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Why Do Good Soft Hearted People Always Get Knocked Down?

Recently, in life there have been some unpleasant things going on in general that I am not liking whatsoever. For example, when you are so great with what you do, and who you are as a person in your job like, and when so many people who are fans and supporters of that actor/actress on a TV show or Soap Opera, people high up always tend to ruin a good thing and they do not even realize that many fans and supporters hearts will be broken from a good hearted and soft hearted person getting let go from the excellent work that they do. It really is terrible knowing that you are just a number and can be replaced like your nothing when your time is up or not. They need to realize that, messing with fans emotions and feelings and taking fans for a ride is not a laughing and joking matter. It is quite serious and that is losing and betraying the trust of all of us who are/were supporters. These people controlling and making decisions seem like they do not even care. Its very sad and disgusting.

Its like ordinary people in daily general life. In the world people take advantage of you, and do not even care about you and your feelings and the outcome of it all, because they know that they can keep asking you, and counting on you to do things and you never say no and they know that they can get anything from that person, they know they can run and walk all over you because they know how to get things done, and they do not care who gets hurt from it all.

Its something that I cannot make sense of at all and I just need to ask why Good and Soft-Hearted people are often the ones who get knocked down, get mistreated and shafted when not needed anymore? It is so unfair, life is so unfair, especially to the good people, Easily being replaced or looking for another person to do the same thing to. I just cannot understand it at all, and I am trying to look for answers, that I cannot even look for.

In this life, sometimes being a soft-hearted, good hearted, person does not work in some cases. Learning to speak up,  being tough, putting your foot down, standing up for yourself and your rights and saying no once in a while does not  hurt, it just puts others to the ultimate test to see if they are real and good friends to you and to see if those people are walking all over you. Sometimes there are people who take others for a ride all if not most of the time and the Soft and Good hearted person does not see it and will do anything and everything for other people, but when it comes to that individual, and when you ask the same from others its always a struggle to get things in return. I know some do things all the time from people without asking anything in return, but its nice to be acknowledged once in a while and having others do nice things for you.

Some realize that what they are doing is wrong, and they still do it because they do not even have an ounce of decency in them and they do not care who they hurt in the process, unfortunately they always run to the good and soft people because they know that they can play with that persons heart, and emotions. It is sickening. I am just so frustrated because I have been there, I have been through so much with always saying yes, I have been naive, I have been blinded by being used, with people always putting me to the side when not needed anymore, and a lot of fake people are around and this society has become that. Fake people hurt others like crazy, and It puts a scar in your life, because no matter what you do, its like Damn if you do, Damn if you don’t. Now, from your perspective, what do you think of this? What do you do when this issue arises?

In the meantime, Do not worry, keep up being great, soft-hearted people in this world, they are great traits, keep it up, As for those fake people, and those who take others for a ride, someday, I hope that they will realize and sit down and think long and hard and say what I am doing is wrong, and I should stop it, apologize to people and make better choices in society with socializing with others. It will make the world a better, friendlier and nicer place. I hope that I will see that day.

Have you learned to be more tough in this life? How have you handled it? Would like to hear from you.

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in ones life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people that do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart its not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in one’s life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people who do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart it’s not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

Taking A Closer Look At Health & Changes In The Body

***Raising awareness about an important health issue that I need to address to everyone***

In the last few Months since beginning of April, I have kept this hush-hush and haven’t shared this online or anything, but it is time that I did and it is something that I want to raise awareness about and make sure other women like me know about it and get checked out as a precaution, anyway, I developed a health scare and it was something that I needed to be looked after right away. Considering my age and everything, I know that age is not a factor when it comes to health scares because anybody can have something at any age unfortunately and its a crazy thing, but in April, I noticed something that was not right and I was very frightened about it and didn’t really tell my family or friends about it until after I found out about what it was.

I was getting dressed and going on about my day and all of a sudden I felt something strange in my left breast. It was a solid and firm lump which was a little big and I did a self breast examination, and then I was so alarmed and so I had a physical check up assessment done like I do annually, and I had asked the doctor to do an examination and to get him to check it out, so then he told me that It is not dangerous and it’s not cancer, He knew right away by the way it felt, but he sent me to have an ultrasound as a precaution, but he needed to do that anyway. He told me younger women get this type of lump, and it just happens without anything that I did or whatever it was. and so I had my ultrasound done, and it was ruled out to be between Fibroadenoma and Benign Phyllodes tumor, and so I went to get a core surgical biopsy done last month and it was ruled out that I had that, and it is not cancer which I am so relieved about. So on June 27th, 2013, I had my Day surgery of a lumpectomy which they removed the lump and some tissue around it so that it won’t come back. Hopefully. So basically just been dealing with that and other things and I thank God everyday that it was not worse and I am so grateful that I caught it early and had it removed right away. I went to see another doctor that did my surgery and she said that it just happens to a lot of younger women and around your age. She said I have had a lot of cases like this, but she said you made a great decision by removing it.  I have been blessed with the gift of Good health and my blogging and social media marketing career path is going well and underway to success in the future and I am looking forward to it all.

Just now, I am feeling a little discomfort from the surgery and everything but that is normal and I just had to express my feelings about what I had and to tell other women and girls about this. Men can get it too although very rare.

I was supposed to have the surgery 2 days before my cousin’s wedding, and I postponed it for another week or so until I came back or else I would have missed her wedding and I would not have been a happy camper, but I am glad the surgery is over and done with. It was my first time under the knife and being put to sleep. What a feeling it was waking up with it all done, being put in a hospital bed and taken to the recovery room and not feeling a thing. I was in and out within a few hours. the Anesthetic is a crazy feeling. I felt so sleepy and drowsy for the rest of the day and about 48 hours or so until the anesthetic fully left my body. I never even had IV put on my hand before and I had never been hospitalized before. I was always asking questions each time the nurse did something. I was so scared, but then it wasn’t so bad afterwards.

That is one other reason why I haven’t been able to blog lately because I have also been in recovery which will take a little time for healing, but I want to spread the awareness on women to do self exams once a month, if you feel any changes in the breast, dimpling, it looking like an orange peel on the skin, redness, swelling of the armpits, nipple moving inward, it is a good idea to go to your doctor right away. It is so important to be test. It doesn’t matter if you have family history or not, you must go and check it out and do the self tests because it is so important. raising awareness is key and make sure that you are aware of your health, any body changes, anything you feel, do not ignore it and prolong it. It can save you in the long run.

I am so glad I made the right choice. I was so nervous, and just having anxiety with all this and it worried me so much that I could not sleep at nights, but I am glad the worst is over and I am glad that it wasn’t what I thought it was. Wishing everyone good health and happiness. It is what matters in this world. Thank you.

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in one’s life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people who do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart it’s not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in one’s life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people who do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart it’s not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

Those Who Gossip To You, Will Probably Be Doing The Same About You Too! Be Careful

There have been numerous amounts of times where people would gossip to you about someone or some people and in a terrible way and they like to spread rumours and make up things that are not true about that person and make assumptions. Have you been in a situation where someone would gossip everything about other people? I am sure most of us have. Have you heard that behind your back that person who gossiped to you, did the same about you too to others? It is terrible. I wish some people would stop doing that about other people. It is not nice to gossip and talk poorly about someone behind their backs. If you do not hear it from the source, it’s not a good idea to create and make up stories when it is not even true. Some people spend so much time making a federal case about other people, that they don’t care if it hurts them. Trash talking about that person behind their back and then being sweet, and nice with them in their face is not a very nice thing to do.

Backstabbers and Fake people who give face to you and who are nice to you and then all of a sudden you hear that, the person whom you thought you can trust has spread terrible lies about you and does everything in their power to destroy your good name. I find that to be such a terrible thing to go through. I have had that happen to me numerous amount of times. What goes around comes around. When a rumour, or some sort of stupidity gets spread around, it will always come back to the person who these terrible things have been said about. A lot of people do not know how terrible this is and it is not fair to that person. This plays a role in jealousy and jealousy can do so many things. Gossiping is a terrible thing to do no matter what. Sometimes people need to mind their own business and look in the mirror before they judge other people or talk about them. In Today’s world trusting people, confiding in people, telling someone something very personal is something that not a lot of people can do anymore, because when you request and ask someone to keep it a secret and they don’t and spread it around, it is not a good thing.

Some people spread and talk for the sake of talking about anything about others just to satisfy their jealousy urges. This situation can make you or break you. As soon as you make new friends, don’t assume that they are trustworthy, test out your friends, don’t talk about personal issues, don’t talk too much about your life, but talk in general terms, and once you start to get to know them and you build your trust, then just maybe you can tell them, but then again you cannot be to careful with the information you transmit to them. Keep very personal things within the family, and do not transmit every bit of information to your friends. Someone who is true to you will always keep your secrets, someone who is true to you will never gossip, spread lies and do terrible things because when you’re a true friend to someone its expected that you are honest and forthright about situations and when things happen you tell your friends on the spot. Don’t be afraid if you disagree on a few things, it helps build your friendship stronger and you work it out.

the bottom line is to never gossip, spread rumours and make up stories about others. It’s not nice at all. I am sure that if the roles were reversed, it wouldn’t be a nice feeling. Nowadays, I am not too trusting and I don’t give in easily. I always think with my mind and then with my heart. This day in age the Heart can be fooled easily on the people to hang out with and its a soft spot where people become blinded, naive and soft, but nowadays you have to stand tough, you have to say no once in a while, you have to think twice and three times before jumping into friendships and relationships. It is important to keep those things in mind. Not everyone you meet will be your friend, chances are some friends can say the most terrible things about you behind your back…. WELL, So called friends, fake friends. you do not need them in your life.

Move forward and find people who actually care about you and who actually want the best for you.Not those who spread rumours and gossip. Stay far away from them as possible. I am saying all this from experience of others doing that to me, and it is not pleasant. I am just watching out for all of you because I care so much about all of you. All the best to you.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It The Most

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that you’re trying to be the hero, you’re trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but you’re not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people who ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? It’s always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try to do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. It’s not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. It’s very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try to see for yourself.

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in ones life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people that do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart its not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.

Some People Come In Your Life As A Blessing, Some Come As Lessons

Due to popular demand, I am posting this again….

There are so many things that are important in life to know and understand all types of people, knowing how to read people, knowing how to differentiate between being with the wrong people and the right people. It is super important to surround yourself always with different types of people and get to know their mind set and to know their personality, traits, attitudes, actions, their trail of thought about things. Its so imperative to know this. Some people come into your life as blessings because they are the right type of people to be with who are true to you, who would never lie to you, who would never betray you and your trust, someone who will always be your backbone, someone who will be part of your life and stay their with no strings attached. Some people come into your life as lessons. Sometimes friendships, relationships, do not pan out to be the way you would have expected to, and that is a learning experience on seeing people’s true colors to come out and see how a personality, attitude and character come into place with time. With time you will get to know people, and some people have the gift to read people instantly and know what they are all about with certain keywords, eye, facial movements, and body language.

Physical movements and the eyes tell a lot about a person and some have the ability to look at people in the eye and see things others cannot see. We all need to be educated on how to read people and how to be good judges of character. It will help you in the long run in future friendships, relationships, and everything else. It is very important to be careful who your trust and give your whole heart, mind and soul to. We can easily be fooled by people who have the ability to say things that we want to hear and try to convince us and persuade us to change our minds and mindsets, but that is something that is very tricky. Learning valuable lessons in life is important. It helps us grow, it helps us prepare ourselves for endless possibilities, and new things in life we have yet to experience. There are all types of people in this world, there are so many personality traits, so many things that are into the factor. The more were educated, the more were capable of handling people, handling vulnerable stages in ones life. We need to learn to not trust easily and we need to learn to not give in 100% unless your 100% certain and sure about what you do in life. Sometimes life can throw hard balls, but we need to be strong and we need to close a chapter in our life and start another.

Life is too short. Things happen for a reason, everything in life that happens are for a valid reason, people come in and out of your life and that is another reason. Were all on our own separate journey’s in life and most importantly who we take with us on that journey and who we associate with. Be happy, positive, confident, optimistic in life. If things are rocky, unstable and miserable for you now, always remember that everything works out in the end. God is always there to protect us and to watch over us. Learning valuable lessons in life and acting on it is something that will benefit you in future. Although sometimes people do not think it will, when you least expect it, something great will come out of everything with patience, perseverance, and determination. When we expect it, and when we keep doing that, it sometimes will take longer and it will not be the result you were looking for. don’t have too many expectations, don’t jinx yourself, don’t over exert yourself with things. Let the right people come naturally. Eventually God will place you with the right crowd, and things will make sense.

I know that sometimes things do not make sense at all with how life is and how people are altogether, we need to focus on the blessings in our lives and then deal with our lessons. Make the impossible, possible, with no regrets, no turning back and just do what is best for you and do what you can to pursue your own happiness and your own dreams and wishes. It will come true. Where there is a will, there is a way for everything. Try it out, you will see the difference in no time. Do not worry, be happy and get on track with life.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It Most.

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that your trying to be the hero, your trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but your not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people that ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? Its always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try and do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. Its not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. Its very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try and see for yourself.

Montreal – It Is Not Goodbye – It’s See You Later – Must Part Ways For Now

There are somethings in life that one must give up to go forward in life and to achieve goals and get onto bigger things in life, and that is giving up my passion for Montreal, that I have written about in blog posts of before. Some of my friends could not believe when they saw that I was putting all that behind me. It is time to move forward and to prioritize my life, work hard to achieve my dreams, to look onto bigger and better things. I realize that Montreal will always be there and that I can go visit whenever I want to, but first thing is first to take charge of my life, get onto important things, get my career and life going. I have done a lot of thinking the last few weeks and I think it is the best decision I am making for myself. Being infatuated and in love with the whole road trip to Montreal and everything there was a distraction for me, and I decided to part ways as of today. I have been meaning to announce this for weeks now, but today I feel like it is the right time to do so. It was the hardest decision I had to make about Montreal not being my happy place anymore and doing things in my life for me from now on.

Getting my life together and doing what I want to do is the most important. My New Happy place is my future, and thinking about me and what I want in life, important things like having a job, meeting a special someone in my life who gives meaning to my life, whom I can call my best friend and someone whom I can share my life with, I want to work harder than I am now at my priorities. It was a hard decision to let go of something I truly love, but sometimes you have to set it free, which I am now. I know it is crazy to love a city this much, but its for the best for now. I will not entirely forget it because of the memories there and everything that has happened there with friends and everything else, but I need to do this for myself. I need to look after me and my future and no one else will look after me and my future but myself, nobody will knock on my door and offer me something great, no one will knock on my door and offer me money or a job. I need to knock on others doors and put my foot in the door if I want to help myself. That is how the world works. You have to go after what you want and how you want it. Reality has hit me hard the last few weeks. I am not getting any younger, I am getting older and responsibilities are piling up on me. Nothing in this life is free.

I believe that sometimes you have to sacrifice to succeed and to get to bigger and better things in life. I have learned that and I will utilize that with the best of my ability.

My friends in Montreal always mean a lot to me and I love them with all my heart. They are always with me in my heart, mind, soul and spirit. They are all lovely people whom I absolutely adore and care about. I am sure they understand that I cannot visit anytime soon because of things I am trying to accomplish in my life and things I am trying to achieve. Thank you for the memories, I will always cherish and love you all, and when it comes time for me to visit you all, we will have a rocking fun time and create new memories again, but for now Talin needs to take care of herself and her career, but she will be back.

 

People Need To Stop Torturing Themselves With Negativity

In the past week with a lot of negative posts to me by a couple of people who keep spamming my blog posts with terrible comments that are so negative, I thought I bring this topic up with why people torture themselves with negativity? I have taken out all that negativity in my life and I did not let it effect me, I stood up for myself and for my rights. It is a tough battlefield out there with negativity, and with cruel and insensitive people toward others. I am not letting those things bother me and torture myself with other peoples hate words. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel and I am happy with myself and who I am. People shouldn’t put themselves down, if you keep on being negative, and always saying I am not good enough for someone, somethings and I cannot do it, then your putting yourself up for disappointments in life and you take the easy way out saying you cannot. You need to stop torturing yourself day in and day out on hurting yourself.

In order to earn respect from others, you need to respect yourself. You must look in the mirror at yourself and love yourself and others will follow you. You cannot be loved if you don’t love yourself, you cannot be loved if you don’t let others love you and to respect you. You need to stop this madness of negativity. Life is great, and the way you look at it, you define your life with they way you are, and if you are negative all the time, you will always see rainy and cloudy days even when it is sunny. You are making matters worse when you torture yourself with all this negativity. When are you going to start thinking happy thoughts and becoming positive? When are you going to realize that life is awesome and beautiful and there are so many awesome things you can do with your life. You just don’t seem to allow yourself to get ahead and you don’t seem to get anywhere when your always depressed and negative. Everyday if you keep telling people your depressed, update your facebook status with sadness and hopeless statuses and always get people to comment to you, then what kind of message are you trying to send out to your friends and family? They will say, hey what is up with this person always torturing themselves with all these negative thoughts? You need to snap out of it, and leave the past where it belongs and move forward.

Because you have been through bad days in the past and things have happened that make you depressed, it doesn’t mean that you should use the past as your negativity in the present time. Life is full of ups and downs and things will happen, but don’t even torture yourself. It is the worst thing you can do. Look forward, move on, we make mistakes, but don’t let your mistakes define you, don’t let your mistakes and don’t let the past overpower who you are today. Be who you are, and if people don’t like it, who cares? Right? Right!

I don’t get why people want to hurt themselves and say bad things about ones self in front of other people. It is not good at all. keep strong, be strong, keep your head up high, don’t let past events torture your future. We all deserve second chances. There are so many different types of people in this world, so many attitudes, so many attributes, and personalities in the world. Traits should be developed that are good, and never let yourself down. Your attitude is what matters without a good one, you won’t get ahead. Trust me. If you keep on being pessimistic, nobody would want to hang out with people like that. Yes we all need people, yes we all need to be comforted, we all need people to listen to us and our problems, but everyone has problems and people should comfort each other and boost each other with confidence and happiness. Love yourself, respect yourself, and be who you are. Stop the torture.

I am saying this because I care about our humanity very much and I want nothing but the best for people.

One love! All the best

 

 

Those Who Gossip To You, Will Probably Be Doing The Same About You Too! Be Careful

There have been numerous amounts of times where people would gossip to you about someone or some people and in a terrible way and they like to spread rumours and make up things that are not true about that person and make assumptions. Have you been in a situation where someone would gossip everything about other people? I am sure most of us have. Have you heard that behind your back that person who gossiped to you, did the same about you too to others? It is terrible. I wish some people would stop doing that about other people. It is not nice to gossip and talk poorly about someone behind their backs. If you do not hear it from the source, its not a good idea to create and make up stories when it is not even true. Some people spend so much time making a federal case about other people, that they don’t care if it hurts them. Trash talking about that person behind their back and then being sweet, and nice with them in their face is not a very nice thing to do.

Backstabbers and Fake people who give face to you and who are nice to you and then all of a sudden you hear that, the person whom you thought you can trust has spread terrible lies about you and does everything in their power to destroy your good name. I find that to be such a terrible thing to go through. I have had that happen to me numerous amount of times. What goes around comes around. When a rumour, or some sort of stupidity gets spread around, it will always come back to the person who these terrible things have been said about. A lot of people do not know how terrible this is and it is not fair to that person. This plays a factor in jealousy and jealousy can do so many things. Gossiping is a terrible thing to do no matter what. Sometimes people need to mind their own business and look in the mirror before they judge other people or talk about them. In Today’s world trusting people, confiding in people, telling someone something very personal is something that not a lot of people can do anymore, because when you request and ask someone to keep it a secret and they don’t and spread it around, it is not a good thing.

Some people spread and talk for the sake of talking about anything about others just to satisfy their jealousy urges. This situation can make you or break you. As soon as you make new friends, don’t assume that they are trustworthy, test out your friends, don’t talk about personal issues, don’t talk too too much about your life, but talk in general terms, and once you start to get to know them and you build your trust, then just maybe you can tell them, but then again you cannot be to careful with the information you transmit to them. Keep very personal things within the family, and do not transmit every bit of information to your friends. Someone who is true to you will always keep your secrets, someone who is true to you will never gossip, spread lies and do terrible things because when your a true friend to someone its expected that you are honest and forthright about situations and when things happen you tell your friends on the spot. Don’t be afraid if you disagree on a few things, it helps build your friendship stronger and you work it out.

the bottom line is to never gossip, spread rumours and make up stories about others. Its not nice at all. I am sure that if the roles were reversed, it wouldn’t be a nice feeling. Nowadays, I am not too trusting and I don’t give in easily. I always think with my mind and then with my heart. This day in age the Heart can be fooled easily on the people to hang out with and its a soft spot where people become blinded, naive and soft, but nowadays you have to stand tough, you have to say no once in a while, you have to think twice and three times before jumping into friendships and relationships. It is important to keep those things in mind. Not everyone you meet will be your friend, chances are some friends can say the most terrible things about you behind your back…. WELL, So called friends, fake friends. you do not need them in your life.

Move forward and find people who actually care about you and who actually want the best for you.Not those who spread rumours and gossip. Stay far away from them as possible. I am saying all this from experience of others doing that to me, and it is not pleasant. I am just watching out for all of you because I care so much about all of you. All the best to you.

 

A Tribute To My Grandfather Who Died 10 Years Ago Today – June 30, 2002 – June 30, 2012

A Decade ago, I lost someone very dear to me and someone who is so special to me, and that is my grandfather Habib Torossian. He died just about a week and a half before his birthday on July 11. I remember the morning of June 30, 2002, when we got that terrible phone call, before 9am in the morning saying that My grandfather had passed away in his hospital bed at the nursing home. It was one of those days where my world shut down, crying my eyes out, and so much going through my head and I was so distraught and shocked at the same time. We sort of knew it was coming, but then again I was shocked. My grandfather meant the world to me, he taught me so many things about life, he taught me the importance of being in the Armenian community, among so many things, and he had such a wonderful sense of humour. I can still remember his smiling face, the way he used to sit, His voice, his touch, the way he cooked, the way he played backgammon. I mean who would forget those special moments I shared with him? I will never forget my sweet grandfather.

I remember going to several trips, picnics, camping, outings, dinners, get together, parties, among very great times with my beautiful cousins, and my mom, aunts and uncle.

My grandfather had a heart of Gold, he was so down to earth and put his family first above anything else. His passion for Armenia, His passion for writing, his passion for being in the Armenian community was so contagious. I think that is where I get it from. I visit the cemetery to see him once in a while, and I kiss his tomb stone and always tell him, “Dede”(means grandfather), in Armenian, so I would say, I miss you so much. This past year or so, My grandfather appeared in my dreams 5 times. It was so comforting to see his face once again. He was wearing all white. He is my Angel from above and I love him with all my heart. He is always in my heart and that is something that will never go away. I miss him terribly much. There is just so much I want to talk to him about, there have been so many things that he has missed in the past 10 years, but he is watching from above and watching over all of us. I love him and I wish there was a way to bring him back, but unfortunately, not. He will live on in our memories, and in our homes, in our lives forever. His soul and his goodness will never be forgotten. The fond and beautiful memories is so important to remember.To My dear grandfather Habib Torossian, I love you forever. I know heaven is a beautiful paradise and your there with other family members and friends who have passed, have a wonderful time together up there. God rest your soul, God keep shining light on you and among our loved ones who are not physically here with us today. One love. One Life. Kisses and Hugs Grandpa! I love you! Until we meet again. This is not goodbye. It’s see you later.