The Purpose of Blogging – Why do we do it?

In the past few blog posts with the subject of communication and along the lines of what is relative to that, the way we feel, how we get our words and points across to the world and how we do it to reach out to others, and to share with the world our points of view, opinions, suggestions, to raise awareness on issues, to advertise, promote, social issues, recipes, tips, organizational ideas, simplifying life and so much more. We all have our own perspective and our own purpose when blogging and writing about our life. The question is why do we do it? Why do we spend time with writing? Why do we post our blog entries?

To answer those questions is quite simple. We all have a voice and existence in this world and there is just so many stories, journeys, experiences, moments, memories, being helpful, useful and beneficial information about life, travel, food, the holidays, situations, issues to address to the world and things that happen to us to share, to give our insight, and so much more. We spend time writing is because it gives us a boost, and the most important thing is how we feel, and how we want to communicate to the world. Blogging is a therapeutic yet rewarding feeling. It is like writing in our diary, but a virtual diary that we want to post public. We post blog entries to contribute something, an idea and something to share with the world.

Now with this being a virtual diary, there comes responsibility and thinking before we press the post button. There are private issues and things that should not be published of real private matters in ones home, in ones personal life. back in the day and maybe until now people have a personal and private diary, and I am sure you do not want certain people to open it up and unlock your diary of real personal things that you do not want people to see, its almost like the same thing with public blogging. You do not want to post private matters for the world to see, so always be mindful and think before you post something so personal.

Never keep your blogging private. It defeats the whole purpose of writing and expressing to the world. If you want to keep some of your writings private, make a diary, and keep it for yourself in hiding, but hiding a blog is pointless. Somehow no matter how private a blog is, somehow it can always be seen in a way.

Never stop blogging, never stop writing and most importantly never lose your purpose and perspective on why you started blogging in the first place. Never give up what you enjoy doing, never ever let anybody tell you to stop doing what you are good at. Well, nobody is perfect, however that should not define anything. You are in control of your own destiny, your own goals you want to attain from blogging and writing to the world. Remember you do not have to be a perfect blogger, its how you feel and what you want to accomplish. The beauty of blogging is something that is indescribable and the future of journal writing which is now.

So, what is your purpose? Why do you do it?

Communication Style – What is your Type?

As we go through life from the moment we are born, communication is and will always be a vital asset in our day-to-day lives. We need communication when we speak to our family members, boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, partners, groups, friends, colleagues, our bosses, fellow students, teachers, traveling, in social media, sending e-mails and so many different types of communication.

I attended a seminar “Inspire For Tomorrow” at my Armenian Community center and it was about communication, and I learned so much in a couple of hours. It put things into a new perspective, it gave me new light, new ways to deliver our speech, our stories, and so much more. There are several ways you can communicate, but here are 4 styles of communication, that I have observed in my life and my thoughts on it all:

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– The Driver — Someone who is direct, to the point, detail oriented, who speaks their mind, who produces results, attaining goals, gets into competitive situations, taking charge and being in control, wasting no time to beat around the bush.

– The Relater — Someone who cares about a situation, who can connect with others by thinking of the other person first, who’s relationships and friendships mean the world to a person, someone who is relaxed, and feel cared for, becoming silent, introspective and withdrawn, being helpful, coinciding with others, comforting others.

– Analyst — One who always seeks data, second guesses people, making decisions after analyzing a situation, testing people, giving people to focus on interpersonal and communication skills, those who despise making mistakes, double-checking everything, not being able to trust situations and people until doing further research on a person.

– Expresser — Someone who recognizes emotions, who expresses feelings, and what that person wants to say, the over sharing person who keeps on talking, and beats around the bush, making a small story into a big one, gets excited, giving feedback, boring people because of overusing communication, explaining ideas to the core then saying things out of turn which then makes it into an argument and problems can arise of sharing too much information.

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All those 4 styles have good and the bad, but we must find a way to be consistent when we communicate with others, using the right tone, words, following up with someone privately about something that you feel is gone wrong, not announcing it in a public, group setting, taking up issues with the person directly, instead of involving others in the mix. People will appreciate it when someone brings the other person to the side and discuss with them a problem, situation or something going on, then finding a solution to the problem, solving whatever issue, and finding the right words, tone to express those feelings.

We must always think about how we are going to present ourselves, no matter where you are, whether it is about self-regard, being assertive, emotional self-awareness, self-actualization, independence. It could be a beautiful thing, but it is in the way we utilize it all.

Communication is a never-ending learning process, and nobody is perfect and makes mistakes, however to always learn from them and progressing to do better, to improve in relationships, friendships, is something that is imperative. If you believe you have made a mistake, do not worry, focus on the future and make it better, improve the way you speak to others, always ask for advice, always have a mentor, someone whom you can talk to a person whom you can trust if you are unsure of how to deal with a situation if you are unsure yourself. It is always good to ask, then to stay silent.

Always be confident, express your ideas to others, be in communication, always tell a person how you feel about something without offending them. There is always a way to go around it. How do you normally handle situations that are presented to you? What have you learned from it all?

Why is communicating and expressing yourself so important? Everyone has a voice, everyone has something to contribute to the world, that is why everyday in technology, and things of the world are being invented, new innovations, new concepts, context, perspectives, theories, discoveries are being made across the world, because many people communicate, and want to get out what they feel is right for the benefit of the world and its people. Each one of us can make a difference in this world, and communication is one of them and we begin just doing that. Without that everyone would not have a voice and this world cannot continue to move forward. That is exactly why Communication is key and so important in our daily life.

So no matter how we express ourselves, the most important thing is the way we do it and a way where it will not hurt others, and where we can find common ground with everything in our lives.

How do you communicate? What is important to you to get across to others? Best wishes to you in your journey. We can all do something positive, say great things and to avoid messy situations, by just changing our tone and the way we communicate.

Never Apologize for The Way You Feel

A lot of the times in life we go through many feelings, emotions, and sometimes we tend to apologize for what we are feeling and telling people our emotions. You have every right to feel what you are feeling, You never have to explain yourself to anybody. Never be ashamed of your feelings. I know they say that you have to express your feelings everytime and tell people exactly how you feel, however sometimes you cannot control feelings, you cannot explain the way you feel due to a certain situation. I know no matter what you have to tell someone how you feel, and not keep anything inside of you, but some circumstances say otherwise. It depends on the person and whom you can confide into easily.

If you keep on living your life on other peoples terms and the way they want you to feel, the way they want you to live your life always telling you what to do, forcing, commanding you to do something is not somebody you want to associate with. Find the path and the people who can relate to you, do what you feel is right for you. Sometimes you need to get out from the norm, and do what is best for you. If you keep on living your life to please others, to always try and impress others, to always keep proving yourself and working hard for other peoples approval, you are not going to get anywhere in life and all you are going to do is just live for other people.

Sometimes you need to put your foot down and say, okay enough is enough. People talk so much about you and your life, gossip, spread rumors, put words in your mouth and what you should do with your life, however sometimes people need to look at themselves in the mirror first before they point fingers, criticize and belittle you. Some people have nothing better to do, than talk smack about other people, when they need to sort out their life and what they need to do. Remember nobody full knows you and about your personal life and what you are going through, and you never have to explain yourself to nobody.

Ignore people who talk so much bogus about you, and ignore people and block them out of your life. Life is too short. Be happy, be you, live your life on your own terms and your own comfort, and do not worry about anything else. People are always going to judge and point fingers. Don’t let it affect you and your life, well-being and who you are. True, compassionate and understanding people will be there for you every step of the way without explaining yourself. Remember others opinions of you, do no matter. Its how you make an opinion of yourself that matters. As long as you feel good about yourself and bring yourself up with good thoughts, confidence, the way you are is what matters the most.

People will always do and say mean things, but never let that take control of yourself.

I have realized a lot of things in the last little while, that you cannot expect people to understand you, your feelings and be on the same page as you, not everybody will be your friend and agree with you. I recommend that people should never stop being themselves, be who you are, feel what you want to feel. In the end we are all human beings in this world, we do make mistakes, we do wrong in social issues, we tend to sometimes associate with people whom we always have to try to fit in, do things to stay in the loop, however you never need to try to fit in, try so hard, and try to stand out, because there will be people who will appreciate you for you and there will be people who will love and cherish you and the memories shared and will share in the present and the future.

Wishing you the best with everything and remember never apologize for the way you feel. Always be thankful and just go on with life. There is only so much you can do and life will never give you more than you can handle.

Feeling Left Out – Worst Feeling Ever

In life one of the worst feeling is about feeling left out and its terrible having to find out friends make plans without you and do not even tell you about it until having to find out after. It is such a terrible feeling to go through and no one should have to go through it.

Sometimes these things happen to open up our eyes about certain people who do not appreciate you for who you are, and these are the things to know where you stand and what to do in future. So, Don’t worry about others who do not appreciate you. The person who comes to your life and does not leave you to the curb and leaves you out to dry is someone to keep in your life.

Have you been through a situation where friends, cousins, or anyone go out without your knowledge, then having to find out about it through pictures, a slip up in a conversation on another gathering, finding out from other sources. It is the crummiest feeling ever and nobody should be subject to those terrible feelings.

A real friend will tell you that they will be hanging out or something and will always involve you, will always ask you if you are available. True friends will never leave you high and dry, they will not keep anything from you, they will not lie to you, they will not use you.

True friends help each other, love each other unconditionally, who enjoys each others presence, who make memories together, who go through thick and thin together, who spend time together, who advise, involve each other in everything and anything in our lives.

I know it is a terrible feeling, but look at it this way, you know where you stand, you know who not to involve in things in your life when you make plans, and you definitely know who not to trust anymore. Choose your circle carefully and do what you feel is right for you. Feeling alone is terrible, but being with the wrong people will make you feel more alone. Keep that in mind. Best wishes to you!

Honesty Is The Best Policy – The Truth Will Set You Free

In life I believe that honesty is the best policy and the truth will set you free always. For some people being honest and forthright is a hard battle, and some people lie constantly and it is not a good trait to develop. Some people lie day in and day out and I know that the truth always comes out. No matter how much you try and hide it. There will always be a way that someone finds out. There comes a time where no one will believe in you anymore, the trust and respect will be gone. Once you start lying so much, people will have a hard time believing and trusting you. You can lose many friends that way, you can lose your reputation. If you are not honest with yourself, how can you be honest with other people? It all starts with you and how you portray you. You can’t get away with anything you lie about. Sometimes it happens where people don’t ever find out, but somehow they can.

Always be honest, even if it means standing alone. You may also lose friends too when you are honest, and that is an indication that they weren’t your true friends to begin with. I believe in Karma, and karma bites back ever so strongly when you are not telling the truth, and when you hide something from friends and family, when you do something terrible to someone. It always bites back and more powerful. I am sure everyone in life has told a lie here or there, and I know nobody is perfect. Sometimes we lie to others to make others feel good, sometimes we fib, and make up white lies, but nothing beats honesty. If you are afraid of hurting someones feelings, don’t be. I would rather have an honest enemy telling me the truth to my face, then a fake friend who doesn’t speak up and who doesn’t tell me the truth and says terrible things behind my back. Sometimes the truth hurts and we must always be prepared for it. I would rather be hurt, then be lied to. Being lied to is far more worse than anything else in this world.

When you are out on a date with someone you just met, it is always a good idea to tell the truth always, be honest about you and your life. The person you are on a date with, will appreciate it. We all have done things we are not proud of, we all have done mistakes in the past and telling your date the truth and being honest is something very good to do. Especially in the beginning and of course always. When you have something to say, say it, and don’t lie about it. It always comes out and people find out one way or another. You can never hide anything because lies always come out and once it does, it is like poison, it effects your relationships, it effects a lot of things. People will then spread it around and tell people, oh look at that liar, don’t be his/her friend, or don’t get near that person because they lie so much. You wouldn’t want that.

It is written in the Bible, and in the 10 commandments that lying is a sin and that is one of the biggest sins of the world. Standing up for whats right, taking the side that is right, and always being honest is the way to go in life. First you must be true to yourself, then you can go out in society and be truthful to others. I’d rather be honest, then impressive. Honesty is an expensive gift, do not expect it from cheap people with a cheap personality trait. You are responsible for whatever you say and do. You can run but you can never hide. Just be honest and everything else will come in place.

Honesty Is The Best Policy – The Truth Will Set You Free

In life I believe that honesty is the best policy and the truth will set you free always. For some people being honest and forthright is a hard battle, and some people lie constantly and it is not a good trait to develop. Some people lie day in and day out and I know that the truth always comes out. No matter how much you try and hide it. There will always be a way that someone finds out. There comes a time where no one will believe in you anymore, the trust and respect will be gone. Once you start lying so much, people will have a hard time believing and trusting you. You can lose many friends that way, you can lose your reputation. If you are not honest with yourself, how can you be honest with other people? It all starts with you and how you portray you. You can’t get away with anything you lie about. Sometimes it happens where people don’t ever find out, but somehow they can.

Always be honest, even if it means standing alone. You may also lose friends too when you are honest, and that is an indication that they weren’t your true friends to begin with. I believe in Karma, and karma bites back ever so strongly when you are not telling the truth, and when you hide something from friends and family, when you do something terrible to someone. It always bites back and more powerful. I am sure everyone in life has told a lie here or there, and I know nobody is perfect. Sometimes we lie to others to make others feel good, sometimes we fib, and make up white lies, but nothing beats honesty. If you are afraid of hurting someones feelings, don’t be. I would rather have an honest enemy telling me the truth to my face, then a fake friend who doesn’t speak up and who doesn’t tell me the truth and says terrible things behind my back. Sometimes the truth hurts and we must always be prepared for it. I would rather be hurt, then be lied to. Being lied to is far more worse than anything else in this world.

When you are out on a date with someone you just met, it is always a good idea to tell the truth always, be honest about you and your life. The person you are on a date with, will appreciate it. We all have done things we are not proud of, we all have done mistakes in the past and telling your date the truth and being honest is something very good to do. Especially in the beginning and of course always. When you have something to say, say it, and don’t lie about it. It always comes out and people find out one way or another. You can never hide anything because lies always come out and once it does, it is like poison, it effects your relationships, it effects a lot of things. People will then spread it around and tell people, oh look at that liar, don’t be his/her friend, or don’t get near that person because they lie so much. You wouldn’t want that.

It is written in the Bible, and in the 10 commandments that lying is a sin and that is one of the biggest sins of the world. Standing up for whats right, taking the side that is right, and always being honest is the way to go in life. First you must be true to yourself, then you can go out in society and be truthful to others. I’d rather be honest, then impressive. Honesty is an expensive gift, do not expect it from cheap people with a cheap personality trait. You are responsible for whatever you say and do. You can run but you can never hide. Just be honest and everything else will come in place.