Having Second Thoughts – That Gut Feeling

In life sometimes when we think something is going in our favour, we are usually happy, looking forward and thinking about how great everything is going. We visualize our life as something that is going so incredibly well until we step back and think critically about things. You get that pit in your stomach and that gut feeling that something is not up to par. You have these second thoughts about something big that is coming up in your life.

Sometimes those second thoughts come with having cold feet. Sometimes you wonder if you are making the right decision to things. So you communicate your feelings to a family member or very close friend and ask for advice for a situation that you can be in. It takes a lot of courage to step up to communicate your true feelings and for some people they communicate openly without hesitation which that it should be.

When you have that gut feeling about something not going well, your gut feelings are never wrong. It is a way to protect us from certain people and things. If you feel something is wrong, its good to realize it now before it is too late. Before consequences arise, and bite you, you have to think of your own best interest and protect yourself from something that you possibly cannot undo.

When you think so eloquently about someone or something and then in the long run they disappoint you, it’s not a great feeling at all. When you put your trust into someone or something, you expect everything to be going well, you feel the need to express how happy you are and how excited you are, but deep down inside you feel like something is missing, something is not right.

When you put your heart, soul, mind, dedication, devotion and say nice things about somebody to others and yet the person you say nice things about does nothing and says nothing in return, is a great course for concern. When you profess your feelings, sweet words and so much into a person and invest in them all the kind things to say and that person does not say anything nice in return to your face or around others, criticizes you, doesn’t give you credit, always finds something bad about you, is definitely something that makes you think twice and even three times to really think about stepping back a bit and cooling it with giving someone compliments and saying kind things about them.

People’s actions make you more aware. When you are in a relationship and the person you are with never compliments you, never tells you that you look beautiful, and someone who doesn’t say great job when you have done something well, someone who doesn’t communicate with you on a daily basis, doesn’t defend you to others and someone who doesn’t say a nice speech or utter a few words to family and friends while you are together and especially to you is not a relationship and it is doomed to fail.

Ones manners and communication is absolutely important. All this plays a part in having second thoughts, and having that gut feeling. Manners and the way someone portrays themselves amongst others is a big deal in life. Etiquette as well has a huge role in life.

Also if you are sentimental and cherish everything in your life and what makes you happy. Nobody should stand in the way and expect you to throw away things that are so important to you. (not to a hoarding level), but things that hold special memories for you should be something that should never be an issue to be brought up of.

Gut feelings and second thoughts are so important. We have to do that sometimes. It definitely clears our minds and hearts to start fresh, rejuvenate, refresh, redo everything but redo it right. Sometimes things come in front of us to warn us, to give us a sign that something is wrong and that we need to fix it. Communication is so important.

Our emotions, feelings and expressions in Life is not a game, should be taken seriously and whatever we do in our life and the legacy we leave behind when our time comes to depart away from our loved ones and the world, tells all. Sometimes we have to take a step back and re-evaluate thing in our lives, put things into perspective, we have to think about so many things as we get older.

Everything matters. Kindness, compliments, kind gestures, manners, etiquette, initiative, enthusiasm, positivity, optimism, anticipation of greatness, wishing goodness to others, happy thoughts, happiness, life’s goodness, expression, emotions, feelings, mentality, sentiments, sentimental, morale, moral, and everything else. It all matters. communication matters. Everything matters in life.

Do you have second thoughts about people and things?

Have you been in a predicament that makes you re-evaluate everything in life?

Has a situation in your life made you feel that you have to analyze everything?

All the best to you all and wishing you all happiness, good health and positivity in your life.

Kid’s Are So Spoiled These Days. I Just Never Knew How Much Until Yesterday

So Yesterday, I was out on my regular shopping and I came across this kid who looked like she was 6 or 7 years old and her mother in the same aisle. I was looking at stuff and all of a sudden the kid sees something she likes, and then all of a sudden she says Mommy can I have this? The mother said no you cannot have that, the kid started to make a huge fuss and ask why? I want it now, and treating the mother terribly, then the mother said no again and the child started to cry and scream out, I was just watching this whole thing from afar and I was about to intervene, but I said you know what? I am not going to do anything. The Mother said, that’s it were going home and she said your punished, and I am taking away your cell phone. So they took off without buying anything in the store. The mother got so furious. Never mind all that, but cell phone at age 6-7? You have got to be kidding me right? I was at a loss for words that such a young child who barely got out of playing with baby toys and plastic and in the colouring phase that has a cell phone. I cannot believe how spoiled children have become. They do anything to get what they want, but I really commend this mother who kept saying no to her child. I guess the mother came to a point and put her foot down and not let her have that, but the cell phone thing really turned me off.

I just cannot believe it, I never had my first cell phone until I was 18 years old. I was so happy with my crayons, I was so happy playing with my little dolls, I was so happy with the creativity, and imagination I had when I was a kid. I did crafts, I created so many things, I drew things, I did arts and crafts with glue, coloured paper, and so much more. Now kids rely on technology to do the thinking for them and now everything revolves around keyboards and they cannot do a day without them which is pretty sad. Before I would see a lot more kids outside playing, riding bikes, playing road hockey and doing outdoor things, but now the residential streets are more quiet and kids are inside playing video games or are on the computer or texting with cell phones to other friends. If the parents keep saying yes for the kid to have the latest gadgets and if they parents don’t say no, the child obviously becomes spoiled so much and just one day when you say no, they make a big stink about it in the store, they start to threaten the mother or father at the store, they start to make a big scene, but how will we teach our children about saving money? How will we teach our children about not getting everything their classmates or friends have? How kids should not copy other people and be their own person.

I remember there was so many things that came out, and my parents always taught me just because somebody else has something it doesn’t mean that you should have it too. My parents taught me a lot when I was growing up, and I was content and happy with what I had. They told me that kids in the world don’t have toys to play with, food to eat, and other things in life, and a lot of those children in impoverished countries and places where they don’t have running water, create their own games, create their own toys and play with their friends, relatives, siblings. Its very important to realize that when kids are too spoiled and the parents always say yes to their children and they don’t get what they want, the parents need to sit down and talk to their kids, they need to teach kids values, lessons and tell them to watch videos on how kids live in third world countries, get them to realize that these kids have it so good, they have a roof over their heads, food to eat, and necessities of life. Kids should not complain that they don’t have an Ipod or the latest gaming console, or the latest cell phone or something. They should be fortunate enough and always be thankful to their parents for giving them a good life, for giving them more important things in life rather than material things. Materialism is unbelievable and when kids grow up to be spoiled and always get what they want, then they will do that to their kids and their kids will do that to theirs.

Sit down with your kids, talk to them, do something that will benefit them in the future. Kids should work more on their personalities, morale, quality, and start gaining responsibility. When kids learn at a young age, the future will be bright for them, and when they exercise the good things in life and stop making a big fuss in a store because they didn’t get what they wanted, should be a good lesson. Yesterday when I was shopping like I said with the mother and child who had a cell phone, that did it for me, and I just had to write about it, in today’s blog. I am so concerned on how spoiled kids have gotten and it needs to stop. I cannot stress it enough. Parents give their children a lot of freedom, they give them way too much than they can really handle. It’s time to say no and teach kids that having everything others have is not a great thing. don’t copy other people, be your own person and so what if other kids laugh, it all begins with the big figures in their lives which are their parents. Try it out. spend time with them and teach them. It’s the best way to go.