It Is Not About The Quantity Of Friends, Its About The Quality

In life we will come across so many people in our lives, and some think that the more friends you have the more popular you will be and the more better you will be, and that is wrong. You can have so many friends, you can hundreds of people being your friend and some people will be more concerned about having quantity instead of quality, well, that should not be. I’d rather have a few friends who will be by my side, to back me up, and to support, love and appreciate me for who I am. Everything should be mutual when it comes to friends. It takes two to tango and it takes both to be the backbone that keeps the friendships up. Also, don’t trust people so quickly, don’t give in so easily. Ask yourself a few questions, will they be loyal to you? will they back you up? How will they treat you? Will they use you? Unfortunately in society these days, you need to double triple check before you make friends with people and this day in age, trust has become so rare and there are people of all walks of life. Do you really want to put yourself in a predicament of hanging out with someone who will back stab, betray and use you?

In this life we live in now, we need to analyze people very well before we give our all, before we share our most personal stories and our life’s journey with them. It does take time to get to know someone, and friendships and good friendships take time to build. So you build your trust in accordance to how someone is, their actions, words, kindness, their honesty, their loyalty and the way they are to you and how they treat you. When you are out with friends at a restaurant, take a good look and observe, if they are rude to the waiter or waitress, or if they are rude to any other person, it makes you think and question, will they be like that toward me? Will they burst at me like that someday? Actions do speak a lot louder than words and then words and action play hand in hand with each other.

We must open up our eyes a bit more, be more observant, and not to trust people so easily. Take your time to get to know someone before you give it your all. You will know the quality and the friends you have, by just the way they are, you will know what to do whether to pursue the friendship or not. Disrespectful people who do not know how good they have it and take advantage of ones goodness, good heart, and those who do not care, and those who use you, those who spread rumours and share whatever happens to the world, is not a true friend. Some people do not even know the definition of a friend and that is so unfortunate. Take your time, don’t rush into friendships so quickly because you will be burned if you don’t choose your friends wisely and you can be hurt. I do not want anybody hurt.

My family, friends, fans, readers and all my other supporters, I want the best for everyone, and I am speaking through experience. I’ve been burned so many times from fake people, I’ve been hurt so many times, but all it takes is opening up your eyes, being more assertive, being more aware, being more observant of people’s actions, eye language, facial reactions, body language and more. It is so important to take a look at all of that. It will save the hassle in the long run and it will make you decide if they are the right friends for you and if you should continue it or not. It all depends on a person’s personality and the type of friends to choose, but in the end look out for you. Don’t put everyone in one basket, balance it and don’t give in too quickly.

Just take your time. There is no rush to friendships. You will find the suitable people for you. It will take time and effort, but never ever think friendship will never happen for you. Just be patient and go with the flow.  You would not want to go through havoc and trouble. Just believe in yourself and know that there are types of people for you that are suitable. Just relax and take it easy. I’d rather have only a few friends I can trust, depend on and share stories and things with, rather than having hundreds, that will only be their part time and not full time. So just go with your gut instinct and I wish you all the best.

My Life Has Blossomed Into A Field Of Beautiful Roses

In the last few weeks I know I have written some blogs about different emotions I am having and different perspectives on life and humanity with different things per day, but my life has turned out to be a field of blossomed colourful roses and roses are my favourite flowers, and I love all kinds of colours of roses. My life has turned out to be beautiful because of the beautiful people in it. Those beautiful Roses are the people who have been embedded into my life and in my heart and soul. I am the one running in the field and stopping to smell the roses on my path. There are so many beautiful people who have come into my life in the past 3-4 years and I wouldn’t be where I am today without them. This field is a special one to me with assortment of colours, sizes and feel to them. At my wedding day hopefully that day will happen, all my flowers, bouquets, decorations will be filled with Roses, and those roses will be filled with the beautiful people in my life. Life is a beautiful thing and some people underestimate life and they try to see the negative and darkness, but when you really analyze life, it really is a pretty thing to be in. It all depends on how you portray yourself and your life.

My definition of life is like I said, the field of beautiful roses. They define my life and the definition of a beautiful life most importantly are with the people I associate with and who is part of my life and who always will be. People will come and go from your life, but in the end all you have are the true ones who will be with you for life. I have friends from the many miles and when we got together my field of roses got larger and larger and they have been part of my field for over 3 years now and up until the present time and beyond. They are my special roses and those roses will forever be in my heart and soul and in my body’s home. I see a colourful place with beauty and vibrant textures, and a field of dreams with beautiful trees, a blue sky with not a cloud on it, with the sun blooming in my blossomed field with the roses shining and blooming ever so beautifully, the petals of the roses ever so lovely, picking roses and making them into dozens and smelling the lovely fragrance that comes from these flowers while giving them away to the special people in my life, while those roses grow again and I repeat to give dozens more. taking apart the petals and throwing them all around with the wind blowing and these beautiful colours going all over the place and those petals are my lovely friends who are all over the place and me catching up to those petals and visiting them and holding them so tightly in my hands and arms and not wanting to let go of my great friends who have bright and beautiful personalities which are far more beautiful than the field of roses.

This particular field of roses are an example of my beautiful friends whom I am so grateful for. the meaning behind this blossomed field are my lovely friends blooming in my life and have made it far more beautiful and have made the cloudy, raining and dark days into the sunny and no clouds in the sky days. I love you all so much.

Don’t Be Discouraged – Always Look Forward

In life when were going through life, a lot of people if not all people want to be a number of things when they grow up, they have ambitions, dreams, and talents. Everyone has different skills, needs, qualities, potential, and personal goals to attain and fulfill in life. Unfortunately some do not get to enjoy, fulfill and succeed in life because their lives were cut short and its a terrible thing.  Everyone has great qualities about themselves, and sometimes some peoples progress, and going to the next step takes a lot longer than others, but never be and let others discourage on how slow a progress you are making. At least you have continual progress that is not stopping and you are trying your best and doing your best. Always look forward in life. I know things in life happen without you least expecting it, traumatic and tragic things can happen in ones life, but never let that be a discouragement . The sign of failure means that you are trying. Nobody is a failure. You might fail at doing somethings, but never make that into a weakness. Make it something that you can work on more harder and if at first you do not succeed, try it again and again. Never stop. Failure means success in the long run. Just remember that.

Remember if people are trying to bring you down, that only means you are above them and if people are spending so much time talking about you, talking to you, talking about your weaknesses, putting you lower, and not trying anything to put your spirits up, and not encouraging you that means that they are not true friends at all, that means that they are only trying to hide their failures and flaws about them and not sharing it. In the end everyone has their own pace, their own time to learn, to grow, to experiment, to experience and to succeed. You can do anything you put your mind to, and never be discouraged. Things always happen and come up in life, but never lose sight of your dreams and all the plans you look forward to in the future. It is always great to make plans while you are living day to day.

Never lose yourself, don’t listen to negative people, don’t ever let anybody always try to find faults and things wrong about you, do not give anybody the satisfaction of pessimism. Be optimistic, be ambitious, keep dreaming, keep working on attaining your goals. It might take longer than others but hey at least you are getting there, at least your not stopping for anybody or anything. It is the worst thing you can do for yourself is to let others walk all over you and to mess with you. Never do that. Before others judge, and say things to you out of turn or give you advice, but the wrong type, let them look at themselves in the mirror, let them focus on themselves before pointing fingers, and being judgmental. In my previous blog, I was talking about being strong, and surround yourself with positive and great people who will encourage you, who will lift you up.

encouraging, confidence boosters, kind, nice, sweet, positivity, optimism these are the things you should surround yourself with, and never let anyone tell you, you cannot do it, because you can do it. Everything is possible in life, but unfortunately satisfying everyone is just the only impossible thing in the world. In the end you know who you are, you know what you are capable of, you know your limitations, you know yourself the best, you are your individual person. Keep your head up high, lift yourself up, and never sell yourself short and put yourself down. Keep smiling, and all the very best to you. Lastly, Do not ever be discouraged!

What Makes You A Stronger Person? How Do You Handle Life?

In my life, I have been through a huge list of unfortunate things that have happened to me where people would be bully me emotionally and mentally, putting me to the curb when not needed anymore, people who have used me for material gain, people who only come to me if they need something from me,  the feeling of being isolated, and being an option to people and not a priority in their lives. I remember all those times and still comes back to haunt me to this day, but things have changed so much for me and for the better. Because of all the anguish and pain I had to endure personally, emotionally and mentally, now I have become a stronger person, I have a whole new pizazz on life, a whole new approach to trusting very few people, choosing my friends wisely, opening up my eyes more and making sure I make the right decisions about hanging out with the right people. Everything in my past that I went through, has shaped who I am today and its made me better in making judgements on who should be in my circle and who should not. I think and I know that I have handled my life wonderfully and I learned a lot from myself and have spent so much time with myself just thinking about life, about what the next step is to further myself in a social aspect of life.

What made me a stronger person is that I look things into a positive perspective, I look at things as a cup that is half full, and no matter what life throws at me, I am always positive in the end. I know it is easier said than done, but being positive is easy, all you have to do is be strong, be who you are, always be yourself, make sure that you surround yourself with positive and great energy throughout your day everyday. When I was heavily bullied as I was in school back in the day, I put into thought that this is just temporary and things will get better and it did get better for me. I am so strong now that nothing or no one can break me. I have learned to stand on my own two feet, I’ve learned and I am still learning to this day. Life is a never ending learning journey. Sometimes things come in our way, but in the end the ball is in your court, but make sure you hit a slam dunk and be strong.

Everything happens for a reason, and people come into your life as a blessing or a lesson and that will determine your strength to move on to bigger and better people and things in life. What shaped me to be stronger is that I cut out negativity, and I always instill in others that they too can do the same, all they have to do is try their best, and do it. I know sometimes it easier said than done as I said, but it will workout in the long run. I know that life is not perfect as we want it to be, and sometimes we get lucky and sometimes we do not get so lucky with how our lives are and have turned out to be and what we went through in the past, but take a look around, be blessed with what you have and who you have become. What have you learned from your past? Have you been a victim of bullying? What did you do to make yourself stronger?

What steps did you take to conquer and defy all the odds? Did you seek for help from others? did you dust yourself off and pick yourself up on your own? Did you tell someone about how you were feeling or are feeling? Always know you are worth it, you are important, you are a unique, special, confident, strong and beautiful person. As long as you know that for yourself, you do not need others to tell you all that. When you know yourself that you are enough and that you are all those great things, that is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. You have those gifts that are so precious. You are a precious human being who came to this earth for a reason, each one of us serves a purpose in our world and we can all make a positive influence, difference and change the world into a stronger and happier place only if we try and do our best no matter what life throws at us. Kindness, Respect and doing great things is the way to go.

Now tell me what has made you stronger? Life is a beautiful gift from God, and its such a lovely thing.  always be strong. Remember what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and somehow struggles become success, and success becomes everything you want your life to be emotionally and mentally. Be positive, be strong, be you, and everything in life will come to place. Just believe in yourself, believe that you can conquer anything and throw negativity away and do not think about what might have been, or what could have happened differently. Keep going. Do not stop. All the best to you, keep smiling, be happy!

How I Overcame Bullies How It Changed My Life Forever For The Better

Hello Everyone, due to popular demand and many people asking me about my previous posts on bullies and how people bullied me a lot, and how I overcame those hardships in my life, what I did to stay afloat in life, what measures I took to look past those bullies and make a positive and optimistic life for myself with happiness and joy all around me after many years of suffering this terrible ordeal I had to face when I was going to elementary and high school. Today, I am going to talk to you about all that, about what changes I made to get past the pain I had to endure when I was a child and a teenager. My readers questions mean the world to me, and I will do my best to answer each one of them as fast as I can, but today I thought I would address this topic to everyone as it is important for those who have been victims of bullies, and to restore faith back into humanity to move forward in life. Well, without further do, here is how I overcame and moved past those terrible times of my life, I will be interviewing myself.

What did you do to overcome your bullies?

After graduating high school I realized, that life was just beginning and that I was going to go onto bigger and better things in my life, and I was right. I started joining committees in My Armenian Community, I began to write, I started traveling more with the Armenian youth whom I made friends with at church, I began to participate in more Armenian church events, I began to go out more and those became a positive enforcement in my life and I had the time of my life, probably the most fun I have ever had in my life in regards to social events with people and just getting out there. I began doing secretarial and communications for my committees I was part of with Armenian Church Youth Organization of Canada ACYOC, among Bible study, and the appointed me because I was getting pretty good at communications and promoting. I then went onto make flyers and doing so many things for different events around the church, attending camping trips and sports weekends across Canada all the way to Vancouver, British Columbia, Montreal, Ottawa, and beyond. So I had the pleasure and privilege to travel there with my lovely youth. From then on, I knew my life changed forever and I began to have friends and I overcame all those struggles within a couple of years after high school.

Since Joining Facebook, Have you made any social interactions with people online and in reality?

I remember joining facebook back in 2006 and It was exciting being part of a social network with Armenian friends and my family who had told me about it, and I decided I join, and it was the best decision that I made. I have been using it until this present time, and I have met incredible and wonderful people there from all parts of the world, and had the pleasure of meeting my facebook friends within the past 3-4 years. Especially last year and this year recently this summer. It was a beautiful encounter and that made my bullies disappear from my mind and things started to fall into place and things got better for me. I smile, I laugh more, and I have reached my peak of happiness because of the positive reinforcement from my lovely friends I had met. Especially from a radio station based out of California called RADIO AGA. I thank that radio station everyday for giving me back my life’s happiness especially getting together with friends from the many miles. I will forever be grateful.

What advice do you have for those who are being bullied right now?

I know in my heart that, it is one of the most difficult, and terrible things a person can go through no matter what age, and I do believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel always. I know for a fact, that things are going to work out and get better for you. All you have to do is think of happy thoughts and move forward. I know it is easier said than done, but always know that you are not alone, nobody is alone when those are being bullied. I went through terrible ordeals and situations, but those situations made me stronger, and today I am doing so well, and I am so happy with who I have become. I sort of want to thank my bullies, because now I am stronger than I ever was before and they gave me that boost to stand up for myself and be tough in this world in terms of knowing the type of people in this world and knowing who to trust or not. Don’t worry, there is always a way and you will overcome your bullies like I did. All it takes is a little patience to get out of that phase and get onto newer things in life. Things will turn around for you and you will be better than ever. Just have faith.

I truly believe there are great people out there and sometimes it is hard to find those great people, but I do believe in humanity all over again and I had mixed feelings for the past couple of months, but then again, I realize that life is what you make it and life will always have ups and downs and there will be people we like and don’t like, there will be people unfortunately who are not on the same page as you and who understand you, I guess that is how the world works unfortunately, but all I know is, I am happy, doing well, optimistic, positive, and a lot better than what was going on with me when I was a child up until my teenage years. No more sadness, no more tears, those bullies have left my station, never to return because there is a sign called no trespassing. All the best to everyone!

It’s Impossible To Satisfy Everyone, and I Suggest We Stop Trying

Today just a few hours ago, I saw this quote on Facebook about how impossible it is to satisfy everyone, and It just made me think a lot about how I should stop trying and focus on doing what is best for me and to stop trying to satisfy each person, because that will never happen and there will be people who agree and disagree about everything in life. In the end you to do what is right for you, you have to do things that are to your benefit because in the end were all individuals and we all have to learn how to stand on our own two feet and take control over our lives, Yes opinions, suggestions, and ideas is what makes the world go around and it is good to learn from one another about success and among other things in life, but the ball is in your court. Will you always listen to everyone? Or will you learn to listen to yourself and what is in your heart to do the right thing? Yes it is important to listen and to get advice from people and I am not up for debates on that. That is the way things are supposed to be, but there will come a time where you will need to make decisions all on your own without people always intervening with you.

There are so many things that is impossible to satisfy others such as, The type of wedding you have, the type of home, home decor, home colours, the car you have, the parties, functions, and everything people have, but one must know it is someone trying to stay in their budget, no matter how extravagant or how simple things can be, it is all in the terms of preference, and each person has their own taste and their own perspectives on how they want something to be. We cannot discriminate and complain about how another person chooses to do their parties, functions, and even to their style of furniture, colour and everything else, because it is their space and their home. Everyone is entitled to have a space of their own and create it the way they want to without be pestered all the time. There is a fine line to stop trying to impress people a lot and start focusing on what is important and what makes you happy to want to do what you want to do and it is important to have people’s support, and to be happy for you. You are not going to a wedding for the decorations, for the food, for the ambiance, your going to a wedding for the couple that just went into marriage hood, you go to rekindle with others and meet people, you go to events to socialize and be social, not for the material side of things. If that is the way they want to do it, then set them free and be satisfied, but then again someone people will not agree to what I am saying either and that is fine.

I have learned to take criticism and constructive criticism, and I value everyone’s opinions, good or bad, because that is a queue to make vast improvements, to better yourself in things, to improve on lifestyle, to improve on so many things in life. I believe that each and everyone of us needs criticism once in a while, but then again not everyone will agree with that, but that is how the world goes around. If everyone thought the same and if everyone had the same perspectives on life and the way things are supposed to be, then we would be living in a really boring world and there won’t be anything new. It will just be the same things over and over again and we won’t meet new people, all we would meet is the same type of personalities and the same type of opinionated people. Yes it is important to have good personality traits, it is important to make good choices in life, but in the end everything is up to you, but it won’t hurt if you listen to others once in a while. Enjoy your life and do things that will satisfy you, not others unless it is your immediate family. Be you and the rest will follow. All the best!

Happy Mothers Day To All Mothers and Future Mothers To Be.

Hello everyone,

Today, I want to wish all mothers of the world a very happy mothers day, I wish you all the best, health, happiness, goodness and all great things of life. Our Mothers sacrifice and do so much for us. They are our guidance counselor, give advice, nurture, raise,  doctors, nurses, cook, cleaner, driver, sending us to school, going grocery shopping, putting a roof over our heads, filling our empty stomach when we are hungry, and they do so much more. The list is endless and one of the toughest jobs to do in the world. Not only should today be considered mothers day. It should be everyday. Mothers need to be celebrated everyday. They do so much for us, they carried us in their body for 9 months, and went through so much to get us here. My mom is my rock and my everything. We shouldn’t just celebrate what they do for us, but how and who they are is important too.

I want to send thoughts and prayers to all mothers who are no longer physically with us on earth and some did not even get a chance to meet their mothers, some didn’t get to enjoy their mothers, unfortunately, but they are with you in spirit and in your hearts and your lives forever. That will never change. Just because someone is not there with you physically, it doesn’t mean they are not there. They will always watch over you and they will always be your mother no matter what.

It is really not about materialism and everything that our mom’s want from us on Mothers day, its really about our well-being and about what we do, the life choices we make, the decisions we make in life and who we become. Mom’s always worry about their children, it is a fact, and our mothers want nothing but the best for us and to make sure we are safe, happy and how we get through life.

So lets celebrate our mothers no matter if they are still here with us or have departed. Lets get together today and celebrate our beautiful moms. What are you going to do or already did for your mother today? What are your traditions every year to celebrate with your mom? Have a beautiful day everyone.

Natural Beauty is The Way

As I go through life seeing many people wear oodles of make-up on their face, I always say to myself, why they put so much? why they have to cover their face up with all these cosmetics? I believe and know that all women and girls have a natural beauty and they are simply covering up what they really look like. I am not saying do not wear make-up, you are free to make your own decisions as to how much cosmetics you put on your face, but in moderation. The trick to wearing make-up, you have to make it look like you are not wearing any at all.

I believe inner beauty is far more beautiful than our exterior. Make-up should not make a woman/girl believe that they are far more beautiful with that stuff on their faces. Many cosmetic companies starve for women/girls who constantly head to the stores to purchase their merchandise. Beauty comes from within. We are just carrying our exterior, but I am telling all women/girls of the world right now, you are beautiful, you don’t have to try to impress the guy next door, or when you go to a party or somewhere to wear make up to the extent that it does not make you look good at all. It makes it worse to be honest.

I have been to many parties and I notice women and girls look in the mirror in the restroom to maintain themselves, adding more and more make-up. Again, it is totally up to you on what you do to your face, but I would understand if you’re a bride, bridesmaid, or you’re in a modeling agency, or whatever, but then again, make-up should be worn within limits.

As my personal side of the story, I only wear make-up when it is absolutely necessary, I occasionally wear make up to a party or a gathering with my girlfriends, but I rarely wear it on a daily basis. It makes my face feel so heavy and it makes me feel like there are things on my face constantly. The mess of mascara, the mess of the bronzer and foundation powders and everything, just clog up the pores and clog up the face and your face won’t breathe.

Although it is important to maintain your exterior, with having your hair groomed, showered up, clean, nice smelling, and have great hygiene with brushing your teeth, flossing and everything which is very important, but when it comes to Make-up, it really isn’t a necessity, it is something that hides your beauty, being a natural beauty is far more attractive, than having all this gunk on your face, and putting too much make-up on no matter what type of product or name it is, can speed up the aging process.

I know you readers are questioning and thinking that this woman writing this has got to be crazy, that she herself is a woman and women are so revolved around cosmetics, fashion so on and so forth. Personally, I myself enjoy wearing custom jewellery, and matching up my outfits and going out with just lip gloss on my lips or a lip colour that suits my face and colour of my skin, rather than wearing way to much on my face. I already wear corrective lenses, and i occasionally wear contact lenses.

In conclusion, you are beautiful, you are a person of our world, you have been put on this earth, no matter how your face looks, your facial attributes, sizes, shapes, were all different, were all ONE BODY, Were all in the same human race, were all on this earth for a reason. Nature will take its course. BE NATURAL, BE WHO YOU ARE, GOD LOVES YOU Just the way you are, SO LOVE YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE. Save that 5, 10, 20, 50, 100 dollar bill that you are going to spend on Make-up and Utilize it for something more worthwhile. So get up, stand up, Smile and look at yourself in the mirror and say these 5 WORDS Every morning you wake up — “I AM A NATURAL BEAUTY” and start your day. Try it, and you will see the difference.

Materialism and I do not Mix Well Together

Since I was a child, I was always brought up to appreciate the people around me and always saying thank you. I have learned a lot of great qualities growing up. My parents and other and many of my relatives always taught me the importance of the joy of being with people instead of the material growth out of it. Yes I did receive gifts when I was a child, and that was about it. Now that I have been an adult for so many years now, Materialism and I do not mix. When I eventually get together with a man and find the right person in my life to marry and settle down with, him buying me expensive jewelery and an expensive engagement ring means nothing to me really, and buying me expensive clothes, bags and stuff. I can care less about it. The union and the way he treats me. As long as I am with a person who respects me, who takes care of me, who is a down to earth and honest person who understands me, and a person I am comfortable and can have fun with. Material growth is something on the last resort, but I never want to expect it. It’s like when I meet friends from Online or wherever, materialism is nothing to me again like I said. Being with people physically and sharing memories is far more precious to me, then some material goods. We don’t mix well and I tell you, I get really worked up when people bring me stuff, but then I say thank you I appreciate it. It’s like Drinking and Driving do not mix, well, its kind of like the same thing for me with materialism.

I know that a lot of people in this world have nothing in third world countries and I have traveled to a few places such as Cuba, Dominican Republic and other countries in this world and I see how they live, but they are so happy with what they have and appreciate it because they have seen life, and they have seen things other people have not, and I respect them so much. When I travel, I learn so much about how people live, their lifestyle, and day-to-day life. I have spent time in villages before and I have seen it all. I have learned to never take anybody for granted since I was a mere of 3 years old. I started learning these things at a very young age.

I am so fortunate with what I have now and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Not Everyone Will Be Your Friend, Find Ones That Will Be

Out of everything I have been through in my life, and trying to make sense of who are my true friends or not and among everything else, It is a hard thing to for some to make sense of it all. In life you will encounter so many different types of people and you will meet all sorts of people, but not everyone will be your friend. You just talk to people, not knowing their name or where they come from. It happens in spontaneous moments when your out in public, when you are traveling and people in school, work, or other places. Some people come into your life for a few minutes, you will meet and talk to someone for an hour or half an hour or whatever the case maybe, and then you part your ways. Its happened to me a lot and it is pretty cool that way too. You talk to someone and then you never see them again, but I remember once talking to someone at a coffee shop and then I saw that same person again 3 weeks later. We ended up coming in at the same time. I am a person who never forgets faces and who never forgets whom I have spoken with in person. She remembered me too. We had a few minutes conversation and that was it, and we parted our ways. We haven’t seen each other since, but maybe we will again. It is incredible how things happen in such a way where people who can relate to things end up meeting and talking, bu then never really become friends. I love spontaneity and things that just happen without planning. I feel that is one of the best ways to go.

You sort of have a gut instinct in you when the time is right and when the person is right to make friends with them. People have this feeling all the time when a person is right to ask their name and have a friendship with them. It has happened to me. I remember many times at my Armenian community center or when I am on my travels somewhere, you automatically feel, that person is appealing and you take a look in someones eyes and you see fake or real, and when you can really understand each other and relate, that is the type of friends you need. When you can relate to each other and when you can be there for each other in good times and in the bad, when you can have many things in common, share each others feelings, confide into each other. It the best type of friendships to have. Not so much the quantity of friends, but the quality of the relationship you have with your best friend or your closest friends. Its one special thing you all have in common together that nobody else will really understand your inside jokes, your humorous personalities, your outlook on life, the common interests, and finding a solid foundation to build your trust among your friends. it is always a good idea to really analyze and to really get to know people before you really jump into friendships quickly. Give it time to become best friends, or very close friends.

The worst thing you can do to someone is replace them, and feeling replaced by others and tossed to the side. Some people find good friends for a year or 2 or 3, and then you become an old part of their life, so then they jump into new friendships and toss you like yesterdays newspaper in the recycling bin. That is how I feel sometimes and it is not a good feeling. Find someone who will be by your side to understand you and your feelings and who will stay friends with you forever and ever and not leave your side after a year to 3 years of friendship. It is a crummy thing you can do to someone and that is not a good trait. Unless that person is not who you thought you knew and if things happen that are not good, then that is okay, but when you know you have not done anything to hurt someone and when you know you haven’t ever said a mean thing to that person or people, and get shafted, it is not a good thing. People need to realize that doing this is not good.

Be faithful and loyal with friendship, that will strengthen yourself and good habits will always be remembered. Do yourself a favour and choose friends wisely who will go to the ends of the earth for you and then naturally people will help each other and everything will fall into place. Just believe and do it. All the best in everything.

Kindness Always Matters In The World

Today, when I was out, I saw a quote that really hit me close to my heart and there are a few things I always believe in and to me they are the most important, but what strikes out is the one about kindness, and today’s quote I saw was “Kindness Matters”. It always does and its something I have always been taught since I was a child to always be kind to others, and always do great things and not expect anything in return. I truly believe that when you do kind things and be kind to others, it is something that God will see and you will be rewarded with great things in life and you will go places. I know sometimes that is hard to believe when you do good things for others, and sometimes they don’t appreciate it and you keep getting used and used like crazy, but always know that whatever you do, its something great that you have accomplished. In this world were only here for a limited time and the time spent on this earth is short lived, so live life wonderfully with being kind and fruitful. It is important to reach out without asking anything in return. All good deeds do not go unnoticed. You may feel it at times, but to be honest, it does not. God sees it, the Angels in heaven see it and you see it.

In the last couple of weeks, Bible Study started again at my Armenian Church and I am ever so grateful it started. It gives me an opportunity to go out and reflect amongst other people who attend the bible studies, and it gives me time to listen and interact with the priest and others about kindness, about the importance of being fruitful, and someone who reaches out to others. Bible studies teaches me a lot of things about life, the spiritual life, and about the modern society we all live in now, the priests tells us so many stories of his life, and what he’s encountered recently and he tells us things that empower me and probably to others as well. Kindness is something that I have always been fond of, and it is something that has embedded into my life and without the proper upbringing of my immediate family and relatives, and the community I live in, I wouldn’t be who I am today. I want to thank so many people in my life for giving me that poise and that life to get out there and do great things, attend bible studies, and attend important events and retreats that are educational to the mind, body, soul, spirit and the heart. It is important to cleanse our souls, to be kind, to be respectful to others.

No matter who anyone is, colour, race, ethnicity, orientation, big, small, tall, short, blonde hair, brown hair, black hair. I doesn’t matter. Were all one body and were all on this earth to serve a purpose in this life. We were all chosen and it doesn’t matter what you do, the ultimate thing that does matter in this world is kindness. Do it and you will be amazed on how it changes your life for the better. When you wake up every morning, Kindness should be on your agenda everyday. Use it and share it around. You will be surprised on how great your day will be. Have a wonderful day.

Social Media Awareness – T-H-I-N-K – The Acronym That Stood Out

In recent months I have been writing a lot about this subject about social media, and it is one of the biggest hot topics of this day in age and mostly everything is revolved around social media, promotions, advertising, and so much more that we make social media. Nowadays there are clever ways to advertise and get viewership rolling, making photo acronym’s and there are so many quotes out there that makes people think and social media is one of the biggest ones and all to do with success, business and so much more. Now, what stood out to me the most was this great acronym that says, THINK.

Now, before you Tweet, Facebook, Pin It, Tumblr It, text it, send photos, or do anything with Social Media think of this:

T – is it true?

H – is it helpful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – is it necessary?
K – is it kind?

We all want to protect our credibility, reputation and ourselves ultimately and this acronym is something that certain people should be reading and thinking about literally, and ultimately we are responsible for what we post because anybody on the internet can see it, and anybody who searches online for a certain word, phrase or something they can come to your site and you either gain fans or you do not. It all depends on how your portray yourself. It is important to think if it is kind and necessary to post. I feel that social media has gone way out of context of over sharing. How much is too much when it comes to sharing? I have seen twitter messages that people post when they have their bowel movements, they even post what they are doing 24 hours a day. I find that to be way too much information that does not need to be on the internet.

Now with our words are we really moving mountains? Are we inspiring people? Are we helping people in positive and great ways? Is something we post true? I think it is something that is up to us individually on what we want to post, but we should be cautious about what we post and the content. This acronym is something that really has been on my mind for quite some time now and it has put social media in my life into perspective, and it has given me so much inspiration and so much food for thought to share this acronym with those who may or may not have seen or heard about it before. Are we really hurting our future with the material and content we produce online? Remember what you post online is there forever and even if you delete and remove things, it will always be there on the internet database.

Are there things you have seen online that have been terrible and written, drawn, Photoshopped or created a terrible meme about other people? Have you seen blogs, comments, and websites that bully others? The internet can be a great place and sometimes the internet is not such a great place. Also not everything should be taken as a joke. There is a time and place for everything and there is a time for humour, a time for seriousness, but in the end everything has its limitations. It depends on individuals and how they utilize it. Being kind, helpful and inspiring is something that everyone should exercise in always doing. I know sometimes people may not be on the same page about a certain topic, people may not always agree on things, but there is always a pleasant way to handle it, and there are ways to approach things in a great and peaceful manner where then everything will be great in the end. Just simply say “I am going to have to disagree on that, this is how I think about something or this is my feeling or take on it”, or this is what I would have done differently or said something differently. There is no need to use vulgar, profane language to others, where it can be kind and dealt with in a civil manner.

This Acronym has put an everlasting thought in my mind and in my day-to-day blogging and social media life. Has it for you? What is your take on THINK? what is your opinion? I’d love to hear from you.

How To Avoid Conflict with Assumptions and Spreading Rumors

In my life, I have always learned to not get too involved in someone elses personal lives and business and to ask too many questions and details about a person’s life and I have been taught to never assume things about other people, make up stories about them and not to spread rumours and I have learned that if something that if someone tells me and tells me not to tell anybody, I honor their word and I never tell a soul. It’s just my style and I just cannot stand it sometimes when people ask way too many personal questions about family life, about sensitive things that not everyone should know about. I believe there are boundaries to everything and there is a limit with so much. Some people are so nosy and want to know so much. It becomes too much. When rumors start being spread around without knowing from the source, is not something very good to do.

Before sharing things and before spreading things around that you are permitted to do, it is always important to ask from the source and find out things from the source, because by the time you hear about it from different people, the story gets changed around, words are added here and then, and people understand things differently, then it will be chaotic and something will be blown way out of proportion. It is like playing broken Telephone when by the time the story gets sent around in the circle, the person at the end will have a totally different story and then spread it around. I think it is a good idea to always know if it is something you should say to others, and get permission always and never assume things about other people unless you find out from them and unless there is solid proof of something done, or something said. Sometimes there are witnesses who even lie, and there are so many people who will lie and make up stories about others.

I think the most important thing is to really get the facts straight. Relationships and friendships can be ruined by it, and a lot of damage will be done. I just sometimes say you know what? Its better I do not get involved, I do not say anything, and not share with the world something that is very personal. I just don’t want to deal with headaches and hardships later. I am always loyal to my friends, and when they tell me something personal, there is no way I will ever spread those things around. It is the most terrible thing anyone can do. Now with social media, the internet there are mixed signals and so many sites dealing with social media, there are billions of us on the internet everyday and transmitting information 24/7 365, and a lot of people do not get their facts straight and it becomes a catastrophe. So my advice to everyone is, never assume, never invent words with your mouth and go right to the source to find out information. The power of words can do serious damage, and its the most powerful thing in this world.

Has there been a moment in your life where people find false things about you and it gets spread like wildflowers? Have you been in a situation where you do damage control and tell people the right things instead of the way people hear about it? Have you defended someone? People just need to get their facts straight. That is all there is to it. it avoids conflict, problems, and it prevents from relationships, friendships and bonds to break and it can be a very hurtful thing to go through. So some people need to really think before they speak and ask from the source beforehand . I cannot stress it enough. Make things right now before things get out of hand because it can and really quick. All the best to everyone!

First Step Of Being Happy With Yourself, Is To Believe In Yourself

In Life there are several things we can do to better our lives, and the first step to being happy with yourself is to believe in yourself. Sometimes we all have those days where we are not good enough, or we sell ourselves short because something didn’t work out the way as planned, and we all go through those phases in our lives where we feel the need to put ourselves down and our confidence down because of what the next person has said to you or how the person has said it and were often feel inferior because of it, but in life there are going to be 2 types of people, people who will always criticize you and who will appreciate you and who will be someone who supports you, but never lose yourself over what other people say. It is you in the end who needs to believe in yourself and when you believe in yourself, that is all you need because in order to be happy with yourself and how you are, believing in yourself and your abilities is something a lot more special and great. We must always have faith in everything. I know sometimes we run out of faith, we run out of believing ourselves because something happened, but use whatever discouragement you had into encouragement and encourage yourself, and have self-confidence, that when the going gets tough, keep going and you will find yourself with the path to believing in yourself no matter what happens.

This world has become a tough battle to live in and we have so many personality traits, that we can tolerate and we cannot tolerate, but life is very beautiful and when you look past all the negativity this world has brought to you and when you look past on unfortunate situations, always know that you can be happy again, you can reach for the stars, but you cannot do that until you move forward with life and be happy individuals, live life to the fullest and get going onto bigger better things in life. Everything happens for a reason, everything in life has its purpose. We all in this world have our own paths to walk, we all have our own voyage and journey of how each and everyone of our life stories has an author and you are your own author of life. You need to make your life story and spread it around. Spread around believing in yourself, and then everyone else will follow. Do yourself a favour and spread around belief and make life beautiful for you and for others. Nothing is as special as that. I am sure all of us are criticized for everything no matter what we do. whether its good or bad, but of course we will be judged accordingly no matter what and some will talk when they have no idea of your situation. There are so many things to put into factor when you deal with people all the time, and when you have to make these vital decisions in life. Always know that I believe in you and you matter to the world, no matter how you come into this world. All the best and never stop your path to happy thoughts and beliefs.

The Joyful Moments Of Cooking. How Much I Love It

In my life, one of the most joyful and satisfaction I receive is when I cook, bake and enjoy my time in the kitchen with all my favourite kitchen appliances that make my cooking a lot more enjoyable and fun at the same time. I was 8 years old and I remember cooking rice for the very first time. It was the best feeling in the world when my mom taught me how to wash it and cook it. Now with my mom’s supervision she watched me as I cooked and she said, great job and it was my first time doing it. I got so excited. From then on, I started cooking a lot for my family and then as soon as I turned 14 years old, I did not need supervision anymore, and I could do everything on my own. I learned how to make lasagna, chicken soup, and other different types of food since I was 10 years old. When I turned 20 years old, I began to take over the kitchen and I would tell my mom to go relax, and I told her I got this. So now without my mom being in the kitchen, I do all sorts of dishes, I bake cakes, cupcakes, I make cookies, jello, home-made ice cream, fruit platters, salads, I marinate meats, I make meatballs, Ravioli, Armenian and Middle Eastern Dishes, I make my famous Chilli, different types of breakfast, dips, sauces, and everything, Among other delicious things that my family, and who comes over to my house, that always want seconds and even thirds sometimes. I sometimes think, I should have made extra, but I love it when there is no left overs.  I love making everything from scratch. I seldom go and buy ready-made easy stuff, I enjoy making it all on my own. The best way to make it and you know exactly what is going into your food without all the added calories and ready-made products. Sometimes you see ready-made pasta, and lasagna trays from the grocery store, I never even touch those. I make mine fresh. You never know how long those things have stayed like that. I’d rather do it myself and it is a lot more fun that way.

I remember a time when I invited my whole group of friends over for Armenian Style Ravioli Called (Mante, Manti, Mantuh, Mantee, However they spell it), and the whole extra-large pot finished amongst everyone and to this day, they want my Armenian Style Ravioli, but that day will come again when I will invite them over.  I remember a time when I cooked for over 20-25 people and all on my own. I had over 4 or 5 different dishes with salads, meats, and rice. It was a lot of fun although it was very hard to take it all on myself, but I made sure that the flavours were perfect and that everyone enjoyed it and they sure did. I love taking on big tasks on my own. Although it is great to receive help too, but I like taking on challenges and doing things on my own. especially when it comes to cooking. I don’t know, but I have become a perfectionist in the kitchen and I just love things to be cooked evenly, the sizes and I love the presentation. Even if it’s just for my family on a regular dinner night. I just love the presentation. I get the joys and satisfaction when doing so.

When I go grocery shopping, I also donate food to the less fortunate, and I put food in the food bank boxes that are put in front of grocery stores or in certain shelters, at my church they have food banks and I put a few non-perishable food items in the box. I love donating food to them. Knowing that a family out there who is less fortunate and needy is fed, that also makes me happy and that also makes me feel great that someone doesn’t have to go to bed hungry at night. It feels great to donate.

Food is my specialty and knowing that my family enjoys it and knowing that I made this with my love and care is what it important to me. I don’t cook because I have to everyday and I don’t cook for the sake of it, I actually love doing what I do and making sure my family is fed with the best possible nutrition.  Happy Cooking everyone!