In the past week with a lot of negative posts to me by a couple of people who keep spamming my blog posts with terrible comments that are so negative, I thought I bring this topic up with why people torture themselves with negativity? I have taken out all that negativity in my life and I did not let it effect me, I stood up for myself and for my rights. It is a tough battlefield out there with negativity, and with cruel and insensitive people toward others. I am not letting those things bother me and torture myself with other peoples hate words. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel and I am happy with myself and who I am. People shouldn’t put themselves down, if you keep on being negative, and always saying I am not good enough for someone, somethings and I cannot do it, then your putting yourself up for disappointments in life and you take the easy way out saying you cannot. You need to stop torturing yourself day in and day out on hurting yourself.
In order to earn respect from others, you need to respect yourself. You must look in the mirror at yourself and love yourself and others will follow you. You cannot be loved if you don’t love yourself, you cannot be loved if you don’t let others love you and to respect you. You need to stop this madness of negativity. Life is great, and the way you look at it, you define your life with they way you are, and if you are negative all the time, you will always see rainy and cloudy days even when it is sunny. You are making matters worse when you torture yourself with all this negativity. When are you going to start thinking happy thoughts and becoming positive? When are you going to realize that life is awesome and beautiful and there are so many awesome things you can do with your life. You just don’t seem to allow yourself to get ahead and you don’t seem to get anywhere when your always depressed and negative. Everyday if you keep telling people your depressed, update your facebook status with sadness and hopeless statuses and always get people to comment to you, then what kind of message are you trying to send out to your friends and family? They will say, hey what is up with this person always torturing themselves with all these negative thoughts? You need to snap out of it, and leave the past where it belongs and move forward.
Because you have been through bad days in the past and things have happened that make you depressed, it doesn’t mean that you should use the past as your negativity in the present time. Life is full of ups and downs and things will happen, but don’t even torture yourself. It is the worst thing you can do. Look forward, move on, we make mistakes, but don’t let your mistakes define you, don’t let your mistakes and don’t let the past overpower who you are today. Be who you are, and if people don’t like it, who cares? Right? Right!
I don’t get why people want to hurt themselves and say bad things about ones self in front of other people. It is not good at all. keep strong, be strong, keep your head up high, don’t let past events torture your future. We all deserve second chances. There are so many different types of people in this world, so many attitudes, so many attributes, and personalities in the world. Traits should be developed that are good, and never let yourself down. Your attitude is what matters without a good one, you won’t get ahead. Trust me. If you keep on being pessimistic, nobody would want to hang out with people like that. Yes we all need people, yes we all need to be comforted, we all need people to listen to us and our problems, but everyone has problems and people should comfort each other and boost each other with confidence and happiness. Love yourself, respect yourself, and be who you are. Stop the torture.
I am saying this because I care about our humanity very much and I want nothing but the best for people.
One love! All the best
nice blog 🙂
Great points, in today’s economy, lack of work and so on and on it’s no surprise that negativity is rampant. I am guilty, ask my wife. 😦
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Very true .. If you do not love yourself how can you Expect others to love you..!!
Believe it or not, I just wrote on the same topic… though in a slightly different way. 🙂
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Save yourself. Read this.
Love it. Keep on inspiring us. Keep on writing for us.
Talin, there will always be naysayers and internet trolls – just ignore them and concentrate on the happy things if that’s what you want to do.
As the saying goes “You can’t make friends without making enemies” – and it’s true 🙂
Wish the light of love shine on you.
I am probably going to be attacked and accused of negativity but nothing could be further from the truth as I have a wonderful life and am a very positive person but Talin respect is a two way street. You want people to show you respect here on your blog yet you show none of your followers any respect or basic manners, you never take the time to reply to any of the people who comment I do not mean the trolls who make abusive comments I mean any of the people who comment including those who support you. Other than the one initial like you made on my blog and the follow you have never liked or commented on a single post infact I sincerly doubt you have ever even read a post since then. Lots of people you have accused of negativity over the last few weeks have actually been responding to the way they feel you are treating them we take time out of our lives to read your posts sometimes taking an extra few minutes to comment and receive no response. I make a point of replying to every comment on my blog either individually or as a group thankyou when people have posted in response. Not everyone will agree with everything you write and that is okay we are all individuals with our own minds and experiences but to accuse anyone who does not agree with you as bullies or negativity does you and your followers a disservice. There is a saying you should remember and that is to treat other people the way you wish to be treated.
No attacking from me. I agree with you 100%. I personally don’t want to hear how she thinks everyone is negative, attacking her, breathing poisoned air….
I’m with you, Paula. I reply to every comment on my blog, because I value my followers. If someone takes the time to write something constructive, the least the blogger can do is take the time to acknowledge it. And, I will state it again, the administrator of the blog has the option to simply “trash” a comment that’s offensive.
The sad thing is that by simply interacting she would create a far more positive atmosphere right now I believe the only person Talin cares about at all is Talin
On the plus side Martha I found your blog and a few others worth following while being treated so rudely here
I do my best in that regard too, Martha. If brain fog (which you know about) prevents me responding to any comment, I’ll leave a comment when that person posts again, or say a general thank you the next time I’m able to blog. It’s manners.
Talin, I am just gobsmacked to read this. It shows you must just skim through your comments?
It also makes me believe that you never truly have been through any REAL hardship. I don’t like negativity either, but I am ‘real’ as in, I’m an optimist, I try to always look on the bright side. But I am what I am, my life has been what it is, and I realise now I have nothing to hide. I’m upfront. Also, the bad in my life has made me who I am today and it has brought much of the good to me. I would not have anywhere near the love of and appreciation and gratitude that I have for my life today had I not been to hell and back.
I find this blog post very hypocritical. You have shown not one bit of respect for any of your fellow readers, and every bit of judgement and “Holier than thou” attitude. You call yourself a writer and say you are trying to improve and yet you cannot even be bothered to proofread your posts. You use half your posts as rants to accuse people of being something that you actually yourself do/are. You consider yourself so much ‘better than anyone else’ that you cannot even lower yourself to respond to your commenters.
In fact, you have come across as a very narcissistic personality.
I’ve tried – and now I give up. I just can’t yell into the wind any longer and I imagine I’m far from the first. You are your own worst enemy, Talin.
You hit the nail on the head Fiona.
Someone explained to me that Talin is a follower hoarder. She liked one of my blogs so I started following her about a year ago. Not once did she acknowledge my comments on her blogs or ever comment on my blog.
Now I read just to see what the comments on her blog are. One day she’s happy with life, the next she’s afraid to leave her home. Torture and negativity seem to be favorite words for her.
Perhaps she will realize the negative comments (not the rude ones) are what people are really reading. Either way, it’s traffic to her blog. LOL
I really didn’t understand what on earth Talin must be thinking of, to let this get this far and still not make any attempts to fix the problems. And then I realised – I’ve spent a lifetime living with Narcissists and here we are – Talin is a classic Narcissist. This is a good explanation
Narcissistic Personality Disorder:
Symptoms of this disorder may include, but are not limited to:
Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation
Taking advantage of others to reach their own goals
Exaggerating their own importance, achievements, and talents
Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance
Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others
Easily becoming jealous
Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others
Being obsessed with oneself
Mainly pursuing selfish goals
Trouble keeping healthy relationships
Easily becoming hurt and rejected
Setting goals that are unrealistic
Wanting “the best” of everything
Fits perfectly, I think.
Wow Fiona, you just described my future ex-husband also!!!!!!!
I am really glad you are calling him future EX husband. Sorry that you too, have been caught in a toxic relationship 😦
http://girlboxer1970.com/2012/07/28/narcissistfiona-and-ken-knew/ Your comment led me to blog…
😉 It’s been a long drawn out mess. thanks.
I’ll definitely read. *hugs*
Talin, if you cannot engage Fiona on this topic, then you are indeed a lost cause. When I first started following you nearly six months ago, I actually offered to proofread your posts, because the grammatical errors were so glaring. No reply.
It’s all well and good to want a better world, but your views and posts are childlike and immature. You’re a 27-year-old woman who apparently is very sheltered and indulged. You do not hold a job, but you believe you have a legion of fans and your goals in life are to meet celebrities, travel the world, and sign autographs for these “fans.”
I don’t even know what to suggest.
Some very valid points Paula, and I think many other bloggers will make attempts to reply to all their received comments, myself included. It is an unwritten code of the blog, that if you wish other bloggers to interact with you then you you treat them as you wish to be treated. I read the post from the other day which many reacted to, which whilst valid opinion, was somewhat devoid of rational thinking (and ironically was negative in places). Had there been a bit more interaction with the comments then there might have been some rational discussion rather than a heavy handed blog reply which seems out of touch with what the comment posters were saying.
I’ve found that people (especially younger people) are very negative sometimes. Today’s culture has taught us to be never happy with ourselves and our situations, and social media lets us share our unhappiness with the rest of the world. How selfish is that? To constantly whine and complain to everyone we know about how our lives suck instead of going out and doing something about it.
What works for me in such situations is: Other people’s opinions of me are no of my business. Be true to yourself!
I feel compelled to leave another comment here tonight, since my supportive comment from earlier wasn’t acknowledged in any way shape or form.
Talin, your recent posts have positively encouraged trolls and negative comments because your posts are so full of negativity and anger! Those of us who still like you leave you constructive (and friendly!) criticism and yet you choose to ignore any and all advice and claim that people are rude and jealous, when they’re trying to help you become the writer that you profess to be!
A writer needs to be interested in their audience. They need to be able to take constructive criticism on board, be willing to come down off their cloud to meet and speak to their potential public… and accept opinions and apply things learned from their public because that is how a writer learns. You will never be a writer until you can do that.
You NEED to engage with your blog followers or we can’t take you seriously; for many of us you have liked one of our blog posts so that we will follow you… and then we get no interaction whatsoever. I’m sorry Talin, but that is rude. You can’t expect people to take you seriously if you continue in this self-absorbed manner.
Not everybody is out to get you. Most of us are actually trying to help you become what you want to be. Please keep this in mind.
Doesn’t help the news is negative. Ever notice the antidepressant commercials? The secret is to live in the land of the supernatural where all things are possible with God. Reality and human nature is negative in the natural realm. 🙂
Blessings & Peace,
Do some of these commenters even read her posts and the other comments or just stick their views out there without bothering to read, like Talin herself? Can’t understand those who continue to comment as though nothing here is different from other blogs and Talin is commenting right back to them or even bothering to read (or interested in) what they have to say.
Then pass on by. No one forces you to read. Duh.
I find that I live with seeing, pointing out and reflecting on a lot of negativity because if I don’t, when I’m so very positive life seems so fake. Like I’m in lala land. I’m one who ‘wears my heart on my sleeve’ ppl see a lot of negativity come out of me but strangely I get happier by dumping it. It’s like it’s all bottled up and I need to spill it out so the positive will work out. I live life to a very full cup and there’s no room to drown in negativity. So I get it out.
think positive and you will get postive …think negative and you will get negative….respect yourself and respect and help other human beeings, thats what would make a greater impact in the world… love what you wrote, thanks for sharing… good you are staying true to yourself 🙂
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Good grief! I came to this blog because I’d been told about the bullying. I was expecting to see a group of teens who don’t know any better. Instead I find a group of articulate, small minded individuals who think their comments make them appear erudite and /thoughtful/. Shame on you. Put your writing talents to better use. If you can’t write anything positive then don’t write anything at all.
this is from a new comer that’s their job to hate let them make you sharper hate on people because that when you get my best and you will still be a hater! tell them that my good friend! peace pastorsvoice!
wholly crap! When did bullying Talin become the IN thing to do?There are lots of bloggers whose style doesn’t turn my crank but they still have worth and I continue to read because I can actually learn something. Now if you are part of the critic clan go read somewhere else. It is nice to make a comment, I do it all the time and while acknowledgement is lovely, it sure isn’t necessary. If you feel otherwise then just stop reading, Go somewhere else..read someone else, but please stop with the negatives …it must be messing up your karma something awful.
It’s really surprising to see how people get too familiar with others and use it as an avenue to diffuse their anger unnecessarily.
I was drawn to this blog because the write up was inspiring and I still think it is 100%.
However, the readers comments appears too critical, one backed with contempt which really shouldn’t be. Now the appalling thing about these remarks is that they seem to be coming from older adults who claim to have a great deal of “experience”. But the question is this, how do you really want this writer to go on inspiring people or would you rather she packs up?
I think the writer is doing a terrific job, reading her write up absolutely made my day. While I think critics should be constructive they shouldn’t be backed with so much negative energy because it is absolutely unnecessary here.