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What Makes You A Stronger Person? How Do You Handle Life?

In my life, I have been through a huge list of unfortunate things that have happened to me where people would be bully me emotionally and mentally, putting me to the curb when not needed anymore, people who have used me for material gain, people who only come to me if they need something from me,  the feeling of being isolated, and being an option to people and not a priority in their lives. I remember all those times and still comes back to haunt me to this day, but things have changed so much for me and for the better. Because of all the anguish and pain I had to endure personally, emotionally and mentally, now I have become a stronger person, I have a whole new pizzazz on life, a whole new approach to trusting very few people, choosing my friends wisely, opening up my eyes more and making sure I make the right decisions about hanging out with the right people. Everything in my past that I went through, has shaped who I am today and its made me better in making judgements on who should be in my circle and who should not. I think and I know that I have handled my life wonderfully and I learned a lot from myself and have spent so much time with myself just thinking about life, about what the next step is to further myself in a social aspect of life.

What made me a stronger person is that I look things into a positive perspective, I look at things as a cup that is half full, and no matter what life throws at me, I am always positive in the end. I know it is easier said than done, but being positive is easy, all you have to do is be strong, be who you are, always be yourself, make sure that you surround yourself with positive and great energy throughout your day everyday. When I was heavily bullied as I was in school back in the day, I put into thought that this is just temporary and things will get better and it did get better for me. I am so strong now that nothing or no one can break me. I have learned to stand on my own two feet, I’ve learned and I am still learning to this day. Life is a never-ending learning journey. Sometimes things come in our way, but in the end the ball is in your court, but make sure you hit a slam dunk and be strong.

Everything happens for a reason, and people come into your life as a blessing or a lesson and that will determine your strength to move on to bigger and better people and things in life. What shaped me to be stronger is that I cut out negativity, and I always instill in others that they too can do the same, all they have to do is try their best, and do it. I know sometimes it easier said than done as I said, but it will workout in the long run. I know that life is not perfect as we want it to be, and sometimes we get lucky and sometimes we do not get so lucky with how our lives are and have turned out to be and what we went through in the past, but take a look around, be blessed with what you have and who you have become. What have you learned from your past? Have you been a victim of bullying? What did you do to make yourself stronger?

What steps did you take to conquer and defy all the odds? Did you seek for help from others? did you dust yourself off and pick yourself up on your own? Did you tell someone about how you were feeling or are feeling? Always know you are worth it, you are important, you are a unique, special, confident, strong and beautiful person. As long as you know that for yourself, you do not need others to tell you all that. When you know yourself that you are enough and that you are all those great things, that is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. You have those gifts that are so precious. You are a precious human being who came to this earth for a reason, each one of us serves a purpose in our world and we can all make a positive influence, difference and change the world into a stronger and happier place only if we try to do our best no matter what life throws at us. Kindness, Respect and doing great things is the way to go.

Now tell me what has made you stronger? Life is a beautiful gift from God, and its such a lovely thing.  always be strong. Remember what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and somehow struggles become success, and success becomes everything you want your life to be emotionally and mentally. Be positive, be strong, be you, and everything in life will come to place. Just believe in yourself, believe that you can conquer anything and throw negativity away and do not think about what might have been, or what could have happened differently. Keep going. Do not stop. All the best to you, keep smiling, be happy!

I Want To Be Your Moon Because I Want To Shine Brightness On Your Darkest Days Of Your Life

In life, we all have our moments of darkness when unfortunate things happen to us such as losing a loved one, being bullied by others, when we lose a job, when other bad things happen, and I am sure we all have our problems in life and we just want to find ourselves after such a terrible ordeal we’ve had in our lives. Do you ever wonder when you will find brightness even in the darkest hours and days of your life? Do you have feel like you will never find that light again because of the unfortunate things going on in your life? Your loved ones will help guide you and your true friends will stick by you too. I know this is going to sound strange coming from a blogger, but I am also here too. I want to be the moon to you because I want to shine brightness on your darkest days of your life, I want to be there for you, and if you have anything you want to talk about and if you have something on your mind that you want to share and everything, I am here to listen and I will do the best of my ability to give you advice and get you back on your feet. This morning, I found this quote on Facebook and It is such a powerful quote and it got me to think about how so many people in this world now are living in darkness because now there are so many problems happening in our world and it keeps on increasing. Never forget Me Talin Orfali, I am here for everyone and I want to be the moon in your lives. Never forget these words I say to you because I mean it and stick by to my words especially when it comes to making a difference in someones life, making positive and happy changes to ones life. It is what I am about and it is my life’s motto. I am very passionate about people, and I detest discrimination in every way. I have always told my family and friends, that I am here for you in your darkest days and in the brightest days, and they know that they can confide in me and tell me everything that is going on in their lives and they do tell me everything and that makes me feel great because they know that they can always trust me.

Anybody can trust me because I never share anyone’s problems with others and I keep it all to myself and when people request that they don’t want something shared or a secret to be told to anyone, I never blab and I never open my mouth to anyone because that is not my style and that is not how I was raised. I keep all that to myself and nobody ever knows about it because it is not cool to blab out things that were told to me in confidence. Now my friends respect me more because of that and because they know they can trust me. I really like that and I want to be the same friend to you all and I want to do the same not only for my family and friends, but I want to do it for you all too. If you have anything that you need to talk about, never hesitate. I want to make positive and happy changes in this world.

This world is in dire need of a make-over and I want to be one of the people to make a difference and I want to help the community around me and eventually all over the world. I know I keep bringing up that I want to get on television shows and having these big dreams of one day making it into the big world, but I have my reasons and the reasons being is that I want to do this for humanity and for society and as a human being I want to get out there and do my part in the world, I want to know and feel to myself that I have done my duty and my part in the world, not because I need to do it, but because I want to do it. There is a big difference in needing and wanting and I really want to do it, I really want to get out there and do this for our world and our lifestyles. It is very important to me and I will not give up no matter what comes in my way and whatever obstacle there will be to prevent me from doing so, and that will not stop me. I will always find a way to be the moon on the darkest days of people’s lives, because that’s just my style.

What Makes You A Stronger Person? How Do You Handle Life?

In my life, I have been through a huge list of unfortunate things that have happened to me where people would be bully me emotionally and mentally, putting me to the curb when not needed anymore, people who have used me for material gain, people who only come to me if they need something from me,  the feeling of being isolated, and being an option to people and not a priority in their lives. I remember all those times and still comes back to haunt me to this day, but things have changed so much for me and for the better. Because of all the anguish and pain I had to endure personally, emotionally and mentally, now I have become a stronger person, I have a whole new pizazz on life, a whole new approach to trusting very few people, choosing my friends wisely, opening up my eyes more and making sure I make the right decisions about hanging out with the right people. Everything in my past that I went through, has shaped who I am today and its made me better in making judgements on who should be in my circle and who should not. I think and I know that I have handled my life wonderfully and I learned a lot from myself and have spent so much time with myself just thinking about life, about what the next step is to further myself in a social aspect of life.

What made me a stronger person is that I look things into a positive perspective, I look at things as a cup that is half full, and no matter what life throws at me, I am always positive in the end. I know it is easier said than done, but being positive is easy, all you have to do is be strong, be who you are, always be yourself, make sure that you surround yourself with positive and great energy throughout your day everyday. When I was heavily bullied as I was in school back in the day, I put into thought that this is just temporary and things will get better and it did get better for me. I am so strong now that nothing or no one can break me. I have learned to stand on my own two feet, I’ve learned and I am still learning to this day. Life is a never ending learning journey. Sometimes things come in our way, but in the end the ball is in your court, but make sure you hit a slam dunk and be strong.

Everything happens for a reason, and people come into your life as a blessing or a lesson and that will determine your strength to move on to bigger and better people and things in life. What shaped me to be stronger is that I cut out negativity, and I always instill in others that they too can do the same, all they have to do is try their best, and do it. I know sometimes it easier said than done as I said, but it will workout in the long run. I know that life is not perfect as we want it to be, and sometimes we get lucky and sometimes we do not get so lucky with how our lives are and have turned out to be and what we went through in the past, but take a look around, be blessed with what you have and who you have become. What have you learned from your past? Have you been a victim of bullying? What did you do to make yourself stronger?

What steps did you take to conquer and defy all the odds? Did you seek for help from others? did you dust yourself off and pick yourself up on your own? Did you tell someone about how you were feeling or are feeling? Always know you are worth it, you are important, you are a unique, special, confident, strong and beautiful person. As long as you know that for yourself, you do not need others to tell you all that. When you know yourself that you are enough and that you are all those great things, that is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. You have those gifts that are so precious. You are a precious human being who came to this earth for a reason, each one of us serves a purpose in our world and we can all make a positive influence, difference and change the world into a stronger and happier place only if we try and do our best no matter what life throws at us. Kindness, Respect and doing great things is the way to go.

Now tell me what has made you stronger? Life is a beautiful gift from God, and its such a lovely thing.  always be strong. Remember what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, and somehow struggles become success, and success becomes everything you want your life to be emotionally and mentally. Be positive, be strong, be you, and everything in life will come to place. Just believe in yourself, believe that you can conquer anything and throw negativity away and do not think about what might have been, or what could have happened differently. Keep going. Do not stop. All the best to you, keep smiling, be happy!

How I Overcame Bullies How It Changed My Life Forever For The Better

Hello Everyone, due to popular demand and many people asking me about my previous posts on bullies and how people bullied me a lot, and how I overcame those hardships in my life, what I did to stay afloat in life, what measures I took to look past those bullies and make a positive and optimistic life for myself with happiness and joy all around me after many years of suffering this terrible ordeal I had to face when I was going to elementary and high school. Today, I am going to talk to you about all that, about what changes I made to get past the pain I had to endure when I was a child and a teenager. My readers questions mean the world to me, and I will do my best to answer each one of them as fast as I can, but today I thought I would address this topic to everyone as it is important for those who have been victims of bullies, and to restore faith back into humanity to move forward in life. Well, without further do, here is how I overcame and moved past those terrible times of my life, I will be interviewing myself.

What did you do to overcome your bullies?

After graduating high school I realized, that life was just beginning and that I was going to go onto bigger and better things in my life, and I was right. I started joining committees in My Armenian Community, I began to write, I started traveling more with the Armenian youth whom I made friends with at church, I began to participate in more Armenian church events, I began to go out more and those became a positive enforcement in my life and I had the time of my life, probably the most fun I have ever had in my life in regards to social events with people and just getting out there. I began doing secretarial and communications for my committees I was part of with Armenian Church Youth Organization of Canada ACYOC, among Bible study, and the appointed me because I was getting pretty good at communications and promoting. I then went onto make flyers and doing so many things for different events around the church, attending camping trips and sports weekends across Canada all the way to Vancouver, British Columbia, Montreal, Ottawa, and beyond. So I had the pleasure and privilege to travel there with my lovely youth. From then on, I knew my life changed forever and I began to have friends and I overcame all those struggles within a couple of years after high school.

Since Joining Facebook, Have you made any social interactions with people online and in reality?

I remember joining facebook back in 2006 and It was exciting being part of a social network with Armenian friends and my family who had told me about it, and I decided I join, and it was the best decision that I made. I have been using it until this present time, and I have met incredible and wonderful people there from all parts of the world, and had the pleasure of meeting my facebook friends within the past 3-4 years. Especially last year and this year recently this summer. It was a beautiful encounter and that made my bullies disappear from my mind and things started to fall into place and things got better for me. I smile, I laugh more, and I have reached my peak of happiness because of the positive reinforcement from my lovely friends I had met. Especially from a radio station based out of California called RADIO AGA. I thank that radio station everyday for giving me back my life’s happiness especially getting together with friends from the many miles. I will forever be grateful.

What advice do you have for those who are being bullied right now?

I know in my heart that, it is one of the most difficult, and terrible things a person can go through no matter what age, and I do believe that there is a light at the end of the tunnel always. I know for a fact, that things are going to work out and get better for you. All you have to do is think of happy thoughts and move forward. I know it is easier said than done, but always know that you are not alone, nobody is alone when those are being bullied. I went through terrible ordeals and situations, but those situations made me stronger, and today I am doing so well, and I am so happy with who I have become. I sort of want to thank my bullies, because now I am stronger than I ever was before and they gave me that boost to stand up for myself and be tough in this world in terms of knowing the type of people in this world and knowing who to trust or not. Don’t worry, there is always a way and you will overcome your bullies like I did. All it takes is a little patience to get out of that phase and get onto newer things in life. Things will turn around for you and you will be better than ever. Just have faith.

I truly believe there are great people out there and sometimes it is hard to find those great people, but I do believe in humanity all over again and I had mixed feelings for the past couple of months, but then again, I realize that life is what you make it and life will always have ups and downs and there will be people we like and don’t like, there will be people unfortunately who are not on the same page as you and who understand you, I guess that is how the world works unfortunately, but all I know is, I am happy, doing well, optimistic, positive, and a lot better than what was going on with me when I was a child up until my teenage years. No more sadness, no more tears, those bullies have left my station, never to return because there is a sign called no trespassing. All the best to everyone!

In General, Relying on People Are Hard to Find These days.

Trust has become minimal these days and relying on people is something so rare. The world is changing day by day, people are changing, the society is changing, peoples attitudes and the way life is now. It is sad to see how once people who promise to be by your side always, and promise that they will always be there for you and all of a sudden those people whom you thought you can rely on no longer live up to their promises. It is very hurtful to see people who make promises and cannot keep them. Especially when you think those people are close to you and who you thought would never abandon you.

It is especially hurtful sometimes when it comes from your own family or from best friends. I know that everyone has their lives to live and things come up, but people should not make promises that they cannot keep. I have learned the hard way. I have learned that when you want something done right, when you need to get somewhere, you do it yourself. It is very important to learn who true people are these days and its important to stand up for yourself no matter what the situation is.

It is especially hurtful to come to terms on how some people say that whatever you have on your mind, or you want to express your feelings, talk about problems and they say that they will be there to listen, give you advice, hug you and tell you its going to be ok, or they give you some words of wisdom, then they do not follow through. Its so extremely hurtful, and they are feeling you will never forget.

You must learn how to stand on your own two feet. I have learned that in the end the people whom you once thought that you can depend on, you cannot anymore. It is unfortunate but this is how reality is. Many times I have been let down and many people have put me down and its not a good feeling at all.

I hope that nobody has to go through these issues. I am glad I have people in the last few years that have really helped me through the worst times of my life, but then again those bad feelings come back to haunt you and its not a good feeling at all. I have experienced so much in my life, so much rejection, so much angst, anguish, everything. It was terrible once I stepped out of my home. I don’t know if it was written on my forehead or this vibe toward me was not right. To this very day, I still speculate, and wonder why I was bullied, why people treated me differently then everyone else. I have always been belittled and picked on and now trusting people is very difficult for me.

To those who are going through all this and people who have gone through it, your not alone. I am in the same boat.

Get Me On The Ellen Show — Ellen Degeneres – Raising awareness about Bullying

In My life one of the most important things to me is raising awareness about Bullying and being Bullied. Nobody should be subject to bullies and the torture people go through because of it. It is so important to me to raise this important subject as it is not said enough. I know a lot of people have been bullied and a lot of innocent children are effected by it daily. I know that Ellen Degeneres on The Ellen Show always brings up this subject on bullying and I want to get on her show one day and discuss this with her because I have been through terrible bullying scenerios that has effected me and It will mean the world to me if I can have the opportunity to speak about it and my feelings on public television on her show. I want to make this big difference in the world. I care about people and our world so much and I want to protect people of our world as much as I can and I want to spread out positivity to our children, to the adults and everyone who has been effected by this terrible thing.

I want to do this for the humanity of our world, I want to better our society where people won’t be afraid to go to school, where people won’t be afraid to leave their homes to go to a certain function or join after school activities. I hope Ellen Degeneres and her team at the ELLEN SHOW read this. I want to express my thoughts, not only with words and blogs, but speaking about it on television, I want to travel not only to California on her show, but I want to travel and go to schools, and motivation speaking seminars. I LOVE HUMANITY, We are all one body, and were all one big family of the world and we should treat each other as one.

I have written about bullying before, but I cannot stress how important it is to really speak about it. It sickens me to see bullies get away with it and it even sickens me more when people who have been bullied take their own life because of all the pain and anguish. Like the saying goes, What goes around comes around. It will come back to haunt people who are bullies and that bully who took that certain persons life will have a lifetime full of haunts and nightmares I guarantee it. I want to do this not only for me, but for everyone in our world. I want to take a stand against bullying, I WANT TO PUT AN END TO IT AND PUT AN END TO IT NOW!

Time is of the essence. ITS TIME NOW!

What I Did To Move on From People Who Bullied Me. How I Overcame It.

When I was a Child going to school, I wasn’t so lucky with a normal social life where people bullied me, and made fun of me terribly much day in and day out and I do not even want to mention the things I was called because I was different, looked different and because I was being myself no matter what others say, but as time went by and as I went to do other things in my life after my school life, I overcame and moved on from that phase of my life. I realized, that this bullying was a temporary part of my life and I know that things will get better, and it has quite substantially and I am so glad that part of my life is over and how I overcame bullies and all those terrible feelings is something that was a miracle. Something triggered into my mind that I decided to put a barrier against my bullies and I moved forward with my life. I now don’t see any of them anymore and that I am so happy about. Anyway, Here are ways I overcame bullying and what I did for myself to move on and get going to a better life without the bullies, and they are the following:

– I spoke to my parents, other family members, teachers, the principal, the guidance Councillor.

– I decided not to let negativity overpower my life anymore and I decided to pull the plug on negativity and think positively,

– I believed in myself, and I knew it was a temporary time where I was going through a phase and I knew things got better.

– I joined in my church community, and they took well care of me and I made a lot of friends there.

– After all those years went by, I did volunteer work at Daily bread food bank(Boxing Food for the Needy), Children’s Aid(Wrapping Christmas Toys For Kids In Need), Saturday and Sunday School (For The Children), Joined Family Support Services, Habitat For Humanity(Helping build, paint homes for the needy), and joining committees around my church.

– We set up a party to do fundraising for Children’s Aid around Christmas time.

– Every Friday nights now, I have met an incredible group of people throughout the church and we all got together and now we go out to different places and we have great times, and create memories, and travel with each other.

– I met great people whom I can call my best friends, and I never gave up on finding people, I always made the conscious effort to never lose my way and to move forward in life.

– I knew things would get better for me, and I knew how to move on with life after being bullied.

– I always asked for help and I got the help and I am eternally grateful to all those who have helped me win these battles.

– I never gave up and I overcame the worst days of my life and I replaced it with the best days of my life which is happening in the present times of my life.

This is how I overcame my bullies, and now I am happy, positive, and I feel great, and better than before. It will happen to you too whoever is being bullied right now unfortunately. My thoughts and prayers are with you all, and I am behind you and I am by your side, I am here to listen, to give advice, and to show you the way to a new life without these bullies, that has made us so vulnerable in our lives. You have no idea how special you are in your own way, and how important you are to your family, you have a lot of people who care about you, and you do have a place in this earth and you have come here for a reason, you were born a winner and you will overcome it, like I did. Never give up on anything, and always know that you do serve a purpose on this earth. Smile, be happy, and always know that you always have people to confide into. You may not know it or feel it, but someone is always there for you.

I love you, and I want the best for all.