Out of everything I have been through in my life, and trying to make sense of who are my true friends or not and among everything else, It is a hard thing to for some to make sense of it all. In life you will encounter so many different types of people and you will meet all sorts of people, but not everyone will be your friend. You just talk to people, not knowing their name or where they come from. It happens in spontaneous moments when your out in public, when you are traveling and people in school, work, or other places. Some people come into your life for a few minutes, you will meet and talk to someone for an hour or half an hour or whatever the case maybe, and then you part your ways. Its happened to me a lot and it is pretty cool that way too. You talk to someone and then you never see them again, but I remember once talking to someone at a coffee shop and then I saw that same person again 3 weeks later. We ended up coming in at the same time. I am a person who never forgets faces and who never forgets whom I have spoken with in person. She remembered me too. We had a few minutes conversation and that was it, and we parted our ways. We haven’t seen each other since, but maybe we will again. It is incredible how things happen in such a way where people who can relate to things end up meeting and talking, bu then never really become friends. I love spontaneity and things that just happen without planning. I feel that is one of the best ways to go.
You sort of have a gut instinct in you when the time is right and when the person is right to make friends with them. People have this feeling all the time when a person is right to ask their name and have a friendship with them. It has happened to me. I remember many times at my Armenian community center or when I am on my travels somewhere, you automatically feel, that person is appealing and you take a look in someones eyes and you see fake or real, and when you can really understand each other and relate, that is the type of friends you need. When you can relate to each other and when you can be there for each other in good times and in the bad, when you can have many things in common, share each others feelings, confide into each other. It the best type of friendships to have. Not so much the quantity of friends, but the quality of the relationship you have with your best friend or your closest friends. Its one special thing you all have in common together that nobody else will really understand your inside jokes, your humorous personalities, your outlook on life, the common interests, and finding a solid foundation to build your trust among your friends. it is always a good idea to really analyze and to really get to know people before you really jump into friendships quickly. Give it time to become best friends, or very close friends.
The worst thing you can do to someone is replace them, and feeling replaced by others and tossed to the side. Some people find good friends for a year or 2 or 3, and then you become an old part of their life, so then they jump into new friendships and toss you like yesterdays newspaper in the recycling bin. That is how I feel sometimes and it is not a good feeling. Find someone who will be by your side to understand you and your feelings and who will stay friends with you forever and ever and not leave your side after a year to 3 years of friendship. It is a crummy thing you can do to someone and that is not a good trait. Unless that person is not who you thought you knew and if things happen that are not good, then that is okay, but when you know you have not done anything to hurt someone and when you know you haven’t ever said a mean thing to that person or people, and get shafted, it is not a good thing. People need to realize that doing this is not good.
Be faithful and loyal with friendship, that will strengthen yourself and good habits will always be remembered. Do yourself a favour and choose friends wisely who will go to the ends of the earth for you and then naturally people will help each other and everything will fall into place. Just believe and do it. All the best in everything.
AMEN, my friend! Smiles
well expressed ! 🙂
Nice Blog and so true….choose your friends wisely.
Exactly. Wonderful words.
I’ve always felt that it’s better to have just a few close friends that you can count on, rather than a lot of superficial friends. Thanks for posting!
Well said! We all want people to like us, but the older I get I realize it just isn’t going to happen and I am ok with that.
Good friends will come as angels right when you need them. Your gut instinct WILL tell you this is right… but my dear, don,t feel tossed away… angels come and go… sometimes momentarily, sometimes for years. Take each encounter as a blessing and move on. You are on a special path with and without them.
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A friend in need is a friend indeed…We must value our Friendship.. 🙂
I have been following your blog lately and I find your thoughts inspring and insightful. I agree with you about who one seeks out as friends. In trying times you find out who your true friends are and who are frontrunners. Ones that will be in your corner even when you fall down. True friends are there to lift you up. I have found out about that with the many changes that has happened to me the past 2 years. I found who my true friends are.
I agree friends can come and go. Often the one who stays with you throughout life can to hard to come by. But the ones that are life long are worth their weight in gold.
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there will always be friends for a reason and friends for a season. i am learning to choose friends wisely and hopefully the good ones will stay in my lifetime. Thank you for sharing this 😀
I agree with you. Many people come into our lives but only a few will stay with us and become true friends. But the problem is true friends are hard to find. It was just a few days ago when I met a childhood friend, separated for 12 years, whom I was very close with. We smiled, waved to each other and that was all. The feeling of us who were once friends but turned into strangers isn’t good at all but then this is how lives goes. =)
Finding true friends is difficult but well worth the effort.