Having Second Thoughts – That Gut Feeling

In life sometimes when we think something is going in our favour, we are usually happy, looking forward and thinking about how great everything is going. We visualize our life as something that is going so incredibly well until we step back and think critically about things. You get that pit in your stomach and that gut feeling that something is not up to par. You have these second thoughts about something big that is coming up in your life.

Sometimes those second thoughts come with having cold feet. Sometimes you wonder if you are making the right decision to things. So you communicate your feelings to a family member or very close friend and ask for advice for a situation that you can be in. It takes a lot of courage to step up to communicate your true feelings and for some people they communicate openly without hesitation which that it should be.

When you have that gut feeling about something not going well, your gut feelings are never wrong. It is a way to protect us from certain people and things. If you feel something is wrong, its good to realize it now before it is too late. Before consequences arise, and bite you, you have to think of your own best interest and protect yourself from something that you possibly cannot undo.

When you think so eloquently about someone or something and then in the long run they disappoint you, it’s not a great feeling at all. When you put your trust into someone or something, you expect everything to be going well, you feel the need to express how happy you are and how excited you are, but deep down inside you feel like something is missing, something is not right.

When you put your heart, soul, mind, dedication, devotion and say nice things about somebody to others and yet the person you say nice things about does nothing and says nothing in return, is a great course for concern. When you profess your feelings, sweet words and so much into a person and invest in them all the kind things to say and that person does not say anything nice in return to your face or around others, criticizes you, doesn’t give you credit, always finds something bad about you, is definitely something that makes you think twice and even three times to really think about stepping back a bit and cooling it with giving someone compliments and saying kind things about them.

People’s actions make you more aware. When you are in a relationship and the person you are with never compliments you, never tells you that you look beautiful, and someone who doesn’t say great job when you have done something well, someone who doesn’t communicate with you on a daily basis, doesn’t defend you to others and someone who doesn’t say a nice speech or utter a few words to family and friends while you are together and especially to you is not a relationship and it is doomed to fail.

Ones manners and communication is absolutely important. All this plays a part in having second thoughts, and having that gut feeling. Manners and the way someone portrays themselves amongst others is a big deal in life. Etiquette as well has a huge role in life.

Also if you are sentimental and cherish everything in your life and what makes you happy. Nobody should stand in the way and expect you to throw away things that are so important to you. (not to a hoarding level), but things that hold special memories for you should be something that should never be an issue to be brought up of.

Gut feelings and second thoughts are so important. We have to do that sometimes. It definitely clears our minds and hearts to start fresh, rejuvenate, refresh, redo everything but redo it right. Sometimes things come in front of us to warn us, to give us a sign that something is wrong and that we need to fix it. Communication is so important.

Our emotions, feelings and expressions in Life is not a game, should be taken seriously and whatever we do in our life and the legacy we leave behind when our time comes to depart away from our loved ones and the world, tells all. Sometimes we have to take a step back and re-evaluate thing in our lives, put things into perspective, we have to think about so many things as we get older.

Everything matters. Kindness, compliments, kind gestures, manners, etiquette, initiative, enthusiasm, positivity, optimism, anticipation of greatness, wishing goodness to others, happy thoughts, happiness, life’s goodness, expression, emotions, feelings, mentality, sentiments, sentimental, morale, moral, and everything else. It all matters. communication matters. Everything matters in life.

Do you have second thoughts about people and things?

Have you been in a predicament that makes you re-evaluate everything in life?

Has a situation in your life made you feel that you have to analyze everything?

All the best to you all and wishing you all happiness, good health and positivity in your life.

My Full House Nostalgia – My Dream Came True

By: Talin Orfali

As you may or may not know, from September, 1987 to May, 1995, there was an American sitcom named Full House which was created by Jeff Franklin. It was a Miller-Boyett production. They only broadcasted eight seasons as well as 193 episodes. The show then has been syndicated and rebroadcasted. They then created a series of books and other merchandise that were in the market. In 2016 on Netflix, they will show brand new episodes and a reunion.

The actors and actresses of the show were Bob Saget, Dave Coulier, John Stamos, Candace Cameron Bure, Jodie Sweetin, Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen, Lori Loughlin, Andrea Barber, Scott Weinger, Blake and Dylan Toumy-Wilhoit, as well as their beloved and adorable dog Comet.

The Show was based out of San Francisco, California, however the show was filmed in Los Angeles in a studio.

The opening theme was “Everywhere you look” performed by Jesse Frederick and composed by Bennett Salvay & Jeff Franklin.

The show was nominated and also won many awards as well as the actors and actresses on the show.

You would hear the iconic quotes and sayings from the show “How Rude?” “You got it Mister!”, “Have Mercy”, “You Got It dude”, “Wake Up San Francisco”, “Tattle-Tale”, “Oh Mylanta” “Not the Hair” “GA-GA-GA-” “I’m Popeye the sailor Man” and a lot more.

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In May, 2015 I ventured out to San Francisco, California and my nostalgia hit me pretty hard. My Dream had come true. I began to cry with happy tears and thoroughly enjoyed my experience in seeing the Full House on Broderick St and then the Painted ladies homes at Alamo Square Park. I also saw the Golden Gate Bridge, Fishermans Wharf. I also began re-enacting the theme opening of the show. Some people saw me and started to laugh and knew what I was doing. It was pretty cool. I could not believe I went up close and person with the real deal.

I will never forget it. It was absolutely an incredible feeling that was so indescribable, that I saw it all from always watching the show from my childhood. I hope that I can one day meet all the actors and actresses from the show. That is also on my bucket list that I want to cross it off. Their Stage names are DJ Tanner, Stephanie Tanner, Michelle Tanner, Danny Tanner, Uncle Jesse Katsopolis, Aunt Becky, Kimmy Gibler, Steve, Uncle Joey Gladstone, Nicky and Alex.

I always felt like I was part of their family and I felt like I knew them. When I was a kid, I would always have imaginary friends and I would include them in it and then that is where I was dreaming of celebrities coming over to my home, and trying so hard to reach out to the show. I wrote many letters to the production, but I knew how many letters they used to receive, that I got nothing back in return. Which then afterwards I understood why with all the fans and people also writing to the show. Which is completely okay. I was not upset at all.

It was a great show with family values, taught people lessons on how to act, behave, to have manners, to instill responsibility, and so much more. There aren’t these kinds of TV shows anymore that instill family values with quality and excellence.

I will forever love this show and always will. I am excited to tune into the Fuller House and continue with my Nostalgia. Thank you for the memories Full House. You all meant and still mean a lot to me. I love you all very much. I will always cherish each moment as I was growing up with them.

The Disrespectful Generation

What a rude and disrespectful new generation of teens we have today. I was standing in line at Tim Hortons coffee shop to order, and out goes these 3 teenagers who came in together from a nearby high school with their backpacks and without even saying excuse me to me, they charged their way through to get in front of me, shoving me and my handbag to the side where there were other people behind me too. I said, excuse me you all budded in front of others and myself and nearly tipped me over. The back of the line starts there. I said wait like the rest of us are.
They said to me, isn’t this a line too? I said No, go behind the line. If you want to get by next time say excuse me or something or better yet, don’t bud in line when others are waiting to order too. I don’t think it is fair at all. Who do you think you guys are? I said to them learn to show respect to others, some manners and proper etiquette and common sense, then I ordered my drink and out I went and then I went by them again before I left to my car, I saw them look down on their smartphones and not even looking at each other and I said put your smartphones down and get some real intelligence and smarts and learn how to behave, then I walked right out. I am not afraid to confront these type of people.
They need to be taught these qualities and nowadays there is not enough interaction, and some of these people lack in social skills and manners of which they were not taught, or they are taught and think that they are invincible and think they can do whatever they please because they are young and under 18. Shouldn’t work that way at all. Manners, respect, Attitude,  etiquette, common sense should be enforced and taught to people at all ages. If these people are not taught these qualities when they are little toddlers to little kids by 5-6 years old, then they will grow up thinking it is okay to treat people this way and bud in the line and think its socially acceptable, but it is not. I am disgusted by some of these teenagers these days and whoever else, doesn’t matter the age.
I was taught at a very young age before I was 4 years old to learn to respect others, manners, and proper etiquette. It all starts when you are very young. That will stick with you for the rest of your life. I know we are all born with different personalities, but our personality grows with how our parents, guardians, care-givers teach us about quality of life instead of quantity.
Respect to be Respected,
Be nice so people be nice to you,
Be kind so people be kind to you,
it is as simple as that.

Party or Function Table Etiquette

Have you been to parties and functions where appetizers, the main course and other foods are put on the table and you see some inconsiderate people who take a huge chunk out of the food on that plate that is put on the table and by the time the plate comes to you, you have nothing left or a small bit that barely goes down your throat?

I have been to numerous amounts of parties and functions especially weddings or something where I have witnessed that happen all too much. Not only observing on my table, but others around too. Some people do not think of the other people who are sitting on the same table as them and think they are the only ones with eating the food. I find that to be very selfish and a terrible trait. People paid to eat and have fun, and those who are hungry. It is not nice to hog the food.

The people who plan these functions make/order only enough food to last for each person. I know that it is good to carry extra supply of the food that is being provided in case people ask for more, but whatever is put on the tables, people should be mindful and think of others as well, but unfortunately that is not the case over 90% of the time. maybe more.

It has happened to me a lot. I am usually the one to pass around the plates as respect and thinking of others before I serve myself. As the plate began circling around and came back to me of 9 people and I am the 10th, It either had nothing left or a very small speck of it when the whole plate was so full. I was so mad and I felt weird asking the server for more of that food, where they had put enough to last the whole table. I try not to make a big fuss about it, but it is a big fuss. It is disrespectful, inconsiderate and absolutely terrible to do that. Some people’s eyes are bigger than their stomach.

I see peoples eyes jump at the food as soon as the host of the party or function says its okay to eat, or after a prayer or something. People jump at the food before its okay to do so. Some people look and act like they have never seen food or ate it before. They become so wild that they don’t even acknowledge others around them.

To learn proper etiquette is to take small portions of each item and allow others to have a chance to eat it. Some people may skip that certain type of food, but again its good to ask, “are you sure you do not want it”? if the response says, “yes I am sure I do not want it, you can have it”, then you take it, but other than that it is not fair for people who want them.

So, next time you go to a function or party, just watch and observe your table and the way people take their food and how much of it and you will see what I am talking about. People may not even pay attention to those details, but it is important to learn from mistakes and correct them. Etiquette is so important that some people do not take seriously and who do not respect it. Etiquette and manners are crucial and so imperative to have and possess.

Just look out and see.

Smartphones and Tablets — Have They Taken Over Our Lives?

As mobile devices serve a good purpose in life to communicate with others with texting, calling, spending time with apps, and having fun with them, but there should be limits. I feel that human face to face communication is diminishing, and that mobile devices have gone out of control. Social skills and speaking is deteriorating as our tongue freezes up and cannot come up with conversations instantly, whereas it is easier to communicate with texts and writing messages, but I prefer the old fashioned way, where people come together, enjoy, create memories, laugh, talk and do fun things together, to put the phones down and actually verbally do the talking instead of the fingers. I know that it is a personal mobile phone and you can be on it 24 hours a day, but you do not need to be on it constantly.

I feel that smartphones and tablets and the constant changes to technology and gadgets are taking over some peoples lives and they can’t seem to put them down at all, they wake up with it, go to bed with it, they use the washroom with it, they eat dinner while being on them, they use it while at a coffee shop or restaurant among friends 90% of the time people get together and do not look at each others faces, and its just overwhelmingly taken over. what is the point of getting together with people when all that will be done is looking at screens? Where do we draw the line? Its become so bad that when people are physically together, they text each other when they are beside each other, and they communicate with their phone instead of looking at each other and moving their mouths.

I too have a smartphone mobile device, but I know my limits. I do enjoy my mobile device too, but I do not let it control my life, or my way of living. I will not let a screen device take over my life and who I am. Some people need to know limits, and when to put down the phone, like when someone is talking to you, when you are among a group of people, when you are in the washroom and so on and so forth. I sometimes go more than 12 hours without looking at my phone, I sometimes don’t look at it all day, as I do not let it control me.

Although mobile devices are important to have for emergencies and to contact people instantly, but some people overuse it to the point where things get out of hand and disrespecting others who are trying to talk to you when your head is so into that device, and its not healthy especially the radiation it produces. From your point of view, do you limit your use? What are your opinions about this issue? I would love to hear from you.  Know your limit and be within it.

You know what’s beautiful? Read the first word again.

Often people put themselves down as though, they are not good enough or beautiful enough for anything, well, think again. Check the first word on the title and think long and hard about it. Each one of us has beauty and we are all beautiful in our own little ways. Don’t misconstrued yourself and put yourself down. That is not a good thing to do. You have all the beauty and when you have a beautiful personality, you stand out more and people will appreciate it. If they don’t then it is tough luck for them. Always remember that you can never be another person and you can never have someone else’s beauty but yours, You are uniquely beautiful in your own way and don’t try to alter your look by getting plastic surgery and all these stuff. It is not cool. Just be yourself. There is nothing wrong with that. Nobody is better than the next person, Nobody is more inferior. You must always remember that there are people in this world who look beyond beauty and they look at what is inside the most. That is true inner beauty. Once you have that. Everything else will fall into place. If you have an awful personality, people won’t want to get near you and people will stay away from you. That is not what you want is it? You want to create bonds with people, you want to do things you never thought you could, but you can. When you have a beautiful personality, success is just around the corner for you, but you must work at it and be yourself. It is the best regimen anyone can have and establish for themselves. Try it and you will be amazed at how much progress you can really make when you are yourself and when your beauty shines with that. Just give it a try and you will wait and see with all the progress and all success you will truly have in your life. Do it!

Get Me On The Marilyn Dennis Show To Raise Awareness on Social Issues

Hello Everyone, The Marilyn Dennis show is based out of Toronto, Canada and I would like to be on her show to raise awareness on Social issues and one most important is about bullying. Bullying is something that I do not tolerate. It is not nice, its terrible and nobody should be subject to that. My goal is to raise awareness not only on the bullying issue, but how people treat each other in public, how people disrespect others, how people provoke others, how people disrespect others property for example someones yard, someones home, someones car, someones belongings, how people think they are the only ones in the world and everyone must live by their rules and regulations. These things need to be addressed more and more and people need to realize that their actions and words does a lot in society and public. I want to get on Marilyn’s Show because I know she is a strong advocate when it comes to social, bullying and etiquette.

There is someone is particular I like and his name is Charles the butler. He comes on Marilyn’s show regularly to teach people etiquette, behavior, neatness, organization, manners, and what to do in a social setting when your at a party, function, office party, at work, and everything else. Hes an incredible person and I would so love to meet with him and share each others point of view. I can talk to Charles the Butler for hours and him and I would become best friends. So Marilyn I hope you do consider me, and I hope that I can be on your show. It would mean a lot to me for this opportunity and this privilege to speak out to the public about these things. Thank you so much!

 

Not In My Best Mood Today. It Has Been an Emotional Roller Coaster Today

As most of you may have read my previous blog to this one about the Manner less society today, that did hit quite a few peoples nerves. I know I received some comments that were not so pleasant to read, and from that, I have been having a really crummy day. I am not trying to be condescending and ranting about a certain issue, but I felt the need to express it. I see so many manner less people, that it has become unbelievable. If someone does not speak up to talk about it and to write about it? Then who will? I want to see a world of people that will be pleasant to each other, to be nice, to be polite, and respectful to one another and have a world of peace, happiness, positivity and love. If messages like the one I wrote does not get spread around and if etiquette is not taught to people at very young age, people will grow up to be unfriendly and impolite. I mean I did not mean for it to sound harsh which I did not, but I needed to say it. It has been on my mind to write about this topic for quite sometime now and you know its just so hard to bring up topics like this without someone or some people writing distasteful comments back to me.

I know that everybody has their own opinions and everything and you are entitled to have that, and I know that blogging is something that not everyone will agree with what is said and what is written, and sometimes it will hit a huge nerve on someone, but it is all about the blogging journey and not everything will be perfect all the time. I have been in a terrible mood all day and maybe I should not have brought up that subject, but In my heart and in my soul I really had to come out with it. I wrote a blog about not keeping things bottled up inside, and today I am taking my own advice to write about something I should have done a long time ago. I am not here to point fingers at anybody and I am not here to cause grief and trouble, but I believe in freedom of expression and freedom of speech. I want to send out these messages to people, I want to make a better world for us all to live in and to tolerate each other, to be nice, kind and do great things. Life is too short. People need to realize that the world is ours and we need to take care of it and take care of one another and have a great world.

We do live in a great world, but it is our actions that speak louder than words. Today I was very close to not blogging today and keeping today blank, but I didn’t have it in me to stop. I cannot stop. Not now. Blogging is part of my life and and writing on subjects like this is something very important to me. If people don’t speak out about something than who will? You know what I am trying to get at and say? I am talking to everybody in all age groups. I am not just pointing the finger in certain age groups. manner less people come of all ages. I really hope things change. I care too much for people.

The Manner less Society Today. Where is The Etiquette?

As I have been going out a lot in society, I am seeing more and more people being manner less and impatient. I am seeing a lot of people’s etiquette and the way they present themselves to be so tasteless and so terrible. I sometimes wonder how certain people have been raised and how certain people carry out themselves in public. Where are the mannered people? You don’t see much of it that much anymore. Many times I have sat in restaurants carrying on with my friends and with family and I see people talking and eating with their mouths full, I see people reaching for food or drinks too hovering the person sitting next to them. It does not hurt to say excuse me, may I have some of that bread over there? Or would you please pass me the pitcher of water? Never forget to say thank you. It is very important. No matter who you are with. Kindness and proper etiquette is a must. Here are some examples of Etiquette and Manners.

In A Shopping Mall or Plaza Setting:

It is always a great idea to look behind you to see if other people are coming when you approach the entrance doors. Keep the door wide open for them to come in too. People should say thank you to you, and of course your response would be your very welcome and enjoy your day. They or that person should say, thank you and you too. Then you carry about your business. Now when you go and line up at a cash out and you see people, not a good idea to bud in front of them. First come first serve. Budding in front of people is a no no. If the person says would you like to go ahead of me? You would then say Oh if you do not mind… The person says no no I insist or yes sure, Then you say thank you or if you say no its alright you were in front before I was. These little things make a huge impact in society. To learn to be patient and to learn to be polite.

In A Public Transit Setting:

When you are in a public transit setting, and you see elderly, or if you see someone with crutches or a pregnant person, its always a great idea to give them a seat. It makes them feel incredible that somebody has thought of them and given them their space to sit. Also if you are chewing gum incessantly and with your mouth constantly going 200 miles an hour making noise to make another person uncomfortable and to annoy others, you should chew with your mouth closed and don’t chew like a maniac.

On The Road Driving or In A Parking Lot:

I know this is the most difficult thing to be courteous to other drivers, but the road is shared with everyone. Not just you. Let a person in if they are trying to get in that lane or go to the lane to make a left turn or a right turn getting close to intersections and street ways. Also its a great idea to give people the right of way sometimes. depending on the situation. If you would like others to give you the way while driving, you have to sacrifice a couple of minutes here and there and let others in. Its important to share the road. I am sure we were taught how to share in kindergarten class and in grade school. Exercise the same habits when you are driving too. No matter what. Always signal your changes, always be cautious.

Restaurant Table Manner Etiquette:

Do not talk with your mouth full of food, Do not reach over somebody to get water or bread or whatever it is. Always ask the person beside you or near you to pass something you like on the table. Reaching over somebody’s eating space is a no no. Asking never hurts and you say please excuse my reach or my arm. Also never put your elbows on the table while eating. Use Utensils that are on the table and try to use less of your fingers and use utensils properly. Do not overfill your mouth with food. take small portions and put it in your mouth. Do not make too many sounds while eating and chew with your mouth closed. Also if you need to sneeze or if you have to cough, turn away from the table and do so and cough or sneeze on the edge of your elbow, then go to the restroom and wash your hands and come back to sit and join your group. When getting up at anytime, please say, Oh please excuse me. I will be back. These things help a lot. Also be patient with the waiter or waitress or server. They are not just dealing with you and your table as they are dealing with everyone. please give them time to get the food or things you requested.

Online Etiquette:

When using social networking sites like facebook, twitter, myspace, and all those other sites, its a great idea not to swear and curse, and watch what you write. It can one day be visible and you can be in trouble. Be careful always.

Say Please, Say Thank You, Always Ask, Always have a friendly smile and use proper etiquette no matter where you are. It is very important to exercise these simple things that can make a big difference in the world. Try and be amazed.

Etiquette is a recipe of success anywhere with anyone.