Some People Come In Your Life As A Blessing, Some Come As Lessons

Due to popular demand, I am posting this again….

There are so many things that are important in life to know and understand all types of people, knowing how to read people, knowing how to differentiate between being with the wrong people and the right people. It is super important to surround yourself always with different types of people and get to know their mind set and to know their personality, traits, attitudes, actions, their trail of thought about things. Its so imperative to know this. Some people come into your life as blessings because they are the right type of people to be with who are true to you, who would never lie to you, who would never betray you and your trust, someone who will always be your backbone, someone who will be part of your life and stay their with no strings attached. Some people come into your life as lessons. Sometimes friendships, relationships, do not pan out to be the way you would have expected to, and that is a learning experience on seeing people’s true colors to come out and see how a personality, attitude and character come into place with time. With time you will get to know people, and some people have the gift to read people instantly and know what they are all about with certain keywords, eye, facial movements, and body language.

Physical movements and the eyes tell a lot about a person and some have the ability to look at people in the eye and see things others cannot see. We all need to be educated on how to read people and how to be good judges of character. It will help you in the long run in future friendships, relationships, and everything else. It is very important to be careful who your trust and give your whole heart, mind and soul to. We can easily be fooled by people who have the ability to say things that we want to hear and try to convince us and persuade us to change our minds and mindsets, but that is something that is very tricky. Learning valuable lessons in life is important. It helps us grow, it helps us prepare ourselves for endless possibilities, and new things in life we have yet to experience. There are all types of people in this world, there are so many personality traits, so many things that are into the factor. The more were educated, the more were capable of handling people, handling vulnerable stages in ones life. We need to learn to not trust easily and we need to learn to not give in 100% unless your 100% certain and sure about what you do in life. Sometimes life can throw hard balls, but we need to be strong and we need to close a chapter in our life and start another.

Life is too short. Things happen for a reason, everything in life that happens are for a valid reason, people come in and out of your life and that is another reason. Were all on our own separate journey’s in life and most importantly who we take with us on that journey and who we associate with. Be happy, positive, confident, optimistic in life. If things are rocky, unstable and miserable for you now, always remember that everything works out in the end. God is always there to protect us and to watch over us. Learning valuable lessons in life and acting on it is something that will benefit you in future. Although sometimes people do not think it will, when you least expect it, something great will come out of everything with patience, perseverance, and determination. When we expect it, and when we keep doing that, it sometimes will take longer and it will not be the result you were looking for. don’t have too many expectations, don’t jinx yourself, don’t over exert yourself with things. Let the right people come naturally. Eventually God will place you with the right crowd, and things will make sense.

I know that sometimes things do not make sense at all with how life is and how people are altogether, we need to focus on the blessings in our lives and then deal with our lessons. Make the impossible, possible, with no regrets, no turning back and just do what is best for you and do what you can to pursue your own happiness and your own dreams and wishes. It will come true. Where there is a will, there is a way for everything. Try it out, you will see the difference in no time. Do not worry, be happy and get on track with life.

Never Keep Anything Bottled Up Inside Of You. Always Bring It Out.

In My life I have learned not to keep anything bottled up inside and always spill the beans no matter what. I actually feel so much better everytime I do because if I keep anything bottled up inside of me, that makes life a lot more stressful and a big burden on your heart and it may suffocate you in the long run. Blogging takes a lot out of me as I express my feelings with writing and I talk to close people and loved ones in my life who understand my situations. If your going through rough times, or if you feel like venting out, do it. It is very good for you and it takes a big load off your mind and heart. You may not be aware of it, but you actually do make it better by speaking out about it.

People get sick, stressed, over-analyze themselves, sells ones self short, and all these terrible things can happen if all of us don’t speak out. People always tell me to never keep things inside of me unless they are secrets and things that people do not want me to tell anyone, that will always stay with me forever and I will never tell a soul, but besides that among everything else it should be said out, and they told me to never hesitate and be afraid of expressing myself. Its part of Human nature. All of us have problems, all of us have our worries so on and so forth, but its always good to say it out loud, its always good to confide in someone, if we don’t those problems will escalate and escalate and to the point like its a temperature gauge and when the mercury will explode. You do not want to get yourself to that level.

When you have a problem with someone, when you have issues you would like to discuss to someone, you tell it to their face and come up with solutions to solve that problem, or talk it over with someone, without other people interfering, and just have an open communication with whatever bothers you inside and whatever you need to express. Its super important to realize that. You may strengthen bonds with others by just doing that. You need to talk pleasantly and start the conversation by, “we need to talk about something that has been bothering me” or something along the lines of just being sincere and respectful as you confront the person, because nobody wants anyone to hound them and give them grief. Its always good to be respectful about it, rather than being hateful and rude. It sets yourself up for more problems when you want to solve it with others. You will see problems diminish and you will see that your bonds with people will be more strong if your straight forward, if you apply yourself and just let it all out. You don’t want a two faced person in front of you and a person who laughs and smiles but really they cannot stand the fact that there are problems that have not been discussed.

Some people do not realize the wrong they do, so we must make people aware of it and tell them like it is. No one likes a fake person. Its important to be real, to be nice about it and you will see how things will get better.

Life can sometimes throw obstacles to your face, so we need to talk to prevent those obstacles from contacting you. There are so many personalities, so many characters in life, different people, different mentalities, but always remember, “An Ugly Personality, Can Ruin a Pretty face” – UNKNOWN ——– So do yourself a favour, set yourself free and do not let anything get bottled up inside. You wouldn’t want to risk having a serious nervous breakdown now would you? Think about it!

I Have Never Liked Snow, and Never Will

This morning, I woke up to the sight of snow all over the place and it was our very first snowfall and snow storm that already blanketed everywhere. I really do not like winter at all. I really did not miss snow at all. Some people have asked me and said, but Talin you live in Canada your from Canada, how can you not like snow? I said not everyone who lives in Canada like it. Some do, but I really don’t. It makes the roads messy, makes driving unsafe, and among so many things that snow can do. I have never liked it. Even when I was a little kid. I was never a fan of snow. In the Winter time I like to get away from all this cold and snow. We usually travel to sun and tropical destinations during the winter months. It really doesn’t make sense to go to a sun destination in the summer time or in the spring. So that way you can get away from the winter for a week or 2. It really sucks having a big driveway during times like this, or your going to have to buy a snow blower or get someone to shovel it. I cannot shovel snow. I have a bad back, and I do not want to injure myself with shoveling that stuff. It looks like it is quite a bit on there. Plus you have to clean off your car, make sure you have snow tires, and everything. Its all a big huge mess. Plus everywhere is slushy, wet, and all that salt they put and then all this white stuff get on your car. No thank you. This is not my season. I can’t wait until March. One snow storm is enough. I cannot take anymore of it. LOL I really detest snow as you can tell.

If you live in an area where snow comes and when in winter, take it easy on the roads, give yourself more time and make wise decisions before stepping out of your home. Is it necessary? Do I really have to go out? Is it very important? Unless your going to work, school or something really important, then that is fine, but if your going to go out for the sake of going out, do yourself a favour, don’t risk it. I know winter just started and it will get worse and it will be colder, and freeze, but I do not want to risk it. Who else doesn’t like snow?

I Want To Be Your Moon Because I Want To Shine Brightness On Your Darkest Days Of Your Life

In life, we all have our moments of darkness when unfortunate things happen to us such as losing a loved one, being bullied by others, when we lose a job, when other bad things happen, and I am sure we all have our problems in life and we just want to find ourselves after such a terrible ordeal we’ve had in our lives. Do you ever wonder when you will find brightness even in the darkest hours and days of your life? Do you have feel like you will never find that light again because of the unfortunate things going on in your life? Your loved ones will help guide you and your true friends will stick by you too. I know this is going to sound strange coming from a blogger, but I am also here too. I want to be the moon to you because I want to shine brightness on your darkest days of your life, I want to be there for you, and if you have anything you want to talk about and if you have something on your mind that you want to share and everything, I am here to listen and I will do the best of my ability to give you advice and get you back on your feet. This morning, I found this quote on Facebook and It is such a powerful quote and it got me to think about how so many people in this world now are living in darkness because now there are so many problems happening in our world and it keeps on increasing. Never forget Me Talin Orfali, I am here for everyone and I want to be the moon in your lives. Never forget these words I say to you because I mean it and stick by to my words especially when it comes to making a difference in someones life, making positive and happy changes to ones life. It is what I am about and it is my life’s motto. I am very passionate about people, and I detest discrimination in every way. I have always told my family and friends, that I am here for you in your darkest days and in the brightest days, and they know that they can confide in me and tell me everything that is going on in their lives and they do tell me everything and that makes me feel great because they know that they can always trust me.

Anybody can trust me because I never share anyone’s problems with others and I keep it all to myself and when people request that they don’t want something shared or a secret to be told to anyone, I never blab and I never open my mouth to anyone because that is not my style and that is not how I was raised. I keep all that to myself and nobody ever knows about it because it is not cool to blab out things that were told to me in confidence. Now my friends respect me more because of that and because they know they can trust me. I really like that and I want to be the same friend to you all and I want to do the same not only for my family and friends, but I want to do it for you all too. If you have anything that you need to talk about, never hesitate. I want to make positive and happy changes in this world.

This world is in dire need of a make-over and I want to be one of the people to make a difference and I want to help the community around me and eventually all over the world. I know I keep bringing up that I want to get on television shows and having these big dreams of one day making it into the big world, but I have my reasons and the reasons being is that I want to do this for humanity and for society and as a human being I want to get out there and do my part in the world, I want to know and feel to myself that I have done my duty and my part in the world, not because I need to do it, but because I want to do it. There is a big difference in needing and wanting and I really want to do it, I really want to get out there and do this for our world and our lifestyles. It is very important to me and I will not give up no matter what comes in my way and whatever obstacle there will be to prevent me from doing so, and that will not stop me. I will always find a way to be the moon on the darkest days of peoples lives, because that’s just my style.

Preserving North American Historic Architecture and It’s Landmarks

In recent news, I heard about a few landmarks in Toronto Canada will be shut down like Casa Loma because of Money, and that is a great course of concern for me. This is a big problem and it needs to be addressed. In North America, it seems to me that whenever a landmark gets old, or buildings get old with Historic Architecture, and when buildings get outdated, they automatically think its okay to demolish it or shut it down and build modern looking buildings that destroy a historic building and a site which was once a vital part of history. It is not right to tamper with historical monuments and buildings because when we look back in history books and pictures, people will wonder what happened to those buildings? Historians and those who are becoming historians and studying archeology and other forms of history subjects, it is important to preserve our history and not rebuild something new.

In All of Europe and some middle eastern countries, they are doing their best to conserve, preserve and make sure that artifacts, buildings, museums and other important parts of a country’s history does not fade away and that is exactly what North America is doing. A Hockey Arena the Maple Leaf Gardens were converted to a grocery store and a department store, it is not a cool thing to do, I’d rather it be there as a museum of Hockey history, rather than it being destroyed and used for other things. A lot of people were not happy about that. What I am saying is that, when a piece of history gets destroyed, that is something that Is not good for the future of Canada or the United States of America. Preserving and making sure that these are well kept so that future generations can visit and learn about it through history books, and set up trips to go see these monuments, buildings and actually get a feel of history. I am not saying that each historical monument or building is shut down or destroyed, but I am talking about the ones that are. It is crucial and vital for our identity as North Americans, and that is a big piece of the puzzle. If we destroy history, then what will we teach to our future generations?

This really alarmed me and I felt the need to share it with you all. It is important to raise awareness to stop from these things happening. We all need to do our best to prevent history from fading away and preserve it as much as possible.

Envisioning My Big Break In The Future – Optimism Is Key To Success

In recent months and within this one year that I have been on WordPress writing blogs and committing myself to a world of writing, and outreaching to the general public of the internet and the world, I began to envision my big break for the plans I have in the future. I have big plans for my life in the next few years and it is important to sort it out and taking extra steps to being initiative in everything. I have time and time again brought up being on Talk shows on Television, I have spoke about getting myself out there and publish my posts to perspective newspaper companies around the globe and I know I can offer a lot and put my cards on the table to get to where I want to be in my life and I believe that each and everyone of us have a passion in life and something that we want to achieve and strive to get on up there with our goals and succeed with everything we have and putting our energy into things we want to excel in. With all that said, optimism is the key to success with an enthusiastic approach, the right attitude, and having the will to do everything in my power to succeed in life.

My passion is ultimately writing, and my passion is to make a difference in the world, getting my gigs on these television talk shows such as Ellen DeGeneres whom I have tremendous respect for, who has such a successful television show and someone whom I have grown fond of for several years now. She is someone I can get along with, and her humor, her personality traits, the way she cares so much for people, the way she helps so many people is something out of this world. When her show finishes, there is a production called, “A Very Good Production” and that is exactly what her show is and it says it all in those 4 words. Meeting her and being on her show would make me the happiest woman in the world. She always talks about bully prevention, she always talks about very important issues in our world, and her monologues are excellently done in a tasteful manner which I absolutely adore with all my heart, mind and soul. She incorporates dancing and getting the audience to dance with her with including them, giving 12 days of giveaways during Christmas and other times during the year. I’d love to one day meet her and get to know her one on one. She is such a beautifully spirited person who touches so many lives and she has touched mine in words, I cannot even express. Thank you Ellen DeGeneres for making life so enjoyable for so many of your fans across the world, thank you for being with us for an hour on Television, for making us laugh, for making us realize the importance of living life to the fullest. I wish Ellen the best with good health and may she smile, laugh and dance always.

There is so much I envision for my life and envisioning on positive and happiness for future is something I really enjoy. I have had a lot of time to myself this past week, and I have been having these scenarios in my mind and dreaming about making it big in the world, and getting myself known out there with good intentions, with the intention of making a big difference in the world with important issues and the prevention of problems in society with bullies, and other serious issues in regards to the well-being of people and the way things are handled. I believe that I can do something good for our world, and I am super confident with my willingness to do my best in society, reach out to those in need of a friend, to those who need someone to talk to, and those who feel lonely to make them feel a part of society and welcoming them to a new world of lovely and friendly people who still exist in our world and there are some really nice people in our world. We just have to look past with what happens and move forward with life.

Envisioning is always a good thing, I do it all the time and now more frequently. I believe and know that all of us can do the same with our lives. Live life the way it is intended and envision everyday. All the best and I wish you nothing but the best.

My Fear Of My Luggage Not Arriving To My Destination With My Plane

Have you ever had the fear of your luggage not being with you on your plane when you head to another destination, especially when your flight is connected? Have you ever had that bad feeling that your luggage was left behind? I am so happy that when I travel soon, I won’t be checking in a bag. I will be just taking a carry on with me. I want to have a piece of mind that my things are with me, and not stowed under the plane, and not knowing what is happening with my luggage. I have connecting flights with my destination, so I better be safe than sorry later. I have minimized quite significantly with the amount I will be taking. It is only for a week and a day or two, so I do not need to pack much. I have packed a few shirts here and there, under garments, one or two shoes, and just a pair or two Capri pants, and plus a little bag of toiletries. If I need anything, I can just ask my family there or something. I am all prepared. I do not want to risk my luggage being delayed. That will be my worst nightmare.

I know it doesn’t matter with that, as long as you get to your destination safely, that is more important than a luggage being delayed but it does matter too. what will you wear? It was my worst nightmare, coming back to Canada from Armenia. I had taken when it was at the time Armenian Airlines. My Luggage arrived to Frankfurt Germany and I had taken Lufthansa Airlines, and when we landed in Toronto, A lot of peoples luggage came, but mine and a few people from my group had their luggage missing. We didn’t end up getting out of the airport until almost 2 hours later trying to figure out my luggage delay, and so they called the Airport in Germany, and my luggage was left behind as well as others. So that was a sign of relief. I got my belongings back 4 days later. I had a whole bunch of souvenirs, and gifts for people and it was just my worst nightmare. I fear connecting flights. Sometimes with direct too, but most of the time with direct you get your luggage and you feel at ease, but since I am traveling in the states, There is no way I am checking in my bag. I have got a carry on that is to the size of the airlines request and allowable luggage size which I am happy and plus I will have my hand bag which is good enough for me. Now I get to travel with no stress and my mind always being on my things.

If you do not really need to check in your luggage when you travel with connecting flights, I suggest you get carry on. The best thing you can do. The liquids must be in compliance with the airlines and the countries restrictions to measures… see with your airlines and your security safety websites. Have a safe and worry free trip everyone if your going somewhere.

Airlines Shouldn’t Charge For Checked Baggage Unless It is Way OverWeight

There is something about the travel industry I do not like, and this is the big one. I do understand that when a checked baggage is overweight the airline must charge for it, but what I do not get is why people have to pay extra to check in a bag that is not overweight. For the life of me, I don’t know why they implemented that in the first place. People are of course going to check in a bag for a flight. Passengers are already paying enough for flights, this should be included without extra costs that passengers don’t need. Traveling alone costs money, everywhere you turn costs money and they nab you each time. I do not think it is fair for people to pay for something, that should of course be an obvious thing. Airlines makes a lot of money, but they should not charge for baggage. Especially United States travel. It is ridiculous to pay for something that is unnecessary. Airlines and airports need to scrap that. I know its making extra money to offer more services, to improve things, to pay the employees of the airline company but there are other ways to make money, but not to milk travelers from their pockets. This and being charged for food on a plane. So if people go hungry and thirsty on flights, they have no choice but to spend money again. People should be offered non-alcoholic drinks on board the aircraft and offered food complimentary from the airline. any flight your on for more than 2-3 hours. These are the two aspects of travel I do not like and they need to improve that. Greediness is not a good trait. Traveling should be fun and traveling means not having to worry about extra costs at the airport, paying for checked baggage. It shouldn’t be like that and It makes me upset about this. It could be 20 or 25 dollars for the baggage, but it doesn’t matter, that 20 or 25 dollars or more can be used for something else, it can be used for duty free gifts, it can be used for something important, but not for just a bag. This has been on my mind for a while now and this has got to be one of the most bizarre things ever. People then will only resort to carry on bags and what can you fill in a carry on bag? I mean we should be allowed to bring a little bit more with us and not having to pay for it. This is not fair to passengers who spend a lot of money on flights, vacations, trips.  Well, that is my two cents of the story. Who agrees with me?

Anyway, I had to get this off my chest today. It is pretty frustrating…. Thanks.

What Happened To Patriotic Dedication Hockey? NHL Lost A Fan

In the last couple of months, hearing about NHL Having a lockout, cancelling pre-season games, cancelling a lot of practices and hearing the owners and a lot of the players wanting more and more money seems to be the trend setter these days with a lot of greed going around. Not just the NHL But everything else. Okay, I understand the NHL (National Hockey League) needs money and everything and it takes money to get far, but this greed has got to stop, and this childish behavior of he said she said, needs to stop. What happened to patriotic hockey? What happened to the dedication and love for the game? Yes some Players are passionate about the game, but greed ruins everything. Your just getting millions of dollars just passing around a puck on the ice for 82-84 games throughout the season, whereas people who work their butts off in real society and reality get minimum wage or low pay. Is that really fair? To go to hockey games in the arenas it costs an arm and a leg to attend the games. Make it cheaper for the fans, and easy accessibility for low income families who are fans of the game, but cannot go to a game because the money is tight. Gary Bettman and the league should open up their eyes. I know a lot of people who have stopped being an NHL Fan because of all this behavior.

Where is the integrity? Where is the passion? I guess that was back in the early years up to the 90′s and then it was all down hill from there. I used to be a real hockey fan, and I never missed a game, I used to go to so many card shows, I never missed an opportunity to see players at different venues across the city, and I used to be a member of the Toronto Maple Leafs and Montreal Canadiens clubs, and used to collect a lot of memorabilia, sports cards and everything, but now, its lost its value and I don’t think I can be a fan to greedy people anymore, and I don’t want to be sitting down watching a Hockey game and seeing a bunch of owners and players only playing for money anymore and not for the love of the game. That is how I am feeling that money is overpowering everything and it is not such a good thing anymore. I can surely tell how hockey was played before and how hockey is being played now. More fighting, more penalties, and its a form of he said she said type of thing. I can tell how the old timers of hockey really enjoyed the game, but now not so much anymore. If NHL wants to keep their fans, then its time to smarten up, take initiative to keep costs to go watch the game low and listen to the fans and their expectations. Without the fans, NHL will not exist, and without NHL Fans, all of you would be out of a job. So in order to keep fans happy, listen to them, be on the fans side, don’t break their heart, and leave childish and greedy behavior.

This year, the lockout will hurt all the fans, but even if the lockout does happen or does not happen, I choose to no longer follow hockey and be part of hockey pools anymore. I’ve lost my flame. I hope they make smart decisions from now on. If they decrease ticket prices and food prices at the games, they will make more money and more revenue, but they think the more they increase it, the better it will be for them, but on the contrary. People with seasons tickets, people who have that love for the game, whats going to happen to their feelings? Whats going transpire? Greed just takes away all the fun and all the patriotic feelings away of the game. Money comes and goes, but the fans are the true essence of hockey, without them NHL Is nothing, sorry but that is the honest truth, sorry I still stand with my decision. I am an NHL Fan no longer, until I feel the dedication, patriotism and love for the game, I won’t be either of that to the league. Open up your eyes owners and smell the coffee.
Thanks.

Getting A Great Nights Sleep For A While Now – I am Happy

So many blogs ago, I had wrote about how difficult it was for me to fall asleep and tossing and turning in bed and not being able to wake up fresh, and for a few weeks now, I have been having a great nights sleep. I am so happy and thrilled about that. Before it would take me over an hour to fall asleep now it takes me about 10-15 minutes. It has improved so much. I guess because of my exercising and eating well and getting healthy is the case. I haven’t felt this energetic in a long time. I owe it all to healthy eating and exercise. I feel so great, and I feel the weight coming off and I have already lost about an inch or 2 off my waist and tummy area since I have been doing my pullie 250 times every morning, plus drinking a lot of water, and eating small portions rather than large portions. I am so relieved that things are working out for me and my social life is getting better, I feel more confident about myself, and I feel like I am on my way to a new body, and this time I am sticking to it because I found a painless way to exercise and its working very well for me.

Last night I got emotional and started to cry a bit because I feel like I have lost a whole lot of my young life with wearing dresses, and outfits that I should have started wearing at age 20, but now at 27, It is still not too late and I can still wear the dresses, outfits and go out in style without having to worry about wearing outfits bigger than my age. I saw this wedding dress in a dress boutique on the weekend and It had my name written all over it. It was the perfect dress and I would have said yes to the dress, but I do not have a boyfriend to begin with and that will come soon too. I feel it. I guess all my worry and stress is finally being lifted off and sleep is improving and my life is improving with making all these positive and happy changes in my life to feel good, to be healthy and to have better outlook on life. I am happy!

 

Exercising Problems – Experiencing Excruciating Pain

For so long now, I have been experiencing a lot of exercise problems pertaining to my lower leg calve muscles. I end up starting to exercise,, and then comes the excruciating pain in my lower calve muscles, which becomes unbearable to handle anymore and it comes to a point where I start to cry. It is that bad. I am trying to do my best, but exercising is not working out for me. I am going crazy. If that pain does not come, I am fine, I can do my exercising no problem and I sweat too, but when the pain strikes, I end up screaming, groaning, and just start crying like no tomorrow. I do not know what it is, and I had asked a person who works in a health booth, they said nobody should be getting that much pain from just walking.

She said, there must be some imbalance in you, or you are not getting enough vitamins or have a deficiency in something that is making your lower leg calve muscles being in that much pain. I explained to her that it is so bad, that I cannot continue to my exercise, and I just quit like cold turkey. I want to do exercise, I want to feel lighter, I want to look better and feel better, but it is not working out for me. Literally. I am trying to find solutions to lose weight without exercising. I don’t want to join any programs. I want to do this on my own. I want to do this on my own pace and take my time. I don’t want to lose drastic weight every week as its unhealthy. I need some answers, and I just can’t seem to be getting anywhere with my pain. It is like someone is cooking inside my calves. It burns so much that I just squeal and I feel like my legs are on a burner. It is seriously that bad.

I want to get in shape, I want to fit in those dresses, I want dates, I want a relationship, I want to get married with a nice and descent guy, I want to be able to have my life and enjoy it and look good in pictures, and be happy with feeling skinny, but this pain this terrible excruciating pain is preventing me. I know they say no pain no gain, and I know they say it will hurt, but it will get better, but not in my case. I went 2-3 months straight exercising and walking everyday without skipping a day, but didn’t do me any justice. The pain was still there.

Am I missing something in my body? Is there something wrong with my muscles? I don’t know, but I need some answers. It is making me go crazy. Everyone is on my tail to get thin, and to lose that weight, but How could I? I am really suffering when I do it. Its really bad.

Do you have ideas for me? What do you think I should do which will be an alternative to exercise to lose the weight? I am all out of options here. Thank you so much.

 

 

There Is Always A Light At The End Of The Tunnel – Quit Being Miserable

I have been thinking a lot about things I believe in and there are only a few certain things I do, and one of them is that when there are negative, and terrible things that happen in ones life, I always believe, that there is always light at the end of the tunnel. The only way to rid of being miserable, It is time to pick yourself up, and dust yourself off with any of these miserable things you think about and selling yourself short and doing things that can be debilitating to your health. I know that you can get through anything. You can be happy again, you can be someone who is full of life, you just have to get past those feelings. I know it may take a while to pick yourself up again due to some situations you went through, but never say never that happiness and being active again will never happen again. It will happen.

I see miserable people all the time when I do grocery shopping, when I am out running errands, when I am driving or when I go away on vacation. although I don’t know what is happening in their lives and what they are thinking about, and I know in life there are stresses with trying to make a living, trying to get out there in the world, and among other things that can be happening in a family, or relationships. Anything can be happening and I understand that completely. I know and have been through it all.

Always, know that your not alone and smile always and be yourself. I don’t know how some people choose to be miserable day in and day out. Although you might be hurting and things can happen, but it is our choice to move on with our lives and get over it, or we can choose to keep dwelling on the past and never moving forward in life. It is totally up to you on how you want to portray yourself, but always believe that you will get over problems and there will always be the light at the end of the tunnel. All you got to do is try and do your best to get past through them.

You can do it. So quit being miserable and smile will you?

Why Does Society Give The Cold Shoulder If Not Employed? Why Is That The First Question Asked?

Nowadays, Every time I go to church, or when I am out with people and I haven’t seen people in a while, the first question would be where do you work? I am honest with them and I do say I am looking for work right now, but people do not know how hard it is finding a job. I have heard that phrase before, if someone wants a job bad enough, they will get it, but sometimes that is not the case, I keep trying and trying, but its not happening, but I know one day it will. As soon as I say that, the person I talk to gives me this certain look then the cold shoulder and doesn’t even bother to continue the conversation sometimes and just goes away. I am just so tired when a person first asks you, “where do you work?” rather than other questions like what is your name? and to get to know you first before jumping into that job question, I mean yes a job is important to have, but a persons personality traits, and attitude are far more important than a person’s employment status.

Yes everyone needs an income to survive these days and a job is crucial to have for life, but not everything revolves around work, work shouldn’t overpower your life. Life is meant to be enjoyed and to be lived to fullest. I know some people have no choice in the matter, but seriously I am fed up of when people always ask that question. It is not only me in the community that is looking for work, but I look like I am the bad person who doesn’t have a job. I had some great jobs and I do have life and work experience, but I am just so tired of people telling me I have no life experience, I have no work experience. I surely do. No matter how long you work at a place, that is considered experience. I worked a place for a year, a year there, 8 months there. All these add up.

I had this amazing job in a logistics company and everyday I would go in and they would compliment me on how incredible of a job I am doing, they would tell me keep up the great work, your great at computers and communication and everything, and one day after almost finishing work, Myself and 3 other people were asked to come to the office and talk to the manager and the manager told all of us that we no longer need you, so today is your last day, we have to lay all of you off due to shortage of work. At that moment my world was shut down, and I had to drive home and I barely could. I got so discouraged and I cried for days, and I didn’t get out of my room, I had no appetite, and I was just so depressed. When I was driving home after being laid off, I was crying so heavily while driving and this person beside me saw how badly I was crying and she asked may I do something for you? Are you okay? I said I will be fine thank you, she said okay no problem, so I continued driving for another 5 minutes until I got home, I didn’t want to show that I got laid off my job so I just played it cool, then we went somewhere later that night and I just lost it. I started to cry and told my parents the news.

Since then I haven’t been able to look at the working world the same way ever. I was so discouraged and it effected me for a long time and it still is. Sometimes the people around me do not understand where I am coming from and do not understand what that did to me, and I do not make up excuses to not look for work, but on the contrary, I am looking for employment, I did not join linked in, and join employment websites for nothing. I am going crazy.

Just because someone doesn’t have a job, it doesn’t mean to give that person a cold shoulder and to forget about them. Life changes every minute. Things can happen, I don’t get it. The important thing is a persons personality and attitude, not their employment status. Sorry to say, but employment comes secondary… When your a down to earth and loving person with a good attitude, that is what should matter most. A person’s employment status of course shows independence, a source of income and everything to survive with the bills and among necessities of life, but I value a persons heart, soul and the way a person is. People need to stop asking that question. Is that important? Or is a persons personality trait and being more important? I find that a person is more important than an employment status.

Don’t get me wrong, employment is very important, but that should not be the first question asked. I am sorry to say. get to know someone first, then ask.

Never Let Anybody Use You & Your Kind Heart

Have you been in a situation where you are always the one giving in? Have you always been one that says yes to everything, but in return people shrug you off and do not even budge with you and your requests? I cannot even count how many times It has happened to me in the past several months. On facebook a lot of people want me to advertise, and promote events and everything, but in return when I ask them to advertise and share my blog and my fanpage a writer named Talin Orfali, all I get is a no or not helping me. I believe everything is both ways. I know I have not responded to messages and comments, but I will get to them and I will work on replying as soon as I free up a whole day to do so, but anyway, I am so tired of people using me and not acknowledging me. It is the worst feeling ever to me and not appreciating and supporting me is even worse.

Never let people use you and never let people take advantage of you. You gotta learn to say no once in a while. Just to see the reaction. Well, I am going to say no to people from now on. If they do not pull their weight and advertise my stuff, then no advertising for them. It is a two way street right? Not a one way street. Don’t be a victim of another persons using. Its one of the worst feelings ever. You do not need people who use you. Stay away from them. If it doesn’t benefit them, they do not care one bit. If they don’t care, I am not going to care, if they don’t pull their weight, I won’t. It is that simple. People always want to look out for their self-growth, and self-centeredness, not how the person feeling used feels. When you start feeling used, do not keep it inside you, address the issue to the person and say, hey until when am I going to bail you out? Until when am I going to keep doing this? Saying no is not a bad thing. Trust me. Its a true test to see who stood behind with you and who left.

Just a word to the wise, don’t be a victim and do not let others use your heart and your goodness. All the best to you all! You all are my Internet family, I want the best for everyone!

Some People Come In Your Life As A Blessing, Some Come As Lessons

There are so many things that are important in life to know and understand all types of people, knowing how to read people, knowing how to differentiate between being with the wrong people and the right people. It is super important to surround yourself always with different types of people and get to know their mind set and to know their personality, traits, attitudes, actions, their trail of thought about things. Its so imperative to know this. Some people come into your life as blessings because they are the right type of people to be with who are true to you, who would never lie to you, who would never betray you and your trust, someone who will always be your backbone, someone who will be part of your life and stay their with no strings attached. Some people come into your life as lessons. Sometimes friendships, relationships, do not pan out to be the way you would have expected to, and that is a learning experience on seeing people’s true colors to come out and see how a personality, attitude and character come into place with time. With time you will get to know people, and some people have the gift to read people instantly and know what they are all about with certain keywords, eye, facial movements, and body language.

Physical movements and the eyes tell a lot about a person and some have the ability to look at people in the eye and see things others cannot see. We all need to be educated on how to read people and how to be good judges of character. It will help you in the long run in future friendships, relationships, and everything else. It is very important to be careful who your trust and give your whole heart, mind and soul to. We can easily be fooled by people who have the ability to say things that we want to hear and try to convince us and persuade us to change our minds and mindsets, but that is something that is very tricky. Learning valuable lessons in life is important. It helps us grow, it helps us prepare ourselves for endless possibilities, and new things in life we have yet to experience. There are all types of people in this world, there are so many personality traits, so many things that are into the factor. The more were educated, the more were capable of handling people, handling vulnerable stages in ones life. We need to learn to not trust easily and we need to learn to not give in 100% unless your 100% certain and sure about what you do in life. Sometimes life can throw hard balls, but we need to be strong and we need to close a chapter in our life and start another.

Life is too short. Things happen for a reason, everything in life that happens are for a valid reason, people come in and out of your life and that is another reason. Were all on our own separate journey’s in life and most importantly who we take with us on that journey and who we associate with. Be happy, positive, confident, optimistic in life. If things are rocky, unstable and miserable for you now, always remember that everything works out in the end. God is always there to protect us and to watch over us. Learning valuable lessons in life and acting on it is something that will benefit you in future. Although sometimes people do not think it will, when you least expect it, something great will come out of everything with patience, perseverance, and determination. When we expect it, and when we keep doing that, it sometimes will take longer and it will not be the result you were looking for. don’t have too many expectations, don’t jinx yourself, don’t over exert yourself with things. Let the right people come naturally. Eventually God will place you with the right crowd, and things will make sense.

I know that sometimes things do not make sense at all with how life is and how people are altogether, we need to focus on the blessings in our lives and then deal with our lessons. Make the impossible, possible, with no regrets, no turning back and just do what is best for you and do what you can to pursue your own happiness and your own dreams and wishes. It will come true. Where there is a will, there is a way for everything. Try it out, you will see the difference in no time. Do not worry, be happy and get on track with life.