Tag Archive | Comfort

Make It a Happy World – Start With Yourself

In order to make a positive, happy, and optimistic difference in the world, you first must have to make a difference within yourself to be more happy, optimistic and positive, because if you lead a negative, pessimistic, unhappy life, that is all that you will spread to the world and that will not help anybody, and it will especially not be good for you. Instead of moving forward, you will always go back. Don’t go back, you are not headed that way anyway right?

- Take time just to spend time with yourself, think of all the great qualities you have and utilize them to the world.
– On a sheet of paper, write down 10 good things about yourself and what you can do to make this world a better place, and put that somewhere visible in your home, on your Fridge door, in your room, in the room you are mostly, wherever you want. Then use those 10 good things, get out in the world and do it, once you do it, you will see the world-changing to a better place for us all.
– You have the power to make life better for you, you just need to live a little, live life to the fullest, and when you least expect it, something good will always come in front of you.
– life has unexpected twists and turns, sometimes it can be unfortunate, but in order to rise above it all, refer to the 10 things you write about yourself and go from there. You will see life in an all new light. Because things go bad for you some days, that does not mean that everyday will be bad for you. Get up, dust yourself off, and get going.
– As you go down that road of life, stop and admire its beauty, smell the beautiful flowers that blossom your life, appreciate, be thankful, show gratitude, smile, keep your head up high, be honest with others and yourself.

Be yourself always, and never ever be someone you are not. Besides everybody else is taken, so take yourself, be who you are. You are enough. Make the World happy, but start with yourself.

Being Negative on Social Media All the Time – Not a Good Idea

In the last decade or so, since I have been involved social media websites, began to view Peoples profiles, news feeds, status messages, quotes and everything these particular people post about life, about struggles, always something negative because that is all they associate themselves with, instead of making things better for them. Now, let me tell you why it is not a good idea to post negativity all the time on social media websites:

Reason being is that everybody even if you think can’t see it, they can, and it does not make you look good in other peoples eyes when you constantly update statuses and post photo quotes on very negative things. It begins to be too much and people will then start thinking, this person is seeking attention, always wants people to comment, retaliate, saying things will get better, have faith, look forward in future and everything, and it also makes that person look like their life is totally bad, that nothing good is ever coming to that person. Well, life is what you make it, and if you keep going in circles always looking for negativity, and no positive outcomes, then that is all it is going to be.

I know it is not in my business, it’s easier said than done in some case, or my place to criticize, and to bring this topic up because I may not know what is going on personally in people’s personal lives with situations like this that arise, but life is not entirely bad as people think it is. When you start thinking positively, with good thoughts, being optimistic, looking forward, smiling, and doing good things to benefit others and yourself, you will see that life is beautiful, you will then discover a whole new world of being happy with yourself and whom you are.

There comes a point in life where you need put your foot down, and say enough is enough. I cannot be depressed all my life, I cannot be unhappy, miserable and then because I am miserable, unhappy, depressed and negative, that I have to make everybody else around my circle the same way. You have to make your life and the way you want your life to be. You cannot do this to yourself. It is not good. Especially always seeking attention on social media websites. It does not lead a good impression on yourself and that is not good.

Some people will never learn and change their ways unfortunately, and I know people like that and it saddens me. In order to change your outlook on life to a more positive, optimistic approach, you gotta do everything and anything to create your own happiness, to create your own smiles to stand up on your own two feet and put your foot down and say, “Hey, why am I doing this?” You cannot blame anybody else. Your attitude on life is the biggest thing. Change your attitude and life will change. I guarantee you.

Ok once, twice, three times you post something and you need help with getting advice and everything on what to do with a certain situation is fine, but if you keep on posting the same things all the time, day in and day out about a certain subject especially on relationships, friendships and everything, people will then think, this person has not learned anything we tell them, this person just keeps going in circles with just hearing and reading our advice, but in goes one ear and out the other. Don’t waste your time writing the same negativity day in and day out and don’t waste other people’s time for them spending their time to write to you.

People do care, and want the best for you, that is why they write to you in the first place, and that is why they want you to do better, be happy and steer to the right direction. It will one day come to a point where those people will stop writing to you because you do not seem to understand anything. If you post something on social media websites, it is there for people to see, and people will retaliate, people will respond or choose not to, but they will see it. Don’t drive someone to a point where they no longer will give a care. Think long and hard before you post another status message or post something that is negative.

Empower people by posting happy thoughts, and goodness. Once you start looking for positivity, optimism and happiness, you will see how life will change, but it is totally up to you! Make the good impression on yourself. best wishes!

Life is Too Short — Keep Smiling and Be Happy

In life no matter what it throws at us, and the obstacles along the way, never ever lose hope and faith in anything. God is always there with you every step of the way and you may not realize it, but he is and among everything else. Nothing is impossible in life, because (I’m Possible) – Be positive, happy, keep smiling, let go of negativity, let go of the past and keep going forward. You will run into bad days, you will run into unfortunate things, things will not always be perfect in life, but You are not going to go back to yesterday, so look forward to the present, now, tonight, tomorrow, and future.

If you keep leading a negative, unhappy, depressed life, that is all that it is going to be for you. You will keep going around in circles with nothing new in life to look forward to. Don’t do this to yourself, and don’t spread that negativity and unhappiness to others and make everybody else miserable around you, just because you are miserable. Snap out of that. You are only doing this to yourself. Life goes on, everyday is a new day. I know it is easier said than done, but you have to. It is the only way to move forward. I know that everyone has their own personal issues to deal with, but above all that, the ball is in your court to make life better. Do not depend on anybody else for your own happiness. In the end we are all individuals, we are all one person. If we do not make the effort, and go for our own joy, happiness, positivity and optimism in life, things will always be the same, and that is why we become miserable.

Be kind, love each other, respect each other, be nice and help each other, give your hand to someone in need. This is the only way this world will go into the right direction.

Keep smiling, be joyful and look toward a bright future. It is up to you. Best wishes

Words of Wisdom to get through Challenges of Trust & Friendship

We go through life trying to seek friends that are suitable for each and every personality trait and always want to feel the sense of belonging in the world, Some if not all of us want that in our lives, but the most important thing is to Find those whom you can be yourself with, and whom you can freely express yourself, where you can be comfortable. Once you feel and can do that, you know you have found the right people to be with. Remember it is not about the quantity of friends you have, it is the quality and the right people. Instead of having 100 pennies, keep the 4 quarters instead. Choose your circle wisely, make the right choices and never be afraid to address something that is going wrong, and work hard to fix problems and not to take the easy way out. There will be disagreements, but those problems and disagreements will be the true test to see someones true colours, to see if they will work hard to fix it or that will be the Que to walk away from something great. Sometimes people do not want to work things out, no matter what it is, so they take the easy shortcut and not give things a chance. When you keep doing that you will not get anywhere in life with anybody. So fix a problem before it gets bigger, and tell somebody like it is and do not be afraid to express yourself.

Be careful who you trust, think before you trust, analyze before you trust. The most important person to trust is yourself, the decisions you make, and the people you make them with. The ball is in your court to decide on what you want to do in your life, however you can make you decisions, but listening from those who have had experience in life, getting tips and advice does not hurt at all. It will actually help you and guide you to the right path in life. You may think you know best on how to run your life and who to spend your time with, but always remember people do care and want the best for you too. It is up to you, but listening, taking people’s words and utilizing them for your life won’t hurt either especially when they are family and very close friends. Best wishes and do and feel what is right.

Fashion Comfort VS Fashion Pain

In my life as I was growing up, I was always paying attention to fashion, always asking my mom when I was a kid, Mom I only want this kind of clothing and shoes, and I used to be a big brand name supporter, but my mom always taught me sweetie, its better to be comfortable and wear good clothing, not to try to grow up so fast, but in the last few years its been all about comfort for me rather than having fashion pains. I know that there is nothing greater like quality of the clothing, shoes I wear, but I am not one of those people anymore to be running around and finding brand names because In the end it is my comfort that is important to me. I have learned that when I was entering into my 20’s. So in the last 8 years or so its been all about comfort more than anything else.

I see some teenaged girls, and women wearing ever so high heels, and a lot of them cannot even walk in high heels and yet they still wear it because they think its cool and it makes them look good in it, to show off to friends and others who look at them and I know some of them are in pain wearing them and they still wear it like nothing is happening to them, but they do not know in the long run and in future that it can do damage to the vertebrae, back and legs. I do not know how some people can stay in heels and stand in them, dance in them and they say the love to wear heels. To me I wear very little or no heels at all. I love flats and just a small bit of a heel, but I just cannot handle high heels. The other day I was trying on shoes at a random store, and I said let me try on these big heels for a minute, lets see what the hype about it is, It took me merely 20 seconds and I already started to feel pain. I said how in the heck can people wear these for hours? So painful. I took them off and I felt so relieved. I am in for comfort and that is what should matter.

Even with the clothes and stuff. I don’t care if I buy them from big box stores, or an unknown clothing store or anything if it feels good, and the material is good, then I will buy it, but It doesn’t have to be big brand names. In the end fashion isn’t about impressing others, you shouldn’t have to impress others by proving a point or anything. It is how comfortable you see yourself with wearing whatever you want to wear and it is something that you should feel good about too. People in this world do not even have clothes and shoes to wear. We should be fortunate that we do have what we have and not complain about about not having brand name clothing, and shoes and spending thousands of dollars on clothing that is so ridiculous.

For me Comfort beats Fashion pain, and when I get older I am going to be in pain and people wonder why they are in so much pain when they get older on their legs, feet, back is because when were young we do not realize what we do when were young will affect us later on in life and its happened where I know someone who wore heels a lot and then as she got older, back problems started and leg problems. Now shes going to physiotherapy for the last 2 years. She now cannot stand heels and I do not blame her.

These fashion companies make you want to get more, and want you to always stay in the latest fashions, remember they are there to make money on you and it doesn’t matter how they do it, they do it and they always find a way to persuade the public eye, about certain things, but me I never follow the fashion trends. I do not have to buy everything that comes out, I do not have to go spend so much money where I can spend the money on more important things then having to always stay in the fashion world. No need to flaunt and impress others. Remember comfort, comfort, comfort.

You should not worry about what other people think about what kind of clothes you wear or anything. The important thing is how you see yourself, and how you feel. Yes dressing in a terrible way is not good like ripped jeans, way too baggy pants, and looking like a slob, okay that there no one should wear those when they are out, but other than that its what you feel. Comfort is key and remember your future. Save yourself from pain in the long run and be comfortable. So Fashion comfort conquers and wins!

How Dependent We Have Become Of The Internet

Just under 12 hours ago, I realized that It is crazy how dependent we are when it comes to the internet and how hooked people are. Last night Southern and Eastern Ontario, Canada Rogers Communications customers were ousted from an internet power outage that left people going haywire because the internet wasn’t working for a few hours, and a lot of people were angry, yelling, swearing and cursing, well, it depends on what you were doing online at that moment, but ladies and gentlemen, we shouldn’t dedicate our lives to the internet, there is a life out there waiting to be lived and we shouldn’t be so hooked into it, but nowadays technology has surpassed normal face to face communications, and the true essence of being together. That is the unfortunate part. Nothing beats face to face communication and togetherness. Unless your friends and family are hundreds or thousands of miles away and you want to Skype with them and talk to them and keep in touch.

Don’t let the internet take over your life. We bloggers, we social media guru’s, Web designers and all the people who are dependent on the internet, should balance life because being on the internet all day and being on the computer all day is not a great thing. Limit yourself, balance life, time management is key. A lot of people say they do not have the time of day and they say they don’t spend hours and hours online, but then again you see them online. It is a very sad situation we live in. Normal communication is at an all time low because were all in front of TV/computer/laptop/smartphones/tablets/ipad¬† screens and I have noticed people have speech impairment now, and do not really know what to talk to people about in person, but have an easier chance to talk to someone and come up with topics to talk about while on the internet and that makes it easy to communicate without even looking at each other. It shouldn’t be like that. People should be comfortable talking to each other face to face.

Last night was incredibly insane with all the twitter, facebook, and other social media messages read, with people going crazy because the internet is not available for a few hours. The internet power outage is a sign for people to live life, it is a sad situation and this may be a joke to some people, but it is not a joke. This is a very serious situation were all in. The internet is like a drug addiction and some people really need to butt out. As the years go by, technology has advanced so much that people do not know what to do anymore, and people are always out buying the latest gadgets and everything. I too spend time on the internet and everything, but I know my limits, and I prioritize everything in my life.¬† I am not saying all of us don’t prioritize, I am not saying that everyone does this. I am saying in general and I am saying to those who do. The internet is such a powerful tool for communications, research, homework, work, assignments, and the biggest information hub of the world and encyclopedia’s and books are not being sold as much. You know how great it felt when I actually opened up my diaries and looked at photos in a normal album? You know how good it was for me to open up things from my past in the boxes I have saved my precious and valuables? Its something that was a great feeling.

All I am saying is that don’t make the internet your life, and don’t be so dependent on it. That is what these carriers and communications networks wants us to do, but in the end your the one who makes the decision, but in my opinion in a unsolicited point of view, it is very important to live life outside the internet, and limit. I am not saying don’t go on the internet when you want to, but just know your limit and be within it.

Blogging Is Something Therapeutic For Me – You Don’t Need To Be An Expert Writer

In this life now, social media, blogging and tweeting are on the rise. A lot of us out there blog, tweet, and are on so many social media websites, and I find blogging to be therapeutic for me. I feel like this is one of the only ways I get to express myself, my feelings and the way I see things in the world. I know and admit that I am not an expert in writing, and I know that I need to fix where punctuation goes and stuff, but I am working on it, but to have a blog, you don’t need to be an expert writer. A blog is a place where people of course express how they feel about a situation, having to share with the world what happens, sharing opinions, suggestions, advice, and among so many things. I feel the need to express myself in my blogs and the only way I know how to sometimes. I like knowing that I blog everyday about everything. I like writing about so many topics, recipes, current events, social, social media, social networking, and among so many things. I am not perfect and I do make mistakes, I’ve done things I haven’t been proud of, but I am sure a lot of us have been through that road and that path at one point or another. I find blogging to be a whole new interface of expressing opinions and ones feelings and I feel great doing it. I just wish everyone understood my point of view. I feel proud of my accomplishments with blogging, I feel good about achieving my goals to strive to make this world a better place, with more happier people and for people to smile, have this incredible positivity and to get people to feel great about themselves. It is very important to me and I mean it from the bottom of my heart. I want the best for everyone. Blogging is something that is very important to me in my life. It is something I feel that I am great at doing.

A Social networking guru and a person who is a social media expert once said to me at a Seminar I attended about Social media, is that everyone should have a blog. It doesn’t matter what it is about, it is very nice to have a blog and to write. He said you do not have to be an expert and professional at writing. It is something that each and everyone of us should do. He said you could write everyday, once a week or couple of times a week, but he said have a blog, and make it whatever you want it to be and go with it. I feel the same way. I will never forget the way I felt when I first started to blog. It was pretty nerve wracking at first and I was pretty nervous to start one because I would be sharing myself with the world, and I do admit I was scared at first, but then after my first week, it wasn’t so bad, and I kept writing and writing. It was something I couldn’t stop and I actually enjoyed my writing, I actually enjoyed interacting with so many people on the internet and sharing point of views. I remember how nervous I was, but then now I am not anymore. It is such a beautiful thing. Even though I am not a perfect writer, but I feel like I get my points across the way I see fit and the way I want to portray my blog and myself. I feel great blogging. I never like to keep things bottled up inside and when I blog it is a totally new twist among everything. I have worked so hard and come this far. Some people ask how I do it everyday and how I commit to blogging everyday with daily life, I answer it simply by saying it is therapeutic for me and I look at it like Its my life and a big part of my life. I have received a lot of opportunities doing this and it feels great. A lot of professors, doctors, priests, and so many other people have come to my blog.

Blogging is an interesting world. When people search for keywords a blog shows up automatically on search engine websites. It depends on how you want to be searched and it depends on how comfortable you are sharing your blog with the world. I mean why not? Its an amazing world and I enjoy blogging. I love it.

What about you? What does blogging mean for you? What has it done for you? How does it impact your life? Would love to hear from you.

All the best in everything.

What I Did To Move on From People Who Bullied Me. How I Overcame It.

When I was a Child going to school, I wasn’t so lucky with a normal social life where people bullied me, and made fun of me terribly much day in and day out and I do not even want to mention the things I was called because I was different, looked different and because I was being myself no matter what others say, but as time went by and as I went to do other things in my life after my school life, I overcame and moved on from that phase of my life. I realized, that this bullying was a temporary part of my life and I know that things will get better, and it has quite substantially and I am so glad that part of my life is over and how I overcame bullies and all those terrible feelings is something that was a miracle. Something triggered into my mind that I decided to put a barrier against my bullies and I moved forward with my life. I now don’t see any of them anymore and that I am so happy about. Anyway, Here are ways I overcame bullying and what I did for myself to move on and get going to a better life without the bullies, and they are the following:

– I spoke to my parents, other family members, teachers, the principal, the guidance Councillor.

– I decided not to let negativity overpower my life anymore and I decided to pull the plug on negativity and think positively,

– I believed in myself, and I knew it was a temporary time where I was going through a phase and I knew things got better.

– I joined in my church community, and they took well care of me and I made a lot of friends there.

– After all those years went by, I did volunteer work at Daily bread food bank(Boxing Food for the Needy), Children’s Aid(Wrapping Christmas Toys For Kids In Need), Saturday and Sunday School (For The Children), Joined Family Support Services, Habitat For Humanity(Helping build, paint homes for the needy), and joining committees around my church.

– We set up a party to do fundraising for Children’s Aid around Christmas time.

– Every Friday nights now, I have met an incredible group of people throughout the church and we all got together and now we go out to different places and we have great times, and create memories, and travel with each other.

– I met great people whom I can call my best friends, and I never gave up on finding people, I always made the conscious effort to never lose my way and to move forward in life.

– I knew things would get better for me, and I knew how to move on with life after being bullied.

– I always asked for help and I got the help and I am eternally grateful to all those who have helped me win these battles.

– I never gave up and I overcame the worst days of my life and I replaced it with the best days of my life which is happening in the present times of my life.

This is how I overcame my bullies, and now I am happy, positive, and I feel great, and better than before. It will happen to you too whoever is being bullied right now unfortunately. My thoughts and prayers are with you all, and I am behind you and I am by your side, I am here to listen, to give advice, and to show you the way to a new life without these bullies, that has made us so vulnerable in our lives. You have no idea how special you are in your own way, and how important you are to your family, you have a lot of people who care about you, and you do have a place in this earth and you have come here for a reason, you were born a winner and you will overcome it, like I did. Never give up on anything, and always know that you do serve a purpose on this earth. Smile, be happy, and always know that you always have people to confide into. You may not know it or feel it, but someone is always there for you.

I love you, and I want the best for all.