Francis Libermann Catholic High School 40th Anniversary

By: Talin Orfali – Student Alumni – Fall 1999 to 2003.

40 Years ago in 1977, Francis Libermann Catholic High School opened its doors to teachers, students and administrative staff, and this year in 2018, on June 3rd, we had the anniversary and reunion. Many past and present teachers, and alumni students were present.

A couple of months ago, I had opened up my Facebook, and on my news feed, I see an event from Francis Libermann of which a fellow classmate of mine from my time, invited me to it, I definitely said, I am going. At first, I had mixed feelings about it, and I was hesitant at first because my high school life wasn’t what I had expected it to be, but I toughed it out for 4 years. It wasn’t perfect and there were good times and bad times, but nothing really is perfect.

We envision high school to be perfect where everyone gets along, but that is not the case, however, I forgive those who have bullied me and belittled me throughout those times. I realize now that when you are a teenager going to school, all these emotions run high, going through the puberty stages where sometimes teens just don’t know what they are doing, plus getting through school with studies and everything else with making friends whereas some others don’t get so lucky about that. It’s a huge phase that kids go through before venturing out to college/university and maybe not and just going right to work or whatever the case may be.

Anyway, when I saw about 90% of the teachers at the reunion and anniversary, they all automatically remembered me even though 15 years have passed since I took my last walk out of those doors. I never visited back since then, but I feel like I really never left yesterday. I was so sad to hear about my favourite principal back in the day had passed away a few years ago from cancer. I was so devastated and cried. I truly know how to appreciate teachers and administrative staff for all the hard work and sacrifices they make and made to make sure we are educated and well looked after.

Some of the teacher’s names I had forgotten about and some that are still fresh in my mind, but they remembered me and some of the teachers said that they think about me from time to time. One of them said to me yesterday, Talin, you were my favourite student and I think about you all the time. I am so happy to be seeing you here today and in return, she was really one of my favourite teachers at the school. One of them always knew I was going to get into some sort of writing and when I spoke to her and told her what I do now, she got so excited to hear that I am doing what she thought I would do.

Anyway, I did a walk-through the school and I familiarized myself with the lockers I used to have, the classes I went to, the hallways that I walked around, familiar smells of the halls and classes, the gym, the library, and the staircases that was used to go up to the 2nd, and 3rd floors. The memories just came to me and some have faded and some have stayed with me. The washrooms and everything are also the same as I remembered where the washroom stalls are smaller.

I remember being part of teen voices, and other outreach programs. I was never really a sports person and I had joined into more interactive committees and creative writing.

I remember when I used to seldom take public transit home from school. I used to hate taking public transit up to now. That hasn’t changed. I remember getting a sign of relief when I saw I was being picked up by my dad or my brother and one of the teachers pointed that out to me yesterday, saying she remembers that I used to hate taking the bus and she remembers me being picked up. I said to her, nothing has changed on that front. LOL, and the only difference is that I drive now.

The 40th anniversary of Francis Libermann Catholic High School was definitely an eye-opener for me, which has overwhelmed me because time is flying and these are the moments of our lives that we will never get back and it teaches us to be grateful for each moment, even though they weren’t perfect and our expectations weren’t what we wanted, but we are getting older now and it truly makes you appreciate that little time you have in high school. Time never waits for you. You truly have to cherish life and the phases.

I was in tears while walking through the halls and I am in tears now as I write this now. I really miss high school a lot and I miss being a teenager. My advice to teenagers going to high school now, is to never waste a second of it, don’t take this time for granted. Even though it may not be a positive and good time for you, but also I want you to realize that high school is temporary and things do eventually get better and they will. It has for me. 4 years go by so quickly that you don’t even realize once you graduate and have your prom and then life changes right away. Well, it did for me.

2003 for me seems like yesterday, but in other ways, it does feel like its a long time. It really hit me hard yesterday and I just want to say how truly grateful I am for having a school to go to and getting to know many people of whom I am still in touch with. We didn’t really get along in high school, but we do now and that is what counts. Life and our personalities change and it’s absolutely amazing. You never truly learn to appreciate something until after the fact.

Thank you and congratulations to Francis Libermann and here is to another 40 years and beyond. I am super glad to be part of 4 years of it. All the best and may what happens between those walls be educational, fruitful filled with knowledge, respect, and getting closer with God in his teachings while learning valuable life lessons to take with you when you take your last walk out those doors. God bless Francis Libermann Catholic High School and all those in it.

Fitting in is So Over-rated – Fit Out Instead

In life as we grow up, some people have the tendency to always want to impress people, and be like everybody else and be someone they are not in order to fit in. Ladies and Gentlemen, boy’s and girl’s, it is important to never try to fit in anywhere. Take a step back and think about who you associate with, or where you are and want to be employed with.

Being yourself is the best fitting in you can do. There will always be people who will appreciate and accept you for you. In this world, I truly believe that we all have people that suit us, who can relate and understand us. It may take time, and sometimes not, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel that you will see. Fitting in is so over-rated. If you ever think that something is wrong with you, and the way you are, that is just something absolutely ridiculous.

If ever in your life, you find that you are in the wrong place, the wrong chapter of your life, change your place, change your chapter and change your life. These are messages that are being sent to you saying that, its time for you to put your foot down and do something that will benefit you. Not for others.

Don’t ever be afraid to disappoint people just because you are not in their league, or do what they want you to do. Never allow others to make a mockery of you. Just because you are where others are, it never means that you do not have what it takes to do something or be someone special, because you are special and you do have what it takes.

Always be happy with who you are. Do not be afraid to fail, and never be afraid to try. Who cares if you do not fit in? you are in the right direction to be an individual that you are. Not on other people’s standards. Others standards do not matter, what truly matters is how you want it to be.

Don’t ever give up with anything in life. That is the easy way out in any situation. There is a quote I have read online “Why fit in, when you are born to stand out?” I truly believe in that. Stand out to people who are like you, and they will come to you or you go to them.

These quotes I found online as well. (unknown)

– Things just do not happen right away.

– be the change you want to see

– Some of the most wonderful people are ones who do not fit into boxes.

You are the example of your life, and never allow others to write the story of your life with your pen. Never allow them to hold it either. Not even for a fraction of a second. Everything you do comes down to holding your pen and writing chapters of what you want to do and be in your life. Never forget that. Don’t ever fit in. Fit out and do what and be what makes you happy. You are in control of your own happiness.

In The Heart Of The Sea – Moby Dick — Herman Melville

In The Heart of The Sea

Film Creator and Director: Ron Howard

Played by Actor Chris Hemsworth as Owen Chase.

Moby Dick – Based on the novel story.

Author: Herman Melville
Published: October 18, 1851

In my words about the movie and the true meaning behind it: 

It was a compelling movie. It tells a story, it captivates the hearts of many, the will to survive, the will to sacrifice, the will to go on, the bravery, to battle one of mother nature’s strongest most dangerous to battle the wild water, sea creatures, the violent weather, a vessel in the midst of everything, crossing paths with those who talk unrealistically to try to succeed in bringing a valuable resource in the world to the rich, so the rich become richer, where the mid and low-class work hard in dangerous and treacherous conditions to endanger themselves for the sake of doing so. The unfortunate thing is that they harm a sea creature in order to get that resource.  The sea creature is the whale. 

Most of the time it ends in tragedy and hopefully teaches the greatest lesson in life to never test mother nature’s strength and most importantly never to test what God created. It will eventually be the boomerang effect and come back to haunt you.

The vessel/sail ship that they took out to sea was named “The Essex” of Nantucket.

The survivors of the journey to the sea come back home to describe what had happened and why some of the passengers of the vessel did not survive and the ship that eventually listed, and sunk. They were embarrassed what was the end of the Essex. Of course, it was a mammoth sized whale.

Ben Whishaw plays the part of Author Herman Melville who writes the story.

A lot of lessons to be learned from this movie. If you have not seen “In The Heart Of The Sea”, I suggest you do.

All this and more.

A little bit about the Author Herman Melville:

Herman Melville was an American Novelist who also wrote poetry, short stories and one of his most popular was “In The Heart of The Sea” of Moby Dick.
He was born on August 1st, 1819 in New York City and passed away on September 28th, 1891 in New York City.

He has been influenced by Nathaniel Hawthorne, Edgar Allan Poe, and among many others

The Disrespectful Generation

What a rude and disrespectful new generation of teens we have today. I was standing in line at Tim Hortons coffee shop to order, and out goes these 3 teenagers who came in together from a nearby high school with their backpacks and without even saying excuse me to me, they charged their way through to get in front of me, shoving me and my handbag to the side where there were other people behind me too. I said, excuse me you all budded in front of others and myself and nearly tipped me over. The back of the line starts there. I said wait like the rest of us are.

They said to me, isn’t this a line too? I said No, go behind the line. If you want to get by next time say excuse me or something or better yet, don’t bud in line when others are waiting to order too. I don’t think it is fair at all. Who do you think you guys are? I said to them learn to show respect to others, some manners and proper etiquette and common sense, then I ordered my drink and out I went and then I went by them again before I left to my car, I saw them look down on their smartphones and not even looking at each other and I said put your smartphones down and get some real intelligence and smarts and learn how to behave, then I walked right out. I am not afraid to confront these type of people.

They need to be taught these qualities and nowadays there is not enough interaction, and some of these people lack in social skills and manners of which they were not taught, or they are taught and think that they are invincible and think they can do whatever they please because they are young and under 18. Shouldn’t work that way at all. Manners, respect, Attitude,  etiquette, common sense should be enforced and taught to people at all ages. If these people are not taught these qualities when they are little toddlers to little kids by 5-6 years old, then they will grow up thinking it is okay to treat people this way and bud in the line and think its socially acceptable, but it is not. I am disgusted by some of these teenagers these days and whoever else, doesn’t matter the age.

I was taught at a very young age before I was 4 years old to learn to respect others, manners, and proper etiquette. It all starts when you are very young. That will stick with you for the rest of your life. I know we are all born with different personalities, but our personality grows with how our parents, guardians, care-givers teach us about quality of life instead of quantity.

Respect to be Respected,
Be nice so people be nice to you,
Be kind so people be kind to you,
it is as simple as that.

First Step Of Being Happy With Yourself, Is To Believe In Yourself

In Life there are several things we can do to better our lives, and the first step to being happy with yourself is to believe in yourself. Sometimes we all have those days where we are not good enough, or we sell ourselves short because something didn’t work out the way as planned, and we all go through those phases in our lives where we feel the need to put ourselves down and our confidence down because of what the next person has said to you or how the person has said it and were often feel inferior because of it, but in life there are going to be 2 types of people, people who will always criticize you and who will appreciate you and who will be someone who supports you, but never lose yourself over what other people say. It is you in the end who needs to believe in yourself and when you believe in yourself, that is all you need because in order to be happy with yourself and how you are, believing in yourself and your abilities is something a lot more special and great. We must always have faith in everything. I know sometimes we run out of faith, we run out of believing ourselves because something happened, but use whatever discouragement you had into encouragement and encourage yourself, and have self-confidence, that when the going gets tough, keep going and you will find yourself with the path to believing in yourself no matter what happens.

This world has become a tough battle to live in and we have so many personality traits, that we can tolerate and we cannot tolerate, but life is very beautiful and when you look past all the negativity this world has brought to you and when you look past on unfortunate situations, always know that you can be happy again, you can reach for the stars, but you cannot do that until you move forward with life and be happy individuals, live life to the fullest and get going onto bigger better things in life. Everything happens for a reason, everything in life has its purpose. We all in this world have our own paths to walk, we all have our own voyage and journey of how each and everyone of our life stories has an author and you are your own author of life. You need to make your life story and spread it around. Spread around believing in yourself, and then everyone else will follow. Do yourself a favour and spread around belief and make life beautiful for you and for others. Nothing is as special as that. I am sure all of us are criticized for everything no matter what we do. whether its good or bad, but of course we will be judged accordingly no matter what and some will talk when they have no idea of your situation. There are so many things to put into factor when you deal with people all the time, and when you have to make these vital decisions in life. Always know that I believe in you and you matter to the world, no matter how you come into this world. All the best and never stop your path to happy thoughts and beliefs.

People Need To Stop Being So Hard On Themselves and Move Forward

Hey All, I know it is easier said than done when it comes to people being hard on themselves because of a situation that person has been into and along with the emotional and mental chaos that has come with it. I know that we all in this world have our own problems and things that happen in life that we do not like or something went wrong in life and sometimes things do not go as planned, but people need to stop being so hard on themselves. It is so easy to put ones self down, but people need to learn that, things happen and sometimes we cannot control it, but that doesn’t mean that someone has to be so hard on themselves and to stop saying there is no hope, it is never going to happen, good things will never happen to me, I won’t get into a relationship, and then give up and say crazy things. You are only setting yourself up for more disappointment, and you are only hurting yourself when you think negatively and hurt yourself with the words you use among yourself. Don’t do that to yourself. I know sometimes it is easy to talk about it, but where is the action? Take action, do happy things for you, make happy decisions of course with thinking, and do things that will benefit you in the long run.

If you keep on doing this to yourself and if you do not move forward, there can be consequences and you do not want to go through them. What is wrong with who you are? Nothing. Everyone is special in their own ways, but people will never know that because that particular person in your life is always being hard on themselves, and crying, and saying depressive things all the time. Time to snap out of it and time to move forward in life. The past is the past and people should stop being pessimists and start on happy adventures in life. Where do we draw the line? I know sometimes it is hard and there have been terrible times in ones life that can never be the same again, but you can make it the same again with good thoughts about yourself and putting yourself up with people and never telling people you’re not good enough, and that you’re not up to par with anything and that you will never find someone. You will and you will succeed in life, you will do the goodness in your life. You just need to boost yourself with self-confidence, self-esteem and the willingness to move on.

You can’t move on if your always ashamed, if your always in your own world and your own bubble stressing about things that are not even worth your time anymore. You have come this far for a reason and that reason is that life continues, and life goes on. You can’t bring the past back and you can’t turn back time, so might as well as make your time worth while right? Making your life better, happier and doing positive things in life will be the best gift you can ever give yourself. It may take some time, but nothing ever happens overnight. In order to work for your happiness and good things in life, is your willingness to try, give it your best, and you will see the difference in change. Change is good, and life is good, you just haven’t discovered it yet, but you will. You can’t make a colourful happy rainbow without a little rain, and you can’t have sunshine without darkness. Dark times teach us lessons in life and that will turn into sunlight only if you try to do your best to move forward. Move it and move on. Nobody is perfect and nothing is ever a guarantee, which is why you live your life now, and make the best of it because nothing is permanent. We all have to stand up on our own feet and we must strive to be happy always and keep smiling. The world is a better place with you in it and the world is a better place with smiles.

Loving yourself is the best thing you can do, and when you love yourself, everything is possible. Love yourself, Smile, and stop with whatever you are doing to make your life a dark rain storm. After a rainstorm there is sun and life again. Be in the sun and shine bright. Have a positive attitude and go with the flow. All the best!

Having An Honest Enemy is Far Better Than Having A Fake Friend

I have been going on the Tumblr website these days to see on what quotes and very clever messages that are said in written pictures and I came across this particular one about having an honest enemy is better than having a fake friend. That is such a powerful message, and I really liked it, so I saved it. I strongly agree with what that message is trying to imply and those who understand it should know and who have experienced it, should feel it. I prefer someone whom either I know or don’t know come up to me and tell me the honest truth in my face, than somebody who will not be honest and forthright with you and talk about you behind your back. That is where fake comes to. Fake friends are people who are so good with you in your face, but talk terribly about you behind your back and spread nasty rumors. Enemies sometimes are better because they are honest with you and they want to tell you straight up in your face and without a shadow character who appears only when the sun shines. You know how they say keep your enemies closer. I agree with that statement. Sometimes enemies become your real friends. Sometimes we hit buttons and hit the spot right on when we criticize people and say things that will benefit them in the long run. Fake friends just avoid a certain situation and do not want to be involved in the bad times and they are not there to support you and give you advice. Now that is something that is terrible and very offensive also hurtful as well. I know its impossible to except what enemies say, but when we pay close attention to them and what they say, they are actually right about it. I know it sounds crazy, but its the honest reality. These days fake people are on the rise and a lot of people are just out for themselves and self-gratification, but they have no room for others in their lives and they are so self-absorbed and self-centered, that they don’t see beyond their bubble and they are stuck in it. Not the whole world revolves around you, the world revolves around everyone in it. Words are powerful and they can be used in a lethal and unethical way and we can actually hurt somebody with the words we say, so instead of that, use powerful words to people who will inspire, make them happy, and positive about their lives. When someone goes through rough patches in their lives, say something thoughtful and meaningful to them and actually mean it. Don’t just say them for the sake of saying them just to satisfy another person and tell them what they want to hear, be truthful about it and make sure you are who you say you are, and don’t be a fake person. People will eventually find out the truth, so may as well as tell the truth from the beginning so you save yourself all the hassle in between. Getting hurt after finding out somebody is fake to you and does not want anything to do with you, is the worst thing you can do to somebody. If you are not honest with the person and if your going to be an enemy at least tell something to their face and take up the problem or issue with a person privately without the world knowing about it. If you have a problem with someone and if you have something to say, say it and do it. Be real to others, be kind to others, don’t be the fake person who will do a lot of emotional and mental harm to a person and that can scar a person for life. Don’t be the reason of another persons depression or stress. Help people, do your best to change your terrible social habits into ones that people will like.

First Step Of Being Happy With Yourself, Is To Believe In Yourself

In Life there are several things we can do to better our lives, and the first step to being happy with yourself is to believe in yourself. Sometimes we all have those days where we are not good enough, or we sell ourselves short because something didn’t work out the way as planned, and we all go through those phases in our lives where we feel the need to put ourselves down and our confidence down because of what the next person has said to you or how the person has said it and were often feel inferior because of it, but in life there are going to be 2 types of people, people who will always criticize you and who will appreciate you and who will be someone who supports you, but never lose yourself over what other people say. It is you in the end who needs to believe in yourself and when you believe in yourself, that is all you need because in order to be happy with yourself and how you are, believing in yourself and your abilities is something a lot more special and great. We must always have faith in everything. I know sometimes we run out of faith, we run out of believing ourselves because something happened, but use whatever discouragement you had into encouragement and encourage yourself, and have self-confidence, that when the going gets tough, keep going and you will find yourself with the path to believing in yourself no matter what happens.

This world has become a tough battle to live in and we have so many personality traits, that we can tolerate and we cannot tolerate, but life is very beautiful and when you look past all the negativity this world has brought to you and when you look past on unfortunate situations, always know that you can be happy again, you can reach for the stars, but you cannot do that until you move forward with life and be happy individuals, live life to the fullest and get going onto bigger better things in life. Everything happens for a reason, everything in life has its purpose. We all in this world have our own paths to walk, we all have our own voyage and journey of how each and everyone of our life stories has an author and you are your own author of life. You need to make your life story and spread it around. Spread around believing in yourself, and then everyone else will follow. Do yourself a favour and spread around belief and make life beautiful for you and for others. Nothing is as special as that. I am sure all of us are criticized for everything no matter what we do. whether its good or bad, but of course we will be judged accordingly no matter what and some will talk when they have no idea of your situation. There are so many things to put into factor when you deal with people all the time, and when you have to make these vital decisions in life. Always know that I believe in you and you matter to the world, no matter how you come into this world. All the best and never stop your path to happy thoughts and beliefs.

It is Important to Stand For What Is Right, & Take The Side That is Right

In My life, I have always learned about doing the right thing, and stand for what is right in the world, whether it’s a personal issue, being in society, in my community or whatever the case maybe. Before I jump in any opportunity or situation, I always think twice. Is it right? Is it not right? In the end the decision is in my court, but I always try to see things to be right. In a lot of cases, when people ask me for advice, and when people come to me to ask me is this the right way to do something? or is it right to be around people like this or that? 99.9% of the time, people come back to me and tell me, Talin you are so right about it, or Talin thank you for your advice, it worked really well. The other .01% that I did leave out was due to the other persons actions and words that I gave advice to. will that person listen and carry out the advice I gave him or her? It is always a wonder, but usually I get feedback all the time.

I strongly believe in standing for what is right, even if it means standing alone. I really like this quote a lot. You will know instantly. It is your gut instinct. If your gut instinct tells you to do it, do it, but if it is wrong, you always have to think with your mind before you can even think about something with your heart. These days the mind comes before the heart. When people think with their heart, sometimes it comes out to be the total opposite of what they were imagining a situation to be whether its something to do with a relationship, or anything else of that sort. I truly believe that when people think with their minds, the outcome is always better. The society has become such a thing that you have to be very careful of who you trust and you have to over-analyze and observe people before jumping into a friendship, relationship and companionship. It is very important not to jump into those ships too quickly because in the end it can make you or break you. I cannot stress how important it is to protect yourself at all times. Your emotional, mental and physical safety is very important. Yes although thinking with your heart is really an awesome thing to do, but these days you must think with your mind. I cannot put it any clearer than that. You have to make wise decisions about any situation you are in.

If people do not understand why you always want to do the right thing and when people leave you standing alone, it means that those people who leave you standing alone aren’t who they say they are, and they are not the true people you once thought you can trust and be around with. When you do something right and stand by the right side of things and when people stay with you, they are definitely keepers and then you will know exactly who is true and who is not. I know sometimes doing the right thing can be a wrong approach, but you did what you had to do, but always remember there are two sides to every story, but you have to be the one to judge if it is wrong or right. Keep an open mind, but close your heart unless it’s for the right person, people. Keep analyzing, keep on observing, keep on questioning. There is nothing wrong with that. Just protect yourself and life will go right.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It The Most

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that you’re trying to be the hero, you’re trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but you’re not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people who ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? It’s always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try to do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. It’s not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. It’s very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try to see for yourself.

Some People Come In Your Life As A Blessing, Some Come As Lessons

Due to popular demand, I am posting this again….

There are so many things that are important in life to know and understand all types of people, knowing how to read people, knowing how to differentiate between being with the wrong people and the right people. It is super important to surround yourself always with different types of people and get to know their mind set and to know their personality, traits, attitudes, actions, their trail of thought about things. Its so imperative to know this. Some people come into your life as blessings because they are the right type of people to be with who are true to you, who would never lie to you, who would never betray you and your trust, someone who will always be your backbone, someone who will be part of your life and stay their with no strings attached. Some people come into your life as lessons. Sometimes friendships, relationships, do not pan out to be the way you would have expected to, and that is a learning experience on seeing people’s true colors to come out and see how a personality, attitude and character come into place with time. With time you will get to know people, and some people have the gift to read people instantly and know what they are all about with certain keywords, eye, facial movements, and body language.

Physical movements and the eyes tell a lot about a person and some have the ability to look at people in the eye and see things others cannot see. We all need to be educated on how to read people and how to be good judges of character. It will help you in the long run in future friendships, relationships, and everything else. It is very important to be careful who your trust and give your whole heart, mind and soul to. We can easily be fooled by people who have the ability to say things that we want to hear and try to convince us and persuade us to change our minds and mindsets, but that is something that is very tricky. Learning valuable lessons in life is important. It helps us grow, it helps us prepare ourselves for endless possibilities, and new things in life we have yet to experience. There are all types of people in this world, there are so many personality traits, so many things that are into the factor. The more were educated, the more were capable of handling people, handling vulnerable stages in ones life. We need to learn to not trust easily and we need to learn to not give in 100% unless your 100% certain and sure about what you do in life. Sometimes life can throw hard balls, but we need to be strong and we need to close a chapter in our life and start another.

Life is too short. Things happen for a reason, everything in life that happens are for a valid reason, people come in and out of your life and that is another reason. Were all on our own separate journey’s in life and most importantly who we take with us on that journey and who we associate with. Be happy, positive, confident, optimistic in life. If things are rocky, unstable and miserable for you now, always remember that everything works out in the end. God is always there to protect us and to watch over us. Learning valuable lessons in life and acting on it is something that will benefit you in future. Although sometimes people do not think it will, when you least expect it, something great will come out of everything with patience, perseverance, and determination. When we expect it, and when we keep doing that, it sometimes will take longer and it will not be the result you were looking for. don’t have too many expectations, don’t jinx yourself, don’t over exert yourself with things. Let the right people come naturally. Eventually God will place you with the right crowd, and things will make sense.

I know that sometimes things do not make sense at all with how life is and how people are altogether, we need to focus on the blessings in our lives and then deal with our lessons. Make the impossible, possible, with no regrets, no turning back and just do what is best for you and do what you can to pursue your own happiness and your own dreams and wishes. It will come true. Where there is a will, there is a way for everything. Try it out, you will see the difference in no time. Do not worry, be happy and get on track with life.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It Most.

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that your trying to be the hero, your trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but your not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people that ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? Its always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try and do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. Its not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. Its very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try and see for yourself.

It is Important to Stand For What Is Right, & Take The Side That is Right

In My life, I have always learned about doing the right thing, and stand for what is right in the world, whether its a personal issue, being in society, in my community or whatever the case maybe. Before I jump in any opportunity or or situation, I always think twice. Is it right? Is it not right? In the end the decision is in my court, but I always try to see things to be right. In a lot of cases, when people ask me for advice, and when people come to me to ask me is this the right way to do something? or is it right to be around people like this or that? 99.9% of the time, people come back to me and tell me, Talin you are so right about it, or Talin thank you for your advice, it worked really well. The other .01% that I did leave out was due to the other persons actions and words that I gave advice to. will that person listen and carry out the advice I gave him or her? It is always a wonder, but usually I get feedback all the time.

I strongly believe in standing for what is right, even if it means standing alone. I really like this quote a lot. You will know instantly. It is your gut instinct. If your gut instinct tells you to do it, do it, but if it is wrong, you always have to think with your mind before you can even think about something with your heart. These days the mind comes before the heart. When people think with their heart, sometimes it comes out to be the total opposite of what they were imagining a situation to be whether its something to do with a relationship, or anything else of that sort. I truly believe that when people think with their minds, the outcome is always better. The society has become such a thing that you have to be very careful of who you trust and you have to over-analyze and observe people before jumping into a friendship, relationship and companionship. It is very important not to jump into those ships too quickly because in the end it can make you or break you. I cannot stress how important it is to protect yourself at all times. Your emotional, mental and physical safety is very important. Yes although thinking with your heart is really an awesome thing to do, but these days you must think with your mind. I cannot put it any more clearer than that. You have to make wise decisions about any situation you are in.

If people do not understand why you always want to do the right thing and when people leave you standing alone, it means that those people who leave you standing alone aren’t who they say they are, and they are not the true people you once thought you can trust and be around with. When you do something right and stand by the right side of things and when people stay with you, they are definitely keepers and then you will know exactly who is true and who is not. I know sometimes doing the right thing can be a wrong approach, but you did what you had to do, but always remember there are two sides to every story, but you have to be the one to judge if it is wrong or right. Keep an open mind, but close your heart unless its for the right person, people. Keep analyzing, keep on observing, keep on questioning. There is nothing wrong with that. Just protect yourself and life will go right.

The First Step Of Being Happy With Yourself, Is To Believe In Yourself

In Life there are several things we can do to better our lives, and the first step to being happy with yourself is to believe in yourself. Sometimes we all have those days where we are not good enough, or we sell ourselves short because something didn’t work out the way as planned, and we all go through those phases in our lives where we feel the need to put ourselves down and our confidence down because of what the next person has said to you or how the person has said it and were often feel inferior because of it, but in life there are going to be 2 types of people, people who will always criticize you and who will appreciate you and who will be someone who supports you, but never lose yourself over what other people say. It is you in the end who needs to believe in yourself and when you believe in yourself, that is all you need because in order to be happy with yourself and how you are, believing in yourself and your abilities is something a lot more special and great. We must always have faith in everything. I know sometimes we run out of faith, we run out of believing ourselves because something happened, but use whatever discouragement you had into encouragement and encourage yourself, and have self-confidence, that when the going gets tough, keep going and you will find yourself with the path to believing in yourself no matter what happens.

This world has become a tough battle to live in and we have so many personality traits, that we can tolerate and we cannot tolerate, but life is very beautiful and when you look past all the negativity this world has brought to you and when you look past on unfortunate situations, always know that you can be happy again, you can reach for the stars, but you cannot do that until you move forward with life and be happy individuals, live life to the fullest and get going onto bigger better things in life. Everything happens for a reason, everything in life has its purpose. We all in this world have our own paths to walk, we all have our own voyage and journey of how each and everyone of our life stories has an author and you are your own author of life. You need to make your life story and spread it around. Spread around believing in yourself, and then everyone else will follow. Do yourself a favour and spread around belief and make life beautiful for you and for others. Nothing is as special as that. I am sure all of us are criticized for everything no matter what we do. whether its good or bad, but of course we will be judged accordingly no matter what and some will talk when they have no idea of your situation. There are so many things to put into factor when you deal with people all the time, and when you have to make these vital decisions in life. Always know that I believe in you and you matter to the world, no matter how you come into this world. All the best and never stop your path to happy thoughts and beliefs.

Thankful For Each Day, That Comes My Way

Everyday that passes, I am thankful for having gone through another day. Everyday I learn new things whether its from the internet or something about life outside. It is not so much about going through everyday to learn new things, it is the lesson that it teaches you. Each thing in life has a deeper meaning to it and it is up to our individual selves on how we want to define it. life is just too short to be upset, angry and fuss over things. Life is precious and we have only a limited time on earth, so try to make the most of it, be happy, do happy things, live life. Nowadays, I don’t let other peoples negativity ruin me, and I have learned my lesson on that. I am not going to be a statistic to let people be rude to me and make distasteful comments. I too make mistakes, I am not perfect, I have my weaknesses, and I fully admit that. I know that my writing needs a little bit of improvement structurally, but I am working on that and I am going back to school to learn it. I had over 90 in my English courses back in High school and it has been a long time since then and I sort of forgot some things, but I am human, I make mistakes.

I love blogging, and it gets me through everyday, I love writing because it takes out everything from my mind and emptying my heart out to people and all I want is the best for everyone. Its a way for me to share with the world and to get people’s perspectives and I respect them all and I do read them all and thank you all deeply for everything you all do. I am so blessed with great things, the ability to write and the ability to get out there and speak up about issues that need addressing. I am happy most of the time, because when I was bullied when I was a child up until now here and there, I truly believe that I have gotten out of that phase where I was always sad and did not want to do anything or go out, but now, everything has changed, everything that I preach, I am taking my own advice, because everyone, lets face it, Life is too short to be depressed all the time, life is meant to be lived being happy, optimistic, thinking about good things, to be positive and take things out of our lives that are unnecessary and work on what is important. I cannot be thankful enough for each passing day. Valuable life lessons learned and doing things that will help me and my life is something that is very important.

Learning how to prioritize life and making room for important people and things in your life is crucial and imperative. Without people this world will not turn, it’s like for example, if this world did not have trees and important greenery, this world would be left without oxygen and without oxygen, we cannot function and it is important in our lives, so oxygen is happiness, positivity and being optimistic. Use those Oxygen’s to better your life and to stop depression and stress at its tracks. It is all up to you, but before your oxygen runs out, have a happy life and stop being negative. It is not good for you at all. Live, Laugh, Love, Dance, and be who you are. All the best.