It Is Not About The Quantity Of Friends, Its About The Quality

In life we will come across so many people in our lives, and some think that the more friends you have the more popular you will be and the more better you will be, and that is wrong. You can have so many friends, you can hundreds of people being your friend and some people will be more concerned about having quantity instead of quality, well, that should not be. I’d rather have a few friends who will be by my side, to back me up, and to support, love and appreciate me for who I am. Everything should be mutual when it comes to friends. It takes two to tango and it takes both to be the backbone that keeps the friendships up. Also, don’t trust people so quickly, don’t give in so easily. Ask yourself a few questions, will they be loyal to you? will they back you up? How will they treat you? Will they use you? Unfortunately in society these days, you need to double triple check before you make friends with people and this day in age, trust has become so rare and there are people of all walks of life. Do you really want to put yourself in a predicament of hanging out with someone who will back stab, betray and use you?

In this life we live in now, we need to analyze people very well before we give our all, before we share our most personal stories and our life’s journey with them. It does take time to get to know someone, and friendships and good friendships take time to build. So you build your trust in accordance to how someone is, their actions, words, kindness, their honesty, their loyalty and the way they are to you and how they treat you. When you are out with friends at a restaurant, take a good look and observe, if they are rude to the waiter or waitress, or if they are rude to any other person, it makes you think and question, will they be like that toward me? Will they burst at me like that someday? Actions do speak a lot louder than words and then words and action play hand in hand with each other.

We must open up our eyes a bit more, be more observant, and not to trust people so easily. Take your time to get to know someone before you give it your all. You will know the quality and the friends you have, by just the way they are, you will know what to do whether to pursue the friendship or not. Disrespectful people who do not know how good they have it and take advantage of ones goodness, good heart, and those who do not care, and those who use you, those who spread rumours and share whatever happens to the world, is not a true friend. Some people do not even know the definition of a friend and that is so unfortunate. Take your time, don’t rush into friendships so quickly because you will be burned if you don’t choose your friends wisely and you can be hurt. I do not want anybody hurt.

My family, friends, fans, readers and all my other supporters, I want the best for everyone, and I am speaking through experience. I’ve been burned so many times from fake people, I’ve been hurt so many times, but all it takes is opening up your eyes, being more assertive, being more aware, being more observant of people’s actions, eye language, facial reactions, body language and more. It is so important to take a look at all of that. It will save the hassle in the long run and it will make you decide if they are the right friends for you and if you should continue it or not. It all depends on a person’s personality and the type of friends to choose, but in the end look out for you. Don’t put everyone in one basket, balance it and don’t give in too quickly.

Just take your time. There is no rush to friendships. You will find the suitable people for you. It will take time and effort, but never ever think friendship will never happen for you. Just be patient and go with the flow.  You would not want to go through havoc and trouble. Just believe in yourself and know that there are types of people for you that are suitable. Just relax and take it easy. I’d rather have only a few friends I can trust, depend on and share stories and things with, rather than having hundreds, that will only be their part time and not full time. So just go with your gut instinct and I wish you all the best.

My Life Has Blossomed Into A Field Of Beautiful Roses

In the last few weeks I know I have written some blogs about different emotions I am having and different perspectives on life and humanity with different things per day, but my life has turned out to be a field of blossomed colourful roses and roses are my favourite flowers, and I love all kinds of colours of roses. My life has turned out to be beautiful because of the beautiful people in it. Those beautiful Roses are the people who have been embedded into my life and in my heart and soul. I am the one running in the field and stopping to smell the roses on my path. There are so many beautiful people who have come into my life in the past 3-4 years and I wouldn’t be where I am today without them. This field is a special one to me with assortment of colours, sizes and feel to them. At my wedding day hopefully that day will happen, all my flowers, bouquets, decorations will be filled with Roses, and those roses will be filled with the beautiful people in my life. Life is a beautiful thing and some people underestimate life and they try to see the negative and darkness, but when you really analyze life, it really is a pretty thing to be in. It all depends on how you portray yourself and your life.

My definition of life is like I said, the field of beautiful roses. They define my life and the definition of a beautiful life most importantly are with the people I associate with and who is part of my life and who always will be. People will come and go from your life, but in the end all you have are the true ones who will be with you for life. I have friends from the many miles and when we got together my field of roses got larger and larger and they have been part of my field for over 3 years now and up until the present time and beyond. They are my special roses and those roses will forever be in my heart and soul and in my body’s home. I see a colourful place with beauty and vibrant textures, and a field of dreams with beautiful trees, a blue sky with not a cloud on it, with the sun blooming in my blossomed field with the roses shining and blooming ever so beautifully, the petals of the roses ever so lovely, picking roses and making them into dozens and smelling the lovely fragrance that comes from these flowers while giving them away to the special people in my life, while those roses grow again and I repeat to give dozens more. taking apart the petals and throwing them all around with the wind blowing and these beautiful colours going all over the place and those petals are my lovely friends who are all over the place and me catching up to those petals and visiting them and holding them so tightly in my hands and arms and not wanting to let go of my great friends who have bright and beautiful personalities which are far more beautiful than the field of roses.

This particular field of roses are an example of my beautiful friends whom I am so grateful for. the meaning behind this blossomed field are my lovely friends blooming in my life and have made it far more beautiful and have made the cloudy, raining and dark days into the sunny and no clouds in the sky days. I love you all so much.

How To Avoid Conflict with Assumptions and Spreading Rumors

In my life, I have always learned to not get too involved in someone elses personal lives and business and to ask too many questions and details about a person’s life and I have been taught to never assume things about other people, make up stories about them and not to spread rumours and I have learned that if something that if someone tells me and tells me not to tell anybody, I honor their word and I never tell a soul. It’s just my style and I just cannot stand it sometimes when people ask way too many personal questions about family life, about sensitive things that not everyone should know about. I believe there are boundaries to everything and there is a limit with so much. Some people are so nosy and want to know so much. It becomes too much. When rumors start being spread around without knowing from the source, is not something very good to do.

Before sharing things and before spreading things around that you are permitted to do, it is always important to ask from the source and find out things from the source, because by the time you hear about it from different people, the story gets changed around, words are added here and then, and people understand things differently, then it will be chaotic and something will be blown way out of proportion. It is like playing broken Telephone when by the time the story gets sent around in the circle, the person at the end will have a totally different story and then spread it around. I think it is a good idea to always know if it is something you should say to others, and get permission always and never assume things about other people unless you find out from them and unless there is solid proof of something done, or something said. Sometimes there are witnesses who even lie, and there are so many people who will lie and make up stories about others.

I think the most important thing is to really get the facts straight. Relationships and friendships can be ruined by it, and a lot of damage will be done. I just sometimes say you know what? Its better I do not get involved, I do not say anything, and not share with the world something that is very personal. I just don’t want to deal with headaches and hardships later. I am always loyal to my friends, and when they tell me something personal, there is no way I will ever spread those things around. It is the most terrible thing anyone can do. Now with social media, the internet there are mixed signals and so many sites dealing with social media, there are billions of us on the internet everyday and transmitting information 24/7 365, and a lot of people do not get their facts straight and it becomes a catastrophe. So my advice to everyone is, never assume, never invent words with your mouth and go right to the source to find out information. The power of words can do serious damage, and its the most powerful thing in this world.

Has there been a moment in your life where people find false things about you and it gets spread like wildflowers? Have you been in a situation where you do damage control and tell people the right things instead of the way people hear about it? Have you defended someone? People just need to get their facts straight. That is all there is to it. it avoids conflict, problems, and it prevents from relationships, friendships and bonds to break and it can be a very hurtful thing to go through. So some people need to really think before they speak and ask from the source beforehand . I cannot stress it enough. Make things right now before things get out of hand because it can and really quick. All the best to everyone!

Had A Great Birthday Yesterday – Thank You For The Wishes

for 28 years now on April 30th, I celebrate my birthday. I am so happy and glad for all my birthdays and I am ever so grateful to God for giving me this life and I thank my parents for bringing me into this world and to experience everything I have experienced in my life, with traveling to many places, for giving me everything, a roof over my head, a nice warm bed to sleep in, food to eat and so much more. I am so thankful for everything as I look around the world and people do not even have running water to drink and bathe from. I am so fortunate and I have learned not to take anything from granted in my life.

There were times where some of my birthdays did not go as well as I had hoped for. Once in high school when I turned 16 years old, I had invited about 30 people to come over to my house for my sweet 16 birthday party and it was one of the most embarrassing yet humiliating things in my life where only one person showed up out of all the others. I was thinking they were my friends and everything but they really weren’t. I was devastated that I could not have a sweet 16 party, and also I never knew what it felt like to have a surprise birthday party or even had a big party to celebrate me and my day. I never knew what that feeling was like. I didn’t even know the feeling of when I turned 20, 21 years old where I would have a great party, but I did go to Montreal for my birthdays quite a lot in my early 20′s and to get away from things and to enjoy a dance club here and there with my friends in Montreal. The only parties I have ever had was when I was a kid where a lot of my family came over to celebrate and that is about it. To me The gifts weren’t important, but being with my family and couple of friends is what I want.

I know parties should not matter and everything, but in my case it does. In my early adult life and as an adult now, I want to be able to know what it feels like to have a party. I know that I can create my own party and have people over and stuff and go out but I just get those bad memories again when I was 16 years old. I really never had a lot of friends to begin with and I invited all those people and never showed up except for one. I was crushed and cried for days. I just want to know what it feels like to have a party and its all about me and having people around me that has come to celebrate me. I am hoping that will happen soon. I sometimes feel so isolated and they are feelings that I never want to get back. Nowadays everything is great. My beautiful friends took me out for my birthday over the weekend and surprised me with a cake which was so sweet of them. I will never forget that.

What have you experienced in the past about your birthday? Did you have a birthday that was a blast or not such a blast?

Anyways, I would like to take this opportunity to thank my family, friends and fans for all the birthday wishes, the phone calls, text messages, e-mails, facebook messages, the birthday cards, the birthday e-greetings, virtual cakes, flowers and everything. I really appreciate it so much from the bottom of my heart. I love you all!

It is Important to Stand For What Is Right, & Take The Side That is Right

In My life, I have always learned about doing the right thing, and stand for what is right in the world, whether it’s a personal issue, being in society, in my community or whatever the case maybe. Before I jump in any opportunity or situation, I always think twice. Is it right? Is it not right? In the end the decision is in my court, but I always try to see things to be right. In a lot of cases, when people ask me for advice, and when people come to me to ask me is this the right way to do something? or is it right to be around people like this or that? 99.9% of the time, people come back to me and tell me, Talin you are so right about it, or Talin thank you for your advice, it worked really well. The other .01% that I did leave out was due to the other persons actions and words that I gave advice to. will that person listen and carry out the advice I gave him or her? It is always a wonder, but usually I get feedback all the time.

I strongly believe in standing for what is right, even if it means standing alone. I really like this quote a lot. You will know instantly. It is your gut instinct. If your gut instinct tells you to do it, do it, but if it is wrong, you always have to think with your mind before you can even think about something with your heart. These days the mind comes before the heart. When people think with their heart, sometimes it comes out to be the total opposite of what they were imagining a situation to be whether its something to do with a relationship, or anything else of that sort. I truly believe that when people think with their minds, the outcome is always better. The society has become such a thing that you have to be very careful of who you trust and you have to over-analyze and observe people before jumping into a friendship, relationship and companionship. It is very important not to jump into those ships too quickly because in the end it can make you or break you. I cannot stress how important it is to protect yourself at all times. Your emotional, mental and physical safety is very important. Yes although thinking with your heart is really an awesome thing to do, but these days you must think with your mind. I cannot put it any clearer than that. You have to make wise decisions about any situation you are in.

If people do not understand why you always want to do the right thing and when people leave you standing alone, it means that those people who leave you standing alone aren’t who they say they are, and they are not the true people you once thought you can trust and be around with. When you do something right and stand by the right side of things and when people stay with you, they are definitely keepers and then you will know exactly who is true and who is not. I know sometimes doing the right thing can be a wrong approach, but you did what you had to do, but always remember there are two sides to every story, but you have to be the one to judge if it is wrong or right. Keep an open mind, but close your heart unless it’s for the right person, people. Keep analyzing, keep on observing, keep on questioning. There is nothing wrong with that. Just protect yourself and life will go right.

Building A Sense Of Individuality Can Be A Battle in Decision Making

In life I am sure a lot of us have encountered people who always have a problem or an issue with how one individual gets things done, or how they think and feel, and there will always be people who will try to please everyone by always listening to everybody else, and not thinking about what that person really likes. For example, when someone or some people start planning a party, wedding, engagement party, special occasion gathering or just some simple gathering, and you start planning the venue, the colours, theme, music, food, decorations, and all that other stuff, and when it is time for people who are invited that come to the party and after doing your best to make sure people have a great time, there will be people who will always criticize you, and you hear it from other people who you should have done the decorations in another way, more better music, better theme of the party, but you know what, you have to stand up for what you created, the many hours and days and months it took for preparations, for the time you put into it, and having to hear from someone who it wasn’t up to par and being penalized for doing it that way, why didn’t you do this instead? Don’t you just hate that? There will be people who will say, thank you, had a fabulous time, everything was great, and some people will not even compliment the night or whenever the parties are held.

In this world the only impossible thing to achieve is to please everybody, you cannot, and it will never happen where people see eye to eye on things, people will always find something to say, people will always find a way to rain on someone else parade. It is unfortunate how that happens and it can be difficult to build a sense of individuality can be such a battle because a lot of us want approval and a lot of us wait for others to be impressed with you, but you know what, in the end we are all individuals and if we don’t build ourselves some sort of individuality, then everybody will end up being the same person and there is nothing new in the world to see, everyone will end up with the same kind of personality and there won’t be room for growth and a sense of independence.

I always believe that to be yourself, and to do things that you are capable of doing, if you want to have a party and do some event and if you want it to be a certain way, a certain theme, go for it. Nobody has the right to criticize and put any blame or point fingers on how its done and everything. You went out of your way to have this party or gathering to make it a great time and for people to come together and enjoy with each other is what counts right? Some people are so detail oriented and they always have to pinpoint what is wrong and what is right. It shouldn’t be like that. Yes although being detail oriented is good, but there is a limit to everything.

In this life and in my life, I have learned not to let others walk all over me, and tell me what to do with everything. I make my own decisions, and yes I do listen to advice and I do listen to people who give energy to me about something and what and how I should be doing something, but in the end if someone keeps on making decisions for you, then it will be a battle to build a sense of individuality. it is good sometimes to receive advice if you did something wrong or you approached something in a wrong way, or if you did some mistake or whatever, but people should not be on your case and put you on the spot all the time. you know what I mean right? Well, have you been in this situation before? Have you ever been through these problems where people always make a snide comment or tell you in a way not to offend you? What did you feel about how others criticize you?

I’d love to hear from you.

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in ones life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people that do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart its not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

Annual ACYOC Camping Trip at Rideau Acres, In Kingston Ontario 2007

throwback of 2007

My articles I wrote of the past.

Friday morning, August 10th, 2007, 68 ACYOC youth from Montreal, Laval, Ottawa, Mississauga and Toronto embarked on a wonderful journey to Rideau Acres Campgrounds in Kingston.  The youth gathered for a weekend full of fun, togetherness, making new friends, and reuniting with old friends.  As the campers arrived and put their tents up, we created a little Armenian Village.  The barbecue started with hamburgers and hot dogs and at night we gathered around the fire for fellowship and just having a great time until wee hours of the morning.

On Saturday morning, August 11th, additional people arrived from various areas of Ontario and Quebec.  All the campers went swimming in the campsite pool, where we spent majority of the day.  We enjoyed playing ball, diving into the water with different moves, playing different water games,  getting some sun, and just relaxing by the pool and having a good time  cooling off from the hot sun.  As the nightfall neared, our wonderful Toronto ACYOC crew prepared shish kebabs and salad for dinner.  The fellowship that we started on Friday night continued, as we roasted marshmallows, told stories and riddles, and had fun.

On Sunday Morning August 12th, everyone packed up tents and belongings and prepared to return home.  It was a very short weekend that passed quickly, but we will never let go of the bonds we created and old friendships that we strengthened.  Thank you to the Toronto ACYOC for working extremely hard for a successful weekend. Without all the helping hands, this camping trip would not have been possible.

Thank you to all 68 Participants for participating, and we hope you enjoyed the weekend as much as we did.  God bless everyone and hope to see you next year.

Here is to ACYOC Camping Trip 2008!

It Is Not About The Quantity Of Friends, Its About The Quality

In life we will come across so many people in our lives, and some think that the more friends you have the more popular you will be and the more better you will be, and that is wrong. You can have so many friends, you can hundreds of people being your friend and some people will be more concerned about having quantity instead of quality, well, that should not be. I’d rather have a few friends who will be by my side, to back me up, and to support, love and appreciate me for who I am. Everything should be mutual when it comes to friends. It takes two to tango and it takes both to be the backbone that keeps the friendships up. Also, don’t trust people so quickly, don’t give in so easily. Ask yourself a few questions, will they be loyal to you? will they back you up? How will they treat you? Will they use you? Unfortunately in society these days, you need to double triple check before you make friends with people and this day in age, trust has become so rare and there are people of all walks of life. Do you really want to put yourself in a predicament of hanging out with someone who will back stab, betray and use you?

In this life we live in now, we need to analyze people very well before we give our all, before we share our most personal stories and our life’s journey with them. It does take time to get to know someone, and friendships and good friendships take time to build. So you build your trust in accordance to how someone is, their actions, words, kindness, their honesty, their loyalty and the way they are to you and how they treat you. When you are out with friends at a restaurant, take a good look and observe, if they are rude to the waiter or waitress, or if they are rude to any other person, it makes you think and question, will they be like that toward me? Will they burst at me like that someday? Actions do speak a lot louder than words and then words and action play hand in hand with each other.

We must open up our eyes a bit more, be more observant, and not to trust people so easily. Take your time to get to know someone before you give it your all. You will know the quality and the friends you have, by just the way they are, you will know what to do whether to pursue the friendship or not. Disrespectful people who do not know how good they have it and take advantage of ones goodness, good heart, and those who do not care, and those who use you, those who spread rumours and share whatever happens to the world, is not a true friend. Some people do not even know the definition of a friend and that is so unfortunate. Take your time, don’t rush into friendships so quickly because you will be burned if you don’t choose your friends wisely and you can be hurt. I do not want anybody hurt.

My family, friends, fans, readers and all my other supporters, I want the best for everyone, and I am speaking through experience. I’ve been burned so many times from fake people, I’ve been hurt so many times, but all it takes is opening up your eyes, being more assertive, being more aware, being more observant of peoples actions, eye language, facial reactions, body language and more. It is so important to take a look at all of that. It will save the hassle in the long run and it will make you decide if they are the right friends for you and if you should continue it or not. It all depends on a persons personality and the type of friends to choose, but in the end look out for you. Don’t put everyone in one basket, balance it and don’t give in too quickly.

Just take your time. There is no rush to friendships. You will find the suitable people for you. It will take time and effort, but never ever think friendship will never happen for you. Just be patient and go with the flow.  You would not want to go through havoc and trouble. Just believe in yourself and know that there are types of people for you that are suitable. Just relax and take it easy. I’d rather have only a few friends I can trust, depend on and share stories and things with, rather than having hundreds, that will only be there part time and not full time. So just go with your gut instinct and I wish you all the best.

It is Important to Stand For What Is Right, & Take The Side That is Right

In My life, I have always learned about doing the right thing, and stand for what is right in the world, whether its a personal issue, being in society, in my community or whatever the case maybe. Before I jump in any opportunity or or situation, I always think twice. Is it right? Is it not right? In the end the decision is in my court, but I always try to see things to be right. In a lot of cases, when people ask me for advice, and when people come to me to ask me is this the right way to do something? or is it right to be around people like this or that? 99.9% of the time, people come back to me and tell me, Talin you are so right about it, or Talin thank you for your advice, it worked really well. The other .01% that I did leave out was due to the other persons actions and words that I gave advice to. will that person listen and carry out the advice I gave him or her? It is always a wonder, but usually I get feedback all the time.

I strongly believe in standing for what is right, even if it means standing alone. I really like this quote a lot. You will know instantly. It is your gut instinct. If your gut instinct tells you to do it, do it, but if it is wrong, you always have to think with your mind before you can even think about something with your heart. These days the mind comes before the heart. When people think with their heart, sometimes it comes out to be the total opposite of what they were imagining a situation to be whether its something to do with a relationship, or anything else of that sort. I truly believe that when people think with their minds, the outcome is always better. The society has become such a thing that you have to be very careful of who you trust and you have to over-analyze and observe people before jumping into a friendship, relationship and companionship. It is very important not to jump into those ships too quickly because in the end it can make you or break you. I cannot stress how important it is to protect yourself at all times. Your emotional, mental and physical safety is very important. Yes although thinking with your heart is really an awesome thing to do, but these days you must think with your mind. I cannot put it any more clearer than that. You have to make wise decisions about any situation you are in.

If people do not understand why you always want to do the right thing and when people leave you standing alone, it means that those people who leave you standing alone aren’t who they say they are, and they are not the true people you once thought you can trust and be around with. When you do something right and stand by the right side of things and when people stay with you, they are definitely keepers and then you will know exactly who is true and who is not. I know sometimes doing the right thing can be a wrong approach, but you did what you had to do, but always remember there are two sides to every story, but you have to be the one to judge if it is wrong or right. Keep an open mind, but close your heart unless its for the right person, people. Keep analyzing, keep on observing, keep on questioning. There is nothing wrong with that. Just protect yourself and life will go right.

I Am Very Happy These Days – I Am Feeling Incredible

These days I am a very happy person, because I am finally on my way to having my dreams come true and with hard work and determination I know I can get there. It feels great to share with the world who I am and I believe I can move mountains with my words. I want to be able to reach out to my readers and tell my readers who I am and what I do in my life. I feel that when you have a personal approach and an approach to others that reach out to them, that gives the reader a sense of belonging and comfort knowing that what I write will impact readers in such a great and positive way which is what I strive for. I love being real and being real with everyone. It is who I am. I do not like to be a person who is fictional, I like to be a person who is real and who talks about real life issues I have had in my life, sharing my experiences of life, and amongst so many things. I am a very happy person and I feel so incredible. It has been a great couple of weeks with topic and discussions that my readers want, and what my supporters and fans want to hear. I have received many e-mails and messages from people that they want to know more about me and want to know my purpose.

My purpose in blogging and writing is what I always talk about making a difference in this world and in my previous blogs, I have a lot of topics that include all that and what I want to do with my path in getting out there. I am someone who is passionate about social subjects and social aspects of the world and how socializing and social acceptance comes into everything, I don’t like to see people isolated, and the fear of interacting with others. Nobody should have to feel that way and nobody should have to feel rejected when with the social society aspect. I want to help people, I want to help get people going with their lives and that makes me happy more than anything else, to see smiles on peoples faces, to see people happy, and that is what is making me happy too.

In my daily life, I always try the best of my ability to always be positive, no matter what life throws at me and these last few weeks has been great and so much positivity has been happening, I have been out more with my friends, my best friends, and been to the movies, watched some interesting movies, and my social life is getting a lot better and it has been better. I have so many people to be thankful for, for making my life incredible, and I give them credit for everything in my life, but I have to also work on my own happiness and work on being more happier which I am and its such a great feeling to be that way. I feel a different approach to life and that is something very important to me. I am on my path to happiness and my path to making that positive change in the world. I am very happy all around. Thank you to all those who have faith in me and knowing that is what makes me happy in all the days of my life and I have so much to be thankful for. It is incredible to know when your work and your life has been appreciated and given credit for.

It feels so great to be appreciated, it is so great to feel these positive optimistic feelings. Everyone should always feel like this and I wish everyone the best, and may you all smile and be happy everyday like I am. I know we all have our problems to deal with and I know that all of us have unfortunate things happen to us, but never lose faith in happiness and never lose faith in smiling and feeling good about you and yourself, Remember to take charge of you and your emotions and you will see how great life really can be. Thank you so much and have a lovely day.

My Life Has Blossomed Into A Field Of Beautiful Roses

In the last few weeks I know I have written some blogs about different emotions I am having and different perspectives on life and humanity with different things per day, but my life has turned out to be a field of blossomed colourful roses and roses are my favourite flowers, and I love all kinds of colours of roses. My life has turned out to be beautiful because of the beautiful people in it. Those beautiful Roses are the people who have been embedded into my life and in my heart and soul. I am the one running in the field and stopping to smell the roses on my path. There are so many beautiful people who have come into my life in the past 3-4 years and I wouldn’t be where I am today without them. This field is a special one to me with assortment of colours, sizes and feel to them. At my wedding day hopefully that day will happen, all my flowers, bouquets, decorations will be filled with Roses, and those roses will be filled with the beautiful people in my life. Life is a beautiful thing and some people underestimate life and they try to see the negative and darkness, but when you really analyze life, it really is a pretty thing to be in. It all depends on how you portray yourself and your life.

My definition of life is like I said, the field of beautiful roses. They define my life and the definition of a beautiful life most importantly are with the people I associate with and who is part of my life and who always will be. People will come and go from your life, but in the end all you have are the true ones who will be with you for life. I have friends from the many miles and when we got together my field of roses got larger and larger and they have been part of my field for over 3 years now and up until the present time and beyond. They are my special roses and those roses will forever be in my heart and soul and in my body’s home. I see a colourful place with beauty and vibrant textures, and a field of dreams with beautiful trees, a blue sky with not a cloud on it, with the sun blooming in my blossomed field with the roses shining and blooming ever so beautifully, the petals of the roses ever so lovely, picking roses and making them into dozens and smelling the lovely fragrance that comes from these flowers while giving them away to the special people in my life, while those roses grow again and I repeat to give dozens more. taking apart the petals and throwing them all around with the wind blowing and these beautiful colours going all over the place and those petals are my lovely friends who are all over the place and me catching up to those petals and visiting them and holding them so tightly in my hands and arms and not wanting to let go of my great friends who have bright and beautiful personalities which are far more beautiful than the field of roses.

This particular field of roses are an example of my beautiful friends whom I am so grateful for. the meaning behind this blossomed field are my lovely friends blooming in my life and have made it far more beautiful and have made the cloudy, raining and dark days into the sunny and no clouds in the sky days. I love you all so much.

Soul Searching Is So Difficult — He Is Out There Somewhere For Me, I am Ready

Recently, I have been doing a lot of soul searching and boy is it difficult. I have never had a boyfriend before and I am just going crazy to think that no man finds me attractive enough, and all they want to do is be friends, but I am ready to date and I am ready for a relationship. I have never experienced one before, so I do not know what to expect, what the first date would be like, how to start conversations, and what to discuss. I have been thinking about this for a while now, and I don’t know if I will ever find someone. It has come to that point. I know that jumping into relationships fast is not a good thing, but I want to start now, I want to get going with this. I am so ready and my patience is running thin, but good things come to those who wait I guess. I know that special someone is out there for me, or I may have met him in my life already or maybe I have not. I am just going in spirals trying to figure all this out. They say that there is someone for someone in this world and somehow those two end up together, and God has a plan for all of us and with his power everything is possible.

I believe that a man should appreciate his woman for who she is, personality wise and everything. Everything else comes secondary. First personality traits, and attitude of life is important a persons inner being. What I wish for in a man is someone whom I can talk to anything about, I am not a person who is materialistic, or cares about the house he has or the car he drives. What is important to me is his personality, someone who is great inside, and of course someone who takes care of themselves with grooming and hygiene of course, but those things come secondary, I want a person with a sense of humour who can make laugh, where we can enjoy each others company regardless of where we are, a place is just a place, but being with one another is what is important. I want someone whom I can be comfortable with and be myself with. Someone who is honest, forthright and who is a straight talker and doesn’t beat around the bush. I want someone who understands and who is sensitive toward me.

I want to know how it feels to be loved by someone, to be in a relationship, to share special moments, to talk, to share moments of thick and thin, the good times and god forbid the bad times. I know that relationships are not perfect all the time, and things happen, but I am looking for someone who can be my all, and my life and the complete my puzzle in life. In this day in age, I need to really think with my mind before I think with my heart. The heart is so fragile, and the heart is so soft, sometimes we make bad decisions because we think with the heart and don’t have time to think with the mind, and sometimes the heart overpowers the mind, but this society has made me realize that thinking with the mind is far more important and crucial to any relationship, and involving family and friends are important to me too, because their opinions matter to me because I ask people with the most experience and those people are not just any people, they are my family and my parents and my friends and their blessing count to me, and without their approval, I will not continue on with the relationship. Even if I love him so much, because I know their opinions and the advice given is for a reason.

I have not been in relationships to know these things, so that is why I value my parents, brother and friends opinions because they know better to help me guide through those times. I am not materialistic and I do not need expensive gifts or jewelery to show me how much that man loves me and cares about me, the way a man will show he cares and loves me is when he is with me every step of the way, someone who supports me, understands me, someone who is there for me in good times and in the bad, someone who calls me beautiful, someone who calls me, someone who goes to the ends of the earth for me.

I will also do the same as well, and I believe in 100/100 — There is no 50/50 as people say each person in a relationship has to give in 100%. That is what I believe.  I don’t know, I am just going crazy with all this. I see so many getting married and engaged around me, I feel so lonely, but I am not going to have a boyfriend and get engaged and married because everyone around me is doing it, but I do believe it is my time. I know this year, my prince charming will sweep me off of my feet. I just know and feel it. Time is of the essence I guess. The waiting begins. I am ready. More than ready. Wish me luck!

 

Those Who Gossip To You, Will Probably Be Doing The Same About You Too! Be Careful

There have been numerous amounts of times where people would gossip to you about someone or some people and in a terrible way and they like to spread rumours and make up things that are not true about that person and make assumptions. Have you been in a situation where someone would gossip everything about other people? I am sure most of us have. Have you heard that behind your back that person who gossiped to you, did the same about you too to others? It is terrible. I wish some people would stop doing that about other people. It is not nice to gossip and talk poorly about someone behind their backs. If you do not hear it from the source, its not a good idea to create and make up stories when it is not even true. Some people spend so much time making a federal case about other people, that they don’t care if it hurts them. Trash talking about that person behind their back and then being sweet, and nice with them in their face is not a very nice thing to do.

Backstabbers and Fake people who give face to you and who are nice to you and then all of a sudden you hear that, the person whom you thought you can trust has spread terrible lies about you and does everything in their power to destroy your good name. I find that to be such a terrible thing to go through. I have had that happen to me numerous amount of times. What goes around comes around. When a rumour, or some sort of stupidity gets spread around, it will always come back to the person who these terrible things have been said about. A lot of people do not know how terrible this is and it is not fair to that person. This plays a factor in jealousy and jealousy can do so many things. Gossiping is a terrible thing to do no matter what. Sometimes people need to mind their own business and look in the mirror before they judge other people or talk about them. In Today’s world trusting people, confiding in people, telling someone something very personal is something that not a lot of people can do anymore, because when you request and ask someone to keep it a secret and they don’t and spread it around, it is not a good thing.

Some people spread and talk for the sake of talking about anything about others just to satisfy their jealousy urges. This situation can make you or break you. As soon as you make new friends, don’t assume that they are trustworthy, test out your friends, don’t talk about personal issues, don’t talk too too much about your life, but talk in general terms, and once you start to get to know them and you build your trust, then just maybe you can tell them, but then again you cannot be to careful with the information you transmit to them. Keep very personal things within the family, and do not transmit every bit of information to your friends. Someone who is true to you will always keep your secrets, someone who is true to you will never gossip, spread lies and do terrible things because when your a true friend to someone its expected that you are honest and forthright about situations and when things happen you tell your friends on the spot. Don’t be afraid if you disagree on a few things, it helps build your friendship stronger and you work it out.

the bottom line is to never gossip, spread rumours and make up stories about others. Its not nice at all. I am sure that if the roles were reversed, it wouldn’t be a nice feeling. Nowadays, I am not too trusting and I don’t give in easily. I always think with my mind and then with my heart. This day in age the Heart can be fooled easily on the people to hang out with and its a soft spot where people become blinded, naive and soft, but nowadays you have to stand tough, you have to say no once in a while, you have to think twice and three times before jumping into friendships and relationships. It is important to keep those things in mind. Not everyone you meet will be your friend, chances are some friends can say the most terrible things about you behind your back…. WELL, So called friends, fake friends. you do not need them in your life.

Move forward and find people who actually care about you and who actually want the best for you.Not those who spread rumours and gossip. Stay far away from them as possible. I am saying all this from experience of others doing that to me, and it is not pleasant. I am just watching out for all of you because I care so much about all of you. All the best to you.

 

Thankful For Each Day, That Comes My Way

Everyday that passes, I am thankful for having gone through another day. Everyday I learn new things whether its from the internet or something about life outside. It is not so much about going through everyday to learn new things, it is the lesson that it teaches you. Each thing in life has a deeper meaning to it and it is up to our individual selves on how we want to define it. life is just too short to be upset, angry and fuss over things. Life is precious and we have only a limited time on earth, so try to make the most of it, be happy, do happy things, live life. Nowadays, I don’t let other peoples negativity ruin me, and I have learned my lesson on that. I am not going to be a statistic to let people be rude to me and make distasteful comments. I too make mistakes, I am not perfect, I have my weaknesses, and I fully admit that. I know that my writing needs a little bit of improvement structurally, but I am working on that and I am going back to school to learn it. I had over 90 in my English courses back in High school and it has been a long time since then and I sort of forgot some things, but I am human, I make mistakes.

I love blogging, and it gets me through everyday, I love writing because it takes out everything from my mind and emptying my heart out to people and all I want is the best for everyone. Its a way for me to share with the world and to get people’s perspectives and I respect them all and I do read them all and thank you all deeply for everything you all do. I am so blessed with great things, the ability to write and the ability to get out there and speak up about issues that need addressing. I am happy most of the time, because when I was bullied when I was a child up until now here and there, I truly believe that I have gotten out of that phase where I was always sad and did not want to do anything or go out, but now, everything has changed, everything that I preach, I am taking my own advice, because everyone, lets face it, Life is too short to be depressed all the time, life is meant to be lived being happy, optimistic, thinking about good things, to be positive and take things out of our lives that are unnecessary and work on what is important. I cannot be thankful enough for each passing day. Valuable life lessons learned and doing things that will help me and my life is something that is very important.

Learning how to prioritize life and making room for important people and things in your life is crucial and imperative. Without people this world will not turn, it’s like for example, if this world did not have trees and important greenery, this world would be left without oxygen and without oxygen, we cannot function and it is important in our lives, so oxygen is happiness, positivity and being optimistic. Use those Oxygen’s to better your life and to stop depression and stress at its tracks. It is all up to you, but before your oxygen runs out, have a happy life and stop being negative. It is not good for you at all. Live, Laugh, Love, Dance, and be who you are. All the best.