Jealousy Defined

For many years now we always hear the world Jealous, Jealousy. Jealousy is not a good trait to develop. Jealousy and that bond you once had can ruin friendships, relationships, and so much more. It is unbelievable what jealousy can do taint a persons reputation and so much more. Unfortunately there will always be jealous people out there and we cannot do anything about it. It is something that has been around for so many decades. When people start getting jealous of the other person, they do everything in their power to eliminate that persons happiness, and good nature. He or she will not stop until damage has been done. Here are a few scenarios on a person who can be jealous:

– Someone who has a golden heart, who has so many friends and supporters in life When a Jealous person who does not have all those.

– Someone who is established well at work and who is well off in life when a jealous person is not.

– Someone who doesn’t miss all the action going on and who is always there in everything, when a jealous person does not and cannot go to all of them.

– Someone who can cook and clean very well, when a jealous person cannot.

There are so many ways a person can be jealous. Everyone is not the same and do not think the same way, and some people are always out to hurt others, and to get others out there. Even if it means to destroy that person. There are people out there who are so jealous, that they take things to extreme measures, and break laws, threaten that person, and do the worst, attempting to kill that person, that there is something that extremely jealous people would do and would be capable of doing. It is unbelievable how terrible it is.

Now, sometimes Jealousy can be good by being jealous on good things, like seeing someone who has good shape, who is fit, and we look at them and say I am jealous of that persons body, maybe I should start taking care of my own body and do the same so I can look and feel healthy the way that person is, and so that I can start fitting into nice outfits and stuff. I think that sort of jealousy is fine, but do not let that jealousy get to you and do things that you would regret later in life, but I feel that we should be comfortable in our own skin and we shouldn’t let Jealousy control us, empower us and take over our lives or else a lot of problems will arise and we won’t know what would hit us.

Just be mindful and take it easy. It can save all the hassle in the long run. Be who you are and leave jealousy at the door.

10 thoughts on “Jealousy Defined

  1. Talin, This post covers everything. Just love this post. You are a wonderful writer. Thanks for sharing and have a great weekend. !!!

  2. Don’t you think it’s a bit of a defeatist attitude to have that some people are jealous and there’s nothing they can do about it? I’m not saying you can stop being jealous at the click of the finger, it’s about as easy as facing a fear / insecurity (mostly the latter, since jealousy usually *is* just the manifestation of an insecurity)

    Also I think you’re getting jealousy mixed up with envy. The difference being that envy is when someone wants something someone else has, jealousy is a fear of losing something you already have (or having it “taken from you”).

    Envy can be a good motivator… but there are probably other, healthier ways to be motivated.

  3. Your are on point. I refuse to be associated with folks that fit any meaning of this word. I love folks and don’t care who they are……I love this post:)

  4. Nice post. However (and this is just my personal pet peeve), you are actually talking a lot about envy in this post. Jealousy is defined as a threat to anything of value (e.g., a relationship, an identity, etc) by a third party (typically a rival). So, you can be jealous that your husband’s job is taking him away from your relationship. Envy is wanting what someone else has that you don’t. So, you would be envious that a friend lost weight and looks great in his/her clothes. You would be envious that someone has a great social network and you don’t. Also, as you point out, jealousy can be good at times, so can envy as you pointed out with serving as motivation. Sorry to be so picky, but there is a conceptual difference and it’s important that we know the difference and use the two emotions correctly 🙂

  5. Often i see two things in really jealous people:
    a) a sense of entitlement and that the world owes them a living/happiness/wealth etc
    b) a resentment that WHATEVER they have , it’s never enough… they are never happy with, or actually appreciate what they have, .. and preferably someone other than themselves should “supply” them with whatever they desire in point (b): see point (a).
    It’s a vicious circle.
    My personal experience is to first, stop enabling (a) (i.e. loans they promise to pay back and of course never do) and secondly , step outside the vicious circle myself.
    Concentrate on being happy with what I have in my own family and not bent over with guilt because I’m not supplying the jealous one with the “wants” that they believe are “needs” and forever demanding more. I’m not my brother’s keeper as they saying goes.. , and I have young children of my own. the “grown-up children” in the family need to start acting their age and standing on their own two feet.
    They don’t expect to financially support me, they shouldn’t expect visa versa.

  6. Talin all I have to say is Jealous has a name and a picture and her name is Rose Gerkmazian.
    Sorry Talin, this has to be said.

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