Building A Sense Of Individuality Can Be A Battle in Decision Making

In life I am sure a lot of us have encountered people who always have a problem or an issue with how one individual gets things done, or how they think and feel, and there will always be people who will try to please everyone by always listening to everybody else, and not thinking about what that person really likes. For example, when someone or some people start planning a party, wedding, engagement party, special occasion gathering or just some simple gathering, and you start planning the venue, the colours, theme, music, food, decorations, and all that other stuff, and when it is time for people who are invited that come to the party and after doing your best to make sure people have a great time, there will be people who will always criticize you, and you hear it from other people who you should have done the decorations in another way, more better music, better theme of the party, but you know what, you have to stand up for what you created, the many hours and days and months it took for preparations, for the time you put into it, and having to hear from someone who it wasn’t up to par and being penalized for doing it that way, why didn’t you do this instead? Don’t you just hate that? There will be people who will say, thank you, had a fabulous time, everything was great, and some people will not even compliment the night or whenever the parties are held.

In this world the only impossible thing to achieve is to please everybody, you cannot, and it will never happen where people see eye to eye on things, people will always find something to say, people will always find a way to rain on someone else parade. It is unfortunate how that happens and it can be difficult to build a sense of individuality can be such a battle because a lot of us want approval and a lot of us wait for others to be impressed with you, but you know what, in the end we are all individuals and if we don’t build ourselves some sort of individuality, then everybody will end up being the same person and there is nothing new in the world to see, everyone will end up with the same kind of personality and there won’t be room for growth and a sense of independence.

I always believe that to be yourself, and to do things that you are capable of doing, if you want to have a party and do some event and if you want it to be a certain way, a certain theme, go for it. Nobody has the right to criticize and put any blame or point fingers on how its done and everything. You went out of your way to have this party or gathering to make it a great time and for people to come together and enjoy with each other is what counts right? Some people are so detail oriented and they always have to pinpoint what is wrong and what is right. It shouldn’t be like that. Yes although being detail oriented is good, but there is a limit to everything.

In this life and in my life, I have learned not to let others walk all over me, and tell me what to do with everything. I make my own decisions, and yes I do listen to advice and I do listen to people who give energy to me about something and what and how I should be doing something, but in the end if someone keeps on making decisions for you, then it will be a battle to build a sense of individuality. it is good sometimes to receive advice if you did something wrong or you approached something in a wrong way, or if you did some mistake or whatever, but people should not be on your case and put you on the spot all the time. you know what I mean right? Well, have you been in this situation before? Have you ever been through these problems where people always make a snide comment or tell you in a way not to offend you? What did you feel about how others criticize you?

I’d love to hear from you.

It’s Not The Years Of Your Life, It’s The Life Of Your Years

In life, there are things that some people take for granted and some are so concentrated on age and numbers rather than the quality versus the quantity of life that someone chooses to live. We all come from all walks of life, were all going through different journeys, we all go through problems in life, we come from different backgrounds, cultures, and races, some of us are tall, short, skinny, overweight, average, some have blonde hair, some of black hair, some have brown hair, but those are all what we have in our lives. Age is nothing but a number, years are nothing but a number, all I am saying is that it is the way you live your life in between those numbers which matter most.

Some people don’t even get a chance at life because it got cut short, some people die when they are born and some people don’t get lucky enough to experience life and it is unfortunate. God rest their souls and rest in peace to those who lost loved ones at any age. My thoughts and prayers are with you all who’ve lost people. It is so important to live life with quality. Because remember some don’t get the chance. It is crazy how the cycle of life works.

Live life to the fullest extent, be happy, be positive, make great and happy changes in your life, don’t dwell on the past, just keep going into the future, because when you look into the past so much, there really is nothing new to see, it will always going in circles, and you won’t see anything that changes. So the change is now in the present, do something that will benefit you, and we can all make positive and great differences in the world. We need to be able to learn to trust ourselves, to attempt it, and to act on it. it is easier said, than done right? Well, we shouldn’t think that way. We should always try to do our best, and even if you fail, there is always room for improvement, there is always the chance to try again. Never say you cannot do it, because you can do it. Just look beyond uncertainties and look at what is possible in life because everything is possible. You just have to have confidence in yourself, and go with the flow.

Never sell yourself short, and always be who you are, enjoy your life, and I know we all make mistakes, sometimes its beyond our control, but always know how special and how great you truly are to the world, and all of us can shine, but sometimes some people are pre-occupied with the quantity of life instead of the quality, and time and time again I hear people say, when I retire I will do this, or when I turn this age I will do this, and some people don’t want to reveal their age, some people are shy of telling their age to people, and they say, you should never ask a person how old they are and some concentrate solely on all that, and it’s not very good at all. Age is nothing but a number. It is how you feel on the inside that matters, it is how you feel everyday that you wake up. Don’t ever feel the need that you have to hide your age to people. Be happy and enjoy and don’t get caught up in numbers, get caught up with life and live it.

Life is great, enjoy, laugh, love, live, and experience it, because remember some don’t. Believe in yourself, and you will see what difference it makes. All the best to you.

It’s The Little Things In Life, That is Big For Someone. I have a lot of those Little Things.

One day and several days that followed, I sat down in deep thought to myself, what little things are a big deal for me, what little things in this life that makes me happy, what things that make me feel incredible.  I thought about how important it is to me. I thought of different, scenarios, are people going to think it is strange? Are people going make judgements, comments and talk about me behind my back? But I took two steps back and I just do not care about those negative comments and distasteful things, that I do not need in my life. Its either someone appreciates me for who I am and what I like and supports me with it, or they can leave, but I believe people are free in what they are interested in and what they like, that people would talk about my likes and interests. I am sentimental, and I know the value of things around me and I am so thankful for it.  It is all based on individuality and our hobbies, interests, and things that we like.

Now, this may sound bizarre, but I just can’t get over myself in loving Highway 401 East  in Ontario, Canada. Your probably thinking, a highway? it’s just asphalt and a road to drive on to get to different destinations. To me, it is a lot more than that. There have been incredible memories on the Highway 401 East going toward Montreal from Toronto. It’s such a great feeling. At times I was by myself driving and it was the best feeling ever and just the car, the music that gets me in the right state of mind, the road and myself. It’s an experience I will never forget. I remember when I took my first alone driving trip. It was awesome. I went half way to Montreal which is Kingston, Ontario and there was an Armenian Youth Camping trip and it was an incredible time. Driving alone makes me feel so awesome and it takes my mind off of certain things. Taking trips and just getting away from the city and just exploring is so great. My memories on the 401 started when I was so young. Until now. This is one of the biggest things that is so valuable to me. The Highway 401 East direction is my favorite and it will always remain my favorite. I have had beautiful memories, fun times, and just seeing my favorite objects and places on the 401 on the north and south sides. I would see my favorite signs, and symbols, I memorized all the curves, twists, turns, the signs, the exit numbers, the towns. You name it. I have grown a sense of connection with the highway that takes me to my happy place Montreal. Even my wallpaper on my desktop computer has a Highway 401 East picture. It’s a beautiful thing once you discover what is a big deal for me.

So take these little things in life. Someday it will be worth a lot to you and it will give a sentimental meaning as life goes on and you look back on everything you have been through and things you have had in life. The important thing is to discover it. Take sometime for yourself and figure all this out. I am sure you have little things that are such a big deal for you.

Give it a shot!

People Need To Stop Being So Hard On Themselves and Move Forward

Hey All, I know it is easier said than done when it comes to people being hard on themselves because of a situation that person has been into and along with the emotional and mental chaos that has come with it. I know that we all in this world have our own problems and things that happen in life that we do not like or something went wrong in life and sometimes things do not go as planned, but people need to stop being so hard on themselves. It is so easy to put ones self down, but people need to learn that, things happen and sometimes we cannot control it, but that doesn’t mean that someone has to be so hard on themselves and to stop saying there is no hope, it is never going to happen, good things will never happen to me, I won’t get into a relationship, and then give up and say crazy things. You are only setting yourself up for more disappointment, and you are only hurting yourself when you think negatively and hurt yourself with the words you use among yourself. Don’t do that to yourself. I know sometimes it is easy to talk about it, but where is the action? Take action, do happy things for you, make happy decisions of course with thinking, and do things that will benefit you in the long run.

If you keep on doing this to yourself and if you do not move forward, there can be consequences and you do not want to go through them. What is wrong with who you are? Nothing. Everyone is special in their own ways, but people will never know that because that particular person in your life is always being hard on themselves, and crying, and saying depressive things all the time. Time to snap out of it and time to move forward in life. The past is the past and people should stop being pessimists and start on happy adventures in life. Where do we draw the line? I know sometimes it is hard and there have been terrible times in ones life that can never be the same again, but you can make it the same again with good thoughts about yourself and putting yourself up with people and never telling people you’re not good enough, and that you’re not up to par with anything and that you will never find someone. You will and you will succeed in life, you will do the goodness in your life. You just need to boost yourself with self-confidence, self-esteem and the willingness to move on.

You can’t move on if your always ashamed, if your always in your own world and your own bubble stressing about things that are not even worth your time anymore. You have come this far for a reason and that reason is that life continues, and life goes on. You can’t bring the past back and you can’t turn back time, so might as well as make your time worth while right? Making your life better, happier and doing positive things in life will be the best gift you can ever give yourself. It may take some time, but nothing ever happens overnight. In order to work for your happiness and good things in life, is your willingness to try, give it your best, and you will see the difference in change. Change is good, and life is good, you just haven’t discovered it yet, but you will. You can’t make a colourful happy rainbow without a little rain, and you can’t have sunshine without darkness. Dark times teach us lessons in life and that will turn into sunlight only if you try to do your best to move forward. Move it and move on. Nobody is perfect and nothing is ever a guarantee, which is why you live your life now, and make the best of it because nothing is permanent. We all have to stand up on our own feet and we must strive to be happy always and keep smiling. The world is a better place with you in it and the world is a better place with smiles.

Loving yourself is the best thing you can do, and when you love yourself, everything is possible. Love yourself, Smile, and stop with whatever you are doing to make your life a dark rain storm. After a rainstorm there is sun and life again. Be in the sun and shine bright. Have a positive attitude and go with the flow. All the best!

Having An Honest Enemy is Far Better Than Having A Fake Friend

I have been going on the Tumblr website these days to see on what quotes and very clever messages that are said in written pictures and I came across this particular one about having an honest enemy is better than having a fake friend. That is such a powerful message, and I really liked it, so I saved it. I strongly agree with what that message is trying to imply and those who understand it should know and who have experienced it, should feel it. I prefer someone whom either I know or don’t know come up to me and tell me the honest truth in my face, than somebody who will not be honest and forthright with you and talk about you behind your back. That is where fake comes to. Fake friends are people who are so good with you in your face, but talk terribly about you behind your back and spread nasty rumors. Enemies sometimes are better because they are honest with you and they want to tell you straight up in your face and without a shadow character who appears only when the sun shines. You know how they say keep your enemies closer. I agree with that statement. Sometimes enemies become your real friends. Sometimes we hit buttons and hit the spot right on when we criticize people and say things that will benefit them in the long run. Fake friends just avoid a certain situation and do not want to be involved in the bad times and they are not there to support you and give you advice. Now that is something that is terrible and very offensive also hurtful as well. I know its impossible to except what enemies say, but when we pay close attention to them and what they say, they are actually right about it. I know it sounds crazy, but its the honest reality. These days fake people are on the rise and a lot of people are just out for themselves and self-gratification, but they have no room for others in their lives and they are so self-absorbed and self-centered, that they don’t see beyond their bubble and they are stuck in it. Not the whole world revolves around you, the world revolves around everyone in it. Words are powerful and they can be used in a lethal and unethical way and we can actually hurt somebody with the words we say, so instead of that, use powerful words to people who will inspire, make them happy, and positive about their lives. When someone goes through rough patches in their lives, say something thoughtful and meaningful to them and actually mean it. Don’t just say them for the sake of saying them just to satisfy another person and tell them what they want to hear, be truthful about it and make sure you are who you say you are, and don’t be a fake person. People will eventually find out the truth, so may as well as tell the truth from the beginning so you save yourself all the hassle in between. Getting hurt after finding out somebody is fake to you and does not want anything to do with you, is the worst thing you can do to somebody. If you are not honest with the person and if your going to be an enemy at least tell something to their face and take up the problem or issue with a person privately without the world knowing about it. If you have a problem with someone and if you have something to say, say it and do it. Be real to others, be kind to others, don’t be the fake person who will do a lot of emotional and mental harm to a person and that can scar a person for life. Don’t be the reason of another persons depression or stress. Help people, do your best to change your terrible social habits into ones that people will like.

Being Yourself Is The Best Thing You Can Wear

Today, I was having a conversation with myself and usually I have conversations with myself from time to time when I am busy with cleaning the house, cooking, doing laundry, and just taking time for myself and discovering new things, new thoughts about myself, and I came to a discovery about something very clever and something to think about. I have always told people to always be themselves, and there is nothing better than being who you are and not being somebody you aren’t.There is nothing in the world more rewarding than that. People sometimes get distracted, discouraged to being who they are and things happen in life to them that make them feel that being ones self is something they don’t want to do because of something they have been through, a traumatic experience, but let me assure you, being yourself is something that you should only possess. If you possess anybody else personality, then where do you stand in the world? You were born to stand out and lead. If you keep on being like everybody else, then there is nothing new to see.

Don’t try so hard to fit in, don’t try so hard to impress others. Look in the mirror everyday and smile. Say I am me, I am who I am, and I came to this world like this and I am proud and happy of me. Don’t let others dictate your life and who you are, don’t let others tell you what to be, don’t let others make your life decisions for you, don’t let others pressure you into doing things you do not want to do. We all have a voice, we all have a choice, but being yourself should always be your first and only choice. Have people in your life that will appreciate you for you, and have people in your life that will support you and your decisions, who will back you up, who will guide you through, but at the same time not keep telling you what to do. You can only do so much for people, but in the end everyone has their own lives to live. Some people may take longer than others to adapt into society, some people may take longer or shorter time to do things, and to get things going in life, but in the end you are you, and everyone has their own journey of life. You have to be patient with people. Sometimes you may not know the path they are walking and what they have been through to get to those paths and walking in their shoes.

It is easy to talk and put so many things in other people’s minds and tell them and advise them, but sometimes you have to let someone discover things on their own. You can only tell someone so much, but then after the ball is in their court and its up to them how they want to control that field, but always be yourself in the process, and always dress for success. When you are yourself, when you are honest, and don’t lie to yourself or anybody else, that is the best way to dress for life. Dressing to be yourself is the best outfit you can ever wear more than anything else in the world.

Today, I came with a new twist on this topic and I was also thinking about a movie I watched with Hillary Duff, Regina King, and a few other actors in the movie, but I forgot what the movie was called. Anyway, when at the end of the movie Hillary Duff asked her friend, what are you wearing today? Her friend said, Myself. That was something that has been on my mind today and I decided to write about it today. It is true what was said is to always wear who you are 24/7 365 days a year and never letting negative influence deter you away from who you are. So I had a conversation similar to the movie I watched last night. It goes a little something like this:

Person #1: What are you dressed as today?
Person #2: Myself
Person #1: Well, that is the best thing you can wear.
Person #2: There is nothing better than being myself
Person #1: I totally agree. I really like that look on you.
Person #2: Thanks. I will wear it everyday 24/7 365 days a year.

I really believe in that and so should everybody else. Be yourself, and you will see the difference the world makes. Smile, be happy with you and don’t try to be someone you aren’t. All the best to you.

How I Overcame Bullies How It Changed My Life Forever For The Better

Hello Everyone, due to popular demand and many people asking me about my previous posts on bullies and how people bullied me a lot, and how I overcame those hardships in my life, what I did to stay afloat in life, what measures I took to look past those bullies and make a positive and optimistic life for myself with happiness and joy all around me after many years of suffering this terrible ordeal I had to face when I was going to elementary and high school. Today, I am going to talk to you about all that, about what changes I made to get past the pain I had to endure when I was a child and a teenager. My readers questions mean the world to me, and I will do my best to answer each one of them as fast as I can, but today I thought I would address this topic to everyone as it is important for those who have been victims of bullies, and to restore faith back into humanity to move forward in life. Well, without further do, here is how I overcame and moved past those terrible times of my life, I will be interviewing myself.

What did you do to overcome your bullies?

After graduating high school I realized, that life was just beginning and that I was going to go onto bigger and better things in my life, and I was right. I started joining committees in My Armenian Community, I began to write, I started traveling more with the Armenian youth whom I made friends with at church, I began to participate in more Armenian church events, I began to go out more and those became a positive enforcement in my life and I had the time of my life, probably the most fun I have ever had in my life in regards to social events with people and just getting out there. I began doing secretarial and communications for my committees I was part of with Armenian Church Youth Organization of Canada ACYOC, among Bible study, and the appointed me because I was getting pretty good at communications and promoting. I then went onto make flyers and doing so many things for different events around the church, attending camping trips and sports weekends across Canada all the way to Vancouver, British Columbia, Montreal, Ottawa, and beyond. So I had the pleasure and privilege to travel there with my lovely youth. From then on, I knew my life changed forever and I began to have friends and I overcame all those struggles within a couple of years after high school.

Since Joining Facebook, Have you made any social interactions with people online and in reality?

I remember joining facebook back in 2006 and It was exciting being part of a social network with Armenian friends and my family who had told me about it, and I decided I join, and it was the best decision that I made. I have been using it until this present time, and I have met incredible and wonderful people there from all parts of the world, and had the pleasure of meeting my facebook friends within the past 3-4 years. Especially last year and this year recently this summer. It was a beautiful encounter and that made my bullies disappear from my mind and things started to fall into place and things got better for me. I smile, I laugh more, and I have reached my peak of happiness because of the positive reinforcement from my lovely friends I had met. Especially from a radio station based out of California called RADIO AGA. I thank that radio station everyday for giving me back my life’s happiness especially getting together with friends from the many miles. I will forever be grateful.

What advice do you have for those who are being bullied right now?

I know in my heart that, it is one of the most difficult, and terrible things a person can go through no matter what age, and I do believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel always. I know for a fact, that things are going to work out and get better for you. All you have to do is think of happy thoughts and move forward. I know it is easier said than done, but always know that you are not alone, nobody is alone when those are being bullied. I went through terrible ordeals and situations, but those situations made me stronger, and today I am doing so well, and I am so happy with who I have become. I sort of want to thank my bullies, because now I am stronger than I ever was before and they gave me that boost to stand up for myself and be tough in this world in terms of knowing the type of people in this world and knowing who to trust or not. Don’t worry, there is always a way and you will overcome your bullies like I did. All it takes is a little patience to get out of that phase and get onto newer things in life. Things will turn around for you and you will be better than ever. Just have faith.

I truly believe there are great people out there and sometimes it is hard to find those great people, but I do believe in humanity all over again and I had mixed feelings for the past couple of months, but then again, I realize that life is what you make it and life will always have ups and downs and there will be people we like and don’t like, there will be people unfortunately who are not on the same page as you and who understand you, I guess that is how the world works unfortunately, but all I know is, I am happy, doing well, optimistic, positive, and a lot better than what was going on with me when I was a child up until my teenage years. No more sadness, no more tears, those bullies have left my station, never to return because there is a sign called no trespassing. All the best to everyone!

Did You Smile Today?

In life one of the most incredible and beautiful feelings are the ones that we can see and that is smiling. In life I have learned to be positive and take things as it comes by. In the morning when I wake up, I look in the mirror and smile. When I smile I feel like my day is going to go well and it does. I know some people smile physically, but they are hurting on the inside and they try to hide their true feelings with smiling on the outside. I know sometimes smiling can be painful and nobody would know the hurt they are enduring. Trust me, it is normal and we all go through phases in life and things happen in our lives that we least expect, but nothing is as great as a smile. It is contagious and felt by many. It makes the public atmosphere a lot more better. When I see someone smiling, and laughing it is something that I really enjoy. It makes the world beautiful, it makes everyone beautiful. A smile is one of the most beautiful things in the world.

Now in this fast paced world we live in with so much changed in the last 10-15 years sometimes people forget to smile and laugh because there is so much stress, work, school, cost of living is increasing, so many unfortunate things are happening in this world and there is a lot less time now for family and friends, leisure, outdoor, and activities and learning how to keep the balance and managing time and there aren’t enough hours in the day, but never forget to smile and spread good cheer to everyone around you. It is a beautiful thing to see. A smile is something that I really love to see. Do you smile everyday? Do you encourage others to smile when they are down ? What measures do you take to make someone elses day? I barely see people smiling anymore when I am out and about in the public. When I go to a shopping mall, when I am out walking somewhere.

What positive thing do you do? What is your key to happiness, and to show positive emotions? Would love to hear from you. All the best to all and remember Keep smiling always. It’s a great thing. Make it part of your lifestyle and make it a habit.

Honesty Is The Best Policy – The Truth Will Set You Free

In life I believe that honesty is the best policy and the truth will set you free always. For some people being honest and forthright is a hard battle, and some people lie constantly and it is not a good trait to develop. Some people lie day in and day out and I know that the truth always comes out. No matter how much you try and hide it. There will always be a way that someone finds out. There comes a time where no one will believe in you anymore, the trust and respect will be gone. Once you start lying so much, people will have a hard time believing and trusting you. You can lose many friends that way, you can lose your reputation. If you are not honest with yourself, how can you be honest with other people? It all starts with you and how you portray you. You can’t get away with anything you lie about. Sometimes it happens where people don’t ever find out, but somehow they can.

Always be honest, even if it means standing alone. You may also lose friends too when you are honest, and that is an indication that they weren’t your true friends to begin with. I believe in Karma, and karma bites back ever so strongly when you are not telling the truth, and when you hide something from friends and family, when you do something terrible to someone. It always bites back and more powerful. I am sure everyone in life has told a lie here or there, and I know nobody is perfect. Sometimes we lie to others to make others feel good, sometimes we fib, and make up white lies, but nothing beats honesty. If you are afraid of hurting someones feelings, don’t be. I would rather have an honest enemy telling me the truth to my face, then a fake friend who doesn’t speak up and who doesn’t tell me the truth and says terrible things behind my back. Sometimes the truth hurts and we must always be prepared for it. I would rather be hurt, then be lied to. Being lied to is far more worse than anything else in this world.

When you are out on a date with someone you just met, it is always a good idea to tell the truth always, be honest about you and your life. The person you are on a date with, will appreciate it. We all have done things we are not proud of, we all have done mistakes in the past and telling your date the truth and being honest is something very good to do. Especially in the beginning and of course always. When you have something to say, say it, and don’t lie about it. It always comes out and people find out one way or another. You can never hide anything because lies always come out and once it does, it is like poison, it effects your relationships, it effects a lot of things. People will then spread it around and tell people, oh look at that liar, don’t be his/her friend, or don’t get near that person because they lie so much. You wouldn’t want that.

It is written in the Bible, and in the 10 commandments that lying is a sin and that is one of the biggest sins of the world. Standing up for whats right, taking the side that is right, and always being honest is the way to go in life. First you must be true to yourself, then you can go out in society and be truthful to others. I’d rather be honest, then impressive. Honesty is an expensive gift, do not expect it from cheap people with a cheap personality trait. You are responsible for whatever you say and do. You can run but you can never hide. Just be honest and everything else will come in place.

Dance Like No One Is Watching – De stress Your Life

In life some of us tend to lose sight of what is beneficial for us and our well-being and a lot of us are so busy with our daily routine, busy life schedules, balancing work, school, family, friends, activities, travel time, and balancing of just time for yourself. Some of us get distracted and get stressed out and think so much about things and don’t have the energy to do what you want to do sometimes, and life’s challenges get in the way with providing for your family and for yourself and it takes a lot to make ends meet for some and it is a crazy time in life where prices and cost of living is increasing year by year and it has become so difficult and were all going crazy with how to keep up, and among so many things in our lives. I know it’s a challenge and a big battle that a lot of people face on a daily basis.

Now, you are probably wondering why I chose such a title like Dance like No one is watching, This sentiment I am expressing is to always be happy and always be positive with great outlooks on life and I know it is easier said than done to put away life’s daily stresses that prevents us to be happy and positive because I know stress is the biggest culprit of everything in life and it shouldn’t be. Dancing, finding time and joy in your life is very important. No matter how terrible you think the way you dance, you are the one in your life and the way you portray your happiness is the way you feel to express yourself. You don’t owe anybody an explanation as to why your happy as to why you feel that certain way at that time frame. Always know that you are special and the way you dance, the way you express joy should really be about how you feel on the inside and that is something so incredible.

Some people say what if people laugh at me? What if people see how ridiculous I look when I dance and express joy? Just remember to never listen and to never watch them when you are dancing and having a great time. I know some of us are not good at dancing or anything, but it doesn’t matter how you dance, its how you feel its important. Never settle for anyone’s opinions and go for what you want to do. If it makes you happy go for it. De stress your life, be happy, do things that will put a smile on your face, be with others who make you smile and who put light into your life, spend time with yourself, take time to enjoy yourself, take time out of your busy life, and just unwind and take care of yourself. I know that is hard to do when you’re battling with Kids, School, Education, Life, Work, A Relationship, Marriage, Friendships, Activities and other things that mean the world to you, but always try to find time out of it all. I know it takes a balance for everything, but always know that you are who you are in the end and that smile on your face lights up the whole world. Keep smiling, keep on dancing like no one is watching, laugh like no one hears you, and you will see how your life will change.

It all starts with you on how you see your life and it is up to you. All the best to you and wishing you happiness, health, success and everything else.

It is Important to Stand For What Is Right, & Take The Side That is Right

In My life, I have always learned about doing the right thing, and stand for what is right in the world, whether it’s a personal issue, being in society, in my community or whatever the case maybe. Before I jump in any opportunity or situation, I always think twice. Is it right? Is it not right? In the end the decision is in my court, but I always try to see things to be right. In a lot of cases, when people ask me for advice, and when people come to me to ask me is this the right way to do something? or is it right to be around people like this or that? 99.9% of the time, people come back to me and tell me, Talin you are so right about it, or Talin thank you for your advice, it worked really well. The other .01% that I did leave out was due to the other persons actions and words that I gave advice to. will that person listen and carry out the advice I gave him or her? It is always a wonder, but usually I get feedback all the time.

I strongly believe in standing for what is right, even if it means standing alone. I really like this quote a lot. You will know instantly. It is your gut instinct. If your gut instinct tells you to do it, do it, but if it is wrong, you always have to think with your mind before you can even think about something with your heart. These days the mind comes before the heart. When people think with their heart, sometimes it comes out to be the total opposite of what they were imagining a situation to be whether its something to do with a relationship, or anything else of that sort. I truly believe that when people think with their minds, the outcome is always better. The society has become such a thing that you have to be very careful of who you trust and you have to over-analyze and observe people before jumping into a friendship, relationship and companionship. It is very important not to jump into those ships too quickly because in the end it can make you or break you. I cannot stress how important it is to protect yourself at all times. Your emotional, mental and physical safety is very important. Yes although thinking with your heart is really an awesome thing to do, but these days you must think with your mind. I cannot put it any clearer than that. You have to make wise decisions about any situation you are in.

If people do not understand why you always want to do the right thing and when people leave you standing alone, it means that those people who leave you standing alone aren’t who they say they are, and they are not the true people you once thought you can trust and be around with. When you do something right and stand by the right side of things and when people stay with you, they are definitely keepers and then you will know exactly who is true and who is not. I know sometimes doing the right thing can be a wrong approach, but you did what you had to do, but always remember there are two sides to every story, but you have to be the one to judge if it is wrong or right. Keep an open mind, but close your heart unless it’s for the right person, people. Keep analyzing, keep on observing, keep on questioning. There is nothing wrong with that. Just protect yourself and life will go right.

It’s Not The Years Of Your Life, It’s The Life Of Your Years

In life, there are things that some people take for granted and some are so concentrated on age and numbers rather than the quality versus the quantity of life that someone chooses to live. We all come from all walks of life, were all going through different journeys, we all go through problems in life, we come from different backgrounds, cultures, and races, some of us are tall, short, skinny, overweight, average, some have blonde hair, some of black hair, some have brown hair, but those are all what we have in our lives. Age is nothing but a number, years are nothing but a number, all I am saying is that it is the way you live your life in between those numbers which matter most.

Some people don’t even get a chance at life because it got cut short, some people die when they are born and some people don’t get lucky enough to experience life and it is unfortunate. God rest their souls and rest in peace to those who lost loved ones at any age. My thoughts and prayers are with you all who’ve lost people. It is so important to live life with quality. Because remember some don’t get the chance. It is crazy how the cycle of life works.

Live life to the fullest extent, be happy, be positive, make great and happy changes in your life, don’t dwell on the past, just keep going into the future, because when you look into the past so much, there really is nothing new to see, it will always going in circles, and you won’t see anything that changes. So the change is now in the present, do something that will benefit you, and we can all make positive and great differences in the world. We need to be able to learn to trust ourselves, to attempt it, and to act on it. it is easier said, than done right? Well, we shouldn’t think that way. We should always try to do our best, and even if you fail, there is always room for improvement, there is always the chance to try again. Never say you cannot do it, because you can do it. Just look beyond uncertainties and look at what is possible in life because everything is possible. You just have to have confidence in yourself, and go with the flow.

Never sell yourself short, and always be who you are, enjoy your life, and I know we all make mistakes, sometimes its beyond our control, but always know how special and how great you truly are to the world, and all of us can shine, but sometimes some people are pre-occupied with the quantity of life instead of the quality, and time and time again I hear people say, when I retire I will do this, or when I turn this age I will do this, and some people don’t want to reveal their age, some people are shy of telling their age to people, and they say, you should never ask a person how old they are and some concentrate solely on all that, and it’s not very good at all. Age is nothing but a number. It is how you feel on the inside that matters, it is how you feel everyday that you wake up. Don’t ever feel the need that you have to hide your age to people. Be happy and enjoy and don’t get caught up in numbers, get caught up with life and live it.

Life is great, enjoy, laugh, love, live, and experience it, because remember some don’t. Believe in yourself, and you will see what difference it makes. All the best to you.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It The Most

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that you’re trying to be the hero, you’re trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but you’re not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people who ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? It’s always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try to do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. It’s not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. It’s very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try to see for yourself.

Just Because You Have A Bad Day, Doesn’t Mean Your Life Is.

I recently saw a really interesting picture quote saying “Just Because You have a bad day, doesn’t mean you have a bad life”. I really like that quote so much. Life will always have its ups and downs and we cannot control that. Life will bring happiness, disappointments, frustrations, confusions, misunderstanding, jealousy, fortune, fortunate situations, unfortunate situations, different feelings, emotions, bad days, good days, you name it. I think it is very important to realize that just because you have a bad day, don’t go around saying you have a bad life and your life is not going to get any better, bad things always happen to me, the wrong people always come around me, I am always stuck in a middle of a bad situation, My life is gone to the drain. These things should not be even said. Life is here for a purpose, you are here for a reason on this earth. You were not put on earth for no reason. God chose you.

Life is an incredible and wonderful thing. Life is beautiful only if you make it beautiful. Never ever under-estimate your life. Life is a great thing. Believe in me when I say this, just because something is not happening for you right now, it does not mean it ever will. You have to be patient. There is a right time for everything and there is a time for everything in life in balancing work, school, family, friends, community outreach programs, outings, parties, vacations, house work, cooking, and much more. Never say you have a terrible life. It is all in your mind. It is mind over matter and matter over mind. Never look at life as a glass half empty. Always look at it half full.

Tumblr is such a great tool and it helps me so much to find clever and incredible quote pictures and sayings. This one really hit me hard and I had to address this situation as I have heard people around me many times saying they have a bad life, and that Life really sucks and everything. Life does not suck. It is all just an illusion in your mind for you to think that way. Never think that way because when you think in a certain way about something it will always mean it that way to you. Do not think so much about it. Life is a great gift. We go to sleep, we wake up and were alive is all that matters. Life is a precious thing. It is all in the way you look at it. Never ever sell yourself short on anything and especially about what you think of what your life is. Where is that positive vibe? Use positivity everyday in your life and use that energy. It will take you places in life. If your too negative and always telling people about how bad your life is, it will not get you far.

Just wake up every morning and keep smiling and be happy your alive and kicking. Life is about waking up in the morning being amazing and positive during the day and going back to bed. Remember some people do not get another day. everyday is a second chance. Keep up your chin, keep your head up high, aim high, stand tall and keep on going!

Spring Is Almost Here! Excited For That. Are You?

After the many months of winter, this is the moment I always wait for, I really like this time of year when it becomes Mid March, I really enjoy it when our weather gets warmer, and when the winter is behind us in a way and almost time when the trees start growing its leaves again, when the grass gets greener, the roads are washing away from the salt and snow, when everywhere gets thawed out, mild temperatures start and increase by day, when the flowers start to grow again, colour and life comes back after the cold, dark, wintry days, the tulip and other spring  flowers blooming, the spring air and smell of mud, dandelions start to grow, the smell of top soil, garden centers open, outdoor furniture, barbecues, outdoor equipment starts coming back into the stores, spring colours, clothing and bright vibrant colours come back on our store shelves,  the sunlight shines, birds start chirping, animals come out of hibernation, the geese fly back north. I just love this time of year when life comes back. I am so tired of winter, snow and having to bundle up every time I go out. I’d love to go somewhere for 5-6 months of the year and not see snow and be part of the cold freezing weather and not wear layers outside.

I also like spring because it gives me a time to wash the cars and I love washing my car, washing the car mats, detailing and getting rid of the winters salt and sand they put on the streets, and taking care of it. I also like to wash out my driveway and clean up my garage, having to put the shovels away, and just enjoying the whole process of getting rid of winter. It is my favourite.  I am a person who loves vibrant colours, who loves warmer weather, the beautiful sun shining, and among when the days get longer. I really didn’t enjoy when the days get shorter and it would be dark before 5pm. I really enjoy it when time and daylight time increases. In June and July it is still sunlight after  8:30 and you would still see a bit of light after 9pm too. those are the days I love, plus you don’t feel that the night is dragging on so long and plus it gets brighter earlier in the morning and its so refreshing and you start your day earlier and you appreciate the daylight and days. I also like getting rid of the boots and jackets I wear and pack them up for 5-6 months of the year.

I really enjoy sitting on the patio, I like driving with my windows down, listening to vibrant music, going camping, and I enjoy leisure time away too.

What season do you like? Do you also enjoy spring and summer months? What do you mostly enjoy when the weather starts getting warmer? What activities do you like doing outdoors? Would love to hear form you. Happy Spring!