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Time is Valuable – Courtesy and Punctuality Matter

In life, whether were invited to a restaurant gathering, parties, get togethers, catching a flight out,  even for school, work, a job interview, or anything that it could be, even a date, meeting up for coffee, punctuality and being early is very important. I know sometimes due to unforeseen circumstances it happens where people are late, or get caught up on something, the best thing to do is let others know who you will be meeting that you are running late. It is common courtesy and respectful. Your time is as valuable as the other peoples time. So it goes both ways.

Tips and Advice on how to manage time, to be early and punctual.

– Say you get invited to a restaurant for dinner at 7:30 and reservations have been made and you are there at 7 7:15, which is good to be early to respect other peoples time, then you see other arriving at 7:30 right on the dot, then you see late people arriving an hour later at 8:30. People are munching on Appetizers already because they waited long enough. — Respecting time is important and especially respecting other people in the process.

– Say you go to the airport and you arrive there at 3pm and your flight is at 6:30pm, which is great to be there 3 and a half hours before, but some people decide to show up at 4:30 or 5pm and flight is at 6:30, they think that they can be allowed boarding and they think that their luggage will make it to the plane. I do not think so. Respect the time given to be at the airport prior to departure and make it to your plane on time so others do not have to wait for that one or two people who decide to play around and not get to the gate on time.

– Never leave things to the last minute to get ready, to shower, to allow time to get ready after the shower. do it in advanced and start getting ready an hour or two before a party and also take into factor how long it will take to get to the venue from your place and get ready accordingly. You do not want to be one of those people who arrive to a party at 10 at night, when a party starts at 7. No matter what it is, its important to value time, manage time well, and do important things first then allocate enough time to do what is necessary. Be courteous no matter what it is.

– Job interviews, going to school and work on time is very important. Especially when you are going for a job interview. Be there about half an hour before or an hour before. get yourself prepared, and gather your thoughts. Always look at the time and get to places on time. It is very crucial to be punctual in everything in life.

– When you are invited to someones place at say 4pm on a Saturday, and agree to go, be there right at 4pm or about 10 minutes before. Every minute counts and they count on you to be on time. It is not nice to not show up at someones house at 6pm, without letting them know you will be late or something is going on that you cannot make it right at 4.

– A simple I cannot be there on time, or I have some things to take care of, or got pre-occupied with things should be mentioned to those waiting for you, they have every right to know. Time is of the essence. Calling, texting, e-mailing and always communicating is so imperative.

– Do not be a last minute RSVP person — If you get an invitation to a party, wedding, engagement, shower or other events 2-3 or 4 months in advanced, or just 2 months in advanced, and say the Card says shower is on July 31st, but your RSVP Reservation with the amount of persons in attendance must be due by July 10 or July 15th — but then have someone say they are attending on July 27th or 28th, just couple of days before is so wrong. You had all that time to decide. Do not just leave it as last minute. RESPOND as soon as possible —- It is money, and time were talking here. These people need to prepare and get numbers into the banquet halls or create the tables and how many plates to add… Be respectful. They did a great thing by including you, Help them in the process.
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Some Quotes Found online in relative to this post:

“Arriving late is a way of saying that your own time is valuable than the time of the person who waited for you” — Karen Joy Fowler

“If you CANNOT be on time, Then be EARLY” — Unknown

“punctuality is the Art of Waiting for the careless people: – Unknown

“Punctuality – Be there an hour early, then a minute too late – Time is valuable” — unknown

“Punctuality is the soul of Business” — Thomas Chandler Haliburton

“Punctuality is the politeness of kings & the duty of gentle people EVERYWHERE” — Unknown

“Life is getting up early in the morning to live a couple of hours more” — Unknown

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Have you been a victim of a person who has stood you up? Have you been someone who is the one to always wait for others to be on time? Have people contacted you to say they will be late? Are you always the early one to arrive well in advanced because you have been taught to respect time and ones who have proper etiquette? It is always good to be like that.

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Do you have bad habits when it comes to procrastination? Do you have bad habits of being late because you had to do your hair and make-up? Do you have the bad habit to show up to a party 2-3 hours later knowing that everyone has already eaten, so you get the cold food after or they are going to have to make an extra batch for you to heat your food up, or have missed the beginning speeches or whatever it is? Change your bad habits, work on being courteous and on time. It saves a lot of problems with people depending on you.

Also do not say you will be there, and then not show up..

Punctuality is key to success in business, relationships, friendships which then builds trust and common decency. Best wishes and to better time management!

Dedicated to The Late Paul Walker — Gone Too Soon

Dedicated to The Late Paul Walker — Gone Too Soon
By: Talin Orfali

Sometimes I Think to Myself on How Unfair Life Is,
Wondering How I am going to get through this.
Asking Myself why great people have to leave us?
Wanting to know the answer is why I am making a fuss.

Paul Walker Gone too soon from all of us,
To some, the News Felt like we got hit by a bus,
That feeling of mourning will take longer,
but for the Sake of Paul we must learn to be stronger

Our Blue Eyed Paul, Has Turned into Ashes,
We don’t realize how quick our life Flashes,
Paul Has now entered into heavens Gate,
Who knew, that this would be his final Fate?

Our Sweet Paul has gained his beautiful wings,
but we all know that this news really stings,
He is no longer with us on this earth,
but We know the great things he has done since birth,

Oh Paul How can life go on without you?
We have no choice but to pull through,
We know your life from us was cut too short
which has put a lot people out of sort,

Paul we didn’t get the chance to meet,
but I can look above and have that chance to greet,
You will always live on in our hearts forever,
This is not a goodbye, its see you later,
Gone too Soon Paul Gone to Soon.

Reuniting With A Very Special Person in My Life

Hello all, I am filled with excitement tonight as in a couple of hours, I will be reuniting with a great, close, special friend whom I call my sister for so many years now is coming to see me and I am so overwhelmed with happiness as she is getting near to my town to see me. It is the greatest feeling ever. I have not seen her since February 26, 2012 when I last visited Montreal and I am just so overly excited to see her again. I miss her so much and this is going to be a great reunion and we have so much catching up to do, and creating more memories. Those times we used to see each other 2-3 weeks at a time and I remember how much we used to see each other back in the day, but again it will feel great to be together instead of always messaging each other on Facebook, and text messages. Time to finally be physically together which is so much more awesome.

I am jumping for joy. When she told me she is coming this past week, I got so happy, emotional, and joyful at the same time and it was a feeling I will never forget. We may not be sisters in blood, but were sisters at heart, mind and soul, and I consider her part of my family. She is one of the most important people in my life and she has a big place in my heart, my world, my life and everything in my being. I have been awake all night and will pick her up in an hour and 40 minutes from now. I am super duper hyped up about this and so much time we have to make up for all the lost ones in from February, 2012, and up until today. Well, I must go, but time to get ready and time to enjoy. I feel like I am going to cry with happiness when I see her, so I gotta prepare myself :).

What Makes You A Stronger Person? How Do You Handle Life?

In my life, I have been through a huge list of unfortunate things that have happened to me where people would be bully me emotionally and mentally, putting me to the curb when not needed anymore, people who have used me for material gain, people who only come to me if they need something from me,  the feeling of being isolated, and being an option to people and not a priority in their lives. I remember all those times and still comes back to haunt me to this day, but things have changed so much for me and for the better. Because of all the anguish and pain I had to endure personally, emotionally and mentally, now I have become a stronger person, I have a whole new pizzazz on life, a whole new approach to trusting very few people, choosing my friends wisely, opening up my eyes more and making sure I make the right decisions about hanging out with the right people. Everything in my past that I went through, has shaped who I am today and its made me better in making judgements on who should be in my circle and who should not. I think and I know that I have handled my life wonderfully and I learned a lot from myself and have spent so much time with myself just thinking about life, about what the next step is to further myself in a social aspect of life.

What made me a stronger person is that I look things into a positive perspective, I look at things as a cup that is half full, and no matter what life throws at me, I am always positive in the end. I know it is easier said than done, but being positive is easy, all you have to do is be strong, be who you are, always be yourself, make sure that you surround yourself with positive and great energy throughout your day everyday. When I was heavily bullied as I was in school back in the day, I put into thought that this is just temporary and things will get better and it did get better for me. I am so strong now that nothing or no one can break me. I have learned to stand on my own two feet, I’ve learned and I am still learning to this day. Life is a never-ending learning journey. Sometimes things come in our way, but in the end the ball is in your court, but make sure you hit a slam dunk and be strong.

Everything happens for a reason, and people come into your life as a blessing or a lesson and that will determine your strength to move on to bigger and better people and things in life. What shaped me to be stronger is that I cut out negativity, and I always instill in others that they too can do the same, all they have to do is try their best, and do it. I know sometimes it easier said than done as I said, but it will workout in the long run. I know that life is not perfect as we want it to be, and sometimes we get lucky and sometimes we do not get so lucky with how our lives are and have turned out to be and what we went through in the past, but take a look around, be blessed with what you have and who you have become. What have you learned from your past? Have you been a victim of bullying? What did you do to make yourself stronger?

What steps did you take to conquer and defy all the odds? Did you seek for help from others? did you dust yourself off and pick yourself up on your own? Did you tell someone about how you were feeling or are feeling? Always know you are worth it, you are important, you are a unique, special, confident, strong and beautiful person. As long as you know that for yourself, you do not need others to tell you all that. When you know yourself that you are enough and that you are all those great things, that is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. You have those gifts that are so precious. You are a precious human being who came to this earth for a reason, each one of us serves a purpose in our world and we can all make a positive influence, difference and change the world into a stronger and happier place only if we try to do our best no matter what life throws at us. Kindness, Respect and doing great things is the way to go.

Now tell me what has made you stronger? Life is a beautiful gift from God, and its such a lovely thing.  always be strong. Remember what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and somehow struggles become success, and success becomes everything you want your life to be emotionally and mentally. Be positive, be strong, be you, and everything in life will come to place. Just believe in yourself, believe that you can conquer anything and throw negativity away and do not think about what might have been, or what could have happened differently. Keep going. Do not stop. All the best to you, keep smiling, be happy!

People Need To Stop Being So Hard On Themselves and Move Forward

Hey All, I know it is easier said than done when it comes to people being hard on themselves because of a situation that person has been into and along with the emotional and mental chaos that has come with it. I know that we all in this world have our own problems and things that happen in life that we do not like or something went wrong in life and sometimes things do not go as planned, but people need to stop being so hard on themselves. It is so easy to put ones self down, but people need to learn that, things happen and sometimes we cannot control it, but that doesn’t mean that someone has to be so hard on themselves and to stop saying there is no hope, it is never going to happen, good things will never happen to me, I won’t get into a relationship, and then give up and say crazy things. You are only setting yourself up for more disappointment, and you are only hurting yourself when you think negatively and hurt yourself with the words you use among yourself. Don’t do that to yourself. I know sometimes it is easy to talk about it, but where is the action? Take action, do happy things for you, make happy decisions of course with thinking, and do things that will benefit you in the long run.

If you keep on doing this to yourself and if you do not move forward, there can be consequences and you do not want to go through them. What is wrong with who you are? Nothing. Everyone is special in their own ways, but people will never know that because that particular person in your life is always being hard on themselves, and crying, and saying depressive things all the time. Time to snap out of it and time to move forward in life. The past is the past and people should stop being pessimists and start on happy adventures in life. Where do we draw the line? I know sometimes it is hard and there have been terrible times in ones life that can never be the same again, but you can make it the same again with good thoughts about yourself and putting yourself up with people and never telling people you’re not good enough, and that you’re not up to par with anything and that you will never find someone. You will and you will succeed in life, you will do the goodness in your life. You just need to boost yourself with self-confidence, self-esteem and the willingness to move on.

You can’t move on if your always ashamed, if your always in your own world and your own bubble stressing about things that are not even worth your time anymore. You have come this far for a reason and that reason is that life continues, and life goes on. You can’t bring the past back and you can’t turn back time, so might as well as make your time worth while right? Making your life better, happier and doing positive things in life will be the best gift you can ever give yourself. It may take some time, but nothing ever happens overnight. In order to work for your happiness and good things in life, is your willingness to try, give it your best, and you will see the difference in change. Change is good, and life is good, you just haven’t discovered it yet, but you will. You can’t make a colourful happy rainbow without a little rain, and you can’t have sunshine without darkness. Dark times teach us lessons in life and that will turn into sunlight only if you try to do your best to move forward. Move it and move on. Nobody is perfect and nothing is ever a guarantee, which is why you live your life now, and make the best of it because nothing is permanent. We all have to stand up on our own feet and we must strive to be happy always and keep smiling. The world is a better place with you in it and the world is a better place with smiles.

Loving yourself is the best thing you can do, and when you love yourself, everything is possible. Love yourself, Smile, and stop with whatever you are doing to make your life a dark rain storm. After a rainstorm there is sun and life again. Be in the sun and shine bright. Have a positive attitude and go with the flow. All the best!

Don’t Try & Grow Up Too Fast. Take Each Phase Of Your Life As It Comes

Hello, I am sure this has been an issue in almost every household on how children want to grow up too fast and where they go to their moms or dads room to try on big shoes, put on make up, and try on mommy and daddy clothes. I myself have done that. Took my moms shoes, wore them, put on her dresses, put on the make up and then do a fashion show like on a catwalk runway. Then my mom put me to the side and said, Talin don’t try to grow up too fast and put make up on too early. She said everything has its time and you will get here soon enough. I sometimes could not wait to grow up so I can get into places over the age of 18, 19, 21 and start buying lotto tickets, but I have only bought one lotto ticket in my life and that was when I turned 18 years of age from what I was hearing when I was a kid being in adult conversations when company was over, or when we went to other people’s houses, I couldn’t help but hear adult conversations going on, so it intrigued me and that is where I learned these things, but I just continued to being a kid and playing with barbies and other toys.

I started going into Casinos at age 19 in Ontario and in Quebec. As well as Niagara, Falls New York. My curiosity sparked and I wanted to experience it, Not for the sole purpose of gambling, but to get into the casino and just walk around and see the different slot machines and table games. I am not much a gambler and a casino goer but I like to go there to walk around, relax and have a soft drink, water, coffee to relax and to be in the ambiance of colour, noise from the machines. Its pretty awesome, but the moral of the story is, to live every phase as it comes and to live every age the same way. When we are kids we want to grow up so fast and then when we become adults, I am sure almost all of us have said, I wish I was a kid again, I wish I was home playing, I wish I went back to elementary grade school, I wish I was a kid again to not worry about life and everything. Unfortunately we can’t turn back the clock and rewind to where we want to go in the past, but it is important to move forward in your life and take each time you have as it comes. When you feel young at heart, when you feel healthy and content, that is the best lottery you can ever win, and that is the best casino you can be in terms of health, body and soul.

Some people never get another chance at tomorrow, and tomorrow for some will never come. You live once, enjoy each year and make the most of your life. Life is precious and is given to you. You are the chosen one and your put on earth for a reason and you have to be the one to discover it. Life is a beautiful thing and it can be awesome, you have to make it awesome and you have to make life, not waste it away. turning 28 years old a month ago made me realize that wow I only have 2 more years of my 20’s and then I will be saying hello to my 30’s. Hopefully. Which is why you live for today, you live for tomorrow, and surviving in between is what we try to do, but always know, that when you want to grow up too fast, you miss a lot of your years. take it all in step by step, day by day. Growing up is becoming mature, and being mature is what makes you grow up. There is a big kid in all of us, but maturity is key. Life is what you make of it.

Those Who Gossip To You, Will Probably Be Doing The Same About You Too! Be Careful

There have been numerous amounts of times where people would gossip to you about someone or some people and in a terrible way and they like to spread rumours and make up things that are not true about that person and make assumptions. Have you been in a situation where someone would gossip everything about other people? I am sure most of us have. Have you heard that behind your back that person who gossiped to you, did the same about you too to others? It is terrible. I wish some people would stop doing that about other people. It is not nice to gossip and talk poorly about someone behind their backs. If you do not hear it from the source, it’s not a good idea to create and make up stories when it is not even true. Some people spend so much time making a federal case about other people, that they don’t care if it hurts them. Trash talking about that person behind their back and then being sweet, and nice with them in their face is not a very nice thing to do.

Backstabbers and Fake people who give face to you and who are nice to you and then all of a sudden you hear that, the person whom you thought you can trust has spread terrible lies about you and does everything in their power to destroy your good name. I find that to be such a terrible thing to go through. I have had that happen to me numerous amount of times. What goes around comes around. When a rumour, or some sort of stupidity gets spread around, it will always come back to the person who these terrible things have been said about. A lot of people do not know how terrible this is and it is not fair to that person. This plays a role in jealousy and jealousy can do so many things. Gossiping is a terrible thing to do no matter what. Sometimes people need to mind their own business and look in the mirror before they judge other people or talk about them. In Today’s world trusting people, confiding in people, telling someone something very personal is something that not a lot of people can do anymore, because when you request and ask someone to keep it a secret and they don’t and spread it around, it is not a good thing.

Some people spread and talk for the sake of talking about anything about others just to satisfy their jealousy urges. This situation can make you or break you. As soon as you make new friends, don’t assume that they are trustworthy, test out your friends, don’t talk about personal issues, don’t talk too much about your life, but talk in general terms, and once you start to get to know them and you build your trust, then just maybe you can tell them, but then again you cannot be to careful with the information you transmit to them. Keep very personal things within the family, and do not transmit every bit of information to your friends. Someone who is true to you will always keep your secrets, someone who is true to you will never gossip, spread lies and do terrible things because when you’re a true friend to someone its expected that you are honest and forthright about situations and when things happen you tell your friends on the spot. Don’t be afraid if you disagree on a few things, it helps build your friendship stronger and you work it out.

the bottom line is to never gossip, spread rumours and make up stories about others. It’s not nice at all. I am sure that if the roles were reversed, it wouldn’t be a nice feeling. Nowadays, I am not too trusting and I don’t give in easily. I always think with my mind and then with my heart. This day in age the Heart can be fooled easily on the people to hang out with and its a soft spot where people become blinded, naive and soft, but nowadays you have to stand tough, you have to say no once in a while, you have to think twice and three times before jumping into friendships and relationships. It is important to keep those things in mind. Not everyone you meet will be your friend, chances are some friends can say the most terrible things about you behind your back…. WELL, So called friends, fake friends. you do not need them in your life.

Move forward and find people who actually care about you and who actually want the best for you.Not those who spread rumours and gossip. Stay far away from them as possible. I am saying all this from experience of others doing that to me, and it is not pleasant. I am just watching out for all of you because I care so much about all of you. All the best to you.