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What Makes You A Stronger Person? How Do You Handle Life?

In my life, I have been through a huge list of unfortunate things that have happened to me where people would be bully me emotionally and mentally, putting me to the curb when not needed anymore, people who have used me for material gain, people who only come to me if they need something from me,  the feeling of being isolated, and being an option to people and not a priority in their lives. I remember all those times and still comes back to haunt me to this day, but things have changed so much for me and for the better. Because of all the anguish and pain I had to endure personally, emotionally and mentally, now I have become a stronger person, I have a whole new pizazz on life, a whole new approach to trusting very few people, choosing my friends wisely, opening up my eyes more and making sure I make the right decisions about hanging out with the right people. Everything in my past that I went through, has shaped who I am today and its made me better in making judgements on who should be in my circle and who should not. I think and I know that I have handled my life wonderfully and I learned a lot from myself and have spent so much time with myself just thinking about life, about what the next step is to further myself in a social aspect of life.

What made me a stronger person is that I look things into a positive perspective, I look at things as a cup that is half full, and no matter what life throws at me, I am always positive in the end. I know it is easier said than done, but being positive is easy, all you have to do is be strong, be who you are, always be yourself, make sure that you surround yourself with positive and great energy throughout your day everyday. When I was heavily bullied as I was in school back in the day, I put into thought that this is just temporary and things will get better and it did get better for me. I am so strong now that nothing or no one can break me. I have learned to stand on my own two feet, I’ve learned and I am still learning to this day. Life is a never ending learning journey. Sometimes things come in our way, but in the end the ball is in your court, but make sure you hit a slam dunk and be strong.

Everything happens for a reason, and people come into your life as a blessing or a lesson and that will determine your strength to move on to bigger and better people and things in life. What shaped me to be stronger is that I cut out negativity, and I always instill in others that they too can do the same, all they have to do is try their best, and do it. I know sometimes it easier said than done as I said, but it will workout in the long run. I know that life is not perfect as we want it to be, and sometimes we get lucky and sometimes we do not get so lucky with how our lives are and have turned out to be and what we went through in the past, but take a look around, be blessed with what you have and who you have become. What have you learned from your past? Have you been a victim of bullying? What did you do to make yourself stronger?

What steps did you take to conquer and defy all the odds? Did you seek for help from others? did you dust yourself off and pick yourself up on your own? Did you tell someone about how you were feeling or are feeling? Always know you are worth it, you are important, you are a unique, special, confident, strong and beautiful person. As long as you know that for yourself, you do not need others to tell you all that. When you know yourself that you are enough and that you are all those great things, that is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. You have those gifts that are so precious. You are a precious human being who came to this earth for a reason, each one of us serves a purpose in our world and we can all make a positive influence, difference and change the world into a stronger and happier place only if we try and do our best no matter what life throws at us. Kindness, Respect and doing great things is the way to go.

Now tell me what has made you stronger? Life is a beautiful gift from God, and its such a lovely thing.  always be strong. Remember what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and somehow struggles become success, and success becomes everything you want your life to be emotionally and mentally. Be positive, be strong, be you, and everything in life will come to place. Just believe in yourself, believe that you can conquer anything and throw negativity away and do not think about what might have been, or what could have happened differently. Keep going. Do not stop. All the best to you, keep smiling, be happy!

Social Media Awareness – T-H-I-N-K – The Acronym That Stood Out

In recent months I have been writing a lot about this subject about social media, and it is one of the biggest hot topics of this day in age and mostly everything is revolved around social media, promotions, advertising, and so much more that we make social media. Nowadays there are clever ways to advertise and get viewership rolling, making photo acronym’s and there are so many quotes out there that makes people think and social media is one of the biggest ones and all to do with success, business and so much more. Now, what stood out to me the most was this great acronym that says, THINK.

Now, before you Tweet, Facebook, Pin It, Tumblr It, text it, send photos, or do anything with Social Media think of this:

T – is it true?

H – is it helpful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – is it necessary?
K – is it kind?

We all want to protect our credibility, reputation and ourselves ultimately and this acronym is something that certain people should be reading and thinking about literally, and ultimately we are responsible for what we post because anybody on the internet can see it, and anybody who searches online for a certain word, phrase or something they can come to your site and you either gain fans or you do not. It all depends on how your portray yourself. It is important to think if it is kind and necessary to post. I feel that social media has gone way out of context of over sharing. How much is too much when it comes to sharing? I have seen twitter messages that people post when they have their bowel movements, they even post what they are doing 24 hours a day. I find that to be way too much information that does not need to be on the internet.

Now with our words are we really moving mountains? Are we inspiring people? Are we helping people in positive and great ways? Is something we post true? I think it is something that is up to us individually on what we want to post, but we should be cautious about what we post and the content. This acronym is something that really has been on my mind for quite some time now and it has put social media in my life into perspective, and it has given me so much inspiration and so much food for thought to share this acronym with those who may or may not have seen or heard about it before. Are we really hurting our future with the material and content we produce online? Remember what you post online is there forever and even if you delete and remove things, it will always be there on the internet database.

Are there things you have seen online that have been terrible and written, drawn, Photoshopped or created a terrible meme about other people? Have you seen blogs, comments, and websites that bully others? The internet can be a great place and sometimes the internet is not such a great place. Also not everything should be taken as a joke. There is a time and place for everything and there is a time for humour, a time for seriousness, but in the end everything has its limitations. It depends on individuals and how they utilize it. Being kind, helpful and inspiring is something that everyone should exercise in always doing. I know sometimes people may not be on the same page about a certain topic, people may not always agree on things, but there is always a pleasant way to handle it, and there are ways to approach things in a great and peaceful manner where then everything will be great in the end. Just simply say “I am going to have to disagree on that, this is how I think about something or this is my feeling or take on it”, or this is what I would have done differently or said something differently. There is no need to use vulgar, profane language to others, where it can be kind and dealt with in a civil manner.

This Acronym has put an everlasting thought in my mind and in my day-to-day blogging and social media life. Has it for you? What is your take on THINK? what is your opinion? I’d love to hear from you.

My Blog Site Is About To Get A Makeover – New Changes To Come

Hello everyone,

Hope all is going well. I am here to announce to you changes coming to my blog in terms of colours, layout and incorporating more pictures in some of the blog articles I write, and among so many other surprises. I will be working on it in the month of May and it should be up within the month. I really enjoy searching on google, tumblr and other sites for positive, inspirational quotes, and I post them up to my Facebook Fanpage for people to see. the following link will have all those and that is mainly where I will be posting positive, happy, clever, cute photos and quotes as well.

If you have Facebook, click on the link, like and join my fanpage so you can get my updates right into your news feed.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/A-Writer-named-Talin-Orfali/161201797312096

I am very excited about all these changes to come your way and I decided it is time to give up the blue Blog I have had for quite some time now and just give it a little boost. It will not change completely, but the changes will be visible and if your are just joining in on my blog and its one of your first times engaging into my blog, I thank you all very much and I thank all of my readers, viewers, fans and those who have searched on Google or anywhere else for me and my blog. It is much appreciated. I love you all very much and you all are very dear and in my heart. Any reader, supporter that comes here is automatically part of my life and part of my family.

Thanks again and I look forward to these changes.

Love Always,

Talin Orfali

 

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It The Most

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that you’re trying to be the hero, you’re trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but you’re not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people who ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? It’s always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try to do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. It’s not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. It’s very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try to see for yourself.

Building A Sense Of Individuality Can Be A Battle in Decision Making

In life I am sure a lot of us have encountered people who always have a problem or an issue with how one individual gets things done, or how they think and feel, and there will always be people who will try to please everyone by always listening to everybody else, and not thinking about what that person really likes. For example, when someone or some people start planning a party, wedding, engagement party, special occasion gathering or just some simple gathering, and you start planning the venue, the colours, theme, music, food, decorations, and all that other stuff, and when it is time for people who are invited that come to the party and after doing your best to make sure people have a great time, there will be people who will always criticize you, and you hear it from other people who you should have done the decorations in another way, more better music, better theme of the party, but you know what, you have to stand up for what you created, the many hours and days and months it took for preparations, for the time you put into it, and having to hear from someone who it wasn’t up to par and being penalized for doing it that way, why didn’t you do this instead? Don’t you just hate that? There will be people who will say, thank you, had a fabulous time, everything was great, and some people will not even compliment the night or whenever the parties are held.

In this world the only impossible thing to achieve is to please everybody, you cannot, and it will never happen where people see eye to eye on things, people will always find something to say, people will always find a way to rain on someone else parade. It is unfortunate how that happens and it can be difficult to build a sense of individuality can be such a battle because a lot of us want approval and a lot of us wait for others to be impressed with you, but you know what, in the end we are all individuals and if we don’t build ourselves some sort of individuality, then everybody will end up being the same person and there is nothing new in the world to see, everyone will end up with the same kind of personality and there won’t be room for growth and a sense of independence.

I always believe that to be yourself, and to do things that you are capable of doing, if you want to have a party and do some event and if you want it to be a certain way, a certain theme, go for it. Nobody has the right to criticize and put any blame or point fingers on how its done and everything. You went out of your way to have this party or gathering to make it a great time and for people to come together and enjoy with each other is what counts right? Some people are so detail oriented and they always have to pinpoint what is wrong and what is right. It shouldn’t be like that. Yes although being detail oriented is good, but there is a limit to everything.

In this life and in my life, I have learned not to let others walk all over me, and tell me what to do with everything. I make my own decisions, and yes I do listen to advice and I do listen to people who give energy to me about something and what and how I should be doing something, but in the end if someone keeps on making decisions for you, then it will be a battle to build a sense of individuality. it is good sometimes to receive advice if you did something wrong or you approached something in a wrong way, or if you did some mistake or whatever, but people should not be on your case and put you on the spot all the time. you know what I mean right? Well, have you been in this situation before? Have you ever been through these problems where people always make a snide comment or tell you in a way not to offend you? What did you feel about how others criticize you?

I’d love to hear from you.

Taking Everything Step By Step To The Top Of The Ladder.

In Life, I strongly believe that when we work hard and to get to where we want to be in life, we must take things step by step to get to the top of the ladder. There is no such thing as starting from the top. Learning the tricks of the trade and doing the best we can in life is what is important. Some of us may not succeed in the beginning, but never give up because you failed, keep doing it and you will see positive and really great results. Put it in your mind that you will do this, talk to yourself, and look at yourself in the mirror every morning and think to yourself, for example: Hi Good morning, My Name is Talin, I am going to do something positive and learn something new today and do the best of my ability and not leave things to do today. I will not leave things for tomorrow, because tomorrow you never know what it brings. when you have the opportunity to do something today, do not leave it for tomorrow. Prioritize your life. what is important first, then you do everything else after. Everything in life takes steps, and sometimes we need to take a few steps back in order to move forward. How will you know when you don’t try? We can’t just take the easy way out and say I give up, I can’t do this. That is not a good way to approach life, and that is a recipe of failure. Giving up and saying I can’t do it. Snap out of that phase and take a look at yourself. You can do everything and anything you want to do. Just keep going and doing something that will benefit you. Why put yourself in that predicament? Why make yourself depressed and put yourself down?

Yes things happen sometimes that are not in our control and things can happen that may prevent us from moving forward to success, but do not let those obstacles get in the way of where you want to be in life. take sometime for yourself, think about what you want to do in life, and spend some quality alone time with you and just brainstorm ideas without disturbance. make a list of things you want to do in your life, whether its traveling to your favourite places, whether its something you want to do with your home, or something for others, helping yourself, helping others. make a positive list and jot down all the ideas you have and things you want to accomplish and put it somewhere in your house where you will constantly see it and go from there. Nothing is more incredible than setting positive goals which can help us in the long run. So think about it and go with the flow.

You can do it, you just have to discipline yourself and snap out of negative thoughts. When negativity takes over, things become dull in life. Don’t do that to yourself. Get up stand up, take can control of your life and don’t give energy to things that don’t matter. That Ladder is not going to climb itself. :) So get on it! get into the groove! Love yourself and do good things for yourself. You will see the big change in your life. Just do it! All the best to you! You have my support and encouragement.

Social Media Awareness – T-H-I-N-K – The Acronym That Stood Out

In recent months I have been writing a lot about this subject about social media, and it is one of the biggest hot topics of this day in age and mostly everything is revolved around social media, promotions, advertising, and so much more that we make social media. Nowadays there are clever ways to advertise and get viewership rolling, making photo acronym’s and there are so many quotes out there that makes people think and social media is one of the biggest ones and all to do with success, business and so much more. Now, what stood out to me the most was this great acronym that says, THINK.

Now, before you Tweet, Facebook, Pin It, Tumblr It, text it, send photos, or do anything with Social Media think of this:

T – is it true?H – is it helpful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – is it necessary?
K – is it kind?

We all want to protect our credibility, reputation and ourselves ultimately and this acronym is something that certain people should be reading and thinking about literally, and ultimately we are responsible for what we post because anybody on the internet can see it, and anybody who searches online for a certain word, phrase or something they can come to your site and you either gain fans or you do not. It all depends on how your portray yourself. It is important to think if it is kind and necessary to post. I feel that social media has gone way out of context of over sharing. How much is too much when it comes to sharing? I have seen twitter messages that people post when they have their bowel movements, they even post what they are doing 24 hours a day. I find that to be way too much information that does not need to be on the internet.

Now with our words are we really moving mountains? Are we inspiring people? Are we helping people in positive and great ways? Is something we post true? I think it is something that is up to us individually on what we want to post, but we should be cautious about what we post and the content. This acronym is something that really has been on my mind for quite some time now and it has put social media in my life into perspective, and it has given me so much inspiration and so much food for thought to share this acronym with those who may or may not have seen or heard about it before. Are we really hurting our future with the material and content we produce online? Remember what you post online is there forever and even if you delete and remove things, it will always be there on the internet database.

Are there things you have seen online that have been terrible and written, drawn, Photoshopped or created a terrible meme about other people? Have you seen blogs, comments, and websites that bully others? The internet can be a great place and sometimes the internet is not such a great place. Also not everything should be taken as a joke. There is a time and place for everything and there is a time for humour, a time for seriousness, but in the end everything has its limitations. It depends on individuals and how they utilize it. Being kind, helpful and inspiring is something that everyone should exercise in always doing. I know sometimes people may not be on the same page about a certain topic, people may not always agree on things, but there is always a pleasant way to handle it, and there are ways to approach things in a great and peaceful manner where then everything will be great in the end. Just simply say “I am going to have to disagree on that, this is how I think about something or this is my feeling or take on it”, or this is what I would have done differently or said something differently. There is no need to use vulgar, profane language to others, where it can be kind and dealt with in a civil manner.

This Acronym has put an everlasting thought in my mind and in my day to day blogging and social media life. Has it for you? What is your take on THINK? what is your opinion? I’d love to hear from you.

 

Rebuilding The Titanic II – Good Idea or Not?

In recent news we may have or not have heard about an Australian billionaire Clive Palmer unveiled that he will be rebuilding the ocean liner ship Titanic that struck an iceberg in the evening hours of April 14 and sunk the early hours of April 15, 1912 over 100 years ago. Clive Palmer is going to rename the ship to Titanic II. He plans to have it completed by 2016 where there will be voyages from England to New York on the ocean liner. Now, we all know by now about the fate of the Titanic and how high and mighty they spoke about the ship and said “even God cannot sink this ship”. Now, the ultimate question is, do you think it is a great idea to rebuild a doomed ship of the past? Or do you think it is not a great idea to rebuild a ship where people would feel eery in going on the vessel?

In my opinion, rebuilding the Titanic II is not such a great idea. I feel that April 14-15, 1912 happened over 100 years ago and The Titanic has been the most popular ship in history and the memory of the souls lost on the ship would be disturbed and I just feel that its enough. God rest the souls of the Titanic who never survived and all those who have died up until recently from the Titanic and who ever sailed her. I think it is time to let this ship rest and keep its memory that way. I don’t feel very comfortable knowing that a replica of the Titanic will soon be sailing on our oceans. I know there are historians and those who are passionate about the Titanic. I was once a huge titanic buff, but not so much anymore in the last several years. I think it is enough and we should honour those souls and what happened that fateful evening with other ways such as prayer, thoughts, and remembering the lives lost even when we didn’t know them. I know Clive Palmer said that it will be a tribute to the men and women of the Titanic, but then again I don’t think it is a wise choice to do that. It is part of our history now and part of the world and resting at the bottom of the ocean floor of the Atlantic. I think by now ocean liners and cruise lines have come a long way with technology and the way ships are built these days.

What are your ideas, opinions and thoughts on this? I’d like to hear from you.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It Most.

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that your trying to be the hero, your trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but your not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people that ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? Its always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try and do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. Its not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. Its very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try and see for yourself.

You Know The Feeling Of What Is Meant To Be & What Isn’t Meant To Be?

Have you ever had the feeling of something that isn’t right to do and go at split moment and sometimes you have this feeling that it is meant to be? Have you been in a situation where you had the feeling where something is meant to be or not meant to be? Last night was a prime example of all this. A few friends and I were gone out and we decided to go to this place a little bit out of our ways and it would take a little more time to get there, then the usual spots we go to for hanging out and have a great time, and then all the carpooling and who is picking up who and how all this is going to be arranging a meet up, didn’t go as smooth as we thought, but then afterwards we all met up at the same place, and decided to go somewhere else. I was thinking in my mind that something prevented us from going and plus the weather was bad with the snow and freezing conditions which made us think twice about going there. I think God protected us from harms way and he made us stay put and be more local. Toronto is such a huge city and it does take a while to get to places, but then again were all thankful that we were all together in one spot in the end and thank goodness for cell phones and communication and critical thinking about what to do at a certain moment. Plus Parking was the other issue in the areas that we were supposed to go to which is a hassle sometimes. That’s why I don’t go to places, that don’t have decent parking. I like to think logically and think about where I go before I go to it and I do extensive research about the parking issue and where it is when I haven’t gone there before. I like to research a lot before I go, so as I am prepared. In the end everything worked out for the better, all of us were safe and sound and everybody went home safely. The place we were going to go to was just not meant to be and I believe that we were saved in a huge way. Something bad could have happened on the road as it was our first real taste of winter and what’s to come, so it really was something out of the ordinary. I truly believe in what is meant to be and what isn’t and last night really sealed the deal. It was quite an adventure, but ended up to be a peaceful, yet beautiful night spent with our loved ones(friends), and woke up this morning feeling great. I truly believe no matter where you go, and no matter what happens, sticking together, and figuring out a game plan and figuring out what to do is something very nice, and deciding as a group and giving ideas is very nice. I love my friends a lot and they mean the world to me. It was a lovely night and I will never forget the experience last night. It was something that really made us think in the end, and I told the group, God is here, God is protecting us. Wish you all the best everyone.

Envisioning My Big Break In The Future – Optimism Is Key To Success

In recent months and within this one year that I have been on WordPress writing blogs and committing myself to a world of writing, and outreaching to the general public of the internet and the world, I began to envision my big break for the plans I have in the future. I have big plans for my life in the next few years and it is important to sort it out and taking extra steps to being initiative in everything. I have time and time again brought up being on Talk shows on Television, I have spoke about getting myself out there and publish my posts to perspective newspaper companies around the globe and I know I can offer a lot and put my cards on the table to get to where I want to be in my life and I believe that each and everyone of us have a passion in life and something that we want to achieve and strive to get on up there with our goals and succeed with everything we have and putting our energy into things we want to excel in. With all that said, optimism is the key to success with an enthusiastic approach, the right attitude, and having the will to do everything in my power to succeed in life.

My passion is ultimately writing, and my passion is to make a difference in the world, getting my gigs on these television talk shows such as Ellen DeGeneres whom I have tremendous respect for, who has such a successful television show and someone whom I have grown fond of for several years now. She is someone I can get along with, and her humor, her personality traits, the way she cares so much for people, the way she helps so many people is something out of this world. When her show finishes, there is a production called, “A Very Good Production” and that is exactly what her show is and it says it all in those 4 words. Meeting her and being on her show would make me the happiest woman in the world. She always talks about bully prevention, she always talks about very important issues in our world, and her monologues are excellently done in a tasteful manner which I absolutely adore with all my heart, mind and soul. She incorporates dancing and getting the audience to dance with her with including them, giving 12 days of giveaways during Christmas and other times during the year. I’d love to one day meet her and get to know her one on one. She is such a beautifully spirited person who touches so many lives and she has touched mine in words, I cannot even express. Thank you Ellen DeGeneres for making life so enjoyable for so many of your fans across the world, thank you for being with us for an hour on Television, for making us laugh, for making us realize the importance of living life to the fullest. I wish Ellen the best with good health and may she smile, laugh and dance always.

There is so much I envision for my life and envisioning on positive and happiness for future is something I really enjoy. I have had a lot of time to myself this past week, and I have been having these scenarios in my mind and dreaming about making it big in the world, and getting myself known out there with good intentions, with the intention of making a big difference in the world with important issues and the prevention of problems in society with bullies, and other serious issues in regards to the well-being of people and the way things are handled. I believe that I can do something good for our world, and I am super confident with my willingness to do my best in society, reach out to those in need of a friend, to those who need someone to talk to, and those who feel lonely to make them feel a part of society and welcoming them to a new world of lovely and friendly people who still exist in our world and there are some really nice people in our world. We just have to look past with what happens and move forward with life.

Envisioning is always a good thing, I do it all the time and now more frequently. I believe and know that all of us can do the same with our lives. Live life the way it is intended and envision everyday. All the best and I wish you nothing but the best.

The Last Time I Checked, This Is My Blog, & I Write About What I Feel

In the last few days I have received a lot of terrible comments from people who are clearly jealous of me and that is fine, and I see jealous written all over their comments, but last time I checked this is my blog where I want to express my feelings and my life, and I like sharing with the world, and I like to talk about my life experiences, and talk about issues of our world. I will not let some insensitive comments ruin me and my mood. I have dealt with too much since I was a kid and I will not let people effect me. I love my supporters, my family, my friends, and my fans. They are the ones who matter to me most. There will be haters, and there will be jealous people all the time and that is fine, be jealous of me, but I will not stoop to those peoples level who try to bring me down, but that is not going to happen. They can run their mouths as far and wide as they can, but that will not get to me, and I can care less about people who give me negativity, and pessimism, all I can say for those people who bring me down, all the best to you, but you will not overpower and dominate me and my feelings.

That is not going to happen. Last time I checked I am human, I make mistakes like the rest do, and I am not perfect and I do not see myself as perfect, but at least I write about important issues of our world especially when it comes to social acceptance, social topics that need addressing and sometimes what I say, the truth definitely hurts and some people do not want to admit it. I have seen my fair share of terrible bullying toward me, I have experienced it all, and I have been through some of the most terrible moments in my life and I don’t expect anybody to understand my feelings about it, because people think they know, but they have no idea until that person is in another persons shoe. I will not let people’s terrible judgement toward me get to my head, because those people who are judging me in a terrible way and writing these comments obviously are jealous and they want to hide behind their computer and say all these nasty and mean things, but in reality they are so insecure of themselves and they feel the need to make fun of others to hide their true self.

Jealousy can do a lot damage, and its not good. I write blogs because I feel good about it, I write blogs because its something I passionate about. I know sometimes my grammar is not all up there, but this is how I feel comfortable writing, this is how I want to express myself, and for the record I did apply for school this coming year for writing and journalism and I got in because I had the top notch grades back in high school and in my first few years of college. I did not let bullies and people who terrorized me get in the middle of my studies. I went to school, got good grades and I did not let stupidity get into my brain while studying. its been almost 10 years since high school and its getting better and better all the time. I do not expect people to understand me, but never judge me until you really know me. Yes you get to know me and my ideas and thoughts through my blog, but that does not justify anything. Internet and meeting someone in person is a whole different ball game.

So please the next time someone decides to write a negative thought, think before you write, you can do a lot of damage to someone who has been through a lot of terrorizing and being bullied most of my younger life. People do not understand that. I am not trying to offend anyone, but really last time I checked its my blog and I write what I want to express on what is happening. I do read a lot online and I do go out in the real world, and I have a big social life and I see everything that goes on, I see the way humanity has become, and I see the way people carry themselves out, and I blog accordingly.

Blogging is what I am passionate about and I make it a goal to write everything, I am not letting derogatory, insensitive, and negative comments destroy my dreams and what I love doing.

 

Spending Some Alone Time With Yourself, Is Very Good For You.

Hello everyone, today I want to write about my point of views on spending alone time with yourself, and I believe it is very good for you. I spend a lot of alone time whether its in the car driving, or just walking around, going to the mall, and just relaxing and thinking about life and everyone in it. I believe that when I spend alone time with myself, I discover new things about myself, I create new recipes from the top of my head to cook dinner for my family, I think about life decisions, and how things progress in life. I remember when I went out and got some food to eat, and I was just alone and reflecting on my life and where I have got to so far. Yes its great to surround yourself with people all the time, but someday you need to just unwind, clear your mind and relax without interruption and without people around you. I do it a lot.

besides all of that, I do a lot of thinking for the future, and I make plans. I know sometimes when you make plans, it doesn’t go through, but I like making plans in case things go right and when things get on track with life, it is awesome. I love making plans because that prepares me and keeps me organized. I did so much to my room and decor and organizing and making sure things are neat, tidy and where I can find things easily. I spend a lot of time in my room thinking of ways to always improve my living space with how I want my belongings to be, what I want as decor and among other things and places around the house. before bed, I think about so many things and most of it are happy things, and serious things too. I know that life is too short and that we cannot take everything so seriously, but sometimes we have to take measures into our hands and think about serious things. Life can make you or break you and it is a very tricky world we live in, so we have to always have back up plans in life, in case something doesn’t pan out, there is something else to fall into. The more you wait for your future, the shorter it will be. So when you are young, you have to think of all these scenarios.

You work hard when you’re young, so that in future it will be easy. It is all up to a person’s individuality and what we can become of it. We can shoot for the stars, the sky is the limit. I cannot stress how important alone time really is. When you are around so many people all the time and just keep on going out, there is no time for you, there is no time for your life and what you decide and think about. I know a lot of thinking is not good for you either, but always remember, that alone time you spend with yourself, the better you will be and you will discover your personality traits, you will discover how you portray yourself among other important traits that are so critically important. always know that you create your own destiny and you create your own masterpiece of life. You can do it. Remember Rome was not built in a day, to this day the world is changing, people are changing, new people are born everyday, and everyday people die, but it is the cycle of the world and we must discover ourselves. It is very important. So think about it and do something positive for you everyday, and remember to always be happy. Optimism and good thinking habits, will conquer the rest. Take my advice and you will see the difference. All the best to you.

Taking Everything Step By Step To The Top Of The Ladder.

In Life, I strongly believe that when we work hard and to get to where we want to be in life, we must take things step by step to get to the top of the ladder. There is no such thing as starting from the top. Learning the tricks of the trade and doing the best we can in life is what is important. Some of us may not succeed in the beginning, but never give up because you failed, keep doing it and you will see positive and really great results. Put it in your mind that you will do this, talk to yourself, and look at yourself in the mirror every morning and think to yourself, for example: Hi Good morning, My Name is Talin, I am going to do something positive and learn something new today and do the best of my ability and not leave things to do today. I will not leave things for tomorrow, because tomorrow you never know what it brings. when you have the opportunity to do something today, do not leave it for tomorrow. Prioritize your life. what is important first, then you do everything else after. Everything in life takes steps, and sometimes we need to take a few steps back in order to move forward. How will you know when you don’t try? We can’t just take the easy way out and say I give up, I can’t do this. That is not a good way to approach life, and that is a recipe of failure. Giving up and saying I can’t do it. Snap out of that phase and take a look at yourself. You can do everything and anything you want to do. Just keep going and doing something that will benefit you. Why put yourself in that predicament? Why make yourself depressed and put yourself down?

Yes things happen sometimes that are not in our control and things can happen that may prevent us from moving forward to success, but do not let those obstacles get in the way of where you want to be in life. take sometime for yourself, think about what you want to do in life, and spend some quality alone time with you and just brainstorm ideas without disturbance. make a list of things you want to do in your life, whether its traveling to your favourite places, whether its something you want to do with your home, or something for others, helping yourself, helping others. make a positive list and jot down all the ideas you have and things you want to accomplish and put it somewhere in your house where you will constantly see it and go from there. Nothing is more incredible than setting positive goals which can help us in the long run. So think about it and go with the flow.

You can do it, you just have to discipline yourself and snap out of negative thoughts. When negativity takes over, things become dull in life. Don’t do that to yourself. Get up stand up, take can control of your life and don’t give energy to things that don’t matter. That Ladder is not going to climb itself. :) So get on it! get into the groove! Love yourself and do good things for yourself. You will see the big change in your life. Just do it! All the best to you! You have my support and encouragement. :)

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It Most.

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that your trying to be the hero, your trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but your not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people that ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? Its always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try and do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. Its not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. Its very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try and see for yourself.