Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in one’s life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people who do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart it’s not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

Fashion Comfort VS Fashion Pain

In my life as I was growing up, I was always paying attention to fashion, always asking my mom when I was a kid, Mom I only want this kind of clothing and shoes, and I used to be a big brand name supporter, but my mom always taught me sweetie, its better to be comfortable and wear good clothing, not to try to grow up so fast, but in the last few years its been all about comfort for me rather than having fashion pains. I know that there is nothing greater like quality of the clothing, shoes I wear, but I am not one of those people anymore to be running around and finding brand names because In the end it is my comfort that is important to me. I have learned that when I was entering into my 20′s. So in the last 8 years or so its been all about comfort more than anything else.

I see some teenaged girls, and women wearing ever so high heels, and a lot of them cannot even walk in high heels and yet they still wear it because they think its cool and it makes them look good in it, to show off to friends and others who look at them and I know some of them are in pain wearing them and they still wear it like nothing is happening to them, but they do not know in the long run and in future that it can do damage to the vertebrae, back and legs. I do not know how some people can stay in heels and stand in them, dance in them and they say the love to wear heels. To me I wear very little or no heels at all. I love flats and just a small bit of a heel, but I just cannot handle high heels. The other day I was trying on shoes at a random store, and I said let me try on these big heels for a minute, lets see what the hype about it is, It took me merely 20 seconds and I already started to feel pain. I said how in the heck can people wear these for hours? So painful. I took them off and I felt so relieved. I am in for comfort and that is what should matter.

Even with the clothes and stuff. I don’t care if I buy them from big box stores, or an unknown clothing store or anything if it feels good, and the material is good, then I will buy it, but It doesn’t have to be big brand names. In the end fashion isn’t about impressing others, you shouldn’t have to impress others by proving a point or anything. It is how comfortable you see yourself with wearing whatever you want to wear and it is something that you should feel good about too. People in this world do not even have clothes and shoes to wear. We should be fortunate that we do have what we have and not complain about about not having brand name clothing, and shoes and spending thousands of dollars on clothing that is so ridiculous.

For me Comfort beats Fashion pain, and when I get older I am going to be in pain and people wonder why they are in so much pain when they get older on their legs, feet, back is because when were young we do not realize what we do when were young will affect us later on in life and its happened where I know someone who wore heels a lot and then as she got older, back problems started and leg problems. Now shes going to physiotherapy for the last 2 years. She now cannot stand heels and I do not blame her.

These fashion companies make you want to get more, and want you to always stay in the latest fashions, remember they are there to make money on you and it doesn’t matter how they do it, they do it and they always find a way to persuade the public eye, about certain things, but me I never follow the fashion trends. I do not have to buy everything that comes out, I do not have to go spend so much money where I can spend the money on more important things then having to always stay in the fashion world. No need to flaunt and impress others. Remember comfort, comfort, comfort.

You should not worry about what other people think about what kind of clothes you wear or anything. The important thing is how you see yourself, and how you feel. Yes dressing in a terrible way is not good like ripped jeans, way too baggy pants, and looking like a slob, okay that there no one should wear those when they are out, but other than that its what you feel. Comfort is key and remember your future. Save yourself from pain in the long run and be comfortable. So Fashion comfort conquers and wins!

Natural Beauty is The Way

As I go through life seeing many people wear oodles of make-up on their face, I always say to myself, why they put so much? why they have to cover their face up with all these cosmetics? I believe and know that all women and girls have a natural beauty and they are simply covering up what they really look like. I am not saying do not wear make-up, you are free to make your own decisions as to how much cosmetics you put on your face, but in moderation. The trick to wearing make-up, you have to make it look like you are not wearing any at all.

I believe inner beauty is far more beautiful than our exterior. Make-up should not make a woman/girl believe that they are far more beautiful with that stuff on their faces. Many cosmetic companies starve for women/girls who constantly head to the stores to purchase their merchandise. Beauty comes from within. We are just carrying our exterior, but I am telling all women/girls of the world right now, you are beautiful, you don’t have to try to impress the guy next door, or when you go to a party or somewhere to wear make up to the extent that it does not make you look good at all. It makes it worse to be honest.

I have been to many parties and I notice women and girls look in the mirror in the restroom to maintain themselves, adding more and more make-up. Again, it is totally up to you on what you do to your face, but I would understand if you’re a bride, bridesmaid, or you’re in a modeling agency, or whatever, but then again, make-up should be worn within limits.

As my personal side of the story, I only wear make-up when it is absolutely necessary, I occasionally wear make up to a party or a gathering with my girlfriends, but I rarely wear it on a daily basis. It makes my face feel so heavy and it makes me feel like there are things on my face constantly. The mess of mascara, the mess of the bronzer and foundation powders and everything, just clog up the pores and clog up the face and your face won’t breathe.

Although it is important to maintain your exterior, with having your hair groomed, showered up, clean, nice smelling, and have great hygiene with brushing your teeth, flossing and everything which is very important, but when it comes to Make-up, it really isn’t a necessity, it is something that hides your beauty, being a natural beauty is far more attractive, than having all this gunk on your face, and putting too much make-up on no matter what type of product or name it is, can speed up the aging process.

I know you readers are questioning and thinking that this woman writing this has got to be crazy, that she herself is a woman and women are so revolved around cosmetics, fashion so on and so forth. Personally, I myself enjoy wearing custom jewellery, and matching up my outfits and going out with just lip gloss on my lips or a lip colour that suits my face and colour of my skin, rather than wearing way to much on my face. I already wear corrective lenses, and i occasionally wear contact lenses.

In conclusion, you are beautiful, you are a person of our world, you have been put on this earth, no matter how your face looks, your facial attributes, sizes, shapes, were all different, were all ONE BODY, Were all in the same human race, were all on this earth for a reason. Nature will take its course. BE NATURAL, BE WHO YOU ARE, GOD LOVES YOU Just the way you are, SO LOVE YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE. Save that 5, 10, 20, 50, 100 dollar bill that you are going to spend on Make-up and Utilize it for something more worthwhile. So get up, stand up, Smile and look at yourself in the mirror and say these 5 WORDS Every morning you wake up — “I AM A NATURAL BEAUTY” and start your day. Try it, and you will see the difference.

Reading Reviews Online – Some Can Be True or False

Do you often read reviews and do your research online before you travel, buy products, call a certain service company, and other goods and services? Nowadays there are people who plague the internet with fake reviews and falsifying information with different usernames and post reviews from unknown areas, and we should be careful when reading reviews. Some people get paid to write them, some people who have never even traveled or experienced a product or something, they try to find review sites and go with what other people are saying and they do research online before writing a review and some are so good with their craft of fooling people who you do not know the difference between fake or real.

There are ways to detect a fake review. If people exaggerate too much, drag on, and come up with very strange usernames and the way people write. You have to really read between the lines. To me personally I do not trust online reviews and I barely and rarely even read them, why? because in the end everyone is entitled to their own opinions, and I would rather go experience something on my own or when I buy a product to experience it and to try it for myself. If I am going to listen to every person, and read all these reviews, I won’t go anywhere, I won’t try anything. It is so important to try to stay away from reviews. You don’t know if you are reading a real or fake one. Some you cannot even detect on it because they wrote it so well. Some get paid and some go over the top because they are asked to. Some are so good at what they do and they persuade you so much, and do you often read online testimonials? A lot of these reviews come from a lot of researchers online, there are people who do all sorts of things to get some money, but I think it is wrong to give false reviews, and praising companies that should not even exist, and praising and giving a good name to places that should not even be in our world, but they are and they fool people with false advertising.

Have you ever been a victim of it? Do you read reviews and determine whether or not to purchase or to fly anywhere or to go to a resort or hotel? Do you believe in everything you read on review sites? I personally don’t and I don’t take them seriously. Yes although some can be real by individuals who write it, but in my opinion, I would steer away from those things. I am a person who likes to experience and give my own opinion, rather than listening to so many others who can be lying about something. Remember the internet can be misleading, it can be misinterpreted and so many people can understand things differently. I guess that is how it is in this life right? Prevent yourself from being fooled and just try it and experience it for yourself. There is nothing wrong in that. All the best to you.

People Need To Stop Being So Hard On Themselves and Move Forward

Hey All, I know it is easier said than done when it comes to people being hard on themselves because of a situation that person has been into and along with the emotional and mental chaos that has come with it. I know that we all in this world have our own problems and things that happen in life that we do not like or something went wrong in life and sometimes things do not go as planned, but people need to stop being so hard on themselves. It is so easy to put ones self down, but people need to learn that, things happen and sometimes we cannot control it, but that doesn’t mean that someone has to be so hard on themselves and to stop saying there is no hope, it is never going to happen, good things will never happen to me, I won’t get into a relationship, and then give up and say crazy things. You are only setting yourself up for more disappointment, and you are only hurting yourself when you think negatively and hurt yourself with the words you use among yourself. Don’t do that to yourself. I know sometimes it is easy to talk about it, but where is the action? Take action, do happy things for you, make happy decisions of course with thinking, and do things that will benefit you in the long run.

If you keep on doing this to yourself and if you do not move forward, there can be consequences and you do not want to go through them. What is wrong with who you are? Nothing. Everyone is special in their own ways, but people will never know that because that particular person in your life is always being hard on themselves, and crying, and saying depressive things all the time. Time to snap out of it and time to move forward in life. The past is the past and people should stop being pessimists and start on happy adventures in life. Where do we draw the line? I know sometimes it is hard and there have been terrible times in ones life that can never be the same again, but you can make it the same again with good thoughts about yourself and putting yourself up with people and never telling people you’re not good enough, and that you’re not up to par with anything and that you will never find someone. You will and you will succeed in life, you will do the goodness in your life. You just need to boost yourself with self-confidence, self-esteem and the willingness to move on.

You can’t move on if your always ashamed, if your always in your own world and your own bubble stressing about things that are not even worth your time anymore. You have come this far for a reason and that reason is that life continues, and life goes on. You can’t bring the past back and you can’t turn back time, so might as well as make your time worth while right? Making your life better, happier and doing positive things in life will be the best gift you can ever give yourself. It may take some time, but nothing ever happens overnight. In order to work for your happiness and good things in life, is your willingness to try, give it your best, and you will see the difference in change. Change is good, and life is good, you just haven’t discovered it yet, but you will. You can’t make a colourful happy rainbow without a little rain, and you can’t have sunshine without darkness. Dark times teach us lessons in life and that will turn into sunlight only if you try to do your best to move forward. Move it and move on. Nobody is perfect and nothing is ever a guarantee, which is why you live your life now, and make the best of it because nothing is permanent. We all have to stand up on our own feet and we must strive to be happy always and keep smiling. The world is a better place with you in it and the world is a better place with smiles.

Loving yourself is the best thing you can do, and when you love yourself, everything is possible. Love yourself, Smile, and stop with whatever you are doing to make your life a dark rain storm. After a rainstorm there is sun and life again. Be in the sun and shine bright. Have a positive attitude and go with the flow. All the best!

Don’t Try & Grow Up Too Fast. Take Each Phase Of Your Life As It Comes

Hello, I am sure this has been an issue in almost every household on how children want to grow up too fast and where they go to their moms or dads room to try on big shoes, put on make up, and try on mommy and daddy clothes. I myself have done that. Took my moms shoes, wore them, put on her dresses, put on the make up and then do a fashion show like on a catwalk runway. Then my mom put me to the side and said, Talin don’t try to grow up too fast and put make up on too early. She said everything has its time and you will get here soon enough. I sometimes could not wait to grow up so I can get into places over the age of 18, 19, 21 and start buying lotto tickets, but I have only bought one lotto ticket in my life and that was when I turned 18 years of age from what I was hearing when I was a kid being in adult conversations when company was over, or when we went to other people’s houses, I couldn’t help but hear adult conversations going on, so it intrigued me and that is where I learned these things, but I just continued to being a kid and playing with barbies and other toys.

I started going into Casinos at age 19 in Ontario and in Quebec. As well as Niagara, Falls New York. My curiosity sparked and I wanted to experience it, Not for the sole purpose of gambling, but to get into the casino and just walk around and see the different slot machines and table games. I am not much a gambler and a casino goer but I like to go there to walk around, relax and have a soft drink, water, coffee to relax and to be in the ambiance of colour, noise from the machines. Its pretty awesome, but the moral of the story is, to live every phase as it comes and to live every age the same way. When we are kids we want to grow up so fast and then when we become adults, I am sure almost all of us have said, I wish I was a kid again, I wish I was home playing, I wish I went back to elementary grade school, I wish I was a kid again to not worry about life and everything. Unfortunately we can’t turn back the clock and rewind to where we want to go in the past, but it is important to move forward in your life and take each time you have as it comes. When you feel young at heart, when you feel healthy and content, that is the best lottery you can ever win, and that is the best casino you can be in terms of health, body and soul.

Some people never get another chance at tomorrow, and tomorrow for some will never come. You live once, enjoy each year and make the most of your life. Life is precious and is given to you. You are the chosen one and your put on earth for a reason and you have to be the one to discover it. Life is a beautiful thing and it can be awesome, you have to make it awesome and you have to make life, not waste it away. turning 28 years old a month ago made me realize that wow I only have 2 more years of my 20′s and then I will be saying hello to my 30′s. Hopefully. Which is why you live for today, you live for tomorrow, and surviving in between is what we try to do, but always know, that when you want to grow up too fast, you miss a lot of your years. take it all in step by step, day by day. Growing up is becoming mature, and being mature is what makes you grow up. There is a big kid in all of us, but maturity is key. Life is what you make of it.

Dedicated to Primate Bishop Bagrat Galstanyan – A True Leader

I would like to introduce to you someone who is very dear to me in my heart and in my life, I would like to talk about someone who many of us in the world who love and appreciate him and his name is Bishop Bagrat Galstanyan of whom is our Canada Armenian Church Leader.  Please note when I say Srpazan that’s the Armenian word for Bishop.

Now, this past week, something unfair happened that there were elections of having another leader lead our Armenian Church Diocese Head in Canada, and the location of our head church office is in Montreal, Outremont, Quebec. The election was indeed a setup and a lot of people are against what happened, a petition is going around, and many people are quite upset about what happened and how the way things transpired. Most of the people are calling this a misjudgment and not making a great decision for our Armenian church of Canada with good intentions and I myself and others do not believe this election was done in a fair manner and things we done beforehand to alter the numbers. Something suspicious and fishy is going on and we want to get to the bottom of this and we want answers. Anyway,

in 2003 when I met Srpazan Bagrat Galstanyan, I knew right away I would love him and he became someone who I consider family to me. Srpazan has taught me so many things about life and his words, his speeches, the meetings I was in with him in ACYOC (Armenian Church Youth Organization of Canada), Kingston, Mississauga, traveling to Vancouver for our Sports Weekend in 2005, Going to Montreal/Laval sports weekends, Camping trips, and so many more memories. Srpazan Bagrat Galstanyan is someone who is very special and dear to me and the loss of him being our Srpazan and our leader has hit me so hard and it is hurting me beyond anything else. It is far worse than someone hitting me with a bat, but that does not even compare to the pain this is causing me and this has been on my mind since I heard about this on Monday Morning. I cried so hard, I cried so hard inside too, my tears rolled down my cheeks, and I am so angry!

Srpazan was there for me at my toughest moments when I was bullied, picked on because I was different and I went to events where I felt alone and left out, but Srpazan came to my rescue and he spoke to me, made me feel better about myself, and he gave me advice, he opened his heart to me. I will never forget that for the rest of my life. Srpazan was there for me when nobody else really was, I met many friends in Montreal because of Srpazan, and I was introduced to a whole new world and I was so excited to go to Montreal all the time and to see my friends. Srpazan after knew me by my first name, and he remembered what we discussed, he was always asking me how I am and how I am doing since we talked. THAT THERE TO ME SAID IT ALL! I knew I would love and trust him forever and I always will forever. He gave me the energy, he gave me something in my life that will always remain with me forever. He smiled at me always, and always excited to see me, shaking my hand, blessing my head with his hand. It was a great feeling!

I cannot stomach it To see him being treated unfairly, betrayed by his clergyman who he thought were his friends, who he thought were with him and support him and in a disgusting way his clergyman had to vote against him and on what grounds? This is unbelievable! and having these elections. What is this? A political race? Is this some kind of JOB race? I want Srpazan back, I want this whole bogus election to be void.

The true meaning of being Christian, and being a servant of God is to reach out to people in a personal level, to inspire, to help, to guide, to do great work for the community, to dedicate his/herself without asking for material things. I love Srpazan Bagrat so much! He will always be special to me and I Just want him back! Is that so hard to ask? This is betrayal.

Here is the Facebook page. Help and support us by getting him Back to stay with us, and there are pictures, videos, and links about him if you want to know more about our leader who is selfless, kind, spiritual, dedicated, caring, loving, humorous and so many more great qualities about him.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/STAY-WITH-US-Bishop-Bagrat-Galstanyan/401752986606195

The Petition: — Please sign and share with your friends and family. Thank you!

http://www.change.org/en-CA/petitions/bishop-bagrat-galstanyan-not-to-ratify-the-decision-made-to-replace-bishop-galstanyan?utm_campaign=signature_receipt&utm_medium=email&utm_source=share_petition

Thanks for reading about our lovely leader. Lets keep him here and lets bring him back to lead Canadian Armenians for a brighter future ahead.

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in one’s life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people who do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart it’s not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

You Are Beautiful, It is The Society That Is Ugly

I do not even know where to begin with this. This is something that makes my blood boil and which gets me so angry. The society is an evil one with media and everything else that make-up makes girls and women beautiful and the society defines that, they are not good enough the way they are. It really gets on my nerves. These cosmetic companies are there to make money and they keep telling girls to keep wearing make-up, to keep up with the new trends of foundation, lipsticks, and everything and they get something embedded in girls, and women’s minds that they have to keep going to the local store to buy make-up and people dish out hundreds of dollars for these things. The society is what is making girls and women ugly and the society is ugly, the media is ugly, not women and girls. Everyone is beautiful and make-up should never define real beauty.

Yes I wear make-up but not everyday. Once in a while when I am at a party or something, but Make-up is something that I don’t really use. Real beauty comes from ourselves, our inner spirit, our inner selves. Women and girls are so beautiful and never forget that. All those chemicals, all those things you put on your face is something that is a concern. yes Make-up is fun, its fun to put on, and its one of the girly woman thing to do when with girlfriends, but don’t ever let that define who you are, don’t ever convince yourself of these make-up ads, that you’re not good enough and you have to look like those models who wear it. Photoshop, Airbrushed ad’s are so ridiculous. Everyone has a unique look to them, everyone is beautiful in their own ways. The society is making us believe that were not and that we have to keep putting this stuff on. All they care about is money and money unfortunately speaks louder, and they do not care about real beauty. No matter what they think and try to cover up (literally) their tracks and saying no it’s not true, were not trying to take away real women and girls beauty, but on the contrary, they are.

This is a really big issue and a lot of women and girls are faced with this challenge everyday and it makes me sad to see them not feeling good about themselves, not feeling like they are worth it, not feeling like they are not good enough. It pains me to see it and hear it happen, it really upsets me so much. I start to cry when people put themselves down, and calls oneself ugly, and hideous, and all these negative thoughts that render into their minds. It is all in their minds, but they should get rid of all those thoughts and feelings, your great just the way you are. YOU ARE!!! Cosmetics are evil. I am telling you. I have always encountered people especially teenagers that think make up is the best, but it is not to be honest with you. Make up should be worn on special occasions, and Halloween.

I am not trying to put these companies down, but it’s about time, that girls and women look in the mirror without make-up and look at themselves really closely and say in the mirror, I am beautiful. I do not need these chemicals on my face. A little lip gloss or lip balm and to keep the face clean and moisturizer is the way to go. Do me a favor ladies. Do not let the society, media, commercials, ads, magazine ads, define you and don’t let them control your feelings, don’t let them walk all over you, don’t let them tell you otherwise. Your beautiful and that is final!

The Talents and Gifts We Have in Our Lives

Do you often sell yourself short? Do you often tell your family and friends that you can’t do something, when you really can? Do you often say you have no talents or gifts? Do you often think negative about yourself? Well, you should stop and think about who you are and what your strengths are and work on being more positive, to work on feeling good about yourself. Nobody wants a negative and pessimistic person who always down grades his or herself. We all have talents and gifts that are so special, so unique and really incredible. If you spend time with yourself, discover yourself and your talents, you will be surprised at what you find out.

Saying you don’t have talent and saying you’re not good enough for anyone or anything is a complete lie. You are lying to yourself. Do not waste your talents, do not let others tell you, you do not have talent, or you are not good enough. People should take a long look in the mirror before they judge other people. First people need to take a look at themselves before they jump into conclusions about other people. Do not let negative energy from negative people destroy your dreams, your talents and take away your gifts, that God has given you and that you were born with. Every single one of us has talent, every single one of us have great traits. Learn about them and use them in your daily life.

Never give up on your dreams, and never settle for less than what you deserve. Always be who you are and never change yourself for anyone. Selling yourself short is not good. Don’t be putting yourself down and making yourself depressed. It is not a healthy thing. because if you downgrade yourself all the time with your family and friends, it is not going to make you look good in their eyes. People these days strive for happiness always and try to look at things in a positive aspect. Do not be the only one in the group that destroys that happiness and be a center of an attention all the time. I know some people may have gone through sadness and people always telling that person that they cannot do anything, they are useless in this world. You shouldn’t let that get to you, no matter how many times people say it to you.

Stand tall, be firm, be confident in yourself, love yourself, respect yourself, and do what you can to better your life. Spend some me time to discover yourself, then get out there and show them who the boss is. So wipe that sadness and I can’t do it face, and be strong. You can do it!

It Is Not About The Quantity Of Friends, Its About The Quality

In life we will come across so many people in our lives, and some think that the more friends you have the more popular you will be and the more better you will be, and that is wrong. You can have so many friends, you can hundreds of people being your friend and some people will be more concerned about having quantity instead of quality, well, that should not be. I’d rather have a few friends who will be by my side, to back me up, and to support, love and appreciate me for who I am. Everything should be mutual when it comes to friends. It takes two to tango and it takes both to be the backbone that keeps the friendships up. Also, don’t trust people so quickly, don’t give in so easily. Ask yourself a few questions, will they be loyal to you? will they back you up? How will they treat you? Will they use you? Unfortunately in society these days, you need to double triple check before you make friends with people and this day in age, trust has become so rare and there are people of all walks of life. Do you really want to put yourself in a predicament of hanging out with someone who will back stab, betray and use you?

In this life we live in now, we need to analyze people very well before we give our all, before we share our most personal stories and our life’s journey with them. It does take time to get to know someone, and friendships and good friendships take time to build. So you build your trust in accordance to how someone is, their actions, words, kindness, their honesty, their loyalty and the way they are to you and how they treat you. When you are out with friends at a restaurant, take a good look and observe, if they are rude to the waiter or waitress, or if they are rude to any other person, it makes you think and question, will they be like that toward me? Will they burst at me like that someday? Actions do speak a lot louder than words and then words and action play hand in hand with each other.

We must open up our eyes a bit more, be more observant, and not to trust people so easily. Take your time to get to know someone before you give it your all. You will know the quality and the friends you have, by just the way they are, you will know what to do whether to pursue the friendship or not. Disrespectful people who do not know how good they have it and take advantage of ones goodness, good heart, and those who do not care, and those who use you, those who spread rumours and share whatever happens to the world, is not a true friend. Some people do not even know the definition of a friend and that is so unfortunate. Take your time, don’t rush into friendships so quickly because you will be burned if you don’t choose your friends wisely and you can be hurt. I do not want anybody hurt.

My family, friends, fans, readers and all my other supporters, I want the best for everyone, and I am speaking through experience. I’ve been burned so many times from fake people, I’ve been hurt so many times, but all it takes is opening up your eyes, being more assertive, being more aware, being more observant of people’s actions, eye language, facial reactions, body language and more. It is so important to take a look at all of that. It will save the hassle in the long run and it will make you decide if they are the right friends for you and if you should continue it or not. It all depends on a person’s personality and the type of friends to choose, but in the end look out for you. Don’t put everyone in one basket, balance it and don’t give in too quickly.

Just take your time. There is no rush to friendships. You will find the suitable people for you. It will take time and effort, but never ever think friendship will never happen for you. Just be patient and go with the flow.  You would not want to go through havoc and trouble. Just believe in yourself and know that there are types of people for you that are suitable. Just relax and take it easy. I’d rather have only a few friends I can trust, depend on and share stories and things with, rather than having hundreds, that will only be their part time and not full time. So just go with your gut instinct and I wish you all the best.

Don’t Be Discouraged – Always Look Forward

In life when were going through life, a lot of people if not all people want to be a number of things when they grow up, they have ambitions, dreams, and talents. Everyone has different skills, needs, qualities, potential, and personal goals to attain and fulfill in life. Unfortunately some do not get to enjoy, fulfill and succeed in life because their lives were cut short and its a terrible thing.  Everyone has great qualities about themselves, and sometimes some peoples progress, and going to the next step takes a lot longer than others, but never be and let others discourage on how slow a progress you are making. At least you have continual progress that is not stopping and you are trying your best and doing your best. Always look forward in life. I know things in life happen without you least expecting it, traumatic and tragic things can happen in ones life, but never let that be a discouragement . The sign of failure means that you are trying. Nobody is a failure. You might fail at doing somethings, but never make that into a weakness. Make it something that you can work on more harder and if at first you do not succeed, try it again and again. Never stop. Failure means success in the long run. Just remember that.

Remember if people are trying to bring you down, that only means you are above them and if people are spending so much time talking about you, talking to you, talking about your weaknesses, putting you lower, and not trying anything to put your spirits up, and not encouraging you that means that they are not true friends at all, that means that they are only trying to hide their failures and flaws about them and not sharing it. In the end everyone has their own pace, their own time to learn, to grow, to experiment, to experience and to succeed. You can do anything you put your mind to, and never be discouraged. Things always happen and come up in life, but never lose sight of your dreams and all the plans you look forward to in the future. It is always great to make plans while you are living day to day.

Never lose yourself, don’t listen to negative people, don’t ever let anybody always try to find faults and things wrong about you, do not give anybody the satisfaction of pessimism. Be optimistic, be ambitious, keep dreaming, keep working on attaining your goals. It might take longer than others but hey at least you are getting there, at least your not stopping for anybody or anything. It is the worst thing you can do for yourself is to let others walk all over you and to mess with you. Never do that. Before others judge, and say things to you out of turn or give you advice, but the wrong type, let them look at themselves in the mirror, let them focus on themselves before pointing fingers, and being judgmental. In my previous blog, I was talking about being strong, and surround yourself with positive and great people who will encourage you, who will lift you up.

encouraging, confidence boosters, kind, nice, sweet, positivity, optimism these are the things you should surround yourself with, and never let anyone tell you, you cannot do it, because you can do it. Everything is possible in life, but unfortunately satisfying everyone is just the only impossible thing in the world. In the end you know who you are, you know what you are capable of, you know your limitations, you know yourself the best, you are your individual person. Keep your head up high, lift yourself up, and never sell yourself short and put yourself down. Keep smiling, and all the very best to you. Lastly, Do not ever be discouraged!

Natural Beauty is The Way

As I go through life seeing many people wear oodles of make-up on their face, I always say to myself, why they put so much? why they have to cover their face up with all these cosmetics? I believe and know that all women and girls have a natural beauty and they are simply covering up what they really look like. I am not saying do not wear make-up, you are free to make your own decisions as to how much cosmetics you put on your face, but in moderation. The trick to wearing make-up, you have to make it look like you are not wearing any at all.

I believe inner beauty is far more beautiful than our exterior. Make-up should not make a woman/girl believe that they are far more beautiful with that stuff on their faces. Many cosmetic companies starve for women/girls who constantly head to the stores to purchase their merchandise. Beauty comes from within. We are just carrying our exterior, but I am telling all women/girls of the world right now, you are beautiful, you don’t have to try to impress the guy next door, or when you go to a party or somewhere to wear make up to the extent that it does not make you look good at all. It makes it worse to be honest.

I have been to many parties and I notice women and girls look in the mirror in the restroom to maintain themselves, adding more and more make-up. Again, it is totally up to you on what you do to your face, but I would understand if you’re a bride, bridesmaid, or you’re in a modeling agency, or whatever, but then again, make-up should be worn within limits.

As my personal side of the story, I only wear make-up when it is absolutely necessary, I occasionally wear make up to a party or a gathering with my girlfriends, but I rarely wear it on a daily basis. It makes my face feel so heavy and it makes me feel like there are things on my face constantly. The mess of mascara, the mess of the bronzer and foundation powders and everything, just clog up the pores and clog up the face and your face won’t breathe.

Although it is important to maintain your exterior, with having your hair groomed, showered up, clean, nice smelling, and have great hygiene with brushing your teeth, flossing and everything which is very important, but when it comes to Make-up, it really isn’t a necessity, it is something that hides your beauty, being a natural beauty is far more attractive, than having all this gunk on your face, and putting too much make-up on no matter what type of product or name it is, can speed up the aging process.

I know you readers are questioning and thinking that this woman writing this has got to be crazy, that she herself is a woman and women are so revolved around cosmetics, fashion so on and so forth. Personally, I myself enjoy wearing custom jewellery, and matching up my outfits and going out with just lip gloss on my lips or a lip colour that suits my face and colour of my skin, rather than wearing way to much on my face. I already wear corrective lenses, and i occasionally wear contact lenses.

In conclusion, you are beautiful, you are a person of our world, you have been put on this earth, no matter how your face looks, your facial attributes, sizes, shapes, were all different, were all ONE BODY, Were all in the same human race, were all on this earth for a reason. Nature will take its course. BE NATURAL, BE WHO YOU ARE, GOD LOVES YOU Just the way you are, SO LOVE YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE. Save that 5, 10, 20, 50, 100 dollar bill that you are going to spend on Make-up and Utilize it for something more worthwhile. So get up, stand up, Smile and look at yourself in the mirror and say these 5 WORDS Every morning you wake up — “I AM A NATURAL BEAUTY” and start your day. Try it, and you will see the difference.

Social Media Awareness – T-H-I-N-K – The Acronym That Stood Out

In recent months I have been writing a lot about this subject about social media, and it is one of the biggest hot topics of this day in age and mostly everything is revolved around social media, promotions, advertising, and so much more that we make social media. Nowadays there are clever ways to advertise and get viewership rolling, making photo acronym’s and there are so many quotes out there that makes people think and social media is one of the biggest ones and all to do with success, business and so much more. Now, what stood out to me the most was this great acronym that says, THINK.

Now, before you Tweet, Facebook, Pin It, Tumblr It, text it, send photos, or do anything with Social Media think of this:

T – is it true?

H – is it helpful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – is it necessary?
K – is it kind?

We all want to protect our credibility, reputation and ourselves ultimately and this acronym is something that certain people should be reading and thinking about literally, and ultimately we are responsible for what we post because anybody on the internet can see it, and anybody who searches online for a certain word, phrase or something they can come to your site and you either gain fans or you do not. It all depends on how your portray yourself. It is important to think if it is kind and necessary to post. I feel that social media has gone way out of context of over sharing. How much is too much when it comes to sharing? I have seen twitter messages that people post when they have their bowel movements, they even post what they are doing 24 hours a day. I find that to be way too much information that does not need to be on the internet.

Now with our words are we really moving mountains? Are we inspiring people? Are we helping people in positive and great ways? Is something we post true? I think it is something that is up to us individually on what we want to post, but we should be cautious about what we post and the content. This acronym is something that really has been on my mind for quite some time now and it has put social media in my life into perspective, and it has given me so much inspiration and so much food for thought to share this acronym with those who may or may not have seen or heard about it before. Are we really hurting our future with the material and content we produce online? Remember what you post online is there forever and even if you delete and remove things, it will always be there on the internet database.

Are there things you have seen online that have been terrible and written, drawn, Photoshopped or created a terrible meme about other people? Have you seen blogs, comments, and websites that bully others? The internet can be a great place and sometimes the internet is not such a great place. Also not everything should be taken as a joke. There is a time and place for everything and there is a time for humour, a time for seriousness, but in the end everything has its limitations. It depends on individuals and how they utilize it. Being kind, helpful and inspiring is something that everyone should exercise in always doing. I know sometimes people may not be on the same page about a certain topic, people may not always agree on things, but there is always a pleasant way to handle it, and there are ways to approach things in a great and peaceful manner where then everything will be great in the end. Just simply say “I am going to have to disagree on that, this is how I think about something or this is my feeling or take on it”, or this is what I would have done differently or said something differently. There is no need to use vulgar, profane language to others, where it can be kind and dealt with in a civil manner.

This Acronym has put an everlasting thought in my mind and in my day-to-day blogging and social media life. Has it for you? What is your take on THINK? what is your opinion? I’d love to hear from you.

How To Avoid Conflict with Assumptions and Spreading Rumors

In my life, I have always learned to not get too involved in someone elses personal lives and business and to ask too many questions and details about a person’s life and I have been taught to never assume things about other people, make up stories about them and not to spread rumours and I have learned that if something that if someone tells me and tells me not to tell anybody, I honor their word and I never tell a soul. It’s just my style and I just cannot stand it sometimes when people ask way too many personal questions about family life, about sensitive things that not everyone should know about. I believe there are boundaries to everything and there is a limit with so much. Some people are so nosy and want to know so much. It becomes too much. When rumors start being spread around without knowing from the source, is not something very good to do.

Before sharing things and before spreading things around that you are permitted to do, it is always important to ask from the source and find out things from the source, because by the time you hear about it from different people, the story gets changed around, words are added here and then, and people understand things differently, then it will be chaotic and something will be blown way out of proportion. It is like playing broken Telephone when by the time the story gets sent around in the circle, the person at the end will have a totally different story and then spread it around. I think it is a good idea to always know if it is something you should say to others, and get permission always and never assume things about other people unless you find out from them and unless there is solid proof of something done, or something said. Sometimes there are witnesses who even lie, and there are so many people who will lie and make up stories about others.

I think the most important thing is to really get the facts straight. Relationships and friendships can be ruined by it, and a lot of damage will be done. I just sometimes say you know what? Its better I do not get involved, I do not say anything, and not share with the world something that is very personal. I just don’t want to deal with headaches and hardships later. I am always loyal to my friends, and when they tell me something personal, there is no way I will ever spread those things around. It is the most terrible thing anyone can do. Now with social media, the internet there are mixed signals and so many sites dealing with social media, there are billions of us on the internet everyday and transmitting information 24/7 365, and a lot of people do not get their facts straight and it becomes a catastrophe. So my advice to everyone is, never assume, never invent words with your mouth and go right to the source to find out information. The power of words can do serious damage, and its the most powerful thing in this world.

Has there been a moment in your life where people find false things about you and it gets spread like wildflowers? Have you been in a situation where you do damage control and tell people the right things instead of the way people hear about it? Have you defended someone? People just need to get their facts straight. That is all there is to it. it avoids conflict, problems, and it prevents from relationships, friendships and bonds to break and it can be a very hurtful thing to go through. So some people need to really think before they speak and ask from the source beforehand . I cannot stress it enough. Make things right now before things get out of hand because it can and really quick. All the best to everyone!