Those Who Gossip To You, Will Probably Be Doing The Same About You Too! Be Careful

There have been numerous amounts of times where people would gossip to you about someone or some people and in a terrible way and they like to spread rumours and make up things that are not true about that person and make assumptions. Have you been in a situation where someone would gossip everything about other people? I am sure most of us have. Have you heard that behind your back that person who gossiped to you, did the same about you too to others? It is terrible. I wish some people would stop doing that about other people. It is not nice to gossip and talk poorly about someone behind their backs. If you do not hear it from the source, it’s not a good idea to create and make up stories when it is not even true. Some people spend so much time making a federal case about other people, that they don’t care if it hurts them. Trash talking about that person behind their back and then being sweet, and nice with them in their face is not a very nice thing to do.

Backstabbers and Fake people who give face to you and who are nice to you and then all of a sudden you hear that, the person whom you thought you can trust has spread terrible lies about you and does everything in their power to destroy your good name. I find that to be such a terrible thing to go through. I have had that happen to me numerous amount of times. What goes around comes around. When a rumour, or some sort of stupidity gets spread around, it will always come back to the person who these terrible things have been said about. A lot of people do not know how terrible this is and it is not fair to that person. This plays a role in jealousy and jealousy can do so many things. Gossiping is a terrible thing to do no matter what. Sometimes people need to mind their own business and look in the mirror before they judge other people or talk about them. In Today’s world trusting people, confiding in people, telling someone something very personal is something that not a lot of people can do anymore, because when you request and ask someone to keep it a secret and they don’t and spread it around, it is not a good thing.

Some people spread and talk for the sake of talking about anything about others just to satisfy their jealousy urges. This situation can make you or break you. As soon as you make new friends, don’t assume that they are trustworthy, test out your friends, don’t talk about personal issues, don’t talk too much about your life, but talk in general terms, and once you start to get to know them and you build your trust, then just maybe you can tell them, but then again you cannot be to careful with the information you transmit to them. Keep very personal things within the family, and do not transmit every bit of information to your friends. Someone who is true to you will always keep your secrets, someone who is true to you will never gossip, spread lies and do terrible things because when you’re a true friend to someone its expected that you are honest and forthright about situations and when things happen you tell your friends on the spot. Don’t be afraid if you disagree on a few things, it helps build your friendship stronger and you work it out.

the bottom line is to never gossip, spread rumours and make up stories about others. It’s not nice at all. I am sure that if the roles were reversed, it wouldn’t be a nice feeling. Nowadays, I am not too trusting and I don’t give in easily. I always think with my mind and then with my heart. This day in age the Heart can be fooled easily on the people to hang out with and its a soft spot where people become blinded, naive and soft, but nowadays you have to stand tough, you have to say no once in a while, you have to think twice and three times before jumping into friendships and relationships. It is important to keep those things in mind. Not everyone you meet will be your friend, chances are some friends can say the most terrible things about you behind your back…. WELL, So called friends, fake friends. you do not need them in your life.

Move forward and find people who actually care about you and who actually want the best for you.Not those who spread rumours and gossip. Stay far away from them as possible. I am saying all this from experience of others doing that to me, and it is not pleasant. I am just watching out for all of you because I care so much about all of you. All the best to you.

Being Yourself Is The Best Thing You Can Wear

Today, I was having a conversation with myself and usually I have conversations with myself from time to time when I am busy with cleaning the house, cooking, doing laundry, and just taking time for myself and discovering new things, new thoughts about myself, and I came to a discovery about something very clever and something to think about. I have always told people to always be themselves, and there is nothing better than being who you are and not being somebody you aren’t.There is nothing in the world more rewarding than that. People sometimes get distracted, discouraged to being who they are and things happen in life to them that make them feel that being ones self is something they don’t want to do because of something they have been through, a traumatic experience, but let me assure you, being yourself is something that you should only possess. If you possess anybody else personality, then where do you stand in the world? You were born to stand out and lead. If you keep on being like everybody else, then there is nothing new to see.

Don’t try so hard to fit in, don’t try so hard to impress others. Look in the mirror everyday and smile. Say I am me, I am who I am, and I came to this world like this and I am proud and happy of me. Don’t let others dictate your life and who you are, don’t let others tell you what to be, don’t let others make your life decisions for you, don’t let others pressure you into doing things you do not want to do. We all have a voice, we all have a choice, but being yourself should always be your first and only choice. Have people in your life that will appreciate you for you, and have people in your life that will support you and your decisions, who will back you up, who will guide you through, but at the same time not keep telling you what to do. You can only do so much for people, but in the end everyone has their own lives to live. Some people may take longer than others to adapt into society, some people may take longer or shorter time to do things, and to get things going in life, but in the end you are you, and everyone has their own journey of life. You have to be patient with people. Sometimes you may not know the path they are walking and what they have been through to get to those paths and walking in their shoes.

It is easy to talk and put so many things in other people’s minds and tell them and advise them, but sometimes you have to let someone discover things on their own. You can only tell someone so much, but then after the ball is in their court and its up to them how they want to control that field, but always be yourself in the process, and always dress for success. When you are yourself, when you are honest, and don’t lie to yourself or anybody else, that is the best way to dress for life. Dressing to be yourself is the best outfit you can ever wear more than anything else in the world.

Today, I came with a new twist on this topic and I was also thinking about a movie I watched with Hillary Duff, Regina King, and a few other actors in the movie, but I forgot what the movie was called. Anyway, when at the end of the movie Hillary Duff asked her friend, what are you wearing today? Her friend said, Myself. That was something that has been on my mind today and I decided to write about it today. It is true what was said is to always wear who you are 24/7 365 days a year and never letting negative influence deter you away from who you are. So I had a conversation similar to the movie I watched last night. It goes a little something like this:

Person #1: What are you dressed as today?
Person #2: Myself
Person #1: Well, that is the best thing you can wear.
Person #2: There is nothing better than being myself
Person #1: I totally agree. I really like that look on you.
Person #2: Thanks. I will wear it everyday 24/7 365 days a year.

I really believe in that and so should everybody else. Be yourself, and you will see the difference the world makes. Smile, be happy with you and don’t try to be someone you aren’t. All the best to you.

Don’t Be Discouraged – Always Look Forward

In life when were going through life, a lot of people if not all people want to be a number of things when they grow up, they have ambitions, dreams, and talents. Everyone has different skills, needs, qualities, potential, and personal goals to attain and fulfill in life. Unfortunately some do not get to enjoy, fulfill and succeed in life because their lives were cut short and its a terrible thing.  Everyone has great qualities about themselves, and sometimes some peoples progress, and going to the next step takes a lot longer than others, but never be and let others discourage on how slow a progress you are making. At least you have continual progress that is not stopping and you are trying your best and doing your best. Always look forward in life. I know things in life happen without you least expecting it, traumatic and tragic things can happen in ones life, but never let that be a discouragement . The sign of failure means that you are trying. Nobody is a failure. You might fail at doing somethings, but never make that into a weakness. Make it something that you can work on more harder and if at first you do not succeed, try it again and again. Never stop. Failure means success in the long run. Just remember that.

Remember if people are trying to bring you down, that only means you are above them and if people are spending so much time talking about you, talking to you, talking about your weaknesses, putting you lower, and not trying anything to put your spirits up, and not encouraging you that means that they are not true friends at all, that means that they are only trying to hide their failures and flaws about them and not sharing it. In the end everyone has their own pace, their own time to learn, to grow, to experiment, to experience and to succeed. You can do anything you put your mind to, and never be discouraged. Things always happen and come up in life, but never lose sight of your dreams and all the plans you look forward to in the future. It is always great to make plans while you are living day to day.

Never lose yourself, don’t listen to negative people, don’t ever let anybody always try to find faults and things wrong about you, do not give anybody the satisfaction of pessimism. Be optimistic, be ambitious, keep dreaming, keep working on attaining your goals. It might take longer than others but hey at least you are getting there, at least your not stopping for anybody or anything. It is the worst thing you can do for yourself is to let others walk all over you and to mess with you. Never do that. Before others judge, and say things to you out of turn or give you advice, but the wrong type, let them look at themselves in the mirror, let them focus on themselves before pointing fingers, and being judgmental. In my previous blog, I was talking about being strong, and surround yourself with positive and great people who will encourage you, who will lift you up.

encouraging, confidence boosters, kind, nice, sweet, positivity, optimism these are the things you should surround yourself with, and never let anyone tell you, you cannot do it, because you can do it. Everything is possible in life, but unfortunately satisfying everyone is just the only impossible thing in the world. In the end you know who you are, you know what you are capable of, you know your limitations, you know yourself the best, you are your individual person. Keep your head up high, lift yourself up, and never sell yourself short and put yourself down. Keep smiling, and all the very best to you. Lastly, Do not ever be discouraged!

How I Overcame Bullies How It Changed My Life Forever For The Better

Hello Everyone, due to popular demand and many people asking me about my previous posts on bullies and how people bullied me a lot, and how I overcame those hardships in my life, what I did to stay afloat in life, what measures I took to look past those bullies and make a positive and optimistic life for myself with happiness and joy all around me after many years of suffering this terrible ordeal I had to face when I was going to elementary and high school. Today, I am going to talk to you about all that, about what changes I made to get past the pain I had to endure when I was a child and a teenager. My readers questions mean the world to me, and I will do my best to answer each one of them as fast as I can, but today I thought I would address this topic to everyone as it is important for those who have been victims of bullies, and to restore faith back into humanity to move forward in life. Well, without further do, here is how I overcame and moved past those terrible times of my life, I will be interviewing myself.

What did you do to overcome your bullies?

After graduating high school I realized, that life was just beginning and that I was going to go onto bigger and better things in my life, and I was right. I started joining committees in My Armenian Community, I began to write, I started traveling more with the Armenian youth whom I made friends with at church, I began to participate in more Armenian church events, I began to go out more and those became a positive enforcement in my life and I had the time of my life, probably the most fun I have ever had in my life in regards to social events with people and just getting out there. I began doing secretarial and communications for my committees I was part of with Armenian Church Youth Organization of Canada ACYOC, among Bible study, and the appointed me because I was getting pretty good at communications and promoting. I then went onto make flyers and doing so many things for different events around the church, attending camping trips and sports weekends across Canada all the way to Vancouver, British Columbia, Montreal, Ottawa, and beyond. So I had the pleasure and privilege to travel there with my lovely youth. From then on, I knew my life changed forever and I began to have friends and I overcame all those struggles within a couple of years after high school.

Since Joining Facebook, Have you made any social interactions with people online and in reality?

I remember joining facebook back in 2006 and It was exciting being part of a social network with Armenian friends and my family who had told me about it, and I decided I join, and it was the best decision that I made. I have been using it until this present time, and I have met incredible and wonderful people there from all parts of the world, and had the pleasure of meeting my facebook friends within the past 3-4 years. Especially last year and this year recently this summer. It was a beautiful encounter and that made my bullies disappear from my mind and things started to fall into place and things got better for me. I smile, I laugh more, and I have reached my peak of happiness because of the positive reinforcement from my lovely friends I had met. Especially from a radio station based out of California called RADIO AGA. I thank that radio station everyday for giving me back my life’s happiness especially getting together with friends from the many miles. I will forever be grateful.

What advice do you have for those who are being bullied right now?

I know in my heart that, it is one of the most difficult, and terrible things a person can go through no matter what age, and I do believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel always. I know for a fact, that things are going to work out and get better for you. All you have to do is think of happy thoughts and move forward. I know it is easier said than done, but always know that you are not alone, nobody is alone when those are being bullied. I went through terrible ordeals and situations, but those situations made me stronger, and today I am doing so well, and I am so happy with who I have become. I sort of want to thank my bullies, because now I am stronger than I ever was before and they gave me that boost to stand up for myself and be tough in this world in terms of knowing the type of people in this world and knowing who to trust or not. Don’t worry, there is always a way and you will overcome your bullies like I did. All it takes is a little patience to get out of that phase and get onto newer things in life. Things will turn around for you and you will be better than ever. Just have faith.

I truly believe there are great people out there and sometimes it is hard to find those great people, but I do believe in humanity all over again and I had mixed feelings for the past couple of months, but then again, I realize that life is what you make it and life will always have ups and downs and there will be people we like and don’t like, there will be people unfortunately who are not on the same page as you and who understand you, I guess that is how the world works unfortunately, but all I know is, I am happy, doing well, optimistic, positive, and a lot better than what was going on with me when I was a child up until my teenage years. No more sadness, no more tears, those bullies have left my station, never to return because there is a sign called no trespassing. All the best to everyone!

Social Media Awareness – T-H-I-N-K – The Acronym That Stood Out

In recent months I have been writing a lot about this subject about social media, and it is one of the biggest hot topics of this day in age and mostly everything is revolved around social media, promotions, advertising, and so much more that we make social media. Nowadays there are clever ways to advertise and get viewership rolling, making photo acronym’s and there are so many quotes out there that makes people think and social media is one of the biggest ones and all to do with success, business and so much more. Now, what stood out to me the most was this great acronym that says, THINK.

Now, before you Tweet, Facebook, Pin It, Tumblr It, text it, send photos, or do anything with Social Media think of this:

T – is it true?

H – is it helpful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – is it necessary?
K – is it kind?

We all want to protect our credibility, reputation and ourselves ultimately and this acronym is something that certain people should be reading and thinking about literally, and ultimately we are responsible for what we post because anybody on the internet can see it, and anybody who searches online for a certain word, phrase or something they can come to your site and you either gain fans or you do not. It all depends on how your portray yourself. It is important to think if it is kind and necessary to post. I feel that social media has gone way out of context of over sharing. How much is too much when it comes to sharing? I have seen twitter messages that people post when they have their bowel movements, they even post what they are doing 24 hours a day. I find that to be way too much information that does not need to be on the internet.

Now with our words are we really moving mountains? Are we inspiring people? Are we helping people in positive and great ways? Is something we post true? I think it is something that is up to us individually on what we want to post, but we should be cautious about what we post and the content. This acronym is something that really has been on my mind for quite some time now and it has put social media in my life into perspective, and it has given me so much inspiration and so much food for thought to share this acronym with those who may or may not have seen or heard about it before. Are we really hurting our future with the material and content we produce online? Remember what you post online is there forever and even if you delete and remove things, it will always be there on the internet database.

Are there things you have seen online that have been terrible and written, drawn, Photoshopped or created a terrible meme about other people? Have you seen blogs, comments, and websites that bully others? The internet can be a great place and sometimes the internet is not such a great place. Also not everything should be taken as a joke. There is a time and place for everything and there is a time for humour, a time for seriousness, but in the end everything has its limitations. It depends on individuals and how they utilize it. Being kind, helpful and inspiring is something that everyone should exercise in always doing. I know sometimes people may not be on the same page about a certain topic, people may not always agree on things, but there is always a pleasant way to handle it, and there are ways to approach things in a great and peaceful manner where then everything will be great in the end. Just simply say “I am going to have to disagree on that, this is how I think about something or this is my feeling or take on it”, or this is what I would have done differently or said something differently. There is no need to use vulgar, profane language to others, where it can be kind and dealt with in a civil manner.

This Acronym has put an everlasting thought in my mind and in my day-to-day blogging and social media life. Has it for you? What is your take on THINK? what is your opinion? I’d love to hear from you.

I Am Back Everybody! I Have Missed You All!

Hello Everyone,

I hope all is well with everyone, I haven’t posted on WordPress for a few days now, and I apologize for not being able to. A lot of new things have been happening in my life and its become a lot more busier then it was before, but I can assure you, that I will not be missing another day of blogging again after today. I am going to make sure I have something written in my blog everyday. I will take more time to do what I love to do and its writing and blogging and being involved in social media and interacting with everybody. On top of my life becoming so busy, I had the most terrible cold I have ever had in my life. It was quite scary because I could not even get out of bed, but now I am feeling a lot better and I am able to go on with my day, duties, responsibilities and more. A few of my fans have messaged me privately asking me if I was okay and everything and they were really worried. I am great. No worries. Thank you for asking and being concerned. All the best to you all. Now I am back and getting back into the swing of things, being updated, and checking my e-mails, and getting back into the social media world, catching up on news and everything. Now if you would like to see me discuss, talk and write about any topic, subject, issue or anything, please feel free to write your suggestions and I will keep a list of things to talk about, and I will write about it. Thanks again, and all the best to you all.

It is Important to Stand For What Is Right, & Take The Side That is Right

In My life, I have always learned about doing the right thing, and stand for what is right in the world, whether it’s a personal issue, being in society, in my community or whatever the case maybe. Before I jump in any opportunity or situation, I always think twice. Is it right? Is it not right? In the end the decision is in my court, but I always try to see things to be right. In a lot of cases, when people ask me for advice, and when people come to me to ask me is this the right way to do something? or is it right to be around people like this or that? 99.9% of the time, people come back to me and tell me, Talin you are so right about it, or Talin thank you for your advice, it worked really well. The other .01% that I did leave out was due to the other persons actions and words that I gave advice to. will that person listen and carry out the advice I gave him or her? It is always a wonder, but usually I get feedback all the time.

I strongly believe in standing for what is right, even if it means standing alone. I really like this quote a lot. You will know instantly. It is your gut instinct. If your gut instinct tells you to do it, do it, but if it is wrong, you always have to think with your mind before you can even think about something with your heart. These days the mind comes before the heart. When people think with their heart, sometimes it comes out to be the total opposite of what they were imagining a situation to be whether its something to do with a relationship, or anything else of that sort. I truly believe that when people think with their minds, the outcome is always better. The society has become such a thing that you have to be very careful of who you trust and you have to over-analyze and observe people before jumping into a friendship, relationship and companionship. It is very important not to jump into those ships too quickly because in the end it can make you or break you. I cannot stress how important it is to protect yourself at all times. Your emotional, mental and physical safety is very important. Yes although thinking with your heart is really an awesome thing to do, but these days you must think with your mind. I cannot put it any clearer than that. You have to make wise decisions about any situation you are in.

If people do not understand why you always want to do the right thing and when people leave you standing alone, it means that those people who leave you standing alone aren’t who they say they are, and they are not the true people you once thought you can trust and be around with. When you do something right and stand by the right side of things and when people stay with you, they are definitely keepers and then you will know exactly who is true and who is not. I know sometimes doing the right thing can be a wrong approach, but you did what you had to do, but always remember there are two sides to every story, but you have to be the one to judge if it is wrong or right. Keep an open mind, but close your heart unless it’s for the right person, people. Keep analyzing, keep on observing, keep on questioning. There is nothing wrong with that. Just protect yourself and life will go right.

Social Media & Networking – How Communications Has Advanced

In Recent years the internet has become the biggest communication hub of the world and news, photos, videos, information, history, various topics, and blogs are transmitted around the world in an instant and it has advanced far more than television in itself. I am sure there are still people who get their news from the newspaper and television, but now majority of us receive e-mails, go on news websites and etc… Social Networking has been booming a lot since Myspace, Hi5, Asian Avenue, Migente, Black Planet, Bebo, were very popular, and now Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, Tumblr, and all those other Social Networking websites that has given communications quite the boost with reconnecting with friends from back in the day, school mates, meeting people around the world, spending time on the internet with so many hubs of communication. In about a couple of weeks from now, I will be attending a social media, Social networking conference and discussion evening, and there will be a lot of information that is going to benefit me and my friends who will also attend. It is very good to have these discussions as now, everything almost revolves around the internet and communications, so you could really learn a lot. There will also be talks about effective blogging, how to blog, The ins and outs of social media. Networking is super important these days. Businesses use facebook, linkedin, pinterest, and twitter to advertise, and to gain customers and clients. Now a lot of companies have facebook as their official website as almost one billion people over the world are on facebook, and that is a huge number and the numbers are increasing by day. Thank you to Mark Zuckerberg and his team for giving us a great communications tool.

Every time I hear about Social Media and Networking, I get excited because it is surely my cup of tea and I really enjoy this subject very much. It has that professionalism to it and yet its a fun subject to share and raise awareness about it. Now, that blogging websites are up, now that its become easy for us all to advertise and to share with the world, who we are, what we do, and where we come from, It is nice to share with the world, and gain knowledge, understanding, and to share opinions. I know that each blogger and each person who writes has a purpose and I know everyone does something for a reason. When you are passionate about something and when you feel the need to share who you are, your strengths, your talents, and the way you portray yourself, is something so great. You don’t want to hide behind closed doors all your life and not share who you are, and what your talents are or else you will waste your talent and you will waste away the time and that is not good. Now that social networking, communications, social media, society has made is simple for people to get out there and show to the world who you are, then its time to get out there and show yourself and show who you are. I know were always afraid to overshare things, but that is what social networking is and do not be afraid to show yourself to the world, and what you are capable of doing. Social networking is a big subject and it can be summarized in so many ways. As long as you know what you’re doing and as long as you are safe about it, go ahead and do it.

Communications has advanced so much that, within seconds information is transmitted and received by so many people using the internet day in and day out. It has become part of life and growth of many things. Create a LinkedIn Profile, Create a Twitter handle, Create A Pinterest Account. Get in on the action, make some noise, make yourself heard, advance yourself in the world, make your name well-known, enjoy your blog, enjoy writing, enjoy social networking and media. It is a great thing. Thinking about it in a negative way is not so good. I know too much of it isn’t good either and nothing beats being outside in actual society to be social, but this is also great too. You can meet so many people, and the sky is the limit. When you have networking and when someone sees you online and are interested, you have it made and it is the greatest feeling ever to be discovered by so many people across all continents like it has for me. Do not be afraid to dot your I’s and cross your T’s and don’t be afraid to write what you feel, and make it a goal to write everyday or when you can, and be committed to it.

I love what I do, I love social networking, I love blogging, blogging is so therapeutic for me and every passing day I learn so many new things from people who comment, from the internet, and I learn a lot about my capabilities, abilities, and about myself and my strengths. I blog because I love it and I blog because I like making a difference in the world and I have my own purpose in life to improve everyday on my blogging and writing skills as we all are. I am learning from my mistakes and that is how you do learn. Never lose faith on Social networking and involve yourself with great things, persevere to great lengths to succeed, to make a difference, to get out there in the world and do the best you can and you will see the progress you will make. Impacting society in a positive and great way is a sign of success and a sign of happy times to come. So enjoy it and appreciate social media.

All the best and enjoy this journey.

Blogging is Great – What Do You Use It For?

On the internet there are several hundreds of thousands of blogs that are written with many subjects, topics, issues, hobbies, interests, health, wealth, business, technology and so much more. Blogging is a great way to express ones thoughts, feelings, introduce a person, products, or other things, and share with the world the content we want to whether they are success stories, whether they talk about a persons personal health issues, or something along the lines of everything we want a blog to be. You don’t have to write a big story everyday, it can be anything you want it to be, but also keep in mind that to be careful what you post. As long as it is something that does not offend or target one person, and make the reader feel that you are generalizing, then that is the way to go. Blogging is something great and I congratulate those who have them. It is something so great to see and I love reading blogs, and I enjoy learning so much from so many people. It makes the world go around.

I am so glad to see people engaging into social media and blogging is one of them where you can actually read and feel a persons life and persons opinions, suggestions, and advice they give to people who are looking for the information they want to. What do you use blogging for? What are your thoughts on blogging? Why is it so important to you?  Blogging is a great way for communication and for people to take what they have off their chest and their backs to just go on and write about it and share it to the world. I do it all the time and it feels great to do it. What are you accomplishing by blogging everyday or whenever possible? I am sure all of us have our own reasons, personal reasons, to raise awareness on issues and things and whatever we want them to be right? I guess it depends on it person by person. I love it when I see so many people, meet so many people and just enjoy this world of social media we live in. I bet without social media and communications that are instant these days, we wouldn’t be communicating with people from all continents.

The internet and blogging has made the world smaller and made social media and communicating a whole lot easier. It is a great tool to work with and its a great world out there with so many different people with difference of opinions and suggestions and advice.  I wish you all the best and keep on blogging

Just Because You Have A Bad Day, Doesn’t Mean Your Life Is.

I recently saw a really interesting picture quote saying “Just Because You have a bad day, doesn’t mean you have a bad life”. I really like that quote so much. Life will always have its ups and downs and we cannot control that. Life will bring happiness, disappointments, frustrations, confusions, misunderstanding, jealousy, fortune, fortunate situations, unfortunate situations, different feelings, emotions, bad days, good days, you name it. I think it is very important to realize that just because you have a bad day, don’t go around saying you have a bad life and your life is not going to get any better, bad things always happen to me, the wrong people always come around me, I am always stuck in a middle of a bad situation, My life is gone to the drain. These things should not be even said. Life is here for a purpose, you are here for a reason on this earth. You were not put on earth for no reason. God chose you.

Life is an incredible and wonderful thing. Life is beautiful only if you make it beautiful. Never ever under-estimate your life. Life is a great thing. Believe in me when I say this, just because something is not happening for you right now, it does not mean it ever will. You have to be patient. There is a right time for everything and there is a time for everything in life in balancing work, school, family, friends, community outreach programs, outings, parties, vacations, house work, cooking, and much more. Never say you have a terrible life. It is all in your mind. It is mind over matter and matter over mind. Never look at life as a glass half empty. Always look at it half full.

Tumblr is such a great tool and it helps me so much to find clever and incredible quote pictures and sayings. This one really hit me hard and I had to address this situation as I have heard people around me many times saying they have a bad life, and that Life really sucks and everything. Life does not suck. It is all just an illusion in your mind for you to think that way. Never think that way because when you think in a certain way about something it will always mean it that way to you. Do not think so much about it. Life is a great gift. We go to sleep, we wake up and were alive is all that matters. Life is a precious thing. It is all in the way you look at it. Never ever sell yourself short on anything and especially about what you think of what your life is. Where is that positive vibe? Use positivity everyday in your life and use that energy. It will take you places in life. If your too negative and always telling people about how bad your life is, it will not get you far.

Just wake up every morning and keep smiling and be happy your alive and kicking. Life is about waking up in the morning being amazing and positive during the day and going back to bed. Remember some people do not get another day. everyday is a second chance. Keep up your chin, keep your head up high, aim high, stand tall and keep on going!

Reading Reviews Online – Some Can Be True or False

Do you often read reviews and do your research online before you travel, buy products, call a certain service company, and other goods and services? Nowadays there are people who plague the internet with fake reviews and falsifying information with different usernames and post reviews from unknown areas, and we should be careful when reading reviews. Some people get paid to write them, some people who have never even traveled or experienced a product or something, they try and find review sites and go with what other people are saying and they do research online before writing a review and some are so good with their craft of fooling people that you do not know the difference between fake or real.

There are ways to detect a fake review. If people exaggerate too much, drag on, and come up with very strange usernames and the way people write. You have to really read between the lines. To me personally I do not trust online reviews and I barely and rarely even read them, why? because in the end everyone is entitled to their own opinions, and I would rather go experience something on my own or when I buy a product to experience it and to try it for myself. If I am going to listen to every person, and read all these reviews, I won’t go anywhere, I won’t try anything. It is so important to try and stay away from reviews. You don’t know if you are reading a real or fake one. Some you cannot even detect on it because they wrote it so well. Some get paid and some go over the top because they are asked to. Some are so good at what they do and they persuade you so much, and do you often read online testimonials? A lot of these reviews come from a lot of researchers online, there are people who do all sorts of things to get some money, but I think it is wrong to give false reviews, and praising companies that should not even exist, and praising and giving a good name to places that should not even be in our world, but they are and they fool people with false advertising.

Have you ever been a victim of it? Do you read reviews and determine whether or not to purchase or to fly anywhere or to go to a resort or hotel? Do you believe in everything you read on review sites? I personally don’t and I don’t take them seriously. Yes although some can be real by individuals who write it, but in my opinion, I would steer away from those things. I am a person who likes to experience and give my own opinion, rather than listening to so many others who can be lying about something. Remember the internet can be misleading, it can be misinterpreted and so many people can understand things differently. I guess that is how it is in this life right? Prevent yourself from being fooled and just try it and experience it for yourself. There is nothing wrong in that. All the best to you.

Where is The Kindness Anymore? I Can’t Seem To Find It

A Week ago my great friends and I were planning what to do this weekend and make it a girls night out that we hadn’t done in a while, and so we decided to go see a movie called “Identity Thief” with Melissa McCarthy and it was such a funny movie, and then we decided to go to a restaurant and just have some fun, relax, talk and catch up with each other. It was such a beautiful night, where I just relaxed, enjoyed, had a great laugh, basically what I needed tonight to be with my beautiful people.

Now, as we sat down, we ordered off the menu, got our meals,  had our meals, and just talked This elderly man was getting out of the restrooms very slowly and was frail and we were situated in a way where we couldn’t go and assist him, and so basically these 2 young men they looked like they were in their thirties or something, were walking behind him and they would not even bother to assist this elderly man to his table, and so that really started to upset me, but I just didn’t show it, but I just felt so helpless because I couldn’t really get out to help and plus it was crowded a bit, but these 2 men should have helped him, and so this waitress came to aid and to assist him and the other two men took off and just did their own thing. It was quite upsetting and in my mind I said, where is the kindness anymore? Where are peoples etiquette and thoughtfulness? Things like this get me emotional and I don’t do well with people not being friendly, helpful and unkind to others, and not assisting people like this elderly man. It just didn’t sit well with me tonight. I barely see kindness anymore and cannot seem to find it. It is so rare. I just cannot take it anymore for real. I am just disgusted at this society so much. I am so turned off. How people be so thoughtless, unkind, unfriendly, unwilling to help? How can people be so cruel to others and not give a care? It is beyond me. There is no excuse for behavior like that.

It totally ruined my mind set afterwards, but then I was just having fun with my great friends, and I just didn’t want to ruin the night by that, but then again it effected me. When I see things like this it just upsets me so much. Kindness is so rare these days it is like a super power that some do have. I am not saying that everyone is not kind or anything at all. I am generalizing and talking in general of people that do not have kindness and thoughtful. It just doesn’t seem to exist and it so rare, but then I came home and I had to write about this situation. It just bothered me so much. How can I ever restore my faith in humanity? It seems like every time I do restore my faith back in, I get pulled back out and then it takes me a while to restore that faith in humans. I don’t know, but its quite disturbing and disgusting.

What have you seen gone wrong? Have you seen someone be unkind and thoughtless? Have you witnessed something that is not right that is done by others? What is your take on all of this? I’d like to hear from you.

Social Media Content Is Our Responsibility No Matter What

In today’s generation that we live in, social media is one of the biggest and most popular in our cyber world these days. Social media has its ups and downs, and I have written about the ups most of the time, but what has come to my attention about social media these days is how we use it, how we portray ourselves on the world wide web. Each one of us who are in the social networking aspect of the internet, where there are people who share everything and every single moment of their lives, and even posting pictures of everything, and being irresponsible about the content people share, and offending, terrorizing an individual or many people, posting inappropriate videos of others, posting derogatory photos that should not surface on the internet and it happens. Now, mostly everyone has the technology of digital cameras, video cameras, smartphones with cameras and video, and among other gadgets that catch peoples most vulnerable and embarrassing state, and social media can really ruin someones reputation. Technology has evolved, and advanced so much that people create, and make such tasteless photos, and Photoshop people in disgusting and thoughtless ways.

Nowadays, to seek employment take a lot of researching of that individual and when we write someones name in the search box, and find out so much about a person, and they click on links that direct them to that person who is looking for employment, for example, they see that person with an alcohol bottle in their hands, they see a drunken time, they watch a video of you being foolish and intoxicated, that persons chances of getting that job is slim to none due to one persons careless mistake by posting those things which can cost you your reputation in the employment, professional and your overall life, and say when they research for another name and they see that they do not have photos or inappropriate links and on they see great things of that person, they will automatically ask that person to come for an interview and assessment and that person will have a greater chance at finding employment and the employer will want to choose someone that will take care of their company and give that company a great name. Say your friend posted that video or someone in your community that is close to you does all that, then that means they aren’t really your friends, if they post embarrassing moments online for the world to see which can damage you for life.

Whatever we post on the internet is permanent. Even if we delete something, a website, comments, photos, videos, and other things, it never goes away. No matter how long ago you posted it. The internet can be a dangerous playground of strangers, and strange chat-rooms you enter and you see all these strange names, alias’ and other terrible things, and then what you say, do that is wrong to do, can jeopardize your life. So always think before you act and think before you press that post, send, submit, buttons, and better yet, think before you type. Some things are meant to be private and the whole world doesn’t need to know what you do every single moment, not everyone needs to know the dates you will be traveling, among so many other important things that can compromise your safety and your family’s safety. It is imperative that you always be careful before you post whether its blogging, face-booking, tweeting, and doing and saying something that later you may regret and that person you write about will find out in some way and just be shocked about what is being said and what is being seen.

The bottom line on social media is that we are responsible for the content we choose to share no matter at what angle you look at it. Even if you try to hide your identity, and put up fake names and profiles, everyone has an ISP and IP number of their computers, and smartphones are built in with their own codes, numbers that can verify who that offensive and terrible remark, photos, video or picture was posted at. Authorities and others who are really into technology and who are tech doctors can easily find everything out and you will be responsible for it. You are always caught, no matter how you try to hide it, make a run for it, the content is permanent. Social media can mean so many things to so many people, and some people use it to hate on others, do cyber bullying, find a random person and terrorize them, build websites and offend people, and some people use media in a terrible and tasteless way which to me is unacceptable and there is no excuse for behavior like that.

Always be cautious, safe and do not put something online that can cost you in the future, it can cost you your name and your reputation. Reputation is so important to upkeep and it is a difficult thing especially when you land in the wrong crowd, get influenced by the behavior in that group is something that needs to be dealt with. The internet can either make you or break you and you do not want to be broken. Responsibility is something we all need to have or else if something is posted online which shouldn’t be there can damage your credibility, and future especially the person who is on those photos, videos and Photoshopped items.

Have you been a victim? What has social media taught you? Would love to hear from you on what you think Social Media is to you? What are dangers of it? If I missed anything let me know. Thank you and much appreciated. Wishing everybody all the best and remember it is all in your hands on how you want to use social media. Take care!

 

 

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in ones life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people that do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart its not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

Social Media Awareness – T-H-I-N-K – The Acronym That Stood Out

In recent months I have been writing a lot about this subject about social media, and it is one of the biggest hot topics of this day in age and mostly everything is revolved around social media, promotions, advertising, and so much more that we make social media. Nowadays there are clever ways to advertise and get viewership rolling, making photo acronym’s and there are so many quotes out there that makes people think and social media is one of the biggest ones and all to do with success, business and so much more. Now, what stood out to me the most was this great acronym that says, THINK.

Now, before you Tweet, Facebook, Pin It, Tumblr It, text it, send photos, or do anything with Social Media think of this:

T – is it true?H – is it helpful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – is it necessary?
K – is it kind?

We all want to protect our credibility, reputation and ourselves ultimately and this acronym is something that certain people should be reading and thinking about literally, and ultimately we are responsible for what we post because anybody on the internet can see it, and anybody who searches online for a certain word, phrase or something they can come to your site and you either gain fans or you do not. It all depends on how your portray yourself. It is important to think if it is kind and necessary to post. I feel that social media has gone way out of context of over sharing. How much is too much when it comes to sharing? I have seen twitter messages that people post when they have their bowel movements, they even post what they are doing 24 hours a day. I find that to be way too much information that does not need to be on the internet.

Now with our words are we really moving mountains? Are we inspiring people? Are we helping people in positive and great ways? Is something we post true? I think it is something that is up to us individually on what we want to post, but we should be cautious about what we post and the content. This acronym is something that really has been on my mind for quite some time now and it has put social media in my life into perspective, and it has given me so much inspiration and so much food for thought to share this acronym with those who may or may not have seen or heard about it before. Are we really hurting our future with the material and content we produce online? Remember what you post online is there forever and even if you delete and remove things, it will always be there on the internet database.

Are there things you have seen online that have been terrible and written, drawn, Photoshopped or created a terrible meme about other people? Have you seen blogs, comments, and websites that bully others? The internet can be a great place and sometimes the internet is not such a great place. Also not everything should be taken as a joke. There is a time and place for everything and there is a time for humour, a time for seriousness, but in the end everything has its limitations. It depends on individuals and how they utilize it. Being kind, helpful and inspiring is something that everyone should exercise in always doing. I know sometimes people may not be on the same page about a certain topic, people may not always agree on things, but there is always a pleasant way to handle it, and there are ways to approach things in a great and peaceful manner where then everything will be great in the end. Just simply say “I am going to have to disagree on that, this is how I think about something or this is my feeling or take on it”, or this is what I would have done differently or said something differently. There is no need to use vulgar, profane language to others, where it can be kind and dealt with in a civil manner.

This Acronym has put an everlasting thought in my mind and in my day to day blogging and social media life. Has it for you? What is your take on THINK? what is your opinion? I’d love to hear from you.