel that we will ever see quality and family-oriented shows such as this in modern day television.

Armenian Memorial Faith Build – Habitat for Humanity – The Armenian Genocide Centennial

100 Youth for 100 Years.
In dedication to the Armenian Genocide 1915-2015
of the 1.5 Million Armenians that were killed by the Turkish Ottoman Empire.

About the Event and the Armenian Memorial Faith Build:
In the Words from The Armenian Family Support Services (AFSS)

This project will commemorate the Armenian Genocide Centennial by giving back to our community and help build homes for the less fortunate. It will be our way of giving thanks to Canada for its help to Armenians during and after the Genocide.

In 2006, the Armenian Family Support Services (AFSS), Holy Trinity Armenian Church, started a collaborative and first of its kind initiative with Habitat for Humanity Greater Toronto Area called the “Armenian Memorial Faith Build” which annually has commemorated the Armenian Genocide while making a difference in our local communities. Since we started this initiative, over 130 participants raised over $14,000 for HFH(Habitat for Humanity) Toronto.

Once again, we are preparing for a Memorial Build in April 2015. This year being the Centennial year of the Armenian Genocide, we are targeting 100 youth to participate over a period of 2 Saturdays to take part in the build. This initiative will be part of the Armenian Genocide Centennial Events.

We hope you will join us and be a part of this milestone. We need to remember and honour those who perished 100 years ago in the first genocide of the 20th Century.

Where? The 960 Brimley Road Project (960 Brimley Rd Toronto, ON M1P 3E9)
When? Saturday March 28, 2015 OR Saturday April 11, 2015
e-mail contactus@afsstoronto.ca or call Sareen 416-431-5549
Requirements: Age 16+, Registration/Pledge Forms available
Included: Free Habitat t-shirt, lunch, snacks, a great sense of satisfaction!

Construction skills NOT required

Great for Resume and High School Community Service Hours.

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This will be a fulfilling experience, as well as meeting new people, giving back to the community and  honouring the memory of the Armenian Genocide.

Links of Interest:

Website: http://www.afsstoronto.org/

Click on the Armenian Family Support Services Facebook Page: For photos and more. https://www.facebook.com/TorontoAFSS?fref=nf

Click on the Event Page for more information: https://www.facebook.com/events/1549221768670559/

Rewind to 90’s — My Favourite Movie Choices

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the past and rewinding to the great and quality entertainment in those times that kept me, well, entertained.:) I used to come home from school or during the weekends and I would pick through my movie collection and used to watch so many of them and it was awesome. I used to always think that I would meet the stars when I was a kid and I used to have a huge imagination like I was in those movies and would re-enact them to family during get togethers. It was so great. I still have them on VHS — I still love VHS and I actually enjoyed Rewinding them. I used to love that sound too. Gotta love the past technology too. Anyway, I would like to share with you some of my all time favourites of the 90’s and well, possibly the 80’s too. In no particular order:

— Police Academy — All of them — Steve Gutenberg
— Dumb & Dumber — W/ Jim Carrey and Jeff Daniels.
— Ace Ventura Pet Detective — Jim Carrey.
— Groundhog Day — Bill Murray
— Clueless — Alicia Silverstone
— Liar Liar — Jim Carrey
— A Night At the Roxbury — Will Farrell and Chris Kattan
— City Slickers — Billy Crystal
— Hot Shots! — Charlie Sheen
— Hot Shots part Deux — Charlie Sheen
— Home Alone — Mccauley Culkin
— Home Alone 2. Lost in New York — Mccauley Culkin
— The Naked Gun — All movies — Leslie Neilson
— Wrongfully Accused — Leslie Neilson
— Back to the Future — Michael J Fox
— Kindergarten Cop — Arnold Schwarzenegger
— Honey I blew up the Kid —
— Honey I shrunk the kids —
— Sister Act — Whoopi Goldberg
— Mrs Doubtfire — Robin Williams – Sally Field
— Coneheads
— Baby’s Day Out — Joe Montegna, Joe Pantoliano, Lara Flynn Boyle
— Titanic — Kate Winsley – Leonardo Dicaprio
— The Mask — Jim Carrey
— The Santa Clause — Tim Allen
— Little Rascals — Alfalfa
— D2 D3 Mighty Ducks — Emilio Estevez
— Selena — Jennifer Lopez
— Space Jam
— Toy Story
— Jungle 2 Jungle
— Rush Hour — all movies — Jackie Chan and Chris Tucker
— The Wedding Singer — Drew Barrymore, Adam Sandler
— Billy Madison — Adam Sandler
— The Waterboy — Adam Sandler
— You’ve Got Mail
— Analyze this — Analyze that — Robert Deniro and Billy Crystal
— Stuart Little

These are just some of them from back then… What are your favourites from the 80’s and 90’s?

Rewind to the 90’s Music Favourites

Lately, I have been going back into the 90’s and listening to songs of the past. There is a huge difference in quality of music versus the music of today. I really love the music of the 90’s and even in the 80’s. I am sure a lot of us who were born in that era, and who grew up with this kind of music, still think of them to this day and remember the times. Here are some of my artists and music that I really enjoy.

— Alanis Morissette — Ironic, You Oughta Know.
— R.E.M — Losing my religion
— Sinead O’Connor — Nothing Compares 2 U
— Sting – Fields Of Gold
— Fiona Apple – Criminal
— Backstreet Boys – I Want It That Way
— Bonnie Raitt – Something To Talk About
— Ace of Base — The Sign CD
— Oasis – Wonderwall
— Stone Temple Pilots – Interstate Love Song
— The Cranberries – Dreams
— Haddaway – What Is Love
— Jann Arden – Insensitive
— Tori Amos – Silent All These Years
— Shawn Colvin – Sunny Came Home
— Beastie Boys – Intergalactic
— Christina Aguilera – Come On Over (All I Want Is You) — Genie in a Bottle
— Guns N’ Roses – November Rain
— P.M. Dawn – Set Adrift On Memory Bliss
— 2Pac feat. Dr. Dre – California Love
— Madonna – Vogue
— Nirvana – About A Girl (live)
— Notorious B.I.G. – Juicy
— The Mavericks – What A Crying Shame
— Barenaked Ladies – One Week
— Des’ree – You Gotta Be
— Mariah Carey – Hero
— Dixie Chicks – Wide Open Spaces
— Whitney Houston – I Have Nothing
— Duran Duran – Ordinary World
— Wilson Phillips – Hold On
— Fatboy Slim – Right Here Right Now
— Sarah McLaughlan – Possession
— Shawn Colvin – Round of Blues
— Montell Jordan – This Is How We Do It
— The Verve – Bittersweet Symphony
— Weezer – The Good Life
— Skee-Lo – I Wish
— Hammer – Too Legit To Quit
— Robbie Williams – Millennium
— Roxette – It Must Have Been Love
— Crash Test Dummies – God Shuffled His Feet
— Dido – Here With Me
— Sheryl Crow – If It Makes You Happy

I could go on and on… Now, what are your favourites?
Are you a 90’s music fanatic?

Don’t Be Discouraged – Always Look Forward

In life when were going through life, a lot of people if not all people want to be a number of things when they grow up, they have ambitions, dreams, and talents. Everyone has different skills, needs, qualities, potential, and personal goals to attain and fulfill in life. Unfortunately some do not get to enjoy, fulfill and succeed in life because their lives were cut short and its a terrible thing.  Everyone has great qualities about themselves, and sometimes some people’s progress, and going to the next step takes a lot longer than others, but never be and let others discourage on how slow a progress you are making. At least you have continual progress that is not stopping and you are trying your best and doing your best. Always look forward in life. I know things in life happen without you least expecting it, traumatic and tragic things can happen in one’s life, but never let that be a discouragement . The sign of failure means that you are trying. Nobody is a failure. You might fail at doing somethings, but never make that into a weakness. Make it something that you can work on more harder and if at first you do not succeed, try it again and again. Never stop. Failure means success in the long run. Just remember that.

Remember if people are trying to bring you down, that only means you are above them and if people are spending so much time talking about you, talking to you, talking about your weaknesses, putting you lower, and not trying anything to put your spirits up, and not encouraging you that means that they are not true friends at all, that means that they are only trying to hide their failures and flaws about them and not sharing it. In the end everyone has their own pace, their own time to learn, to grow, to experiment, to experience and to succeed. You can do anything you put your mind to, and never be discouraged. Things always happen and come up in life, but never lose sight of your dreams and all the plans you look forward to in the future. It is always great to make plans while you are living day-to-day.

Never lose yourself, don’t listen to negative people, don’t ever let anybody always try to find faults and things wrong about you, do not give anybody the satisfaction of pessimism. Be optimistic, be ambitious, keep dreaming, keep working on attaining your goals. It might take longer than others but hey at least you are getting there, at least your not stopping for anybody or anything. It is the worst thing you can do for yourself is to let others walk all over you and to mess with you. Never do that. Before others judge, and say things to you out of turn or give you advice, but the wrong type, let them look at themselves in the mirror, let them focus on themselves before pointing fingers, and being judgmental. In my previous blog, I was talking about being strong, and surround yourself with positive and great people who will encourage you, who will lift you up.

encouraging, confidence boosters, kind, nice, sweet, positivity, optimism these are the things you should surround yourself with, and never let anyone tell you, you cannot do it, because you can do it. Everything is possible in life, but unfortunately satisfying everyone is just the only impossible thing in the world. In the end you know who you are, you know what you are capable of, you know your limitations, you know yourself the best, you are your individual person. Keep your head up high, lift yourself up, and never sell yourself short and put yourself down. Keep smiling, and all the very best to you. Lastly, Do not ever be discouraged!

Not Everyone Will Be Your Friend, Find Ones That Will Be

Out of everything I have been through in my life, and trying to make sense of who are my true friends or not and among everything else, It is a hard thing to for some to make sense of it all. In life you will encounter so many different types of people and you will meet all sorts of people, but not everyone will be your friend. You just talk to people, not knowing their name or where they come from. It happens in spontaneous moments when your out in public, when you are traveling and people in school, work, or other places. Some people come into your life for a few minutes, you will meet and talk to someone for an hour or half an hour or whatever the case maybe, and then you part your ways. Its happened to me a lot and it is pretty cool that way too. You talk to someone and then you never see them again, but I remember once talking to someone at a coffee shop and then I saw that same person again 3 weeks later. We ended up coming in at the same time. I am a person who never forgets faces and who never forgets whom I have spoken with in person. She remembered me too. We had a few minutes conversation and that was it, and we parted our ways. We haven’t seen each other since, but maybe we will again. It is incredible how things happen in such a way where people who can relate to things end up meeting and talking, bu then never really become friends. I love spontaneity and things that just happen without planning. I feel that is one of the best ways to go.

You sort of have a gut instinct in you when the time is right and when the person is right to make friends with them. People have this feeling all the time when a person is right to ask their name and have a friendship with them. It has happened to me. I remember many times at my Armenian community center or when I am on my travels somewhere, you automatically feel, that person is appealing and you take a look in someones eyes and you see fake or real, and when you can really understand each other and relate, that is the type of friends you need. When you can relate to each other and when you can be there for each other in good times and in the bad, when you can have many things in common, share each others feelings, confide into each other. It the best type of friendships to have. Not so much the quantity of friends, but the quality of the relationship you have with your best friend or your closest friends. Its one special thing you all have in common together that nobody else will really understand your inside jokes, your humorous personalities, your outlook on life, the common interests, and finding a solid foundation to build your trust among your friends. it is always a good idea to really analyze and to really get to know people before you really jump into friendships quickly. Give it time to become best friends, or very close friends.

The worst thing you can do to someone is replace them, and feeling replaced by others and tossed to the side. Some people find good friends for a year or 2 or 3, and then you become an old part of their life, so then they jump into new friendships and toss you like yesterdays newspaper in the recycling bin. That is how I feel sometimes and it is not a good feeling. Find someone who will be by your side to understand you and your feelings and who will stay friends with you forever and ever and not leave your side after a year to 3 years of friendship. It is a crummy thing you can do to someone and that is not a good trait. Unless that person is not who you thought you knew and if things happen that are not good, then that is okay, but when you know you have not done anything to hurt someone and when you know you haven’t ever said a mean thing to that person or people, and get shafted, it is not a good thing. People need to realize that doing this is not good.

Be faithful and loyal with friendship, that will strengthen yourself and good habits will always be remembered. Do yourself a favour and choose friends wisely who will go to the ends of the earth for you and then naturally people will help each other and everything will fall into place. Just believe and do it. All the best in everything.