Book Smarts Vs. Street Smarts

Intelligence Vs. Education
Logic and common sense

I’d rather have street smarts, intelligence, logic and common sense. Yes, people go to school to get educated, get all these fancy degrees and all that, gain knowledge about mathematics, science, biology, English, and other subjects, people have this perception that if they do not earn high marks in school that they are not smart or anything, and then lose all the confidence in the world to try to prove a point. To me, those numbers mean nothing. Every person has their own ways of learning and at their own pace. Each person is great at something. What I look for in an individual is that they have intelligence, the know-how, common sense and logic in reality. Those are the most important things in life. Not a number. being book smart doesn’t determine if you are street smart. That must come within yourself and of course from the teachings of your past teachers, teachers assistants, family and friends.

I am not saying that book smart people don’t have the intelligence and common sense, and all that. That is not my intention to say that at all.

I went to grade school, high school and college, and my biggest strength was English class, social studies, civics, writing and reading. I did bring high marks and excelled in that above the 90’s. Other subjects did not seem to get me motivated to learn it.

A lot of people knew I had it in me to write and there were a few teachers I had that said, “Talin, you will go places in your life with your writing, creative writing”. She also stated “Talin, I know in my heart that you will make a difference in this world, do not worry about others who have bullied you emotionally and mentally”. Do what you love doing and do not worry about trying to prove a point with bringing high marks”.

Now, look where it is has got me. I have almost 2, 500,000 followers of my writings, my blog site worldwide in all of social media combined, University Professors from the US are using my words and my craft to use in their lectures and more. I’d rather make a difference in the world, use logic, common sense than having those fancy/schmancy degrees and trying to boast, and impress people, but it is not good to brag to people constantly about it.

Ways that We Can End The Cycle of Bullying

Since I was a child up until High School, I was emotionally and mentally bullied and I know what it is like to be hurt so badly, being put down, always making fun of me because I was different then everyone else and it was the most toughest times of my life. I didn’t have friends, I didn’t have what others had when they were with each other in groups when I felt left out and being an outcast 99.9% of the time. They were moments that I will never forget, no matter if I have moved on or not. It sticks with you, however I have learned to live past it and began doing positive things in life, to move forward and to stop dwelling on the past. I have been taking a lot of new approaches to this matter and I am going to begin my own social group where people come together from all walks of life and make new friends, interact with others and just figure things out, hear other peoples perspectives on social issues.

There is always a solution and some form of ways to end this terrible cycle going on. Bullying is a very serious problem and it does need to be rectified as soon as possible. It is enough of torment, disgusting behavior that needs to be addressed quickly before it escalates even further.

Now here are ways that we can all come forward to end bullying:

– Creating small, intimate, or large social groups amongst you’re community for those who want to make friends and gather together to create a lovely group of individuals who can relate to one another, creating activities, discussing issues, doing fun, interactive, communication, group work.

– In this modern day society the importance of making it a mandatory course/subject that must be taken and taught in schools and institutions, also the workforce on the prevention of bullying, cyber bullying, social media safety, communications course which should teach students/workers what not to do, what not to say to their fellow peers/colleagues.

– Teachers, Parents, Guardians, School Guidance Staff, School Principals, and as well as outside of school grounds must always be involved in securing our schools, Implementing tougher penalties, more 0 Tolerance in Schools and also the workforce of any type of bullying that should not be allowed, suspension and expulsion.

– tell a person you trust about your feelings, what you are going through and never keep it inside you. Always tell someone you can confide into. Do not wait long to tell someone. In fact tell someone right away.

– Advocate and be proactive in this issue, write to your local papers, attend meetings, start a blog, use social media as a powerful tool to send messages, hashtags globally and come up with your own ways to prevent bullying

– Read up on inspirational quotes, save them on your computer, print them out and scatter positive, happy quotes where you can see them easily, and begin the journey to a happy road ahead.

– Always surround yourself with positivity, good people, do happy things for yourself, and stay away from negativity.

We are on the right road and path to make bullying history, and to look forward to a positive, happy and bright tomorrow. So start today, you can make a difference in someone’s life. No matter how old they are. Bullying has no age as it happens to kids, teens, young adults, youth, adults, and the elderly. Lets end this cycle now.

— If you have more ways to prevent bullying, write them below in the comments section. Thank you.

A New Beginning to a New Perspective on Life

Recently, I have been thinking a lot about life, where I stand and the time of whom I spend it with and among doing things for myself and the betterment of me and my future. Life is tough sometimes and we have to find ourselves and look forward to new beginnings and a whole new perspective on life to close a chapter and begin a new one. I have spent a lot of time in the last few weeks just analyzing everything going on. You how they say everything happens for a reason. I truly believe in that.

I am very excited and enthusiastic about what my future holds from now. As I had stated a few blog posts ago on how I am getting back into the Armenian community, how I am joining in on events, getting to know people, making new friends, new beginnings. in the last couple of weeks or more, I have been going to a local Coffee shop and I met some really nice Armenian people who go there and every time I go, they are so welcoming, they say hello, and automatically I join them. It feels so great to be there with them and enjoy my couple of hours with them. We laugh, talk, and do our daily ramblings about our lives. It feels incredible.

I have been so bullied in my life when I was growing up in school from when I was in Kindergarten, almost everyone looked at me differently, which to this day I cannot understand the reasons why and with that result, you find it more difficult to trust people, you second guess, and still think everyone is against you. It is extremely difficult sometimes to find closure from unfortunate events that occurred in life, however you think to yourself, how much longer can you do this for? How much more of this can I absolutely take?

Sometimes you have to let go of those unfortunate feelings you have and move forward in life. The only way to find closure, to get a new perspective on life is to move on and to wake up to smell the roses. Take some time for yourself and think things through and just go with the flow. Sometimes you feel like you always need people around you, but you need to spend time alone by yourself to fully think things through.

As long as you have very few friends and your family to count on, the foundation and beam of support from loved ones and those whom you can absolutely trust, confide in is all you really need. When you feel that you no longer second guess things and finally find peace and harmony, everything else will fall into place. Not only socially, but for success, a career choice and so much more. I realize that life is too short, and its really important to always think forward and leave the past where it is. I am learning to never let the past define me of who I am today.

I am absolutely positive and happy about the new findings in life and I look forward to the many plans and goals I have made to achieve them, to strive for success, to get out there and make myself known, to do many things that I have put on hold. I am confident and optimistic about everything. I cannot wait to share it with you all and update on my success and hard work that has taken me to climb that ladder once and again.

Everyone can contribute something wonderful and worthwhile in life. Sometimes circumstances and things come up last minute that it may take longer, but however long it may take, do it. There is no time limit. Its what you feel and how you feel is the importance of everything. Have you recently taken a new perspective on life? Did you start your new beginning? How is it going? Best wishes to you and may you find your calling. What is your story?

What Makes You A Stronger Person? How Do You Handle Life?

In my life, I have been through a huge list of unfortunate things that have happened to me where people would be bully me emotionally and mentally, putting me to the curb when not needed anymore, people who have used me for material gain, people who only come to me if they need something from me,  the feeling of being isolated, and being an option to people and not a priority in their lives. I remember all those times and still comes back to haunt me to this day, but things have changed so much for me and for the better. Because of all the anguish and pain I had to endure personally, emotionally and mentally, now I have become a stronger person, I have a whole new pizzazz on life, a whole new approach to trusting very few people, choosing my friends wisely, opening up my eyes more and making sure I make the right decisions about hanging out with the right people. Everything in my past that I went through, has shaped who I am today and its made me better in making judgements on who should be in my circle and who should not. I think and I know that I have handled my life wonderfully and I learned a lot from myself and have spent so much time with myself just thinking about life, about what the next step is to further myself in a social aspect of life.

What made me a stronger person is that I look things into a positive perspective, I look at things as a cup that is half full, and no matter what life throws at me, I am always positive in the end. I know it is easier said than done, but being positive is easy, all you have to do is be strong, be who you are, always be yourself, make sure that you surround yourself with positive and great energy throughout your day everyday. When I was heavily bullied as I was in school back in the day, I put into thought that this is just temporary and things will get better and it did get better for me. I am so strong now that nothing or no one can break me. I have learned to stand on my own two feet, I’ve learned and I am still learning to this day. Life is a never-ending learning journey. Sometimes things come in our way, but in the end the ball is in your court, but make sure you hit a slam dunk and be strong.

Everything happens for a reason, and people come into your life as a blessing or a lesson and that will determine your strength to move on to bigger and better people and things in life. What shaped me to be stronger is that I cut out negativity, and I always instill in others that they too can do the same, all they have to do is try their best, and do it. I know sometimes it easier said than done as I said, but it will workout in the long run. I know that life is not perfect as we want it to be, and sometimes we get lucky and sometimes we do not get so lucky with how our lives are and have turned out to be and what we went through in the past, but take a look around, be blessed with what you have and who you have become. What have you learned from your past? Have you been a victim of bullying? What did you do to make yourself stronger?

What steps did you take to conquer and defy all the odds? Did you seek for help from others? did you dust yourself off and pick yourself up on your own? Did you tell someone about how you were feeling or are feeling? Always know you are worth it, you are important, you are a unique, special, confident, strong and beautiful person. As long as you know that for yourself, you do not need others to tell you all that. When you know yourself that you are enough and that you are all those great things, that is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. You have those gifts that are so precious. You are a precious human being who came to this earth for a reason, each one of us serves a purpose in our world and we can all make a positive influence, difference and change the world into a stronger and happier place only if we try to do our best no matter what life throws at us. Kindness, Respect and doing great things is the way to go.

Now tell me what has made you stronger? Life is a beautiful gift from God, and its such a lovely thing.  always be strong. Remember what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and somehow struggles become success, and success becomes everything you want your life to be emotionally and mentally. Be positive, be strong, be you, and everything in life will come to place. Just believe in yourself, believe that you can conquer anything and throw negativity away and do not think about what might have been, or what could have happened differently. Keep going. Do not stop. All the best to you, keep smiling, be happy!

What Makes You A Stronger Person? How Do You Handle Life?

In my life, I have been through a huge list of unfortunate things that have happened to me where people would be bully me emotionally and mentally, putting me to the curb when not needed anymore, people who have used me for material gain, people who only come to me if they need something from me,  the feeling of being isolated, and being an option to people and not a priority in their lives. I remember all those times and still comes back to haunt me to this day, but things have changed so much for me and for the better. Because of all the anguish and pain I had to endure personally, emotionally and mentally, now I have become a stronger person, I have a whole new pizazz on life, a whole new approach to trusting very few people, choosing my friends wisely, opening up my eyes more and making sure I make the right decisions about hanging out with the right people. Everything in my past that I went through, has shaped who I am today and its made me better in making judgements on who should be in my circle and who should not. I think and I know that I have handled my life wonderfully and I learned a lot from myself and have spent so much time with myself just thinking about life, about what the next step is to further myself in a social aspect of life.

What made me a stronger person is that I look things into a positive perspective, I look at things as a cup that is half full, and no matter what life throws at me, I am always positive in the end. I know it is easier said than done, but being positive is easy, all you have to do is be strong, be who you are, always be yourself, make sure that you surround yourself with positive and great energy throughout your day everyday. When I was heavily bullied as I was in school back in the day, I put into thought that this is just temporary and things will get better and it did get better for me. I am so strong now that nothing or no one can break me. I have learned to stand on my own two feet, I’ve learned and I am still learning to this day. Life is a never ending learning journey. Sometimes things come in our way, but in the end the ball is in your court, but make sure you hit a slam dunk and be strong.

Everything happens for a reason, and people come into your life as a blessing or a lesson and that will determine your strength to move on to bigger and better people and things in life. What shaped me to be stronger is that I cut out negativity, and I always instill in others that they too can do the same, all they have to do is try their best, and do it. I know sometimes it easier said than done as I said, but it will workout in the long run. I know that life is not perfect as we want it to be, and sometimes we get lucky and sometimes we do not get so lucky with how our lives are and have turned out to be and what we went through in the past, but take a look around, be blessed with what you have and who you have become. What have you learned from your past? Have you been a victim of bullying? What did you do to make yourself stronger?

What steps did you take to conquer and defy all the odds? Did you seek for help from others? did you dust yourself off and pick yourself up on your own? Did you tell someone about how you were feeling or are feeling? Always know you are worth it, you are important, you are a unique, special, confident, strong and beautiful person. As long as you know that for yourself, you do not need others to tell you all that. When you know yourself that you are enough and that you are all those great things, that is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. You have those gifts that are so precious. You are a precious human being who came to this earth for a reason, each one of us serves a purpose in our world and we can all make a positive influence, difference and change the world into a stronger and happier place only if we try and do our best no matter what life throws at us. Kindness, Respect and doing great things is the way to go.

Now tell me what has made you stronger? Life is a beautiful gift from God, and its such a lovely thing.  always be strong. Remember what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and somehow struggles become success, and success becomes everything you want your life to be emotionally and mentally. Be positive, be strong, be you, and everything in life will come to place. Just believe in yourself, believe that you can conquer anything and throw negativity away and do not think about what might have been, or what could have happened differently. Keep going. Do not stop. All the best to you, keep smiling, be happy!

Get Me On The Ellen Show — Ellen Degeneres – Raising awareness about Bullying

In My life one of the most important things to me is raising awareness about Bullying and being Bullied. Nobody should be subject to bullies and the torture people go through because of it. It is so important to me to raise this important subject as it is not said enough. I know a lot of people have been bullied and a lot of innocent children are effected by it daily. I know that Ellen Degeneres on The Ellen Show always brings up this subject on bullying and I want to get on her show one day and discuss this with her because I have been through terrible bullying scenerios that has effected me and It will mean the world to me if I can have the opportunity to speak about it and my feelings on public television on her show. I want to make this big difference in the world. I care about people and our world so much and I want to protect people of our world as much as I can and I want to spread out positivity to our children, to the adults and everyone who has been effected by this terrible thing.

I want to do this for the humanity of our world, I want to better our society where people won’t be afraid to go to school, where people won’t be afraid to leave their homes to go to a certain function or join after school activities. I hope Ellen Degeneres and her team at the ELLEN SHOW read this. I want to express my thoughts, not only with words and blogs, but speaking about it on television, I want to travel not only to California on her show, but I want to travel and go to schools, and motivation speaking seminars. I LOVE HUMANITY, We are all one body, and were all one big family of the world and we should treat each other as one.

I have written about bullying before, but I cannot stress how important it is to really speak about it. It sickens me to see bullies get away with it and it even sickens me more when people who have been bullied take their own life because of all the pain and anguish. Like the saying goes, What goes around comes around. It will come back to haunt people who are bullies and that bully who took that certain persons life will have a lifetime full of haunts and nightmares I guarantee it. I want to do this not only for me, but for everyone in our world. I want to take a stand against bullying, I WANT TO PUT AN END TO IT AND PUT AN END TO IT NOW!

Time is of the essence. ITS TIME NOW!

The Last Time I Checked, This Is My Blog, & I Write About What I Feel

In the last few days I have received a lot of terrible comments from people who are clearly jealous of me and that is fine, and I see jealous written all over their comments, but last time I checked this is my blog where I want to express my feelings and my life, and I like sharing with the world, and I like to talk about my life experiences, and talk about issues of our world. I will not let some insensitive comments ruin me and my mood. I have dealt with too much since I was a kid and I will not let people effect me. I love my supporters, my family, my friends, and my fans. They are the ones who matter to me most. There will be haters, and there will be jealous people all the time and that is fine, be jealous of me, but I will not stoop to those peoples level who try to bring me down, but that is not going to happen. They can run their mouths as far and wide as they can, but that will not get to me, and I can care less about people who give me negativity, and pessimism, all I can say for those people who bring me down, all the best to you, but you will not overpower and dominate me and my feelings.

That is not going to happen. Last time I checked I am human, I make mistakes like the rest do, and I am not perfect and I do not see myself as perfect, but at least I write about important issues of our world especially when it comes to social acceptance, social topics that need addressing and sometimes what I say, the truth definitely hurts and some people do not want to admit it. I have seen my fair share of terrible bullying toward me, I have experienced it all, and I have been through some of the most terrible moments in my life and I don’t expect anybody to understand my feelings about it, because people think they know, but they have no idea until that person is in another persons shoe. I will not let people’s terrible judgement toward me get to my head, because those people who are judging me in a terrible way and writing these comments obviously are jealous and they want to hide behind their computer and say all these nasty and mean things, but in reality they are so insecure of themselves and they feel the need to make fun of others to hide their true self.

Jealousy can do a lot damage, and its not good. I write blogs because I feel good about it, I write blogs because its something I passionate about. I know sometimes my grammar is not all up there, but this is how I feel comfortable writing, this is how I want to express myself, and for the record I did apply for school this coming year for writing and journalism and I got in because I had the top notch grades back in high school and in my first few years of college. I did not let bullies and people who terrorized me get in the middle of my studies. I went to school, got good grades and I did not let stupidity get into my brain while studying. its been almost 10 years since high school and its getting better and better all the time. I do not expect people to understand me, but never judge me until you really know me. Yes you get to know me and my ideas and thoughts through my blog, but that does not justify anything. Internet and meeting someone in person is a whole different ball game.

So please the next time someone decides to write a negative thought, think before you write, you can do a lot of damage to someone who has been through a lot of terrorizing and being bullied most of my younger life. People do not understand that. I am not trying to offend anyone, but really last time I checked its my blog and I write what I want to express on what is happening. I do read a lot online and I do go out in the real world, and I have a big social life and I see everything that goes on, I see the way humanity has become, and I see the way people carry themselves out, and I blog accordingly.

Blogging is what I am passionate about and I make it a goal to write everything, I am not letting derogatory, insensitive, and negative comments destroy my dreams and what I love doing.

 

My First Radio Interview Experience With TrikTrak.ca Was A Great Success!

On The evening of April 5th, 2012, I received a phone call to be interviewed on http://www.TrikTrak.ca of Montreal/Laval. A great friend of mine who is part of the Radio station was very interested in me and what I had to say about raising awareness on bullying, and as well as The Armenian Genocide. Then I spoke about My Blog and my blog’s success, as well as My love and devotion to Montreal, Quebec and the reason behind it. It was a great hour that I spoke to Setrak who interviewed me and to his many many listeners. I received a lot of feedback afterwards from friends and family that they had tuned in and it was fantastic. Thank you to all those who listened to me and what I had to say. I also noted that the more people watch shows like Glee, Jersey Shore and reality shows and all the other shows that don’t put a great example to teenagers these days and how horrible shows they are to watch. Instead of more family oriented shows and shows that teach people great life lessons, here we are in the society we live in and all these terrible shows get approved whereas quality and great shows do not get approved. It just does not make sense to me.

I spoke about my experiences when I was bullied, How I overcame it. Everything is in the link I will post.

Then I spoke up the high rising costs of living, gas prices and everything how people are struggling to make ends meet and put food on the table and everything and that is why stress and depression is high above because people just don’t know what they will do with their earnings and the employment places some of them are terrible, and I also spoke about the high cost of the gas prices lately. Its just terrible. I am hoping people can take a breather and stop with all these unnecessary costs and they unnecessary bills people have to pay. Everything now is about money and the more the prices go up, the more people start losing their minds and do terrible things which will lead them to get into trouble. Anyway, if you missed my show and interview, Here is the link below. After a couple of songs in the beginning, my interview will start.

Some parts are Armenian, but I tried to speak it all in English so that everyone can understand….

Thank you so much Setrak for this Opportunity to speak on your radio show. I appreciate it very much and God Bless you.

http://triktrak.ca/triktrak-with-setrak-show-57-interview-with-talin-orfali-armenian-blogger-raising-awareness-about-bullying-the-armenian-genocide

Thank you and hope you all have A wonderful Easter weekend ahead.

I Hope Ellen Degeneres Can See My Blog Posts About Bullying. I want to be on Her Show!

Recently a friend of mine created a Page on facebook to get me on the Ellen Degeneres Show. I am just like her when it comes to the subject on Bullying and raising awareness to stop it.  I want to get on her show and do more to stop bullying and to have 0 Tolerance. I really hope her staff and Ellen does see my blogging posts and this post and Hopefully facebook will lead me to California to be sitting beside her and talking to her.

Here are my blog articles on bullying,

https://talinorfali.wordpress.com/2011/11/29/get-me-on-the-ellen-show-ellen-degeneres-raising-awareness-about-bullying/

https://talinorfali.wordpress.com/2011/11/08/bullying-my-personal-experiences/

Please share and like this amongst your family and friends if you have facebook on The following facebook page and spread this page out to the world and try to get as many people to join this as you can. Thank you so much!

http://www.facebook.com/pages/A-Writer-named-Talin-Orfali/161201797312096?sk=wall#!/pages/Get-Talin-Orfali-on-the-Ellen-Degeneres-Show/152830224821496

Get Me On The Ellen Show — Ellen Degeneres – Raising awareness about Bullying

In My life one of the most important things to me is raising awareness about Bullying and being Bullied. Nobody should be subject to bullies and the torture people go through because of it. It is so important to me to raise this important subject as it is not said enough. I know a lot of people have been bullied and a lot of innocent children are effected by it daily. I know that Ellen Degeneres on The Ellen Show always brings up this subject on bullying and I want to get on her show one day and discuss this with her because I have been through terrible bullying scenerios that has effected me and It will mean the world to me if I can have the opportunity to speak about it and my feelings on public television on her show. I want to make this big difference in the world. I care about people and our world so much and I want to protect people of our world as much as I can and I want to spread out positivity to our children, to the adults and everyone who has been effected by this terrible thing.

I want to do this for the humanity of our world, I want to better our society where people won’t be afraid to go to school, where people won’t be afraid to leave their homes to go to a certain function or join after school activities. I hope Ellen Degeneres and her team at the ELLEN SHOW read this. I want to express my thoughts, not only with words and blogs, but speaking about it on television, I want to travel not only to California on her show, but I want to travel and go to schools, and motivation speaking seminars. I LOVE HUMANITY, We are all one body, and were all one big family of the world and we should treat each other as one.

I have written about bullying before, but I cannot stress how important it is to really speak about it. It sickens me to see bullies get away with it and it even sickens me more when people who have been bullied take their own life because of all the pain and anguish. Like the saying goes, What goes around comes around. It will come back to haunt people who are bullies and that bully who took that certain persons life will have a lifetime full of haunts and nightmares I guarantee it. I want to do this not only for me, but for everyone in our world. I want to take a stand against bullying, I WANT TO PUT AN END TO IT AND PUT AN END TO IT NOW!

Time is of the essence. ITS TIME NOW!