People Should Be Loved, Things Should Be Used. Not The Opposite.

Have you ever encountered people who use others and love material items? I am sure a lot of us have and it is a great course of concern when there are people who use others so much and take advantage of them so much that the only thing they care about are material gain and they appreciate and love materialism better than the people or person’s in their lives. Nothing else should matter in the world accept loving and appreciating people. I just cannot handle when people are being used like crazy and then tossed to the side when not needed anymore. I know I have blogged about this before in so many blogs ago, but I need to bring up and raise more awareness on this issue as its a really terrible thing to do. You can’t just toss people to the side, thinking its okay to do so. Someone can damage another persons life emotionally and mentally. It is not a good thing to do.

I am sure that we ourselves do not want to be used either. This issue is a serious matter. People do not realize it, but it is and its a ridiculous thing. people cannot just do this to others. Whatever happened to loving people? Whatever happened to appreciating people? Whatever happened to trying to include people in our lives? It hurts when people don’t want to have anything to do with you unless when needed, it hurts when people just toss you to the curb, it hurts when people play with your head and ask you how you are, and then afterwards asks you for a favor and then it gets embedded in your brain and people use your good heart, take advantage of you and everything else. Its beyond terrible. In General, if you see this happening or if this happens to you, learn how to say no and confront the situation.

It is very important to stand up for yourself and stand up for your rights in situations such as this one. Learn how to say no to people, always think about what your going to do for that person before you actually do it. Yes there are so many great people out there that never say no, who are soft-hearted, too nice, and will accept anything, do anything, but it shouldn’t be like it. Saying no is not a bad thing. Then you will figure out and see who stays behind and who is your true friend. It is very important to be observant in everything, and think with your mind before you think with your heart. Your heart is a soft place that always gets fooled, but when your mind thinks before the heart, 99.9% of the time you will get out of all your troubles and you will get out of anything. These days thinking with your brain is the way to go, then thinking with your heart is secondary. You have to really think about your actions before you do them and think about what your saying before you say it. It is very important or else people will find your weak point and use and take advantage of it all the time. You won’t know people are using you right off the bat. It takes a little time to realize it, but before it is too late, saying no is the way to go. Only say yes when you think its a valid reason and when you think its a great idea, but don’t just fall into any trap and don’t just fall into anything without taking two steps back and then analyzing it, then moving forward.

Do yourself that favor, you will see the difference you make in your own life and in your whole mind. Think then do at all times. In society these days, it’s the only way we will learn. Live and Learn, You can say no. Its not a bad thing. No shame in it. Try it out, you will see the results. Will people stay or go? You be the judge. Easier said than done right? No sweat. Just do it and see for yourself.

 

6 thoughts on “People Should Be Loved, Things Should Be Used. Not The Opposite.

  1. ameliashope says:

    It’s always interesting to me that one of the best things you can do for yourself and for your relationships with other people is to learn to say “no”. I have a really hard time with this b/c I’m naturally wired to help and to be accommodating. I’ve had to put time and energy into learning to become more selfish and allowing myself to be more selfish without being guilty as well.

  2. bibuji says:

    “Evil is to make use of innocent people for his own profit,” it’s a famous statement that heroes in manga often give and which we all agree.

  3. Eliza Shane says:

    Healthy boundaries are important in all of my relationships. Sometimes it is a struggle to keep them in place. I find my mind does play tricks on me, and focusing on my intuitive impressions is more productive. Where do those lie? Somewhere between the heart and mind, I think. It’s true the heart is impressionable, but the mind is exposed widely to our ego, and that can cause problems in discerning the truth about our relationships with others sometimes too.

    A little compassion keeps me from villianizing the “users” as well, because it is my experience that we all walk on both sides of that path from time to time. Someone who allows themselves to be used, can be just as manipulative as the person doing the using.

    It is a tangled thing, this human experience we are all sharing! 🙂

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