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What I Did To Move on From People Who Bullied Me. How I Overcame It.

When I was a Child going to school, I wasn’t so lucky with a normal social life where people bullied me, and made fun of me terribly much day in and day out and I do not even want to mention the things I was called because I was different, looked different and because I was being myself no matter what others say, but as time went by and as I went to do other things in my life after my school life, I overcame and moved on from that phase of my life. I realized, that this bullying was a temporary part of my life and I know that things will get better, and it has quite substantially and I am so glad that part of my life is over and how I overcame bullies and all those terrible feelings is something that was a miracle. Something triggered into my mind that I decided to put a barrier against my bullies and I moved forward with my life. I now don’t see any of them anymore and that I am so happy about. Anyway, Here are ways I overcame bullying and what I did for myself to move on and get going to a better life without the bullies, and they are the following:

– I spoke to my parents, other family members, teachers, the principal, the guidance Councillor.

– I decided not to let negativity overpower my life anymore and I decided to pull the plug on negativity and think positively,

– I believed in myself, and I knew it was a temporary time where I was going through a phase and I knew things got better.

– I joined in my church community, and they took well care of me and I made a lot of friends there.

– After all those years went by, I did volunteer work at Daily bread food bank(Boxing Food for the Needy), Children’s Aid(Wrapping Christmas Toys For Kids In Need), Saturday and Sunday School (For The Children), Joined Family Support Services, Habitat For Humanity(Helping build, paint homes for the needy), and joining committees around my church.

– We set up a party to do fundraising for Children’s Aid around Christmas time.

– Every Friday nights now, I have met an incredible group of people throughout the church and we all got together and now we go out to different places and we have great times, and create memories, and travel with each other.

– I met great people whom I can call my best friends, and I never gave up on finding people, I always made the conscious effort to never lose my way and to move forward in life.

– I knew things would get better for me, and I knew how to move on with life after being bullied.

– I always asked for help and I got the help and I am eternally grateful to all those who have helped me win these battles.

– I never gave up and I overcame the worst days of my life and I replaced it with the best days of my life which is happening in the present times of my life.

This is how I overcame my bullies, and now I am happy, positive, and I feel great, and better than before. It will happen to you too whoever is being bullied right now unfortunately. My thoughts and prayers are with you all, and I am behind you and I am by your side, I am here to listen, to give advice, and to show you the way to a new life without these bullies, that has made us so vulnerable in our lives. You have no idea how special you are in your own way, and how important you are to your family, you have a lot of people who care about you, and you do have a place in this earth and you have come here for a reason, you were born a winner and you will overcome it, like I did. Never give up on anything, and always know that you do serve a purpose on this earth. Smile, be happy, and always know that you always have people to confide into. You may not know it or feel it, but someone is always there for you.

I love you, and I want the best for all.

Spending Some Alone Time With Yourself, Is Very Good For You.

Hello everyone, today I want to write about my point of views on spending alone time with yourself, and I believe it is very good for you. I spend a lot of alone time whether its in the car driving, or just walking around, going to the mall, and just relaxing and thinking about life and everyone in it. I believe that when I spend alone time with myself, I discover new things about myself, I create new recipes from the top of my head to cook dinner for my family, I think about life decisions, and how things progress in life. I remember when I went out and got some food to eat, and I was just alone and reflecting on my life and where I have got to so far. Yes its great to surround yourself with people all the time, but someday you need to just unwind, clear your mind and relax without interruption and without people around you. I do it a lot.

besides all of that, I do a lot of thinking for the future, and I make plans. I know sometimes when you make plans, it doesn’t go through, but I like making plans in case things go right and when things get on track with life, it is awesome. I love making plans because that prepares me and keeps me organized. I did so much to my room and decor and organizing and making sure things are neat, tidy and where I can find things easily. I spend a lot of time in my room thinking of ways to always improve my living space with how I want my belongings to be, what I want as decor and among other things and places around the house. before bed, I think about so many things and most of it are happy things, and serious things too. I know that life is too short and that we cannot take everything so seriously, but sometimes we have to take measures into our hands and think about serious things. Life can make you or break you and it is a very tricky world we live in, so we have to always have back up plans in life, in case something doesn’t pan out, there is something else to fall into. The more you wait for your future, the shorter it will be. So when you are young, you have to think of all these scenarios.

You work hard when you’re young, so that in future it will be easy. It is all up to a person’s individuality and what we can become of it. We can shoot for the stars, the sky is the limit. I cannot stress how important alone time really is. When you are around so many people all the time and just keep on going out, there is no time for you, there is no time for your life and what you decide and think about. I know a lot of thinking is not good for you either, but always remember, that alone time you spend with yourself, the better you will be and you will discover your personality traits, you will discover how you portray yourself among other important traits that are so critically important. always know that you create your own destiny and you create your own masterpiece of life. You can do it. Remember Rome was not built in a day, to this day the world is changing, people are changing, new people are born everyday, and everyday people die, but it is the cycle of the world and we must discover ourselves. It is very important. So think about it and do something positive for you everyday, and remember to always be happy. Optimism and good thinking habits, will conquer the rest. Take my advice and you will see the difference. All the best to you.

Kid’s Are So Spoiled These Days. I Just Never Knew How Much Until Yesterday

So Yesterday, I was out on my regular shopping and I came across this kid who looked like she was 6 or 7 years old and her mother in the same aisle. I was looking at stuff and all of a sudden the kid sees something she likes, and then all of a sudden she says Mommy can I have this? The mother said no you cannot have that, the kid started to make a huge fuss and ask why? I want it now, and treating the mother terribly, then the mother said no again and the child started to cry and scream out, I was just watching this whole thing from afar and I was about to intervene, but I said you know what? I am not going to do anything. The Mother said, that’s it were going home and she said your punished, and I am taking away your cell phone. So they took off without buying anything in the store. The mother got so furious. Never mind all that, but cell phone at age 6-7? You have got to be kidding me right? I was at a loss for words that such a young child who barely got out of playing with baby toys and plastic and in the colouring phase that has a cell phone. I cannot believe how spoiled children have become. They do anything to get what they want, but I really commend this mother who kept saying no to her child. I guess the mother came to a point and put her foot down and not let her have that, but the cell phone thing really turned me off.

I just cannot believe it, I never had my first cell phone until I was 18 years old. I was so happy with my crayons, I was so happy playing with my little dolls, I was so happy with the creativity, and imagination I had when I was a kid. I did crafts, I created so many things, I drew things, I did arts and crafts with glue, coloured paper, and so much more. Now kids rely on technology to do the thinking for them and now everything revolves around keyboards and they cannot do a day without them which is pretty sad. Before I would see a lot more kids outside playing, riding bikes, playing road hockey and doing outdoor things, but now the residential streets are more quiet and kids are inside playing video games or are on the computer or texting with cell phones to other friends. If the parents keep saying yes for the kid to have the latest gadgets and if they parents don’t say no, the child obviously becomes spoiled so much and just one day when you say no, they make a big stink about it in the store, they start to threaten the mother or father at the store, they start to make a big scene, but how will we teach our children about saving money? How will we teach our children about not getting everything their classmates or friends have? How kids should not copy other people and be their own person.

I remember there was so many things that came out, and my parents always taught me just because somebody else has something it doesn’t mean that you should have it too. My parents taught me a lot when I was growing up, and I was content and happy with what I had. They told me that kids in the world don’t have toys to play with, food to eat, and other things in life, and a lot of those children in impoverished countries and places where they don’t have running water, create their own games, create their own toys and play with their friends, relatives, siblings. Its very important to realize that when kids are too spoiled and the parents always say yes to their children and they don’t get what they want, the parents need to sit down and talk to their kids, they need to teach kids values, lessons and tell them to watch videos on how kids live in third world countries, get them to realize that these kids have it so good, they have a roof over their heads, food to eat, and necessities of life. Kids should not complain that they don’t have an Ipod or the latest gaming console, or the latest cell phone or something. They should be fortunate enough and always be thankful to their parents for giving them a good life, for giving them more important things in life rather than material things. Materialism is unbelievable and when kids grow up to be spoiled and always get what they want, then they will do that to their kids and their kids will do that to theirs.

Sit down with your kids, talk to them, do something that will benefit them in the future. Kids should work more on their personalities, morale, quality, and start gaining responsibility. When kids learn at a young age, the future will be bright for them, and when they exercise the good things in life and stop making a big fuss in a store because they didn’t get what they wanted, should be a good lesson. Yesterday when I was shopping like I said with the mother and child who had a cell phone, that did it for me, and I just had to write about it, in today’s blog. I am so concerned on how spoiled kids have gotten and it needs to stop. I cannot stress it enough. Parents give their children a lot of freedom, they give them way too much than they can really handle. It’s time to say no and teach kids that having everything others have is not a great thing. don’t copy other people, be your own person and so what if other kids laugh, it all begins with the big figures in their lives which are their parents. Try it out. spend time with them and teach them. It’s the best way to go.

 

Shoplifting & Stealing Will Put A Big Dent In Your Life!

In recent stories I have heard on the news of people robbing banks, retail stores, grocery stores, malls, who steal gasoline, so on and so forth has got my blood boiling. I just do not see the logic in people who commit fraud, who steal, who shoplift, who do terrible things to get money and items from other people. I know that times are tough, prices are increasing, and that  people will do anything to survive, but have those people ever thought of making a nice clean living? have they thought about making an honest living? It doesn’t matter what people are going through, stealing is wrong in so many levels. It is one of the 10 commandments in the bible saying thou shall not steal in Exodus – Chapter 20.. If people do not have the money to buy something, they should not buy it, if people are in deep debt and keep getting into deeper debt, maybe its about time to stop buying things you cannot afford and pay off your debt. It will save your reputation with your credit and then the collections agency to be after you. It is not a good thing to go through. Debt is one of the main reasons why people find the thrill to shoplift, steal and fraud other people for money.

Always set aside money and things for a rainy day. You never know when you might need it. I know people work so hard to make ends meet from paycheck to paycheck, but everyone can be debt free when they budget themselves and buy important things rather than dishing out for unimportant things like a 500 dollar purse, or 300 dollar shoes, or a 800 dollar dress, or extra fees and monthly payments of certain things in the house. That money can be saved for important things like necessities to survive, like food, important hygiene products, useful things for the house, saving up the travel somewhere.

I am not telling you how to spend your money and your hard earned cash, but learning the value of money and how you worked so hard earning that money and thinking about spending it before you spend it, is something so important and that will making everything go right and money issues will be no more. I cannot stress how important it is to save save save. You can put a down payment on a house, you can buy a car, you can do anything, but make sure it is for the right reasons. Money will go within seconds. Saving some aside is not a bad thing.

Shoplifting, Fraud, and Stealing will put a huge dent into someones life for good and it will be on your record for the rest of your life and if your looking for employment, if your looking for a relationship and when your employer or when your better half finds out, the trust will be gone and trust will be so hard to get back. So be honest, making an honest living, and do not steal and do terrible things to others. I believe in Karma and what goes around comes around and God watches everyone from above. Stealing something that is even 1 Dollar, or Stealing something that is 10 dollars or stealing gas from a gas station or stealing from others. Is it really worth your reputation? Is it really worth your credentials? Is it really worth your record being ruined for life? Is it really worth for someone to go to jail, serving a sentence for it? I don’t think it is worth it at all.

If I don’t have the money for something, I will not buy it and I will not even look at something. Spending money wisely is the way to go. I know that living expenses and the prices of everything are going up, but those need to change too and be fair for the economy and the world we live in and I totally understand that, but again stealing is stealing and it is wrong. It doesn’t matter. the bottom line is when someone is old enough to steal, they are old enough to serve a punishment. When you do the crime, you do the time. It is all that matter in the end because nobody else will clean up your mess you made in terms of your life because you will have a dent that cannot be repaired ever again and even if you try to hide it, the truth always comes out. Think about it.