Don’t Be Discouraged – Always Look Forward

In life when were going through life, a lot of people if not all people want to be a number of things when they grow up, they have ambitions, dreams, and talents. Everyone has different skills, needs, qualities, potential, and personal goals to attain and fulfill in life. Unfortunately some do not get to enjoy, fulfill and succeed in life because their lives were cut short and its a terrible thing.  Everyone has great qualities about themselves, and sometimes some peoples progress, and going to the next step takes a lot longer than others, but never be and let others discourage on how slow a progress you are making. At least you have continual progress that is not stopping and you are trying your best and doing your best. Always look forward in life. I know things in life happen without you least expecting it, traumatic and tragic things can happen in ones life, but never let that be a discouragement . The sign of failure means that you are trying. Nobody is a failure. You might fail at doing somethings, but never make that into a weakness. Make it something that you can work on more harder and if at first you do not succeed, try it again and again. Never stop. Failure means success in the long run. Just remember that.

Remember if people are trying to bring you down, that only means you are above them and if people are spending so much time talking about you, talking to you, talking about your weaknesses, putting you lower, and not trying anything to put your spirits up, and not encouraging you that means that they are not true friends at all, that means that they are only trying to hide their failures and flaws about them and not sharing it. In the end everyone has their own pace, their own time to learn, to grow, to experiment, to experience and to succeed. You can do anything you put your mind to, and never be discouraged. Things always happen and come up in life, but never lose sight of your dreams and all the plans you look forward to in the future. It is always great to make plans while you are living day to day.

Never lose yourself, don’t listen to negative people, don’t ever let anybody always try to find faults and things wrong about you, do not give anybody the satisfaction of pessimism. Be optimistic, be ambitious, keep dreaming, keep working on attaining your goals. It might take longer than others but hey at least you are getting there, at least your not stopping for anybody or anything. It is the worst thing you can do for yourself is to let others walk all over you and to mess with you. Never do that. Before others judge, and say things to you out of turn or give you advice, but the wrong type, let them look at themselves in the mirror, let them focus on themselves before pointing fingers, and being judgmental. In my previous blog, I was talking about being strong, and surround yourself with positive and great people who will encourage you, who will lift you up.

encouraging, confidence boosters, kind, nice, sweet, positivity, optimism these are the things you should surround yourself with, and never let anyone tell you, you cannot do it, because you can do it. Everything is possible in life, but unfortunately satisfying everyone is just the only impossible thing in the world. In the end you know who you are, you know what you are capable of, you know your limitations, you know yourself the best, you are your individual person. Keep your head up high, lift yourself up, and never sell yourself short and put yourself down. Keep smiling, and all the very best to you. Lastly, Do not ever be discouraged!

Building A Sense Of Individuality Can Be A Battle in Decision Making

In life I am sure a lot of us have encountered people who always have a problem or an issue with how one individual gets things done, or how they think and feel, and there will always be people who will try to please everyone by always listening to everybody else, and not thinking about what that person really likes. For example, when someone or some people start planning a party, wedding, engagement party, special occasion gathering or just some simple gathering, and you start planning the venue, the colours, theme, music, food, decorations, and all that other stuff, and when it is time for people who are invited that come to the party and after doing your best to make sure people have a great time, there will be people who will always criticize you, and you hear it from other people who you should have done the decorations in another way, more better music, better theme of the party, but you know what, you have to stand up for what you created, the many hours and days and months it took for preparations, for the time you put into it, and having to hear from someone who it wasn’t up to par and being penalized for doing it that way, why didn’t you do this instead? Don’t you just hate that? There will be people who will say, thank you, had a fabulous time, everything was great, and some people will not even compliment the night or whenever the parties are held.

In this world the only impossible thing to achieve is to please everybody, you cannot, and it will never happen where people see eye to eye on things, people will always find something to say, people will always find a way to rain on someone else parade. It is unfortunate how that happens and it can be difficult to build a sense of individuality can be such a battle because a lot of us want approval and a lot of us wait for others to be impressed with you, but you know what, in the end we are all individuals and if we don’t build ourselves some sort of individuality, then everybody will end up being the same person and there is nothing new in the world to see, everyone will end up with the same kind of personality and there won’t be room for growth and a sense of independence.

I always believe that to be yourself, and to do things that you are capable of doing, if you want to have a party and do some event and if you want it to be a certain way, a certain theme, go for it. Nobody has the right to criticize and put any blame or point fingers on how its done and everything. You went out of your way to have this party or gathering to make it a great time and for people to come together and enjoy with each other is what counts right? Some people are so detail oriented and they always have to pinpoint what is wrong and what is right. It shouldn’t be like that. Yes although being detail oriented is good, but there is a limit to everything.

In this life and in my life, I have learned not to let others walk all over me, and tell me what to do with everything. I make my own decisions, and yes I do listen to advice and I do listen to people who give energy to me about something and what and how I should be doing something, but in the end if someone keeps on making decisions for you, then it will be a battle to build a sense of individuality. it is good sometimes to receive advice if you did something wrong or you approached something in a wrong way, or if you did some mistake or whatever, but people should not be on your case and put you on the spot all the time. you know what I mean right? Well, have you been in this situation before? Have you ever been through these problems where people always make a snide comment or tell you in a way not to offend you? What did you feel about how others criticize you?

I’d love to hear from you.

What Traveling Means To Me. I am Glad I can Help People In It

Hello everyone, today I am going to talk to you about what traveling means to me and how vital it is in my life. I am sure most of us love to travel and go away from civilization and reality once in a while. I am here to tell you about what it means to me and how it has shaped my life. Traveling is one of the most incredible things of life. You get to see different parts of the world, form your own opinion, give it your rating, and each travel story is an experience in itself. Last night I was talking amongst friends on my travel experiences and giving them my expertise. One person has never been on a cruise ship before and has never cruised and so I introduced her to a new world full of cruising and traveling. I must have been talking for over half an hour. It is a passion of mine and I love talking to people about travel. She said that you are an expert. I was just happy and moved by what she said to me. It is amazing what traveling can do for you. It makes you feel more independent in a way, it gives you that push into the world to get out of the city once in a while and just explore the world before your eyes. Its one of the greatest pleasures of life. I am so happy to have experienced it all, and I will continue into my journey. I am creating a new blog all about traveling and everything else Which will launch at the end of January, 2013. I am so excited about the experience to help others in all forms of travel. People told me why don’t you become a travel consultant? Although I would love to but, this is my way of travel consultation. I will not have it as career, but people tell me otherwise.

They said Talin you would be incredible on it and you have so much knowledge than a travel agent does. They said its true, you know so much more than a travel agent does. When I heard this, I said no way, they said yes way. I love it, but I just love consulting people online and personally, but not as a job/career path. I like exploring and traveling has shaped me and my outlook on life. I have seen things and I have been to villages and countries where they are not doing so well, and they don’t make much money. Like Cuba one persons salary of the month is like 15-20 pesos, and the food they get is measured by the government, and so much more. I saw this happening years and years ago when I went to Cuba for the first time back in the 90′s. It gives me time to appreciate what I have and everything I have with grocery stores that are easily reached, good clean water to drink and so much more. I am thankful for everything I have here. I have seen the way people live, and one persons house is like 300-400 square feet, and some homes are like tool sheds and 4 people live in it. They also haven’t even seen a plane or the airport, and when we showed them the airplane and pictures of them and everything, they were so surprised and they were amazed at it. This is also one of the reasons why I love traveling. I meet all different types of people, different cultures, and people of every walks of life. I love it.

I look forward to my next adventures.

Happy New Year Everyone! Welcome to 2013!

Since 2012 is behind us, I would like to wish everyone an official Happy new year 2013. May 2013 bring everyone happiness, luck, great health, love, success, the best and among all great things life has to offer. I am really happy 2013 is here. I feel like great things are going to be coming up this year. I just feel it. I started my new years resolution to lose weight and keep it off without giving up and without stopping half way. I am in this for the long haul, and for life, health and much more. What are your new years resolutions? What do you expect for the new year? What plans and goals do you want to achieve and attain? Lets start 2013 and end 2013 with being kind to one another, respecting each other, appreciating the people and things we have in our lives, being satisfied with what we have in life, to be thankful, grateful and among other important things. We all can make this a great, happy and wonderful place. It all starts with a fresh new start to a new year and ending the year the same way. If we all do our part, the world can be a better place. I have so many plans for this year and I will achieve the goals I have made a list of and much more.

I am going to get out there more to find my better half and get into a relationship of course for the right reasons, and when time is right. I know I will find someone when I least expect it, and everything will find its way. I will get a great job that I want and I will get the job I want when I work super hard for it. Time starts now. I will definitely work harder to achieve that, and a lot more. I am very happy and excited to be traveling this year again. I will continue to blog, write, promote, do my best in the social media world, work harder for my blog, achieve and go to great lengths to help people, to volunteer more, Social Networking, working online, introducing new things, new topics, a fresh new start with everything. It will be a great year, I know and feel it with my gut instinct that this is going to be my year to shine. When I feel something and when I know things will happen. 99% of the time, it always happens. What steps will you take to achieve your goals? What are your major plans? It is always great to have a plan and go for it. I am super happy with all that I have and all the experiences, memories, and everything I learned in 2012, and I will keep on learning everyday and experience more things I haven’t in previous years. May 2013 be incredible, and a special memorable year for each and everyone of you and your loved ones.

Enjoy and all the best to you all. Do not Drink and Drive, be responsible, and be safe.

Getting A Great Nights Sleep For A While Now – I am Happy

So many blogs ago, I had wrote about how difficult it was for me to fall asleep and tossing and turning in bed and not being able to wake up fresh, and for a few weeks now, I have been having a great nights sleep. I am so happy and thrilled about that. Before it would take me over an hour to fall asleep now it takes me about 10-15 minutes. It has improved so much. I guess because of my exercising and eating well and getting healthy is the case. I haven’t felt this energetic in a long time. I owe it all to healthy eating and exercise. I feel so great, and I feel the weight coming off and I have already lost about an inch or 2 off my waist and tummy area since I have been doing my pullie 250 times every morning, plus drinking a lot of water, and eating small portions rather than large portions. I am so relieved that things are working out for me and my social life is getting better, I feel more confident about myself, and I feel like I am on my way to a new body, and this time I am sticking to it because I found a painless way to exercise and its working very well for me.

Last night I got emotional and started to cry a bit because I feel like I have lost a whole lot of my young life with wearing dresses, and outfits that I should have started wearing at age 20, but now at 27, It is still not too late and I can still wear the dresses, outfits and go out in style without having to worry about wearing outfits bigger than my age. I saw this wedding dress in a dress boutique on the weekend and It had my name written all over it. It was the perfect dress and I would have said yes to the dress, but I do not have a boyfriend to begin with and that will come soon too. I feel it. I guess all my worry and stress is finally being lifted off and sleep is improving and my life is improving with making all these positive and happy changes in my life to feel good, to be healthy and to have better outlook on life. I am happy!

 

Never Be Afraid To Speak Your Mind – Talk Straight, Sit Croquet Is The Way To Go In Life

In this past year, I have learned a lot about never being afraid to speak your mind and not to keep anything inside before exploding. I have learned so much about life this past year, I can write about it, but as your fellow person in this world and as a sister to all, I advise people to never be afraid to speak their mind. If you see something not right, speak up, if people are all over you, speak up, and stand up for your rights. People can talk and talk about things and hound you all the time, but they don’t really know what is going on with you and what your feeling mentally and emotionally and sometimes people run their mouth when they have no idea what you go through day in and day out with life. Life is a hard battle and in order to survive these days, you must always be strong and have a back up plan always. Speaking your mind and standing up for yourself is one of the main things about this day in age. Don’t like people jump and walk all over you. Take a stand and go and stand up for what you believe in and your rights as a person. We all have been given the freedom and the voice to speak up. Nothing is wrong with speaking up, nothing is wrong with freedom of expression.

Everything in life has its ups and downs, and there will be people who bring you up, and there will be others who bring you down. Life is a roller coaster and sometimes there are loops, curves and other things, but always be honest, talk straight, you can sit croquet, but always talk honestly, forthright because you have to be honest with yourself before you can be honest with others. When you respect yourself, you will need to respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself. You need to stand on your own two feet sometimes to fight battles with words to other people, but not in a hurtful way, but in a decent mature manner. You need to set ground rules, you need to put your foot down where needed. Sometimes people carry on and run off with their head, but sometimes you need to step up to the plate and get going. There will always be people who are by your side, and always know that people always have your back, but when it comes time for yourself when your friends are not around, you need to get out of that nest and be strong. Trust me, your relationships with your friends and others will change and to the better. once your friends see that you have guts and stick up for yourself, that is a good feeling to say hey, I protected myself and I am not naive, I am not gullible, and I did it all on my own.

Self-confidence in situations is always a good thing to have and be motivated when it comes time to. Never be another persons pawn and never allow anyone to say check mate to you. Life is like a game of chess, if you don’t stick up for yourself, and if you don’t move along and don’t protect yourself, you are always going to end up in check mate and its hard to revive yourself. Don’t forget how special and how wonderful you truly are. Getting out in the real world, talking to many people and involving yourself and getting into people is something important. You learn peoples personality, you learn the facial features. Are they laughing at you, or with you? You can differentiate so quickly and you can automatically sense that if someone is nice, sincere and pleasant, and sometimes you can sense the person as being rough, disrespectful and everything all in their actions, and words.

So all this being said, never let yourself go to a point where people always know where to hit your emotional and mental nerve. There are people who always have a satisfaction of getting to you. Don’t let that happen. you are better than that and you are someone who is very awesome and if they don’t understand that, then it is time to let yourself go and go into a different circle of life. I mean think about it, would you put yourself up in that predicament? Would you put yourself up to the embarrassment all the time? It is not good for you at all. Don’t always let others fight your word battles all the time, you have to do it yourself, and you will see how much more respect your friends and your people you hang out with will have on you. Do yourself this big favour and protect yourself. No matter who your talking to. step up and put your head up high and make your decisions and don’t let others do it for you. That is the best gift you can give to yourself is your self-respect and sticking up for you. Do it. You won’t go wrong with life. I know you can. just try and you will see the difference. All the best!

July Will Be A Month Full Of Travels

Well, hello July! We meet again. Another month has come by of 2012. I plan to make the most of it. This Month I will be doing a lot traveling by car to Several places, such as Niagara Falls again twice, then I will be heading to Montreal. This year of 2012, has been a travel year for me. I cannot wait to go to California and Las Vegas this year as well. Nothing great like traveling. I am so exciting to be going and seeing my friends In Montreal. They have not seen me in a while and I can’t wait to drive down to see them. They keep saying, Talin when are you coming to your happy place again? When are we going to see each other again? I said end of July for sure. I love road trips, that do not exceed more than 8-10 hours. I have a lot of things to do this month as well. I have so many plans to do new things as well, and enjoy summer as much as I can outdoors while the weather co-operates and is great. There is a possibility I may head to Wasaga Beach in Ontario, Canada someday soon. Maybe during the week.

It is also Canada’s Birthday today, so Happy Canada day! Remember also that today is the soccer match between Italy and Spain. Who do you think is going to win? I am cheering for Italy. VIVA ITALIA! Where will you be watching? I plan to have a nice restful time at home and watch it or at a relatives house. Lets see how this day progresses. Have fun! Have a safe and happy summer!

 

Another Month Has Come! Hello May! Thank you For The Birthday Wishes

Hello! Wow, Can you believe that May is here already? We are already in the 5th month of the year. Time is just flying by so quickly. As my birthday was yesterday On April 30th, and waking up to a new month, I can sure feel the difference every year. Yesterday on my birthday,  I had such a fabulous day, so many people from my facebook wished me a happy birthday, calls, text messages, e-mails, comments and so much more. During my 27th year, I have new goals, aspirations, and plans and one of them is finding that special someone in my life to settle down with, to get married, and have a future with who I can trust in and who share similar interests as me. Also I believe in my 27th year I will find employment and I will get my life back on track with that. I just have so many plans to make and I start doing so today. Time is of the essence.

Thanks again to those who wished me a happy birthday!

Love,

Talin Orfali