Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that you’re trying to be the hero, you’re trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but you’re not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people who ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?
It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? It’s always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.
Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try to do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. It’s not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. It’s very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try to see for yourself.
Pride and ego prevents us most of the time. But asking for help sometimes does wonders to the existing relationship 😀
Asking for help is the best thing a person can do. In Randy Pausch’s book, “The Last Lecture” he talks about the importance of just asking for things (not necessarily help) and your piece really reminded me of that. Also, I wrote a post that spoke about asking for help when you need it. Check it out, if you get the chance 🙂 http://abbeygallagher.wordpress.com/2013/02/06/with-a-little-help-from-my-friends/
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Your article is right on target. When we are young, we ask for help or instruction on how to do something we need. Lift me up for the water fountain, or hold the back of my bike while I learn this 2 wheel thing! I work with people from the age of 70 to 103 yrs old. We provide in home care. The most difficult issue is the elders admitting to their children they need assistance. Sometimes they become very angry go without the help that would make life safer for them. I do believe that those who need help depend on those they ask to show respect, not make jokes, but treat it like a precious request. As you said, it is very hard to ask for help.
I’ll be checking back to see your blog .
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FABULOUS blog post and oh so true.
Great points. One common factor of the most successful people is that they work with mentors. It’s important to have a coach who can see our blind spots for us and help us along, and being humble enough to ask for someone to provide that perspective can be a challenge.
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Very thought provoking post and something we should all think about, don’t let your ego get in the way of asking for help when you need it!! xxx
Good advice. Easier said than done. Thanks for sharing.
It’s not easy at all, especially for men. Sometimes, we need help, but our pride doesn’t let that call for help get out from the inside. I don’t mean women don’t have any pride!
My father rarely asks me for help, but when I do something for him even without his asking, I can see how happy it makes him.