The Last Time I Checked, This Is My Blog, & I Write About What I Feel

In the last few days I have received a lot of terrible comments from people who are clearly jealous of me and that is fine, and I see jealous written all over their comments, but last time I checked this is my blog where I want to express my feelings and my life, and I like sharing with the world, and I like to talk about my life experiences, and talk about issues of our world. I will not let some insensitive comments ruin me and my mood. I have dealt with too much since I was a kid and I will not let people effect me. I love my supporters, my family, my friends, and my fans. They are the ones who matter to me most. There will be haters, and there will be jealous people all the time and that is fine, be jealous of me, but I will not stoop to those peoples level who try to bring me down, but that is not going to happen. They can run their mouths as far and wide as they can, but that will not get to me, and I can care less about people who give me negativity, and pessimism, all I can say for those people who bring me down, all the best to you, but you will not overpower and dominate me and my feelings.

That is not going to happen. Last time I checked I am human, I make mistakes like the rest do, and I am not perfect and I do not see myself as perfect, but at least I write about important issues of our world especially when it comes to social acceptance, social topics that need addressing and sometimes what I say, the truth definitely hurts and some people do not want to admit it. I have seen my fair share of terrible bullying toward me, I have experienced it all, and I have been through some of the most terrible moments in my life and I don’t expect anybody to understand my feelings about it, because people think they know, but they have no idea until that person is in another persons shoe. I will not let people’s terrible judgement toward me get to my head, because those people who are judging me in a terrible way and writing these comments obviously are jealous and they want to hide behind their computer and say all these nasty and mean things, but in reality they are so insecure of themselves and they feel the need to make fun of others to hide their true self.

Jealousy can do a lot damage, and its not good. I write blogs because I feel good about it, I write blogs because its something I passionate about. I know sometimes my grammar is not all up there, but this is how I feel comfortable writing, this is how I want to express myself, and for the record I did apply for school this coming year for writing and journalism and I got in because I had the top notch grades back in high school and in my first few years of college. I did not let bullies and people who terrorized me get in the middle of my studies. I went to school, got good grades and I did not let stupidity get into my brain while studying. its been almost 10 years since high school and its getting better and better all the time. I do not expect people to understand me, but never judge me until you really know me. Yes you get to know me and my ideas and thoughts through my blog, but that does not justify anything. Internet and meeting someone in person is a whole different ball game.

So please the next time someone decides to write a negative thought, think before you write, you can do a lot of damage to someone who has been through a lot of terrorizing and being bullied most of my younger life. People do not understand that. I am not trying to offend anyone, but really last time I checked its my blog and I write what I want to express on what is happening. I do read a lot online and I do go out in the real world, and I have a big social life and I see everything that goes on, I see the way humanity has become, and I see the way people carry themselves out, and I blog accordingly.

Blogging is what I am passionate about and I make it a goal to write everything, I am not letting derogatory, insensitive, and negative comments destroy my dreams and what I love doing.

 

43 thoughts on “The Last Time I Checked, This Is My Blog, & I Write About What I Feel

  1. RoSy says:

    I’m all for to each there own opinions. But – we must also know how to respect other’s thoughts, feelings, opinions & their blogs. Keep on bloggin’ your way Talin!

  2. Sank says:

    This is one of the best posts you’ve written. I don’t comment much but I read your feed every time you update. Good for you for sticking up for yourself. This is YOUR blog and if you have people who don’t want to read your writing, let them go somehwere else! Keep up the good work and don’t let few idiots get you down. Then again, I don’t think you have. Congratulations on being strong Talin!

  3. avecelan says:

    To quote Rev Run, “do your best and forget the rest!” Don’t listen to the naysayers, the trolls of the world are just looking to bring others down to make themselves feel better! Stay strong Dear!

  4. xxxxxxxxxxxx says:

    i AM GETTING TIRED OF THESE PEOPLE OR IDIOTS I SHOULD SAY, I AM WRITING IN CAPS SO JUST FOR THEM TO SEE AND READ…GET A LIFE…. STOP CRITICIZING PEOPLE, INSTEAD DO SOMETHING CONSTRUCTIVE LIKE SHE IS TRYING HARD TO DO…. WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE??? CAN’T YOU SEE SOMEONE TRYING SO HARD TO BRING POSITIVITY AND HAPPINESS IN PEOPLE AND GOODNESS, IS IT WRONG TO TRY??? FOR ONCE WHOEVER YOU ARE TRY TO DO SOMETHING POSITIVE IN YOUR LIFE AND NO NEED TO ATTACK IN PEOPLE, THER IS NOTHING WRONG IN WHAT SHE IS TRYING TO DO HERE…IT MAY LOOK LIKE SEEKING ATTENTION OR WHATEVER YOU ARE CALLING TO HER BLOGS, BUT IT IS A BLESSING LIKE SOMEONE LIKE HER TO ADDRESS THINGS THAT OTHER PEOPLE ARE AFRAID TO WRITE, DON’T BE AFRAID TO BE CRITICIZED…TALIN YOU SHOULD KNOW BY THAT THEY WILL ALWAYS BE THERE, IF YOU ARE SMART…YOU SHOULDN’T EVEN PAY ATTENTION TO THEM AND NOT EVEN TAKE THE TIEM TO DEFEND YOURSLEF, YOU ARE NOT THE GUILTY ONE, THEY ARE…FOR WRITING THINGS TO TRY TO BRING YOU DOWN OR HURT YOUR FEELINGS.. JUST BE HAPPY CARRY ONE IN WHAT YOU ARE DOING BEST AND WHO KNOWS MAYBE SOME DAY THEY WILL SEE THE LIGHT..GOD BLESS YOU

  5. Shell Ochsner says:

    There is a link to no longer follow someone if they don’t like what you are writing about. Just blow it off Talin and keep those of us who care up to date with your awesome stories! :O)

  6. MentalMakeovers says:

    Talin,
    You have control now in ways you didn’t have as a child. Someday all humans will realize that we are all connected and all come from God. Until then you need not give them any energy or space. The benefits of blogging is there is a delete button.

    Since you have had personal experience with the devastating and long term effects of bullying you are in a unique position to educate people about it.

    There is a beautiful sentiment from the Baha’i religions:
    “. . .An enlightened man of wisdom should primarily speak with words as mild as milk, that the children of men may be nurtured and edified thereby and may attain the ultimate goal of human existence which is the station of true understanding and nobility.”
    Baha’u’llah, Tablets of Baha’u’llah, p. 173

    Keep on blogging in your own voice, Talin! It’s lovely.

  7. Naomi Baltuck says:

    HI Talin,
    If they don’t like what you have to say, they can just stop following. Follow your bliss, do your best, and ignore the partypoopers. I’m not too tech savviy, but I expect there might be a way of blocking them if they persist in harassing you.

  8. Justin says:

    Talin, some commenters are just trying to help make you a better, more interesting writer. I’ve seen a few comments that are obscene but most simply disagree with you or challenge your authority to prescribe how other people should act. Yes, they’re your opinions, but to ascribe “jealousy” to people who are trying to help point out issues you could improve is probably a form of bullying…the very same bullying you denounce.

    Just as you are entitled to your opinions, others are entitled to theirs. As i’ve mentioned before, the more people read and the more you promote yourself the more your writing will appear under a microscope. You have to learn to let go of negative comments w/out taking each one personally…and perhaps take the time to ask why people are making the suggestions they’re making and whether they could actually help.

    But always keep writing if it makes you happy.

  9. Fiona says:

    Bullying sucks, I’ve been bullied really extensively in school because I was neglected and abused at home, so always dirty etc. I too didn’t let it break me. Can’t join them? Beat them 😉

    These days I try to use my own experiences to reach out to others. Nobody knows it as well as someone who has lived it.

    Talin, you have a really big audience and the potential to really get your views out there – kudos to you for keeping on trying despite the bullies. Also, well done for blogging in a language that isn’t your native language – you have more to learn, sure, but you are still ahead of many who have English as their native language.

    Please don’t dismiss all people who have criticism as bullies or jealous. If the criticism is constructive, it is actually a gift. Listening to and taking on board criticism gives you the chance to be an even better blogger, so reach an ever wider audience. I have been tempted to delete you a few times, because I felt your audience was not important to you, because you seemed to refuse to engage with your commenters. I see you have answered someone here so good on you. Engaging with your commenters is another important part of blogging.
    This is your blog – but you have put what you write out there in the public sphere, and people are going to have opinions. If you don’t like that, you shouldn’t have your blog public, you should make it private. That defeats the purpose you have in mind.

    If someone is harassing you, record their IP address. Go to your dashboard, click ‘settings’ and ‘discussion’. Then you can enter any words you want to not be published in the comment moderation box (scroll down a bit to see this) and then, in the ‘comment blacklist’ box, you can paste the name and IP addresses of any commenters you want sent straight to spam. Use this carefully though – because a good blogger is open to discussion, not censorship.

    Not all critics are jealous. In fact very few are. Anyone can have a blog, anyone can have an opinion. If someone takes the time to point out something that irritates them, listen – it could be valuable indeed, to be used as a way for you to improve your writing and go further than you otherwise could. Good luck.

  10. Tamar Najarian says:

    Sweety, perhaps more often than not, it’s wonder at how you managed to get such a following. Jealousy isn’t the correct word, but slightly envying your power when you certainly don’t have the most sophisticated in writing styles is a good possibility. I know I wonder often, but a few comments from previous blogs brought to light exactly how you do it. Not my style to like n promote like crazy, but to each their own in that 😛

    You’re blogs HAVE gone regressed though. WHereas you used to write about important matters and offer a sweet outlook, you’ve started on the very negative and the rather self-absorbed. If people comment against that, I can’t blame them. Constructive criticism is important, though cruel jests should not be tolerated.

    You’re a good person who seems to be straying off the path love. Come back to earth like the rest of us little people and try to understand everyone’s point of view. We often believe people are scrutinizing us when we are the last thing on their minds and receive more of an absent-minded response than cruelty worthy of a bully. This, in turn, causes us to be quite defensive, “much ado about nothing” style, and make mountains out of molehills, gathering negative attention to us.

    I’m still hung up about your expectations from your “friends”, but that’s simply me. A single bad turnoff and it’s really hard to turn the ship back around. The negative posts ain’t helping. Make the world a better place babe, the way you say you want to 😉 We have enough depressing moments in our lives without heaping more negativity on. Bless God for the good he has given you instead of focussing on the problems we all face 😉 You ain’t the only one who gets bullied or takes the brunt of cruel insults. Your parents are likely the only people who will not purposely ever hurt you… Everyone else, expect the worst from 😉 Leads to far less disappointments than we’re used to

    • Fiona says:

      Actually – this is what made me upset – I was fairly new to blogging, meeting new people and Talin liked one of my posts. So I liked in response. Read and commented, and nothing. After that, I noticed many other commenters come on here for the first time saying “thank you for the like” or “thank you for following me”. It’s not a good way to get followers. It’s a very good way to get the crazies, when you just go out grabbing anyone you can!
      I would advise you to try and read and comment on other’s blogs – especially if they write something that means a lot to you – and you will start getting readers who relate to you and you relate to – less crazies. And I wrote how you can spam the abusive ones above too, hope you try that.
      Disgusted at the obscene commenters. Come on. How old are you people – twelve?

    • Martha says:

      Talin – Justin, Fiona, and Tamar have posted the best comments. Please read them carefully. I can’t add anything to them.

  11. kadja1 says:

    I look at it this way, I am not a perfect writer. I never profess to be this great orator either. However I also write what I feel and it is not aimed at an academic audience. Mine is more for a general audience and in that respect, there is nothing wrong with sharing one’s emotions and/or opinions regarding certain matters. I use my blog to run ideas by others to just to see how things are received so I can know what works in my writing and what doesn’t.

    That being said, this is Talin’s blog. She has the right to post whatever she wants without people trying to make her feel lesser about it. When you call someone “Sweety” you are actually talking down to and patronizing them. To me, it is insulting–especially since that is not her name. A lot of readers do not want perfection. They want to know that what they are reading is real and has human emotion behind it, and in that capacity she excels and that is why she has so many followers.

    Save the “constructive criticism” for private messaging, where it IS appropriate. It is also my opinion that if someone is not a Native English speaker, one should send them a private message with what they want to discuss instead of putting it all over the web for all to see. It is akin to humiliating a student in front of the whole bloody class. I find such behavior on any poster’s part to be very disrespectful–even if he/she is not bullying. That is just my opinion on the matter. If you wouldn’t do this to a student in class, you shouldn’t do that to anyone on their blog…

    • Tamar Najarian says:

      I call her sweety because I actually know her 😉 I’ve known the girl most of my life. Plus, I use endearments on a regular basis, never as an insult, always as a way to soften a blow. I apologize if it’s ever seen in any other light. She probably also speaks English better than me as the language was never my first. The blogs are public, so the criticisms must be as well. If there was something truly embarrassing to be mentioned, I’d save it for a face-to-face meeting. No one’s trying to make her feel lesser about it, but as someone who doesn’t work, she definitely can dedicate a bit of time to at least rereading her posts. A short reply to at least some responses to her posts would also be generally rather appreciated. Say those to me and I’ll be sure to fix things up. Can’t expect to be treated in a certain manner if you don’t practice what you preach 😉

  12. Rivenrod says:

    You are criticised because you hit the mark. So instead of commiserations it’s time to celebrate. This time you ground the bastards down, well done!

    RR

  13. Lada Ray says:

    Don’t worry about detractors, we’ve all got plenty of those. In the words of a Russian song: “If we’ve got enemies, it means we’ve also got friends!”

    You are doing good! Keep writing!

    Lada Ray

  14. Donkey Whisperer Farm says:

    Blogging takes courage and for me a strong connection with Jesus Christ.

    I Just wrote a post about blogging for two years – Lessons learned you may find it helpful. Stay honest, authentic and enjoy your blog some people will enjoy you (your blog) and some will not. They can move on no one is forcing them to read your blog. Ignore people who are intentionally hurting you and not trying to help you. GOD bless you!

  15. agirlnamedkylie says:

    Talin, dear, I read your blog often, though I don’t comment in general. I think you’re wonderful and I love your blog. My mother always tells me “What other people think about you is none of your business,” which is her funny way of telling me that mean people are mean because they have their own issues that have nothing to do with us. I know I’m preaching to the choir, but I wanted to let you know that the people who love you are, unfortunately, often the quietest. :} Be confident in your good karma, and keep up the good work!

  16. Pattie Crider says:

    Talin,
    You certainly can write whatever you would like in your blog. I am not jealous or envious. The reason I don’t feel that way is because you have over 13,000 “followers” but only 130,000+ visits to your blog. I have 99 followers and 130,000+ visits. What that means is you have people who click on your follow button and nominate you for awards in hopes that you will do the same in return.

    Meanwhile, my 99 followers regularly go to my site and read what I have to say. They let real comments to which I respond. Now that is a following.

    I encourage you to keep writing but work harder on format, correct grammar and interesting topics.

    Sincerely,
    Girlboxer1970

  17. commonsensepeople! says:

    talin, you put stuff out there for people to read, and they respond. last time i checked, that was the point of blogging. if you don’t want that interaction, maybe you should just stick to a journal. i think people get frustrated when they are trying to engage you in debate or discussion on the things you write about, and you either ignore it or dismiss it as “negativity” or bullying. there is a big difference. the greatest writers (and leaders) WANT people to disagree with them – it makes them better at their craft. you cannot control other people; they will have their opinions on what you say and how you say it. but you can learn from how they respond- and if YOU respond, it make you a better writer and thinker.

  18. bibuji says:

    I’m afraid sometimes I might make mistake in using word and fail to express what I really mean, because I’m still on the way learning English…oh, not only that, but also in our own language sometimes we fail in communication…please forgive me if some of my expressions were wrong. I will try to improve them next time.

  19. lscotthoughts says:

    This is a great post, Talin, expressing strength and confidence to move forward, not letting negative people bring you down…keep up the good work and they have the choice to not read you and move on, too!

  20. ShallopNewf says:

    Hey Talin, I know it feels. Actually I’ve just recently got my own Troll that’s leaving comments on one of my posts. haha The way you got to look at it is that if you have a lot of people liking and reading your stuff you still haven’t quite made it until someone talks $hit about you. It’s life.

    Keep doing what you’re doing it’s a good read. And your right, a Blog is whatever the blogger wants it to be. Simple as that.

    If you want a laugh, check out my troll, I mean I know who he is but his comments are hilarious. Lol Well at least the idea that I think he really believes his comments are somehow hurting me is funny heh 😉

    http://rantzz.wordpress.com/2010/12/31/2010-in-review-part-two-the-people-and-places/

  21. whatsnormality says:

    If you don’t wish to be criticized, then say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.
    It’s inevitable, but criticism can be viewed as constructive, or as something that you can brush off of your shoulders. I very much enjoy your writing and your blog.

  22. Misfit Matriarch says:

    Fuck ’em. Easier said than done but … fuck ’em. Bullies love the Internet, lets them take their cowardice to a new level. This is your blog, indulge! Share, think out loud, learn, teach. Fuck. Them. XOXO

      • Misfit Matriarch says:

        Just read some of the comments. They’re cruel for the sake of being cruel. I get them too so you’re not alone. Hate mail too through Facebook, e-mail, any way strangers can find me- and I’m not a hostile person in the least. I got down about it too, really upset. But, like you, I’m cutting the negativity out. Let’s be partners in this haha Take care lady 🙂

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