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Not Knowing How To Appreciate Somebody Really Hurts

When people who do not know the definition of appreciating you (me), or even think about you (me ) and only approach you (me ) only if they need something done, or anything from you (me), do not worry, what goes around comes around. Let nature take its course.

I always say this, people who are far away are always sweeter than the ones who are near and the ones who are near always get used, get volunteered into things, and expect so much more from, thinking you have time and can do things quickly. Unfortunately that is how it is. People do not realize I have feelings too, and I have so much going on for me too.

I am not complaining about doing things for others, and going out of my way to do so, but there is only so much you can do and then not be appreciated for it is absolutely hurtful.

This past week and for a while now, I have been so hurt beyond repair, my heart is aching so badly, to the point where I think about what happened when I go to bed, when I am sleeping, when I wake up, when I am going about my day, when I babysit, during when I am working, and even during my happy moments where I try to take it out of my mind. It is still there. I cried for many days and I have been so upset, disappointed on how people can be this way to others, especially if they are your own flesh in blood or whoever they are. It absolutely hurts like crazy. I really do not want to discuss what happened, but it hurts emotionally and mentally. It killed any spirit that I have left.

Its not so much about being chosen to be part of something precious and beautiful, it is the principle behind it and something to show gratitude, but unfortunately some people are not gifted with being thoughtful, and being appreciative toward others.

Well, I am not doing it anymore. Not going to allow others take advantage of me and take me for a fool. I really do not have time and energy for it anymore. Time to look after myself and go after what makes me happy, be with those who appreciate, love me for who I am, what I am passionate about and what I love to do with my own time. I have put my foot down. I am so tired of crying and being so hurt. Enough is enough.

Residential Area’s and Fireworks. There is a place for Everything

We all know when Holiday’s approach that people venture out to buy their own fireworks to blow up and they find the thrill to do their own fire show on celebration days on their streets where there are homes, other residents, vehicles, trees or whatever else there can be. It is a fun and awesome thing.

Although Fireworks can be pretty and exciting to see, however it can also pose as a danger as well. especially in residential areas where it is unsafe and it can become that way as well. One wrong move, if the fire goes the wrong way or the spark, something serious can happen such as, damaging a home, cars, trees and even worse and ultimately can hurt/injure somebody and then having to live with the agony afterwards.

There is a place for everything, and fireworks are not meant to be blown up in residential area’s. It doesn’t matter if people have been doing it for years, and how professional someone can be with it, but I am sure there are wide open areas where you can go. I am not telling anybody what to do, but it is for your own safety and for everyone around you. It can be dangerous.

I get so petrified every single time a celebration day comes along. It should be illegal and banned from residential areas. I know some people still do it in places that it is banned. I do not understand why people know the laws and still have to do things and endanger themselves and others around them. Some people are so selfish. They only think of themselves and the thrill they seek, but it doesn’t matter if it hurts and affects other people’s well-being and they think they are the only ones on the street who live there. Things have to change. People need to look out for each other, especially when you are surrounded by other residents and homes.

I am not telling you, not to have fun, but come on, people should know better than that to not do it where its unsafe.

Please be responsible, and do it elsewhere.

Thanks and all the best.

I am on Instagram – Follow Me at Talin401

In the recent months I have joined Instagram. It is an app for iPhone/Android users or anyone with a smartphone can join and have access to it. It is a website where you take photos from your Camera Phone photo files, and you pick and choose what you want to post on Instagram. I have almost 100 photos posted on there right now, but it will be increasing. I am very picky on photos I choose to post on Instagram.

However, it is important to be very careful of what you post on there as well that will not cause bullying, discrimination or anything of that sort.

If you would like to Follow me on Instagram and I will automatically follow you back. As stated above My name is Talin401 on there.

You can keep in touch with family, friends, and others if you like to as well and see their photos too.

There is also an app called Instasize, of where you can get your whole picture to fit on instagram if it is too big. try it out.

You can also hashtag #hashtag your posts so that it can be posted globally to whoever has instagram. For example, if you post a picture of yourself in New York City or Boston or you are traveling somewhere, you can write #boston #newyorkcity #newyork #nyc #bostonma #travel #traveling – Stuff like that. Make sure that you hashtag your posts if you like to of what is in relative to the photo.

Enjoy Instagram and keep in touch with me there as well that is if you like to.

Building A Sense Of Individuality Can Be A Battle in Decision Making

In life I am sure a lot of us have encountered people who always have a problem or an issue with how one individual gets things done, or how they think and feel, and there will always be people who will try to please everyone by always listening to everybody else, and not thinking about what that person really likes. For example, when someone or some people start planning a party, wedding, engagement party, special occasion gathering or just some simple gathering, and you start planning the venue, the colours, theme, music, food, decorations, and all that other stuff, and when it is time for people who are invited that come to the party and after doing your best to make sure people have a great time, there will be people who will always criticize you, and you hear it from other people who you should have done the decorations in another way, more better music, better theme of the party, but you know what, you have to stand up for what you created, the many hours and days and months it took for preparations, for the time you put into it, and having to hear from someone who it wasn’t up to par and being penalized for doing it that way, why didn’t you do this instead? Don’t you just hate that? There will be people who will say, thank you, had a fabulous time, everything was great, and some people will not even compliment the night or whenever the parties are held.

In this world the only impossible thing to achieve is to please everybody, you cannot, and it will never happen where people see eye to eye on things, people will always find something to say, people will always find a way to rain on someone else parade. It is unfortunate how that happens and it can be difficult to build a sense of individuality can be such a battle because a lot of us want approval and a lot of us wait for others to be impressed with you, but you know what, in the end we are all individuals and if we don’t build ourselves some sort of individuality, then everybody will end up being the same person and there is nothing new in the world to see, everyone will end up with the same kind of personality and there won’t be room for growth and a sense of independence.

I always believe that to be yourself, and to do things that you are capable of doing, if you want to have a party and do some event and if you want it to be a certain way, a certain theme, go for it. Nobody has the right to criticize and put any blame or point fingers on how its done and everything. You went out of your way to have this party or gathering to make it a great time and for people to come together and enjoy with each other is what counts right? Some people are so detail oriented and they always have to pinpoint what is wrong and what is right. It shouldn’t be like that. Yes although being detail oriented is good, but there is a limit to everything.

In this life and in my life, I have learned not to let others walk all over me, and tell me what to do with everything. I make my own decisions, and yes I do listen to advice and I do listen to people who give energy to me about something and what and how I should be doing something, but in the end if someone keeps on making decisions for you, then it will be a battle to build a sense of individuality. it is good sometimes to receive advice if you did something wrong or you approached something in a wrong way, or if you did some mistake or whatever, but people should not be on your case and put you on the spot all the time. you know what I mean right? Well, have you been in this situation before? Have you ever been through these problems where people always make a snide comment or tell you in a way not to offend you? What did you feel about how others criticize you?

I’d love to hear from you.

It’s Impossible To Satisfy Everyone, and I Suggest We Stop Trying

Today just a few hours ago, I saw this quote on Facebook about how impossible it is to satisfy everyone, and It just made me think a lot about how I should stop trying and focus on doing what is best for me and to stop trying to satisfy each person, because that will never happen and there will be people who agree and disagree about everything in life. In the end you to do what is right for you, you have to do things that are to your benefit because in the end were all individuals and we all have to learn how to stand on our own two feet and take control over our lives, Yes opinions, suggestions, and ideas is what makes the world go around and it is good to learn from one another about success and among other things in life, but the ball is in your court. Will you always listen to everyone? Or will you learn to listen to yourself and what is in your heart to do the right thing? Yes it is important to listen and to get advice from people and I am not up for debates on that. That is the way things are supposed to be, but there will come a time where you will need to make decisions all on your own without people always intervening with you.

There are so many things that is impossible to satisfy others such as, The type of wedding you have, the type of home, home decor, home colours, the car you have, the parties, functions, and everything people have, but one must know it is someone trying to stay in their budget, no matter how extravagant or how simple things can be, it is all in the terms of preference, and each person has their own taste and their own perspectives on how they want something to be. We cannot discriminate and complain about how another person chooses to do their parties, functions, and even to their style of furniture, colour and everything else, because it is their space and their home. Everyone is entitled to have a space of their own and create it the way they want to without be pestered all the time. There is a fine line to stop trying to impress people a lot and start focusing on what is important and what makes you happy to want to do what you want to do and it is important to have people’s support, and to be happy for you. You are not going to a wedding for the decorations, for the food, for the ambiance, your going to a wedding for the couple that just went into marriage hood, you go to rekindle with others and meet people, you go to events to socialize and be social, not for the material side of things. If that is the way they want to do it, then set them free and be satisfied, but then again someone people will not agree to what I am saying either and that is fine.

I have learned to take criticism and constructive criticism, and I value everyone’s opinions, good or bad, because that is a queue to make vast improvements, to better yourself in things, to improve on lifestyle, to improve on so many things in life. I believe that each and everyone of us needs criticism once in a while, but then again not everyone will agree with that, but that is how the world goes around. If everyone thought the same and if everyone had the same perspectives on life and the way things are supposed to be, then we would be living in a really boring world and there won’t be anything new. It will just be the same things over and over again and we won’t meet new people, all we would meet is the same type of personalities and the same type of opinionated people. Yes it is important to have good personality traits, it is important to make good choices in life, but in the end everything is up to you, but it won’t hurt if you listen to others once in a while. Enjoy your life and do things that will satisfy you, not others unless it is your immediate family. Be you and the rest will follow. All the best!

Kindness Always Matters In The World

Today, when I was out, I saw a quote that really hit me close to my heart and there are a few things I always believe in and to me they are the most important, but what strikes out is the one about kindness, and today’s quote I saw was “Kindness Matters”. It always does and its something I have always been taught since I was a child to always be kind to others, and always do great things and not expect anything in return. I truly believe that when you do kind things and be kind to others, it is something that God will see and you will be rewarded with great things in life and you will go places. I know sometimes that is hard to believe when you do good things for others, and sometimes they don’t appreciate it and you keep getting used and used like crazy, but always know that whatever you do, its something great that you have accomplished. In this world were only here for a limited time and the time spent on this earth is short lived, so live life wonderfully with being kind and fruitful. It is important to reach out without asking anything in return. All good deeds do not go unnoticed. You may feel it at times, but to be honest, it does not. God sees it, the Angels in heaven see it and you see it.

In the last couple of weeks, Bible Study started again at my Armenian Church and I am ever so grateful it started. It gives me an opportunity to go out and reflect amongst other people who attend the bible studies, and it gives me time to listen and interact with the priest and others about kindness, about the importance of being fruitful, and someone who reaches out to others. Bible studies teaches me a lot of things about life, the spiritual life, and about the modern society we all live in now, the priests tells us so many stories of his life, and what he’s encountered recently and he tells us things that empower me and probably to others as well. Kindness is something that I have always been fond of, and it is something that has embedded into my life and without the proper upbringing of my immediate family and relatives, and the community I live in, I wouldn’t be who I am today. I want to thank so many people in my life for giving me that poise and that life to get out there and do great things, attend bible studies, and attend important events and retreats that are educational to the mind, body, soul, spirit and the heart. It is important to cleanse our souls, to be kind, to be respectful to others.

No matter who anyone is, colour, race, ethnicity, orientation, big, small, tall, short, blonde hair, brown hair, black hair. I doesn’t matter. Were all one body and were all on this earth to serve a purpose in this life. We were all chosen and it doesn’t matter what you do, the ultimate thing that does matter in this world is kindness. Do it and you will be amazed on how it changes your life for the better. When you wake up every morning, Kindness should be on your agenda everyday. Use it and share it around. You will be surprised on how great your day will be. Have a wonderful day.

How To Avoid Conflict with Assumptions and Spreading Rumors

In my life, I have always learned to not get too involved in someone elses personal lives and business and to ask too many questions and details about a person’s life and I have been taught to never assume things about other people, make up stories about them and not to spread rumours and I have learned that if something that if someone tells me and tells me not to tell anybody, I honor their word and I never tell a soul. It’s just my style and I just cannot stand it sometimes when people ask way too many personal questions about family life, about sensitive things that not everyone should know about. I believe there are boundaries to everything and there is a limit with so much. Some people are so nosy and want to know so much. It becomes too much. When rumors start being spread around without knowing from the source, is not something very good to do.

Before sharing things and before spreading things around that you are permitted to do, it is always important to ask from the source and find out things from the source, because by the time you hear about it from different people, the story gets changed around, words are added here and then, and people understand things differently, then it will be chaotic and something will be blown way out of proportion. It is like playing broken Telephone when by the time the story gets sent around in the circle, the person at the end will have a totally different story and then spread it around. I think it is a good idea to always know if it is something you should say to others, and get permission always and never assume things about other people unless you find out from them and unless there is solid proof of something done, or something said. Sometimes there are witnesses who even lie, and there are so many people who will lie and make up stories about others.

I think the most important thing is to really get the facts straight. Relationships and friendships can be ruined by it, and a lot of damage will be done. I just sometimes say you know what? Its better I do not get involved, I do not say anything, and not share with the world something that is very personal. I just don’t want to deal with headaches and hardships later. I am always loyal to my friends, and when they tell me something personal, there is no way I will ever spread those things around. It is the most terrible thing anyone can do. Now with social media, the internet there are mixed signals and so many sites dealing with social media, there are billions of us on the internet everyday and transmitting information 24/7 365, and a lot of people do not get their facts straight and it becomes a catastrophe. So my advice to everyone is, never assume, never invent words with your mouth and go right to the source to find out information. The power of words can do serious damage, and its the most powerful thing in this world.

Has there been a moment in your life where people find false things about you and it gets spread like wildflowers? Have you been in a situation where you do damage control and tell people the right things instead of the way people hear about it? Have you defended someone? People just need to get their facts straight. That is all there is to it. it avoids conflict, problems, and it prevents from relationships, friendships and bonds to break and it can be a very hurtful thing to go through. So some people need to really think before they speak and ask from the source beforehand . I cannot stress it enough. Make things right now before things get out of hand because it can and really quick. All the best to everyone!