Parties and Wedding RSVP Frustration and Annoyance

In life, we have special moments that come up with friends and family and planning parties, weddings and everything else is absolutely so difficult with inviting people and it becomes so stressful. When you want people to be part of your special day and when you enjoy the process of setting up the cards, mailing them out, and happily do it until stress strikes.

It is not everything that is the most difficult, frustrating and annoying; it is sending the invites to people with a due date that is never honoured and respected and some take their sweet time and others respect it and send the invite on time, whereas others respond after the due date. Some you have to remind. It is absolutely crazy.

You also have those people who don’t respond at all and then just show up. It doesn’t work like that. In most cases RSVP Cards come in, people need to fill those out and return them. The people inviting put postage stamps and have those cards out for a reason. To get organized. You can’t just tell the person they are coming by mouth. Chances are the people planning the wedding or event will forget, so it’s important to fill out the cards and mail it back in a time-sensitive and timely manner.

When you get an invite to any party, it is either a yes or a no. It is not that difficult. You look at your schedule, and boom, you answer and send back the RSVPs. It is not cool to wait for people to respond back while you have a million things to do and plan with the tables, how many favours or gifts you need to get for the guests arriving to your party as well as financially too with how many people you need to pay for.

It really isn’t easy to plan things when some people do not co-operate and respect you enough to send the RSVP’s back. It is common courtesy. It isn’t nice at all having someone wait and then hunting people down with calling, messaging, emailing, texting them until the last weeks of the wedding to see if it is a yes or a no.

Then there are those people who respond with attending, and then you write them down on a table card or chart and then they never show up or give an explanation as to why they did not bother to show up where you spent money for their meal. It is absolutely unfair and disgusting behaviour which needs to really stop. Some do not even respond back and you know you sent it to them and it did get sent to them or else it will be returned back to the person who mailed them with the return address.

Weddings and parties all go smoothly with planning until it comes time to the people attending them. You expect people to respond right away, but that never happens and it probably never will even with a strict time limit and being time sensitive.

The guests don’t think about how much work it takes to plan tables and everything. If you have ever been in these shoes where you plan an event and you wait for responses, it’s absolutely so frustrating and annoying and so absolutely ridiculous.

Yes, I realize some people cannot financially to maybe afford to go to parties, weddings and everything, but there is no excuse not to answer on due dates. It is not right at all. There is no excuse unless something very very important comes up or some other things arise, but it doesn’t give someone the right to delay an RSVP.

Have you ever been through this situation? Have you been frustrated and annoyed with this? Would love to hear all about it.

All the best with planning. It is not easy.

My Ultimate Dream Wedding, My Dream Prince Charming

When I was a little girl, I used to always dream of my fairytale wedding and I admit, I still do even though I do not have anybody in my life right now, and I never have yet. I believe it will happen to me when I least expect it. Sometimes I feel like I am not attractive enough for guys, but I know in my previous blog post I wrote about you are beautiful no matter what anybody says and I always think positively, but I do admit sometimes negativity takes over, but as soon as those feelings come to me, I snap out of it and think positively that my prince will soon come to me and he will think I am the most beautiful to him and I am really important to him and he loves me with all his heart, mind and soul, with someone who will protect, care and appreciate me for who I am. I hope I will find someone who both of us have that special chemistry and we have a lot of things in common. Everyday I wake up, I am hopeful I will find that special someone who shares the same qualities as I do. I am looking for someone honest, straight forward, funny, someone who is fun, who likes to travel, who has respect and appreciation.

Anyway, Let me tell you a bit about how my childhood dreams of my ultimate wedding. I used to take my moms white see through drapes, and I used to use them as a veil. I took my moms white gown and used it as a wedding dress, I took silk flowers from the house and made it into a bouquet, I would go into my mothers make up drawer and used to put lipstick and blush to look like a bride. When I was a kid, I used to have a toy princess Tiara and I used to put that on, then I wore my moms shoes. In my old house, I had a long hallway and I used to pretend I am walking down the Aisle and I used to have an imaginary fiance/husband, with bridesmaids, and pretend guests. It was so fun. Since I didn’t have friends when I was a kid outside my home from school and stuff, I used to have these imaginary friends and I used to invite them to my wedding and then after, I would put some music in my room and pretend I am dancing, then I threw my bouquet. After attending many weddings when I was a kid, I was very observant and I used to watch very closely so as I can play it at home. I had such a blast doing so. It made me feel like a princess for that hour. I used to do that every few days, then I grew out of it by the time I reached 11-12 years old. My mom saw me a few times and she thought I was the cutest little bride ever.

Right now at my age, I still have thoughts on my dream wedding and my criteria has changed a lot of course on how I want the colours to be, bridesmaids, maid of honour, best man, the photos, limo, flowers, invitations, the church, the decorations, my wedding dress, my hair, make-up, the whole wedding ambience. I love weddings. I have been a bridesmaid twice in my life and coincidentally they both happened this year of 2011. It was an incredible feeling to be asked to be a bridesmaid for the first time ever in my life and to take part in wedding parties where as in my whole life, I never got to be in it and I never got to be dolled up with my hair, make up and beautiful dresses. It made me feel so great and it meant a lot to me to be chosen. I know that the dress, the whole wedding day is just a day to get married, and the most important thing is after the ceremony and how your going to live with your husband or wife, and its important after wearing the white gown and having a special day with family and friends. The future is the most important part of what happens tomorrow and the sacrifices both have to make.

Now, I still have dreams to have my bridesmaids wear pink dresses and have pink flowers, but I came to like Purple Themes a lot better and Purple is such a beautiful colour for wedding dresses. Any Purple colour, mostly violets, lavenders. Its so beautiful. I want my bouquet with a mix of purple/white/cream pink roses. A big round bouquet, and my 4-5 bridesmaids wearing purple/violet dresses, and with them having white roses with purple, the church to be decorated with beautiful flowers on the chairs, and an arch by the altar, My dress to be like a ball gown, my hair done up with a beautiful tiara/veil, the photos of the wedding to be professional and a lot with different angles, and different poses for the camera, a nice beautiful stretched limo, the reception hall decorated with an array of purples/whites/pinks… My cake with thick icing, and on the top instead of putting the little bride and groom, have my future husbands name and my name fully put. Our first dance to be the song All My Life by KC and JOJO, lots of dancing, the food to be Armenian / Italian dishes, the centrepieces below eye level and something with purple/white candles with a circle of roses, the bouquet toss, garter toss, the speeches. I plan to get Married just once, so I want that day to be special, perfect and like a fairytale with my family and friends to share that special day with me and to have an incredible wedding party.

I hope I will get lucky and find my prince charming soon.