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It Is Not About The Quantity Of Friends, Its About The Quality

In life we will come across so many people in our lives, and some think that the more friends you have the more popular you will be and the more better you will be, and that is wrong. You can have so many friends, you can hundreds of people being your friend and some people will be more concerned about having quantity instead of quality, well, that should not be. I’d rather have a few friends who will be by my side, to back me up, and to support, love and appreciate me for who I am. Everything should be mutual when it comes to friends. It takes two to tango and it takes both to be the backbone that keeps the friendships up. Also, don’t trust people so quickly, don’t give in so easily. Ask yourself a few questions, will they be loyal to you? will they back you up? How will they treat you? Will they use you? Unfortunately in society these days, you need to double triple check before you make friends with people and this day in age, trust has become so rare and there are people of all walks of life. Do you really want to put yourself in a predicament of hanging out with someone who will back stab, betray and use you?

In this life we live in now, we need to analyze people very well before we give our all, before we share our most personal stories and our life’s journey with them. It does take time to get to know someone, and friendships and good friendships take time to build. So you build your trust in accordance to how someone is, their actions, words, kindness, their honesty, their loyalty and the way they are to you and how they treat you. When you are out with friends at a restaurant, take a good look and observe, if they are rude to the waiter or waitress, or if they are rude to any other person, it makes you think and question, will they be like that toward me? Will they burst at me like that someday? Actions do speak a lot louder than words and then words and action play hand in hand with each other.

We must open up our eyes a bit more, be more observant, and not to trust people so easily. Take your time to get to know someone before you give it your all. You will know the quality and the friends you have, by just the way they are, you will know what to do whether to pursue the friendship or not. Disrespectful people who do not know how good they have it and take advantage of ones goodness, good heart, and those who do not care, and those who use you, those who spread rumours and share whatever happens to the world, is not a true friend. Some people do not even know the definition of a friend and that is so unfortunate. Take your time, don’t rush into friendships so quickly because you will be burned if you don’t choose your friends wisely and you can be hurt. I do not want anybody hurt.

My family, friends, fans, readers and all my other supporters, I want the best for everyone, and I am speaking through experience. I’ve been burned so many times from fake people, I’ve been hurt so many times, but all it takes is opening up your eyes, being more assertive, being more aware, being more observant of people’s actions, eye language, facial reactions, body language and more. It is so important to take a look at all of that. It will save the hassle in the long run and it will make you decide if they are the right friends for you and if you should continue it or not. It all depends on a person’s personality and the type of friends to choose, but in the end look out for you. Don’t put everyone in one basket, balance it and don’t give in too quickly.

Just take your time. There is no rush to friendships. You will find the suitable people for you. It will take time and effort, but never ever think friendship will never happen for you. Just be patient and go with the flow.  You would not want to go through havoc and trouble. Just believe in yourself and know that there are types of people for you that are suitable. Just relax and take it easy. I’d rather have only a few friends I can trust, depend on and share stories and things with, rather than having hundreds, that will only be their part time and not full time. So just go with your gut instinct and I wish you all the best.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It The Most

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that you’re trying to be the hero, you’re trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but you’re not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people who ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? It’s always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try to do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. It’s not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. It’s very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try to see for yourself.

What Is Social Media To You? What Is Social Media To Me?

In this day in age and in modern society, social media is at an all time high. Most of us in the world are connected through some social media website whether its twitter, Facebook, pinterest, tumblr, WordPress, Google+, Blogger, Blogspot, MySpace, Hi5, and so many more websites out there to cater our social media, communications needs. Now social media can be used to boost business, advertising ones self, giving tips, advising people, about a hobby, society, issues, subjects, technology, and so much more. We are all in an interface of social media in some form or another. E-mail is also a part of social media.

Now, what does social media mean to me? Well, social media to me means that I can share myself with the world, that I can give my points of views about certain topics and things that happen in the world, also about targeting important subjects leading to prevention of bullying, as well as other social issues that I need to address too. Were all on a social media front and it all depends on a persons individuality, feelings, freedom of expression on certain subjects, among everything else. To me, social media is such a great tool to have. You never know who might pop by your blog, you never know who is viewing your blog and it is always a mystery and if someone from a big company or somewhere sees the great work and time you put into something and if somebody sees something interesting, they will contact you to talk about it or offer you something so incredible. It’s happened to me numerous times. I love expressing myself and social media has given me such a boost to do it.

I am not afraid to share and give out my opinions as everyone is entitled to their own opinions and people should not be penalized for it, and its great to see people share different points of views on certain subjects that can be relative to them or just simply just discussing it. I love social media because I get to meet some really great people and I get to interact with so many different types of people all at once. Its incredible how social media has boomed especially the last 5-10 years. Social media sites began as far as Asian Avenue, Migente, Black Planet, Hi5, MySpace, Geocities from Yahoo, and so many other websites I can remember from back in the day and now Facebook and Twitter are on the rise. It is incredible how social media changes. Social media always has its ups and downs, but in the end were all in it, and social media is defined in so many ways and it depends on individuality on what it means to someone.

Now its all comes down to you, what does social media mean to you? What do you use it for? for communicating with loved ones? Finding different opinions from others? looking at pictures, finding information, learning, Interacting on the internet and constantly being updated with news? Do you find Social Media a rewarding and fun experience? I would love to hear from you on it.

All the best!

It Is Not About The Quantity Of Friends, Its About The Quality

In life we will come across so many people in our lives, and some think that the more friends you have the more popular you will be and the more better you will be, and that is wrong. You can have so many friends, you can hundreds of people being your friend and some people will be more concerned about having quantity instead of quality, well, that should not be. I’d rather have a few friends who will be by my side, to back me up, and to support, love and appreciate me for who I am. Everything should be mutual when it comes to friends. It takes two to tango and it takes both to be the backbone that keeps the friendships up. Also, don’t trust people so quickly, don’t give in so easily. Ask yourself a few questions, will they be loyal to you? will they back you up? How will they treat you? Will they use you? Unfortunately in society these days, you need to double triple check before you make friends with people and this day in age, trust has become so rare and there are people of all walks of life. Do you really want to put yourself in a predicament of hanging out with someone who will back stab, betray and use you?

In this life we live in now, we need to analyze people very well before we give our all, before we share our most personal stories and our life’s journey with them. It does take time to get to know someone, and friendships and good friendships take time to build. So you build your trust in accordance to how someone is, their actions, words, kindness, their honesty, their loyalty and the way they are to you and how they treat you. When you are out with friends at a restaurant, take a good look and observe, if they are rude to the waiter or waitress, or if they are rude to any other person, it makes you think and question, will they be like that toward me? Will they burst at me like that someday? Actions do speak a lot louder than words and then words and action play hand in hand with each other.

We must open up our eyes a bit more, be more observant, and not to trust people so easily. Take your time to get to know someone before you give it your all. You will know the quality and the friends you have, by just the way they are, you will know what to do whether to pursue the friendship or not. Disrespectful people who do not know how good they have it and take advantage of ones goodness, good heart, and those who do not care, and those who use you, those who spread rumours and share whatever happens to the world, is not a true friend. Some people do not even know the definition of a friend and that is so unfortunate. Take your time, don’t rush into friendships so quickly because you will be burned if you don’t choose your friends wisely and you can be hurt. I do not want anybody hurt.

My family, friends, fans, readers and all my other supporters, I want the best for everyone, and I am speaking through experience. I’ve been burned so many times from fake people, I’ve been hurt so many times, but all it takes is opening up your eyes, being more assertive, being more aware, being more observant of peoples actions, eye language, facial reactions, body language and more. It is so important to take a look at all of that. It will save the hassle in the long run and it will make you decide if they are the right friends for you and if you should continue it or not. It all depends on a persons personality and the type of friends to choose, but in the end look out for you. Don’t put everyone in one basket, balance it and don’t give in too quickly.

Just take your time. There is no rush to friendships. You will find the suitable people for you. It will take time and effort, but never ever think friendship will never happen for you. Just be patient and go with the flow.  You would not want to go through havoc and trouble. Just believe in yourself and know that there are types of people for you that are suitable. Just relax and take it easy. I’d rather have only a few friends I can trust, depend on and share stories and things with, rather than having hundreds, that will only be there part time and not full time. So just go with your gut instinct and I wish you all the best.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It Most.

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that your trying to be the hero, your trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but your not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people that ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? Its always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try and do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. Its not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. Its very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try and see for yourself.

Volunteering At Children’s Aid During Christmas Annually Among Other Volunteer Work

Since 2008 My bible study group and I venture off to our local children’s aid, when Christmas is around the corner, and we spend several hours with sorting toy’s that were donated by the local community and my group and I, take time to wrap the toys, and then sort them to be sent to the children across the city. We not only volunteer with the Children’s aid, but we also go seniors homes and spend time with the elderly. It is very important to me to make a difference in ones life and get out there to do volunteer work. It is very rewarding to me emotionally because I am going home at the end of the day knowing that I helped someone in need, that I spent my time to make another persons life better. It is super important to reach out no matter what we do for others less fortunate, or in a vulnerable stage of their lives. There are several places I volunteered in the past and even before 2008, back in the early 2000′s and late 90′s, I went and gave my time to Daily Bread Food Bank, the Good Shepherd Refuge. I have lost count completely. It feels incredible to do something nice for others.

This world can be peaceful, and it can be a great place to live and when we all pitch in and do our part and do good deeds, help each other in good times and in the bad, and never letting politics take over our lives and setting aside differences which put barriers in the relationship of this world, It can be a pleasant place to be. I know that, and believe that. Whatever we do and however we do it, everything impacts the world and sometimes we do not even realize it. Volunteering for me has become such an important aspect in my life. I know that I always talk about getting on Television and giving media attention is something that will take time, but I want to send my message across. There is nothing more I want from anybody or anything, than to just make these differences. I know maybe it won’t work or it will, but the important is trying and if you don’t try you will never know, and if you don’t try there may have been an opportunity lost. I believe when opportunity knocks, I take it and I am doing the best of my ability to do good things, to make positive changes, to make this world a happier place with happier people. A lot of people I see don’t smile anymore, and I think this world has too much stress and stress is the number one thing that gets people triggered and that is what is making the world go crazy. I know in my heart it is hard to smile and it is hard to get to be positive with all the hardships one faces and all the problems we all have in the world and I know all of us have our differences and problems and I really understand where you are coming from. I am too, I have my own problems, I have my own kinks, I am trying to figure out in my life and I am trying the best of my ability to get by in the world and make it out there.

It is a tough world out there with a lot of things going on, but I know one thing, Life shouldn’t be a miserable one, and life should be a happy place for us all to live in. I know we have our troubles as I said and I think that when we are out in the public and facing society, our attitudes, and our facial expressions are all too important and we can all smile, and we can all get on the path of positivity when we try. Trying is an important word the definition is to give it your all, and do and the willingness to do it. It all pays a factor in our lives. Whatever we do, and however we do it, it is always nice to reach out, and touch another persons life and make their little world a better place to be generally speaking, because we should all be a family, ONE Family of the world, to help each other and be considerate and courteous. Of course in general.

All the best to all!

I am So Happy! Things Have Turned Around For The Better.

Lately, things have become so much better in my life. I am looking for good schools to do my journalism course, I feel great inside and on the outside. I have been doing mini getaways with friends and family and more to come, so much has turned around for the better. I couldn’t be more happy than I am these days. I am ultimately happy that I have come this far. I have been so patient and patience is a virtue as they say. I believe in hard work and determination. I am determined to work harder and harder to achieve and to fulfill my dreams. If I want to get on those talk shows, if I want to write for magazines, if I want to get out there, I have to work hard at it to be where I want to be. I believe that hard work does pay off in the end. I feel like I am almost there, but I need more time and I need to keep doing what I am doing. I will not give up. Giving up is not an option. Not now, not ever. Not since I have come this far into everything. I am so blessed with everything in my life and I am so happy that my hard work is getting there.

I am doing everything in my power to get to Ellen DeGeneres, Oprah Winfrey, Anderson Cooper, Marilyn Denis, and more. I need to get on those shows and I will not stop until I do. I need to get my message out loud and clear about bullying and about so many different subjects and issues and about that lady on the bus getting bullied by children which is unacceptable and ridiculous. I have to put my foot down. Topics that need to be addressed. I will be even more happy when my words and my stories get out to the public. My friend made a fanpage of “A Writer Named Talin Orfali” on facebook, someone else made a page called Get Talin Orfali on the Ellen DeGeneres Show… I need to get there. It would mean a lot to me if some way, some how, these big international figures of our society can get to my blog, which Oprah’s Newsletter team has already come across my blog. I am super determined to get somewhere. Things have turned out for the better, but it will be even more if I can get on these shows.

With the help of general public, with the help of getting the word out, with word of mouth, with advertising me, and getting my words out there, I know in my heart, mind and soul that I can pull the plug on bullying as much as I can, I want to do this for the world, I want to do this for the humanity of people, I want to do this for everyone. I love humanity, I love people, and I care deeply for everyone. Whatever I need to do to pull the plug, whatever and however my words get out there would mean the world to me, but I want to make the world proud, I want to see a happy world with so many great things. I believe with one step at a time I can get to my goal, and I can achieve it.

I can do this and I will do this! I will get to California to be On Ellen, I will get to New York City. I will get to travel the world and share with people with what I have to say, with what I have to put out for the world to see. I care about this world so much. I am so happy that I have made a difference in many of my readers lives, but I feel that is not enough. I need to get on Television, I need to get on the air, I need to voice myself. Writing is writing, but it is also a must to speak to everyone from my face and my own mouth. I am putting my foot down!

I am going to do this and I will work my butt off! No ifs and’s or buts! This has to be done and I will do it! There will be obstacles, but I am ready to face them and get to where I want to be because I CAN!

 

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It Most.

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that your trying to be the hero, your trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but your not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people that ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? Its always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try and do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. Its not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. Its very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try and see for yourself.

 

I Maybe Coming To A City/Town Near you Soon!

Hello All! I want to do something more, than just write blogs everyday. I decided I want to get onto a more personal level with my readers, supporters and fans. I can be coming to a city/town near you soon to talk about my blog, to give motivational speeches, to give people confidence, positivity, shine some light on people who need it a lot. My Goal is to see a happy world, with happy people with optimism, great outlooks on life. What more amazing thing is there in life? When we have our health, that means wealth, and when we have happiness, everything else is possible. I want to come out, and this way people have the chance to meet with me, people have the chance to talk to me one on one. I can come talk in Schools, Colleges, Universities, Seminars, Conferences, Motivational Speaking Assembly, Meetings, and so much more. I can travel across the world, Canada, USA, Europe, Asia, Anywhere in the world. I love to travel and I want to change the world, I want to make a big difference in the world. I am tired and worried of seeing people being depressed, unhappy and negative. It is time for change and the change is now. If you’d like me to come and speak, I’d love to. Please contact me and e-mail me at talin.orfali@hotmail.com to schedule time and place and if you like more insight and information please let me know and I will gladly answer your questions and we will go from there. All the best to everyone.