Fitting in is So Over-rated – Fit Out Instead

In life as we grow up, some people have the tendency to always want to impress people, and be like everybody else and be someone they are not in order to fit in. Ladies and Gentlemen, boy’s and girl’s, it is important to never try to fit in anywhere. Take a step back and think about who you associate with, or where you are and want to be employed with.

Being yourself is the best fitting in you can do. There will always be people who will appreciate and accept you for you. In this world, I truly believe that we all have people that suit us, who can relate and understand us. It may take time, and sometimes not, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel that you will see. Fitting in is so over-rated. If you ever think that something is wrong with you, and the way you are, that is just something absolutely ridiculous.

If ever in your life, you find that you are in the wrong place, the wrong chapter of your life, change your place, change your chapter and change your life. These are messages that are being sent to you saying that, its time for you to put your foot down and do something that will benefit you. Not for others.

Don’t ever be afraid to disappoint people just because you are not in their league, or do what they want you to do. Never allow others to make a mockery of you. Just because you are where others are, it never means that you do not have what it takes to do something or be someone special, because you are special and you do have what it takes.

Always be happy with who you are. Do not be afraid to fail, and never be afraid to try. Who cares if you do not fit in? you are in the right direction to be an individual that you are. Not on other people’s standards. Others standards do not matter, what truly matters is how you want it to be.

Don’t ever give up with anything in life. That is the easy way out in any situation. There is a quote I have read online “Why fit in, when you are born to stand out?” I truly believe in that. Stand out to people who are like you, and they will come to you or you go to them.

These quotes I found online as well. (unknown)

– Things just do not happen right away.

– be the change you want to see

– Some of the most wonderful people are ones who do not fit into boxes.

You are the example of your life, and never allow others to write the story of your life with your pen. Never allow them to hold it either. Not even for a fraction of a second. Everything you do comes down to holding your pen and writing chapters of what you want to do and be in your life. Never forget that. Don’t ever fit in. Fit out and do what and be what makes you happy. You are in control of your own happiness.

In The Heart Of The Sea – Moby Dick — Herman Melville

In The Heart of The Sea

Film Creator and Director: Ron Howard

Played by Actor Chris Hemsworth as Owen Chase.

Moby Dick – Based on the novel story.

Author: Herman Melville
Published: October 18, 1851

In my words about the movie and the true meaning behind it: 


It was a compelling movie. It tells a story, it captivates the hearts of many, the will to survive, the will to sacrifice, the will to go on, the bravery, to battle one of mother nature’s strongest most dangerous to battle the wild water, sea creatures, the violent weather, a vessel in the midst of everything, crossing paths with those who talk unrealistically to try to succeed in bringing a valuable resource in the world to the rich, so the rich become richer, where the mid and low-class work hard in dangerous and treacherous conditions to endanger themselves for the sake of doing so. The unfortunate thing is that they harm a sea creature in order to get that resource.  The sea creature is the whale. 

Most of the time it ends in tragedy and hopefully teaches the greatest lesson in life to never test mother nature’s strength and most importantly never to test what God created. It will eventually be the boomerang effect and come back to haunt you.

The vessel/sail ship that they took out to sea was named “The Essex” of Nantucket.

The survivors of the journey to the sea come back home to describe what had happened and why some of the passengers of the vessel did not survive and the ship that eventually listed, and sunk. They were embarrassed what was the end of the Essex. Of course, it was a mammoth sized whale.

Ben Whishaw plays the part of Author Herman Melville who writes the story.

A lot of lessons to be learned from this movie. If you have not seen “In The Heart Of The Sea”, I suggest you do.

All this and more.

A little bit about the Author Herman Melville:

Herman Melville was an American Novelist who also wrote poetry, short stories and one of his most popular was “In The Heart of The Sea” of Moby Dick.
He was born on August 1st, 1819 in New York City and passed away on September 28th, 1891 in New York City.

He has been influenced by Nathaniel Hawthorne, Edgar Allan Poe, and among many others

The Disrespectful Generation

What a rude and disrespectful new generation of teens we have today. I was standing in line at Tim Hortons coffee shop to order, and out goes these 3 teenagers who came in together from a nearby high school with their backpacks and without even saying excuse me to me, they charged their way through to get in front of me, shoving me and my handbag to the side where there were other people behind me too. I said, excuse me you all budded in front of others and myself and nearly tipped me over. The back of the line starts there. I said wait like the rest of us are.
They said to me, isn’t this a line too? I said No, go behind the line. If you want to get by next time say excuse me or something or better yet, don’t bud in line when others are waiting to order too. I don’t think it is fair at all. Who do you think you guys are? I said to them learn to show respect to others, some manners and proper etiquette and common sense, then I ordered my drink and out I went and then I went by them again before I left to my car, I saw them look down on their smartphones and not even looking at each other and I said put your smartphones down and get some real intelligence and smarts and learn how to behave, then I walked right out. I am not afraid to confront these type of people.
They need to be taught these qualities and nowadays there is not enough interaction, and some of these people lack in social skills and manners of which they were not taught, or they are taught and think that they are invincible and think they can do whatever they please because they are young and under 18. Shouldn’t work that way at all. Manners, respect, Attitude,  etiquette, common sense should be enforced and taught to people at all ages. If these people are not taught these qualities when they are little toddlers to little kids by 5-6 years old, then they will grow up thinking it is okay to treat people this way and bud in the line and think its socially acceptable, but it is not. I am disgusted by some of these teenagers these days and whoever else, doesn’t matter the age.
I was taught at a very young age before I was 4 years old to learn to respect others, manners, and proper etiquette. It all starts when you are very young. That will stick with you for the rest of your life. I know we are all born with different personalities, but our personality grows with how our parents, guardians, care-givers teach us about quality of life instead of quantity.
Respect to be Respected,
Be nice so people be nice to you,
Be kind so people be kind to you,
it is as simple as that.

First Step Of Being Happy With Yourself, Is To Believe In Yourself

In Life there are several things we can do to better our lives, and the first step to being happy with yourself is to believe in yourself. Sometimes we all have those days where we are not good enough, or we sell ourselves short because something didn’t work out the way as planned, and we all go through those phases in our lives where we feel the need to put ourselves down and our confidence down because of what the next person has said to you or how the person has said it and were often feel inferior because of it, but in life there are going to be 2 types of people, people who will always criticize you and who will appreciate you and who will be someone who supports you, but never lose yourself over what other people say. It is you in the end who needs to believe in yourself and when you believe in yourself, that is all you need because in order to be happy with yourself and how you are, believing in yourself and your abilities is something a lot more special and great. We must always have faith in everything. I know sometimes we run out of faith, we run out of believing ourselves because something happened, but use whatever discouragement you had into encouragement and encourage yourself, and have self-confidence, that when the going gets tough, keep going and you will find yourself with the path to believing in yourself no matter what happens.

This world has become a tough battle to live in and we have so many personality traits, that we can tolerate and we cannot tolerate, but life is very beautiful and when you look past all the negativity this world has brought to you and when you look past on unfortunate situations, always know that you can be happy again, you can reach for the stars, but you cannot do that until you move forward with life and be happy individuals, live life to the fullest and get going onto bigger better things in life. Everything happens for a reason, everything in life has its purpose. We all in this world have our own paths to walk, we all have our own voyage and journey of how each and everyone of our life stories has an author and you are your own author of life. You need to make your life story and spread it around. Spread around believing in yourself, and then everyone else will follow. Do yourself a favour and spread around belief and make life beautiful for you and for others. Nothing is as special as that. I am sure all of us are criticized for everything no matter what we do. whether its good or bad, but of course we will be judged accordingly no matter what and some will talk when they have no idea of your situation. There are so many things to put into factor when you deal with people all the time, and when you have to make these vital decisions in life. Always know that I believe in you and you matter to the world, no matter how you come into this world. All the best and never stop your path to happy thoughts and beliefs.

People Need To Stop Being So Hard On Themselves and Move Forward

Hey All, I know it is easier said than done when it comes to people being hard on themselves because of a situation that person has been into and along with the emotional and mental chaos that has come with it. I know that we all in this world have our own problems and things that happen in life that we do not like or something went wrong in life and sometimes things do not go as planned, but people need to stop being so hard on themselves. It is so easy to put ones self down, but people need to learn that, things happen and sometimes we cannot control it, but that doesn’t mean that someone has to be so hard on themselves and to stop saying there is no hope, it is never going to happen, good things will never happen to me, I won’t get into a relationship, and then give up and say crazy things. You are only setting yourself up for more disappointment, and you are only hurting yourself when you think negatively and hurt yourself with the words you use among yourself. Don’t do that to yourself. I know sometimes it is easy to talk about it, but where is the action? Take action, do happy things for you, make happy decisions of course with thinking, and do things that will benefit you in the long run.

If you keep on doing this to yourself and if you do not move forward, there can be consequences and you do not want to go through them. What is wrong with who you are? Nothing. Everyone is special in their own ways, but people will never know that because that particular person in your life is always being hard on themselves, and crying, and saying depressive things all the time. Time to snap out of it and time to move forward in life. The past is the past and people should stop being pessimists and start on happy adventures in life. Where do we draw the line? I know sometimes it is hard and there have been terrible times in ones life that can never be the same again, but you can make it the same again with good thoughts about yourself and putting yourself up with people and never telling people you’re not good enough, and that you’re not up to par with anything and that you will never find someone. You will and you will succeed in life, you will do the goodness in your life. You just need to boost yourself with self-confidence, self-esteem and the willingness to move on.

You can’t move on if your always ashamed, if your always in your own world and your own bubble stressing about things that are not even worth your time anymore. You have come this far for a reason and that reason is that life continues, and life goes on. You can’t bring the past back and you can’t turn back time, so might as well as make your time worth while right? Making your life better, happier and doing positive things in life will be the best gift you can ever give yourself. It may take some time, but nothing ever happens overnight. In order to work for your happiness and good things in life, is your willingness to try, give it your best, and you will see the difference in change. Change is good, and life is good, you just haven’t discovered it yet, but you will. You can’t make a colourful happy rainbow without a little rain, and you can’t have sunshine without darkness. Dark times teach us lessons in life and that will turn into sunlight only if you try to do your best to move forward. Move it and move on. Nobody is perfect and nothing is ever a guarantee, which is why you live your life now, and make the best of it because nothing is permanent. We all have to stand up on our own feet and we must strive to be happy always and keep smiling. The world is a better place with you in it and the world is a better place with smiles.

Loving yourself is the best thing you can do, and when you love yourself, everything is possible. Love yourself, Smile, and stop with whatever you are doing to make your life a dark rain storm. After a rainstorm there is sun and life again. Be in the sun and shine bright. Have a positive attitude and go with the flow. All the best!

Having An Honest Enemy is Far Better Than Having A Fake Friend

I have been going on the Tumblr website these days to see on what quotes and very clever messages that are said in written pictures and I came across this particular one about having an honest enemy is better than having a fake friend. That is such a powerful message, and I really liked it, so I saved it. I strongly agree with what that message is trying to imply and those who understand it should know and who have experienced it, should feel it. I prefer someone whom either I know or don’t know come up to me and tell me the honest truth in my face, than somebody who will not be honest and forthright with you and talk about you behind your back. That is where fake comes to. Fake friends are people who are so good with you in your face, but talk terribly about you behind your back and spread nasty rumors. Enemies sometimes are better because they are honest with you and they want to tell you straight up in your face and without a shadow character who appears only when the sun shines. You know how they say keep your enemies closer. I agree with that statement. Sometimes enemies become your real friends. Sometimes we hit buttons and hit the spot right on when we criticize people and say things that will benefit them in the long run. Fake friends just avoid a certain situation and do not want to be involved in the bad times and they are not there to support you and give you advice. Now that is something that is terrible and very offensive also hurtful as well. I know its impossible to except what enemies say, but when we pay close attention to them and what they say, they are actually right about it. I know it sounds crazy, but its the honest reality. These days fake people are on the rise and a lot of people are just out for themselves and self-gratification, but they have no room for others in their lives and they are so self-absorbed and self-centered, that they don’t see beyond their bubble and they are stuck in it. Not the whole world revolves around you, the world revolves around everyone in it. Words are powerful and they can be used in a lethal and unethical way and we can actually hurt somebody with the words we say, so instead of that, use powerful words to people who will inspire, make them happy, and positive about their lives. When someone goes through rough patches in their lives, say something thoughtful and meaningful to them and actually mean it. Don’t just say them for the sake of saying them just to satisfy another person and tell them what they want to hear, be truthful about it and make sure you are who you say you are, and don’t be a fake person. People will eventually find out the truth, so may as well as tell the truth from the beginning so you save yourself all the hassle in between. Getting hurt after finding out somebody is fake to you and does not want anything to do with you, is the worst thing you can do to somebody. If you are not honest with the person and if your going to be an enemy at least tell something to their face and take up the problem or issue with a person privately without the world knowing about it. If you have a problem with someone and if you have something to say, say it and do it. Be real to others, be kind to others, don’t be the fake person who will do a lot of emotional and mental harm to a person and that can scar a person for life. Don’t be the reason of another persons depression or stress. Help people, do your best to change your terrible social habits into ones that people will like.

First Step Of Being Happy With Yourself, Is To Believe In Yourself

In Life there are several things we can do to better our lives, and the first step to being happy with yourself is to believe in yourself. Sometimes we all have those days where we are not good enough, or we sell ourselves short because something didn’t work out the way as planned, and we all go through those phases in our lives where we feel the need to put ourselves down and our confidence down because of what the next person has said to you or how the person has said it and were often feel inferior because of it, but in life there are going to be 2 types of people, people who will always criticize you and who will appreciate you and who will be someone who supports you, but never lose yourself over what other people say. It is you in the end who needs to believe in yourself and when you believe in yourself, that is all you need because in order to be happy with yourself and how you are, believing in yourself and your abilities is something a lot more special and great. We must always have faith in everything. I know sometimes we run out of faith, we run out of believing ourselves because something happened, but use whatever discouragement you had into encouragement and encourage yourself, and have self-confidence, that when the going gets tough, keep going and you will find yourself with the path to believing in yourself no matter what happens.

This world has become a tough battle to live in and we have so many personality traits, that we can tolerate and we cannot tolerate, but life is very beautiful and when you look past all the negativity this world has brought to you and when you look past on unfortunate situations, always know that you can be happy again, you can reach for the stars, but you cannot do that until you move forward with life and be happy individuals, live life to the fullest and get going onto bigger better things in life. Everything happens for a reason, everything in life has its purpose. We all in this world have our own paths to walk, we all have our own voyage and journey of how each and everyone of our life stories has an author and you are your own author of life. You need to make your life story and spread it around. Spread around believing in yourself, and then everyone else will follow. Do yourself a favour and spread around belief and make life beautiful for you and for others. Nothing is as special as that. I am sure all of us are criticized for everything no matter what we do. whether its good or bad, but of course we will be judged accordingly no matter what and some will talk when they have no idea of your situation. There are so many things to put into factor when you deal with people all the time, and when you have to make these vital decisions in life. Always know that I believe in you and you matter to the world, no matter how you come into this world. All the best and never stop your path to happy thoughts and beliefs.