There have been numerous amounts of times where people would gossip to you about someone or some people and in a terrible way and they like to spread rumours and make up things that are not true about that person and make assumptions. Have you been in a situation where someone would gossip everything about other people? I am sure most of us have. Have you heard that behind your back that person who gossiped to you, did the same about you too to others? It is terrible. I wish some people would stop doing that about other people. It is not nice to gossip and talk poorly about someone behind their backs. If you do not hear it from the source, it’s not a good idea to create and make up stories when it is not even true. Some people spend so much time making a federal case about other people, that they don’t care if it hurts them. Trash talking about that person behind their back and then being sweet, and nice with them in their face is not a very nice thing to do.
Backstabbers and Fake people who give face to you and who are nice to you and then all of a sudden you hear that, the person whom you thought you can trust has spread terrible lies about you and does everything in their power to destroy your good name. I find that to be such a terrible thing to go through. I have had that happen to me numerous amount of times. What goes around comes around. When a rumour, or some sort of stupidity gets spread around, it will always come back to the person who these terrible things have been said about. A lot of people do not know how terrible this is and it is not fair to that person. This plays a role in jealousy and jealousy can do so many things. Gossiping is a terrible thing to do no matter what. Sometimes people need to mind their own business and look in the mirror before they judge other people or talk about them. In Today’s world trusting people, confiding in people, telling someone something very personal is something that not a lot of people can do anymore, because when you request and ask someone to keep it a secret and they don’t and spread it around, it is not a good thing.
Some people spread and talk for the sake of talking about anything about others just to satisfy their jealousy urges. This situation can make you or break you. As soon as you make new friends, don’t assume that they are trustworthy, test out your friends, don’t talk about personal issues, don’t talk too much about your life, but talk in general terms, and once you start to get to know them and you build your trust, then just maybe you can tell them, but then again you cannot be to careful with the information you transmit to them. Keep very personal things within the family, and do not transmit every bit of information to your friends. Someone who is true to you will always keep your secrets, someone who is true to you will never gossip, spread lies and do terrible things because when you’re a true friend to someone its expected that you are honest and forthright about situations and when things happen you tell your friends on the spot. Don’t be afraid if you disagree on a few things, it helps build your friendship stronger and you work it out.
the bottom line is to never gossip, spread rumours and make up stories about others. It’s not nice at all. I am sure that if the roles were reversed, it wouldn’t be a nice feeling. Nowadays, I am not too trusting and I don’t give in easily. I always think with my mind and then with my heart. This day in age the Heart can be fooled easily on the people to hang out with and its a soft spot where people become blinded, naive and soft, but nowadays you have to stand tough, you have to say no once in a while, you have to think twice and three times before jumping into friendships and relationships. It is important to keep those things in mind. Not everyone you meet will be your friend, chances are some friends can say the most terrible things about you behind your back…. WELL, So called friends, fake friends. you do not need them in your life.
Move forward and find people who actually care about you and who actually want the best for you.Not those who spread rumours and gossip. Stay far away from them as possible. I am saying all this from experience of others doing that to me, and it is not pleasant. I am just watching out for all of you because I care so much about all of you. All the best to you.
so true 🙂
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I used to face this gossip problem when I was much younger. I remember how I would defend myself and always caught myself in endless arguments or doing things just to prove. Somehow, such situations caused by gossips occurs more during younger age.
Or perhaps I learned not be bothered at all by any of them over the years as I age.
And i think as you age, you’re wiser in keeping the right friends in your inner circle.
And yes, you’re right, never to gossip others unless you want others to do the same about you. :))
We can pray for them. Sometimes hurting people hurt people. Sometimes, people don’t know any better. In due season, some folks reap what they sow! God bless you and keep moving forward 🙂
Most probably, but depends too on the relation of the one telling you “that something”. Though there are really people known for such reputation. No doubt about getting rumoured about by them. Thanks again for such thoughts! have a nice day!
This is something that humans have battled for years and will probably battle until the end of time. Good read.
I often respond to hearing gossip that “if they’re talking about me, at least they’re leaving someone else alone.” Good post!
Well, I have a few feelings about your excellent post. Not that I agree with everything there. Gossiping about others is juvenile in my book. And if one adds to or embellishes to the gossip..well then that just becomes “false witness against thy neighbor”. We all know what that means. I think trying to do the best you can do, is doing the best you can do. Does that make sense?
How do you react when you find out someone has been gossiping about you? If you’re like most people, your heart may begin to race, and your first reaction is to become angry and defensive, especially if what is being said isn’t true. We all have the desire to prove our own innocence; and, when someone drags our name through the mud, we want to prove their guilt too.
I know what you’re thinking: there’s an element of justice to be considered. We want to see the innocent (us) avenged, and the guilty (them) punished. We forget that we are a people of unclean hands and unclean lips. Compared to those “bad people” who offend us, we may seem innocent; but, it’s an illusion. We must compare ourselves to Christ’s holiness, not man’s filthiness.
Yeeaaaahhhhhh, I want to print out a copy of your blog post here and hang it all over my workplace, because oh my, do we ever have quite the group of troublemakers! And sadly, those participating are all quite old enough to know better. My solution is to roll my eyes and walk away from the lot of them. Who needs that noise in their lives, honestly? I know I don’t!
You gossip, you make another person look bad but after a while you make yourself look bad.
Very nice blog.
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I work in an environment where gossiping is frowned upon. It still goes on from Management on down. I think to myself, “We lead by example.” I choose to not be apart of it and choose my friends wisely. This is so spot on. Thanks
Some two faced people have nothing better to do in there pathetic lives than talk other folks personal stuff,Get to know someone before you confide in them.Give two faced idiots a very wide berth.Live Life Dont Let No One Get You Down