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The Purpose of Blogging – Why do we do it?

In the past few blog posts with the subject of communication and along the lines of what is relative to that, the way we feel, how we get our words and points across to the world and how we do it to reach out to others, and to share with the world our points of view, opinions, suggestions, to raise awareness on issues, to advertise, promote, social issues, recipes, tips, organizational ideas, simplifying life and so much more. We all have our own perspective and our own purpose when blogging and writing about our life. The question is why do we do it? Why do we spend time with writing? Why do we post our blog entries?

To answer those questions is quite simple. We all have a voice and existence in this world and there is just so many stories, journeys, experiences, moments, memories, being helpful, useful and beneficial information about life, travel, food, the holidays, situations, issues to address to the world and things that happen to us to share, to give our insight, and so much more. We spend time writing is because it gives us a boost, and the most important thing is how we feel, and how we want to communicate to the world. Blogging is a therapeutic yet rewarding feeling. It is like writing in our diary, but a virtual diary that we want to post public. We post blog entries to contribute something, an idea and something to share with the world.

Now with this being a virtual diary, there comes responsibility and thinking before we press the post button. There are private issues and things that should not be published of real private matters in ones home, in ones personal life. back in the day and maybe until now people have a personal and private diary, and I am sure you do not want certain people to open it up and unlock your diary of real personal things that you do not want people to see, its almost like the same thing with public blogging. You do not want to post private matters for the world to see, so always be mindful and think before you post something so personal.

Never keep your blogging private. It defeats the whole purpose of writing and expressing to the world. If you want to keep some of your writings private, make a diary, and keep it for yourself in hiding, but hiding a blog is pointless. Somehow no matter how private a blog is, somehow it can always be seen in a way.

Never stop blogging, never stop writing and most importantly never lose your purpose and perspective on why you started blogging in the first place. Never give up what you enjoy doing, never ever let anybody tell you to stop doing what you are good at. Well, nobody is perfect, however that should not define anything. You are in control of your own destiny, your own goals you want to attain from blogging and writing to the world. Remember you do not have to be a perfect blogger, its how you feel and what you want to accomplish. The beauty of blogging is something that is indescribable and the future of journal writing which is now.

So, what is your purpose? Why do you do it?

Communication Style – What is your Type?

As we go through life from the moment we are born, communication is and will always be a vital asset in our day-to-day lives. We need communication when we speak to our family members, boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, partners, groups, friends, colleagues, our bosses, fellow students, teachers, traveling, in social media, sending e-mails and so many different types of communication.

I attended a seminar “Inspire For Tomorrow” at my Armenian Community center and it was about communication, and I learned so much in a couple of hours. It put things into a new perspective, it gave me new light, new ways to deliver our speech, our stories, and so much more. There are several ways you can communicate, but here are 4 styles of communication, that I have observed in my life and my thoughts on it all:

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- The DriverSomeone who is direct, to the point, detail oriented, who speaks their mind, who produces results, attaining goals, gets into competitive situations, taking charge and being in control, wasting no time to beat around the bush.

- The RelaterSomeone who cares about a situation, who can connect with others by thinking of the other person first, who’s relationships and friendships mean the world to a person, someone who is relaxed, and feel cared for, becoming silent, introspective and withdrawn, being helpful, coinciding with others, comforting others.

- AnalystOne who always seeks data, second guesses people, making decisions after analyzing a situation, testing people, giving people to focus on interpersonal and communication skills, those who despise making mistakes, double-checking everything, not being able to trust situations and people until doing further research on a person.

- ExpresserSomeone who recognizes emotions, who expresses feelings, and what that person wants to say, the over sharing person who keeps on talking, and beats around the bush, making a small story into a big one, gets excited, giving feedback, boring people because of overusing communication, explaining ideas to the core then saying things out of turn which then makes it into an argument and problems can arise of sharing too much information.

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All those 4 styles have good and the bad, but we must find a way to be consistent when we communicate with others, using the right tone, words, following up with someone privately about something that you feel is gone wrong, not announcing it in a public, group setting, taking up issues with the person directly, instead of involving others in the mix. People will appreciate it when someone brings the other person to the side and discuss with them a problem, situation or something going on, then finding a solution to the problem, solving whatever issue, and finding the right words, tone to express those feelings.

We must always think about how we are going to present ourselves, no matter where you are, whether it is about self-regard, being assertive, emotional self-awareness, self-actualization, independence. It could be a beautiful thing, but it is in the way we utilize it all.

Communication is a never-ending learning process, and nobody is perfect and makes mistakes, however to always learn from them and progressing to do better, to improve in relationships, friendships, is something that is imperative. If you believe you have made a mistake, do not worry, focus on the future and make it better, improve the way you speak to others, always ask for advice, always have a mentor, someone whom you can talk to a person whom you can trust if you are unsure of how to deal with a situation if you are unsure yourself. It is always good to ask, then to stay silent.

Always be confident, express your ideas to others, be in communication, always tell a person how you feel about something without offending them. There is always a way to go around it. How do you normally handle situations that are presented to you? What have you learned from it all?

Why is communicating and expressing yourself so important? Everyone has a voice, everyone has something to contribute to the world, that is why everyday in technology, and things of the world are being invented, new innovations, new concepts, context, perspectives, theories, discoveries are being made across the world, because many people communicate, and want to get out what they feel is right for the benefit of the world and its people. Each one of us can make a difference in this world, and communication is one of them and we begin just doing that. Without that everyone would not have a voice and this world cannot continue to move forward. That is exactly why Communication is key and so important in our daily life.

So no matter how we express ourselves, the most important thing is the way we do it and a way where it will not hurt others, and where we can find common ground with everything in our lives.

How do you communicate? What is important to you to get across to others? Best wishes to you in your journey. We can all do something positive, say great things and to avoid messy situations, by just changing our tone and the way we communicate.

Never Apologize for The Way You Feel

A lot of the times in life we go through many feelings, emotions, and sometimes we tend to apologize for what we are feeling and telling people our emotions. You have every right to feel what you are feeling, You never have to explain yourself to anybody. Never be ashamed of your feelings. I know they say that you have to express your feelings everytime and tell people exactly how you feel, however sometimes you cannot control feelings, you cannot explain the way you feel due to a certain situation. I know no matter what you have to tell someone how you feel, and not keep anything inside of you, but some circumstances say otherwise. It depends on the person and whom you can confide into easily.

If you keep on living your life on other peoples terms and the way they want you to feel, the way they want you to live your life always telling you what to do, forcing, commanding you to do something is not somebody you want to associate with. Find the path and the people who can relate to you, do what you feel is right for you. Sometimes you need to get out from the norm, and do what is best for you. If you keep on living your life to please others, to always try and impress others, to always keep proving yourself and working hard for other peoples approval, you are not going to get anywhere in life and all you are going to do is just live for other people.

Sometimes you need to put your foot down and say, okay enough is enough. People talk so much about you and your life, gossip, spread rumors, put words in your mouth and what you should do with your life, however sometimes people need to look at themselves in the mirror first before they point fingers, criticize and belittle you. Some people have nothing better to do, than talk smack about other people, when they need to sort out their life and what they need to do. Remember nobody full knows you and about your personal life and what you are going through, and you never have to explain yourself to nobody.

Ignore people who talk so much bogus about you, and ignore people and block them out of your life. Life is too short. Be happy, be you, live your life on your own terms and your own comfort, and do not worry about anything else. People are always going to judge and point fingers. Don’t let it affect you and your life, well-being and who you are. True, compassionate and understanding people will be there for you every step of the way without explaining yourself. Remember others opinions of you, do no matter. Its how you make an opinion of yourself that matters. As long as you feel good about yourself and bring yourself up with good thoughts, confidence, the way you are is what matters the most.

People will always do and say mean things, but never let that take control of yourself.

I have realized a lot of things in the last little while, that you cannot expect people to understand you, your feelings and be on the same page as you, not everybody will be your friend and agree with you. I recommend that people should never stop being themselves, be who you are, feel what you want to feel. In the end we are all human beings in this world, we do make mistakes, we do wrong in social issues, we tend to sometimes associate with people whom we always have to try to fit in, do things to stay in the loop, however you never need to try to fit in, try so hard, and try to stand out, because there will be people who will appreciate you for you and there will be people who will love and cherish you and the memories shared and will share in the present and the future.

Wishing you the best with everything and remember never apologize for the way you feel. Always be thankful and just go on with life. There is only so much you can do and life will never give you more than you can handle.

Feeling Left Out – Worst Feeling Ever

In life one of the worst feeling is about feeling left out and its terrible having to find out friends make plans without you and do not even tell you about it until having to find out after. It is such a terrible feeling to go through and no one should have to go through it.

Sometimes these things happen to open up our eyes about certain people who do not appreciate you for who you are, and these are the things to know where you stand and what to do in future. So, Don’t worry about others who do not appreciate you. The person who comes to your life and does not leave you to the curb and leaves you out to dry is someone to keep in your life.

Have you been through a situation where friends, cousins, or anyone go out without your knowledge, then having to find out about it through pictures, a slip up in a conversation on another gathering, finding out from other sources. It is the crummiest feeling ever and nobody should be subject to those terrible feelings.

A real friend will tell you that they will be hanging out or something and will always involve you, will always ask you if you are available. True friends will never leave you high and dry, they will not keep anything from you, they will not lie to you, they will not use you.

True friends help each other, love each other unconditionally, who enjoys each others presence, who make memories together, who go through thick and thin together, who spend time together, who advise, involve each other in everything and anything in our lives.

I know it is a terrible feeling, but look at it this way, you know where you stand, you know who not to involve in things in your life when you make plans, and you definitely know who not to trust anymore. Choose your circle carefully and do what you feel is right for you. Feeling alone is terrible, but being with the wrong people will make you feel more alone. Keep that in mind. Best wishes to you!

Rewind to 90’s — My Favourite Movie Choices

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about the past and rewinding to the great and quality entertainment in those times that kept me, well, entertained. :) I used to come home from school or during the weekends and I would pick through my movie collection and used to watch so many of them and it was awesome. I used to always think that I would meet the stars when I was a kid and I used to have a huge imagination like I was in those movies and would re-enact them to family during get togethers. It was so great. I still have them on VHS — I still love VHS and I actually enjoyed Rewinding them. I used to love that sound too. Gotta love the past technology too. Anyway, I would like to share with you some of my all time favourites of the 90’s and well, possibly the 80’s too. In no particular order:

– Police Academy — All of them — Steve Gutenberg
— Dumb & Dumber — W/ Jim Carrey and Jeff Daniels.
— Ace Ventura Pet Detective — Jim Carrey.
— Groundhog Day — Bill Murray
— Clueless — Alicia Silverstone
— Liar Liar — Jim Carrey
— A Night At the Roxbury — Will Farrell and Chris Kattan
— City Slickers — Billy Crystal
— Hot Shots! — Charlie Sheen
— Hot Shots part Deux — Charlie Sheen
— Home Alone — Mccauley Culkin
— Home Alone 2. Lost in New York — Mccauley Culkin
— The Naked Gun — All movies — Leslie Neilson
— Wrongfully Accused — Leslie Neilson
— Back to the Future — Michael J Fox
— Kindergarten Cop — Arnold Schwarzenegger
— Honey I blew up the Kid –
— Honey I shrunk the kids –
— Sister Act — Whoopi Goldberg
— Mrs Doubtfire — Robin Williams – Sally Field
— Coneheads
— Baby’s Day Out — Joe Montegna, Joe Pantoliano, Lara Flynn Boyle
— Titanic — Kate Winsley – Leonardo Dicaprio
— The Mask — Jim Carrey
— The Santa Clause — Tim Allen
— Little Rascals — Alfalfa
— D2 D3 Mighty Ducks — Emilio Estevez
— Selena — Jennifer Lopez
— Space Jam
— Toy Story
— Jungle 2 Jungle
— Rush Hour — all movies — Jackie Chan and Chris Tucker
— The Wedding Singer — Drew Barrymore, Adam Sandler
— Billy Madison — Adam Sandler
— The Waterboy — Adam Sandler
— You’ve Got Mail
— Analyze this — Analyze that — Robert Deniro and Billy Crystal
— Stuart Little

These are just some of them from back then… What are your favourites from the 80’s and 90’s?

Rewind to the 90’s Music Favourites

Lately, I have been going back into the 90’s and listening to songs of the past. There is a huge difference in quality of music versus the music of today. I really love the music of the 90’s and even in the 80’s. I am sure a lot of us who were born in that era, and who grew up with this kind of music, still think of them to this day and remember the times. Here are some of my artists and music that I really enjoy.

– Alanis Morissette — Ironic, You Oughta Know.
— R.E.M — Losing my religion
— Sinead O’Connor — Nothing Compares 2 U
— Sting – Fields Of Gold
— Fiona Apple – Criminal
— Backstreet Boys – I Want It That Way
— Bonnie Raitt – Something To Talk About
— Ace of Base — The Sign CD
— Oasis – Wonderwall
— Stone Temple Pilots – Interstate Love Song
— The Cranberries – Dreams
— Haddaway – What Is Love
— Jann Arden – Insensitive
— Tori Amos – Silent All These Years
— Shawn Colvin – Sunny Came Home
— Beastie Boys – Intergalactic
— Christina Aguilera – Come On Over (All I Want Is You) — Genie in a Bottle
— Guns N’ Roses – November Rain
— P.M. Dawn – Set Adrift On Memory Bliss
— 2Pac feat. Dr. Dre – California Love
— Madonna – Vogue
— Nirvana – About A Girl (live)
— Notorious B.I.G. – Juicy
— The Mavericks – What A Crying Shame
— Barenaked Ladies – One Week
— Des’ree – You Gotta Be
— Mariah Carey – Hero
— Dixie Chicks – Wide Open Spaces
— Whitney Houston – I Have Nothing
— Duran Duran – Ordinary World
— Wilson Phillips – Hold On
— Fatboy Slim – Right Here Right Now
— Sarah McLaughlan – Possession
— Shawn Colvin – Round of Blues
— Montell Jordan – This Is How We Do It
— The Verve – Bittersweet Symphony
— Weezer – The Good Life
— Skee-Lo – I Wish
— Hammer – Too Legit To Quit
— Robbie Williams – Millennium
— Roxette – It Must Have Been Love
— Crash Test Dummies – God Shuffled His Feet
— Dido – Here With Me
— Sheryl Crow – If It Makes You Happy

I could go on and on… Now, what are your favourites?
Are you a 90’s music fanatic?