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Health Is Wealth – The Most Important Thing

Today, I really need to discuss an important thing in our lives and something that is in all of us whether its physical, medical, relationships, mental, emotional and everything that plays a role in our daily and nightly lives, and it is about health. Health is the most important thing in our lives. Lets face it, without it, we won’t be happy, and we won’t be wealthy in terms of it. It is more important than anything else. Material things come and go, but our health is number one out of everything else.

I know that this is a touchy subject to some people and if not all people, and I know that some people do not get lucky to live a fulfilling life because of some health issues that make people limited to do things and its so unfortunate on how people have to go through these terrible ordeals of dealing with debilitating diseases, cancers, illnesses, chronic problems, and things that happen in the human body. I know some things are not even in our control, things happen which is something unbelievable when we hear it from our doctors. Some make it and some do not unfortunately, but in the end our health is so important and what we do with our bodies is imperative to do our best to take care of ourselves, to eat better, to exercise, and to try as much as possible to prevent things from happening to our bodies. I know no matter how hard we try, sometimes things happen unfortunately, but prevention is key and we are all able to do anything we want. Sometimes for some cases its not possible, but nothing in the world is impossible, because remember I’M Possible. right?

When women get pregnant, and start a family some parents to be really concentrate on the gender of the baby and are so concerned about whether they will have a girl or a boy and the anticipation of it all is something that a lot of parents to be want to know, but in the end I do not think it should matter, as long as the baby and mother to be is healthy, and as long as the baby is well really should be something that is most important. I know the whole excitement of creating a nursery in the home, buying baby products, clothes and what colours to buy when you know you are having a baby, but those things should be the least of ones worry. A baby who is healthy and doing well, should be the best gift of all. All life is so precious no matter how they come into this world and that’s what should matter.

Health is so important at any age and unfortunately no matter what age you are, things happen to us.

Health is not just about physical and medical, health is also about how people deal with emotional, mental and relationship health. In this life we have so much stress, life has become so fast paced and there are not enough hours in the day sometimes to fulfill everything we need to do, and sometimes things happen out of the blue which we cannot get to, people are so busy with school, work, home and so many responsibilities pile up, commitments we must attend to and everyone has worries and everything, which can lead to mental, emotional stress and its a crazy thing we all go through. In this day in age, a lot of families do not have too much time together as people have to work a lot harder to upkeep, put a roof over their heads, and so much more. It puts a number on people and its an unfair world we live in these days, but I guess you gotta do what you gotta do right?

I myself had a health scare, but everything is good news and I am happy about it. Thank goodness and thank the Lord our God. Unfortunately some are not so lucky and do not make it which is crazy and I wish everyone well, a good clean bill of health and wishing everyone all the best with everything. You maybe battling and getting through each day, and playing it be ear and I wish everyone many blessings. God forbid anything happening to everyone. Lets put our health forward and concentrate on that the most and never lose hope. Always have faith, always live life positive. I know it is easier said than done, but positivity is the key to anything in life and no matter what life throws at us. All the best to all!

So take it easy and live life to the fullest.

Social Media Awareness – T-H-I-N-K – The Acronym That Stood Out

In recent months I have been writing a lot about this subject about social media, and it is one of the biggest hot topics of this day in age and mostly everything is revolved around social media, promotions, advertising, and so much more that we make social media. Nowadays there are clever ways to advertise and get viewership rolling, making photo acronym’s and there are so many quotes out there that makes people think and social media is one of the biggest ones and all to do with success, business and so much more. Now, what stood out to me the most was this great acronym that says, THINK.

Now, before you Tweet, Facebook, Pin It, Tumblr It, text it, send photos, or do anything with Social Media think of this:

T – is it true?

H – is it helpful?
I – is it inspiring?
N – is it necessary?
K – is it kind?

We all want to protect our credibility, reputation and ourselves ultimately and this acronym is something that certain people should be reading and thinking about literally, and ultimately we are responsible for what we post because anybody on the internet can see it, and anybody who searches online for a certain word, phrase or something they can come to your site and you either gain fans or you do not. It all depends on how your portray yourself. It is important to think if it is kind and necessary to post. I feel that social media has gone way out of context of over sharing. How much is too much when it comes to sharing? I have seen twitter messages that people post when they have their bowel movements, they even post what they are doing 24 hours a day. I find that to be way too much information that does not need to be on the internet.

Now with our words are we really moving mountains? Are we inspiring people? Are we helping people in positive and great ways? Is something we post true? I think it is something that is up to us individually on what we want to post, but we should be cautious about what we post and the content. This acronym is something that really has been on my mind for quite some time now and it has put social media in my life into perspective, and it has given me so much inspiration and so much food for thought to share this acronym with those who may or may not have seen or heard about it before. Are we really hurting our future with the material and content we produce online? Remember what you post online is there forever and even if you delete and remove things, it will always be there on the internet database.

Are there things you have seen online that have been terrible and written, drawn, Photoshopped or created a terrible meme about other people? Have you seen blogs, comments, and websites that bully others? The internet can be a great place and sometimes the internet is not such a great place. Also not everything should be taken as a joke. There is a time and place for everything and there is a time for humour, a time for seriousness, but in the end everything has its limitations. It depends on individuals and how they utilize it. Being kind, helpful and inspiring is something that everyone should exercise in always doing. I know sometimes people may not be on the same page about a certain topic, people may not always agree on things, but there is always a pleasant way to handle it, and there are ways to approach things in a great and peaceful manner where then everything will be great in the end. Just simply say “I am going to have to disagree on that, this is how I think about something or this is my feeling or take on it”, or this is what I would have done differently or said something differently. There is no need to use vulgar, profane language to others, where it can be kind and dealt with in a civil manner.

This Acronym has put an everlasting thought in my mind and in my day-to-day blogging and social media life. Has it for you? What is your take on THINK? what is your opinion? I’d love to hear from you.

How To Avoid Conflict with Assumptions and Spreading Rumors

In my life, I have always learned to not get too involved in someone elses personal lives and business and to ask too many questions and details about a person’s life and I have been taught to never assume things about other people, make up stories about them and not to spread rumours and I have learned that if something that if someone tells me and tells me not to tell anybody, I honor their word and I never tell a soul. It’s just my style and I just cannot stand it sometimes when people ask way too many personal questions about family life, about sensitive things that not everyone should know about. I believe there are boundaries to everything and there is a limit with so much. Some people are so nosy and want to know so much. It becomes too much. When rumors start being spread around without knowing from the source, is not something very good to do.

Before sharing things and before spreading things around that you are permitted to do, it is always important to ask from the source and find out things from the source, because by the time you hear about it from different people, the story gets changed around, words are added here and then, and people understand things differently, then it will be chaotic and something will be blown way out of proportion. It is like playing broken Telephone when by the time the story gets sent around in the circle, the person at the end will have a totally different story and then spread it around. I think it is a good idea to always know if it is something you should say to others, and get permission always and never assume things about other people unless you find out from them and unless there is solid proof of something done, or something said. Sometimes there are witnesses who even lie, and there are so many people who will lie and make up stories about others.

I think the most important thing is to really get the facts straight. Relationships and friendships can be ruined by it, and a lot of damage will be done. I just sometimes say you know what? Its better I do not get involved, I do not say anything, and not share with the world something that is very personal. I just don’t want to deal with headaches and hardships later. I am always loyal to my friends, and when they tell me something personal, there is no way I will ever spread those things around. It is the most terrible thing anyone can do. Now with social media, the internet there are mixed signals and so many sites dealing with social media, there are billions of us on the internet everyday and transmitting information 24/7 365, and a lot of people do not get their facts straight and it becomes a catastrophe. So my advice to everyone is, never assume, never invent words with your mouth and go right to the source to find out information. The power of words can do serious damage, and its the most powerful thing in this world.

Has there been a moment in your life where people find false things about you and it gets spread like wildflowers? Have you been in a situation where you do damage control and tell people the right things instead of the way people hear about it? Have you defended someone? People just need to get their facts straight. That is all there is to it. it avoids conflict, problems, and it prevents from relationships, friendships and bonds to break and it can be a very hurtful thing to go through. So some people need to really think before they speak and ask from the source beforehand . I cannot stress it enough. Make things right now before things get out of hand because it can and really quick. All the best to everyone!

What Is In A Blog? Why Do We Blog?

In this day in age, social media, blogging, and networking is booming and blooming like wildflowers, a lot of places on the internet now have blogs. There are all sorts of blogs out there, some for personal use, business, hobby, interest, travel, food, recipes, pleasure, topics of the world, issues, life, advertising, writing about a product, introducing an artist and getting yourself out there for the world to know about you and who you are and what your purpose of a blog is. Blogging is such a huge thing now in our generation, in just a few clicks and writing a username and password, your on your way to making a blog. To me, blogging is therapeutic, its where I am able to write about my feelings, write about issues, introducing others, promoting someone or something. Before even starting with WordPress, I did a lot of thinking before I started this blog site, I said what will I use it for? How will I contribute to the world with my words? Will they be read? Will they be noticed? Will my content be read by so many people? Will my blog be successful? I asked myself several questions before dotting the I’s and crossing the T’s. I am glad I made the decision to say yes and start my journey in blogging. I am glad and happy on where it has taken me. The world now is filled with bloggers like us.

I have had my ups and downs in the past year and few months into my blog, but that didn’t stop me from pursuing my dreams and making a difference in peoples lives with my words with positive approach on life, to always be optimistic, happy, and enjoy life. That is one of the main reasons why I started to blog in the first place, but then as I went on, I started to post recipes of my favourite dishes, invested time in other topics, issues, and about technology, social media, and among so many other topics that came to mind. Ladies and Gentlemen, writing is a very difficult thing to do, but it doesn’t matter when it comes to blogging, how to write, the content, structure, the topic, the title, tagging your post. I know its supposed to be done well, but it really doesn’t have to. It depends on individuality, how you want your writings done, how you want your blog website to be portrayed. It is all up to you and you have the freedom to structure it the way you want to, but always make it visible, easy on the eyes and easy to comment, follow and organize your blog, so that way you get more people to come, but then again its your blog and you are entitled to make it the way you want it to.

Blogging is something very incredible. When you search for keywords on the internet on major search engines such as Google, Yahoo, Bing, and all the other ones, There are several sites that come up and your blog is included into the list. Some people prefer either Wikipedia, or right on a persons blog. Someone Somewhere will click on your blog and engage into it and if they like what they see, they will follow it and they will become a member on your site and get e-mail subscriptions, they will comment, and bookmark it, and there are all kinds of people interested in all kinds of things. There are billions of people who are online now, and the sky is the limit. You never know how many people maybe viewing your blog, you never know from where, which is why I love WordPress Stats, it tells you by country, clicks, search engines, how many peoples visited, viewed, your blog counter, and amongst who has been following your blog and so much more. I love looking at the stats. Its incredible. Blogging is such a great tool and I love it. I encourage everyone to start a blog, and I encourage everyone to get started on how great social media and networking can be. To advertise your business, and to promote yourself, a blog does wonders. You never know who is looking at you. Some people go places and get far in life just by blogging.

I remember a few weeks ago I went to a party and a friend of mine approached me and said, someone I know writes movie critics on his blog, and someone from an agency or a critic from a big movie company noticed and he was offered a career path in New York City in New York and now he is living there and making a lot of money, by just blogging. He was noticed from online and now, hes living very comfortably and hes doing so well. I am telling you, blogging is a very powerful thing now. Anybody can see what you write and if you get lucky someone big sees it, you have it made. All the best to you and your blogging journey. I know its hard, but you will get there someday, I know that for sure. Enjoy blogging, and enjoy what you do. All the best!

My Blog Site Is About To Get A Makeover – New Changes To Come

Hello everyone,

Hope all is going well. I am here to announce to you changes coming to my blog in terms of colours, layout and incorporating more pictures in some of the blog articles I write, and among so many other surprises. I will be working on it in the month of May and it should be up within the month. I really enjoy searching on google, tumblr and other sites for positive, inspirational quotes, and I post them up to my Facebook Fanpage for people to see. the following link will have all those and that is mainly where I will be posting positive, happy, clever, cute photos and quotes as well.

If you have Facebook, click on the link, like and join my fanpage so you can get my updates right into your news feed.

https://www.facebook.com/pages/A-Writer-named-Talin-Orfali/161201797312096

I am very excited about all these changes to come your way and I decided it is time to give up the blue Blog I have had for quite some time now and just give it a little boost. It will not change completely, but the changes will be visible and if your are just joining in on my blog and its one of your first times engaging into my blog, I thank you all very much and I thank all of my readers, viewers, fans and those who have searched on Google or anywhere else for me and my blog. It is much appreciated. I love you all very much and you all are very dear and in my heart. Any reader, supporter that comes here is automatically part of my life and part of my family.

Thanks again and I look forward to these changes.

Love Always,

Talin Orfali

 

What to Write About – Suggestions Needed From My Readers

Hello everyone, Hope all is going well in your neck of the woods. I am going to keep this short and sweet today as I have been trying to compile a list of topics, issues and subjects to write about and I want to ask my readers what they think I should talk about, what I can contribute to the internet, what I can discuss with my readers, fans, family and everyone.  something that would be interesting and something that needs to be talked about, written about and to share with everyone. Your opinions, suggestions matter to me a lot, and I value it very much. Now if you like to privately e-mail me about something you want to talk about, click on my contact me link on top and you can find my e-mail there. Your suggestions will be kept completely anonymous. I am not sure when I will be writing all the topics suggested to me but very soon after You will see your suggestion topics written about.

I am open to discuss whatever and all topics and suggestions are important to me.

Thank you all and all the best to everyone.

I Am Back Everybody! I Have Missed You All!

Hello Everyone,

I hope all is well with everyone, I haven’t posted on WordPress for a few days now, and I apologize for not being able to. A lot of new things have been happening in my life and its become a lot more busier then it was before, but I can assure you, that I will not be missing another day of blogging again after today. I am going to make sure I have something written in my blog everyday. I will take more time to do what I love to do and its writing and blogging and being involved in social media and interacting with everybody. On top of my life becoming so busy, I had the most terrible cold I have ever had in my life. It was quite scary because I could not even get out of bed, but now I am feeling a lot better and I am able to go on with my day, duties, responsibilities and more. A few of my fans have messaged me privately asking me if I was okay and everything and they were really worried. I am great. No worries. Thank you for asking and being concerned. All the best to you all. Now I am back and getting back into the swing of things, being updated, and checking my e-mails, and getting back into the social media world, catching up on news and everything. Now if you would like to see me discuss, talk and write about any topic, subject, issue or anything, please feel free to write your suggestions and I will keep a list of things to talk about, and I will write about it. Thanks again, and all the best to you all.

It’s Not The Years Of Your Life, It’s The Life Of Your Years

In life, there are things that some people take for granted and some are so concentrated on age and numbers rather than the quality versus the quantity of life that someone chooses to live. We all come from all walks of life, were all going through different journeys, we all go through problems in life, we come from different backgrounds, cultures, and races, some of us are tall, short, skinny, overweight, average, some have blonde hair, some of black hair, some have brown hair, but those are all what we have in our lives. Age is nothing but a number, years are nothing but a number, all I am saying is that it is the way you live your life in between those numbers which matter most.

Some people don’t even get a chance at life because it got cut short, some people die when they are born and some people don’t get lucky enough to experience life and it is unfortunate. God rest their souls and rest in peace to those who lost loved ones at any age. My thoughts and prayers are with you all who’ve lost people. It is so important to live life with quality. Because remember some don’t get the chance. It is crazy how the cycle of life works.

Live life to the fullest extent, be happy, be positive, make great and happy changes in your life, don’t dwell on the past, just keep going into the future, because when you look into the past so much, there really is nothing new to see, it will always going in circles, and you won’t see anything that changes. So the change is now in the present, do something that will benefit you, and we can all make positive and great differences in the world. We need to be able to learn to trust ourselves, to attempt it, and to act on it. it is easier said, than done right? Well, we shouldn’t think that way. We should always try to do our best, and even if you fail, there is always room for improvement, there is always the chance to try again. Never say you cannot do it, because you can do it. Just look beyond uncertainties and look at what is possible in life because everything is possible. You just have to have confidence in yourself, and go with the flow.

Never sell yourself short, and always be who you are, enjoy your life, and I know we all make mistakes, sometimes its beyond our control, but always know how special and how great you truly are to the world, and all of us can shine, but sometimes some people are pre-occupied with the quantity of life instead of the quality, and time and time again I hear people say, when I retire I will do this, or when I turn this age I will do this, and some people don’t want to reveal their age, some people are shy of telling their age to people, and they say, you should never ask a person how old they are and some concentrate solely on all that, and it’s not very good at all. Age is nothing but a number. It is how you feel on the inside that matters, it is how you feel everyday that you wake up. Don’t ever feel the need that you have to hide your age to people. Be happy and enjoy and don’t get caught up in numbers, get caught up with life and live it.

Life is great, enjoy, laugh, love, live, and experience it, because remember some don’t. Believe in yourself, and you will see what difference it makes. All the best to you.

Never Be Afraid To Ask For Help When You Need It The Most

Have you ever had the issue of being afraid to ask for help when you need it the most? Have you ever been in a middle of a situation and you hesitate and think twice about asking for a hand in something? I am sure all of us at some point have felt the embarrassment of it, but I can assure you, it is not an embarrassment or a fear. I know a lot of us want to do things on our own and be independent people without other people’s help, and a lot of people go on in life without help from other people, but never be afraid to ask for it when you need it, because there are so many dangerous things that can happen to someone if they do not ask for help. So many things can happen, such as when someone lifts something heavy and does not ask for help and then that persons back starts hurting or injures ones self badly. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help, when you do not ask for it, people will automatically think, that you’re trying to be the hero, you’re trying so hard to impress people by doing everything on your own, but you’re not doing yourself any good. You are harming your body and your health by doing that. Always think before you do something because when help is there and when there are people who ask you if you want help with things, and you say no, I can do it all on my own, then the next time you do need that help, they won’t be there and they will say, I thought you can do everything on your own?

It is not a bad thing when people are trying to be helpful to you and to give you their hands, time and energy to you. In any situation whether it is at work, home, something emotional, something physical, something that you need. If you do not ask, you won’t know the answer. Also if people ask, its great to always be polite when you ask. Always say, Hello, May I please have some assistance with this? Please and thank you, you will see that the answer will be a yes most of the time, and you will see great results. Also if someone is going through a tough emotional problem, stresses that a person needs a friend or someone to talk to, that person will say May I ask for advice on what to do in this certain situation? It’s always a May I? Not can you? Not Can I? Never stop asking for help when you need it. I know it can be something that a lot of people fear, but do not fear, help is there. You just need to ask.

Some people are so proud and so high and mighty of themselves, but deep inside, they know exactly that they need that help, but they try to do everything to not feel the humiliation of asking. It’s not an easy thing, I know, but it can be. Please and Thank you are magic words. Some people do not even say thank you to someone or people who have helped them or have done so much for that person. Please and Thank you’s are important and beautiful words. It’s very important to utilize them in every aspect. So ask for help today. Don’t be afraid. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes, we all have differences, but one thing you should know, that help is not a bad thing. for anyone or anything. Give it a try to see for yourself.

Social Media & Networking – How Communications Has Advanced

In Recent years the internet has become the biggest communication hub of the world and news, photos, videos, information, history, various topics, and blogs are transmitted around the world in an instant and it has advanced far more than television in itself. I am sure there are still people who get their news from the newspaper and television, but now majority of us receive e-mails, go on news websites and etc… Social Networking has been booming a lot since Myspace, Hi5, Asian Avenue, Migente, Black Planet, Bebo, were very popular, and now Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Pinterest, Tumblr, and all those other Social Networking websites that has given communications quite the boost with reconnecting with friends from back in the day, school mates, meeting people around the world, spending time on the internet with so many hubs of communication. In about a couple of weeks from now, I will be attending a social media, Social networking conference and discussion evening, and there will be a lot of information that is going to benefit me and my friends who will also attend. It is very good to have these discussions as now, everything almost revolves around the internet and communications, so you could really learn a lot. There will also be talks about effective blogging, how to blog, The ins and outs of social media. Networking is super important these days. Businesses use facebook, linkedin, pinterest, and twitter to advertise, and to gain customers and clients. Now a lot of companies have facebook as their official website as almost one billion people over the world are on facebook, and that is a huge number and the numbers are increasing by day. Thank you to Mark Zuckerberg and his team for giving us a great communications tool.

Every time I hear about Social Media and Networking, I get excited because it is surely my cup of tea and I really enjoy this subject very much. It has that professionalism to it and yet its a fun subject to share and raise awareness about it. Now, that blogging websites are up, now that its become easy for us all to advertise and to share with the world, who we are, what we do, and where we come from, It is nice to share with the world, and gain knowledge, understanding, and to share opinions. I know that each blogger and each person who writes has a purpose and I know everyone does something for a reason. When you are passionate about something and when you feel the need to share who you are, your strengths, your talents, and the way you portray yourself, is something so great. You don’t want to hide behind closed doors all your life and not share who you are, and what your talents are or else you will waste your talent and you will waste away the time and that is not good. Now that social networking, communications, social media, society has made is simple for people to get out there and show to the world who you are, then its time to get out there and show yourself and show who you are. I know were always afraid to overshare things, but that is what social networking is and do not be afraid to show yourself to the world, and what you are capable of doing. Social networking is a big subject and it can be summarized in so many ways. As long as you know what you’re doing and as long as you are safe about it, go ahead and do it.

Communications has advanced so much that, within seconds information is transmitted and received by so many people using the internet day in and day out. It has become part of life and growth of many things. Create a LinkedIn Profile, Create a Twitter handle, Create A Pinterest Account. Get in on the action, make some noise, make yourself heard, advance yourself in the world, make your name well-known, enjoy your blog, enjoy writing, enjoy social networking and media. It is a great thing. Thinking about it in a negative way is not so good. I know too much of it isn’t good either and nothing beats being outside in actual society to be social, but this is also great too. You can meet so many people, and the sky is the limit. When you have networking and when someone sees you online and are interested, you have it made and it is the greatest feeling ever to be discovered by so many people across all continents like it has for me. Do not be afraid to dot your I’s and cross your T’s and don’t be afraid to write what you feel, and make it a goal to write everyday or when you can, and be committed to it.

I love what I do, I love social networking, I love blogging, blogging is so therapeutic for me and every passing day I learn so many new things from people who comment, from the internet, and I learn a lot about my capabilities, abilities, and about myself and my strengths. I blog because I love it and I blog because I like making a difference in the world and I have my own purpose in life to improve everyday on my blogging and writing skills as we all are. I am learning from my mistakes and that is how you do learn. Never lose faith on Social networking and involve yourself with great things, persevere to great lengths to succeed, to make a difference, to get out there in the world and do the best you can and you will see the progress you will make. Impacting society in a positive and great way is a sign of success and a sign of happy times to come. So enjoy it and appreciate social media.

All the best and enjoy this journey.

You Are Special! Never Forget it! Always Remind Yourself Everyday

In recent years due to the uncertainty and all the negativity, hopeless attitudes that is filled in this society we often forget how special and how incredible each and everyone of us are. We are all unique in our own little ways. Why don’t people just think of the qualities they have rather than bashing ourselves and degrading ourselves to an all time low? It is very easy to get out of context and insult ourselves. I have seen that happen in so many ways. I attend a bible study and tonight it was no surprise to me that a friend of mine came up to me and said that Oh I don’t think I am good at it, and putting that persons self down. I had to intervene and I had to stop him in his tracks and say hey were all special and we all have something or somethings were good at only if we discover ourselves.

A few blog posts ago, I spoke about the same type of thing, but You are your own enemy if you bring yourself down and you start hating yourself and you shouldn’t. Love yourself, get to know your capabilities, get to know your habits a lot more. It is really interesting what you might find.

So readers, I am going to give you a mini assignment, and I want this assignment to benefit you and your life. You are not doing this for me, or for anybody else, you are doing it for you. Now, I want you to take out a paper and a pen or pencil or whatever and I want you to write 10 things great and special about you, then it is totally up to you if you want to share it with me or keep it confidential to yourself. Now that paper that you wrote those 10 good things about you, post them somewhere visible in your room, kitchen, fridge door, wherever you are mostly in your home and keep reading them, then use those good things in your life. I guarantee you, that your life will change, and if you say you do not have anything to write or good to say about yourself, that is a huge lie. You are lying to yourself, and you do not want to do that. So the moral of this story is you are special and you are someone who has good qualities.

There is no due date on the assignment. take your time, spare time for you and you will see. It works wonders.

SO REPEAT AFTER ME — I AM SPECIAL, I AM CAPABLE, I AM UNIQUE LIKE NO OTHER, I LOVE MYSELF, AND I WILL NOT PUT MYSELF DOWN AGAIN!

YOU ARE SPECIAL YOU ARE SPECIAL YOU ARE SPECIAL YOU ARE SPECIAL!

Two Faced People – A Lot Are Around These Days

It seems to me that two-faced people have been surfacing around a lot lately. I do not get how people can be so great with you to your face and be nice and forthright, but behind your back, they say some of the most nastiest and terrible things about you and then you find out about it later. It is not a pleasant thing to hear. You how they say, what goes around comes around. It is definitely true. These days finding nice, kind and a straight shooter is hard to find. You just have to be lucky to encounter that special individual who promises to be honest and real with you. This goes hand in hand with a previous blog I wrote about Fake VS. Real. It is not fair to the person who has put his/her trust into someone and who has expressed, given all the feelings to that person about a serious situation or crisis a friend is going through whether it’s for a relationship, family issues, friend issues, work issues, and very personal things that person has talked about and some people who are two face spread it and behind your back, they do not even care about you. Backstabbing someone is not a good trait to develop. It leads to lifelong struggles and it leads to a person not to trust anyone anymore about problems.

I do not understand why people do these things to others, why two-faced people always seem to concur, and people are with them, more than the person who has become victimized due to that fact. My advice to you readers out there is to stand tall and firm and do not take any of this anguish people have caused you and do not let these things hover you. I cannot stress how important it is to be yourself and to re-evaluate all the people in your life and stick with the ones whom always have your back in situations like this. Be who you are. There are people out there who appreciate you and they will not backstab you and be two-faced with other people. These certain issues of the world can cause tension and stress, but do not let is stress you out. One day someone will teach two-faced people a lesson, but of course not with violence and threats, but a civilized conversation with that person to tell them, that what they are doing is wrong and if the scenario and roles were reversed and if the two-faced person was the person who is expressing themselves and sharing personal and sensitive information, then I am sure they would stop it. Always play reverse psychology. See where you end up, but I am almost certain that those words will change that person’s attitude and the way to live honestly and real. Try it out for yourself.

Blogging is Great – What Do You Use It For?

On the internet there are several hundreds of thousands of blogs that are written with many subjects, topics, issues, hobbies, interests, health, wealth, business, technology and so much more. Blogging is a great way to express ones thoughts, feelings, introduce a person, products, or other things, and share with the world the content we want to whether they are success stories, whether they talk about a persons personal health issues, or something along the lines of everything we want a blog to be. You don’t have to write a big story everyday, it can be anything you want it to be, but also keep in mind that to be careful what you post. As long as it is something that does not offend or target one person, and make the reader feel that you are generalizing, then that is the way to go. Blogging is something great and I congratulate those who have them. It is something so great to see and I love reading blogs, and I enjoy learning so much from so many people. It makes the world go around.

I am so glad to see people engaging into social media and blogging is one of them where you can actually read and feel a persons life and persons opinions, suggestions, and advice they give to people who are looking for the information they want to. What do you use blogging for? What are your thoughts on blogging? Why is it so important to you?  Blogging is a great way for communication and for people to take what they have off their chest and their backs to just go on and write about it and share it to the world. I do it all the time and it feels great to do it. What are you accomplishing by blogging everyday or whenever possible? I am sure all of us have our own reasons, personal reasons, to raise awareness on issues and things and whatever we want them to be right? I guess it depends on it person by person. I love it when I see so many people, meet so many people and just enjoy this world of social media we live in. I bet without social media and communications that are instant these days, we wouldn’t be communicating with people from all continents.

The internet and blogging has made the world smaller and made social media and communicating a whole lot easier. It is a great tool to work with and its a great world out there with so many different people with difference of opinions and suggestions and advice.  I wish you all the best and keep on blogging :)

Never Let Others Put Words In Your Mouth & Dictate You

Have you ever been in a situation or several of them where there are people in your life that put words in your mouth, that dictate you and your every move and whatever you say? Do some people in ones life tend to assume all the time about you, about what you are feeling, what you are or not interested in and who to speak to, who not to talk to, who to accept as a friend, who not to accept as a friend. I am sure in one point in our lives it has happened, and sometimes you cannot control it and sometimes you can be afraid to retaliate. In my life, I have had several people do that to me, they make my decisions for me, they decide what I have to say, what I have to do, who to be friends with, who not to be friends with. I mean we all have personal issues behind closed doors to deal with and what human being doesn’t have problems? I am sure we all do, and there are people that do not accept that and end up dictating your life because you have such a soft heart, always accepting of everyone, regardless of anything.

People then assume that you are not interested in something, where you are interested, then people start putting words in your mouth and then you are stuck in the middle and confused about it. I have been through this many times and I said this is the last time I will let anybody make my decisions for me. I am an adult now, and old enough to do that, and I will not let anybody else tell me what to feel, tell me what to do, tell me what to say, and then again I fall for it, and then at the end I suffer for it. Well, this time it is iron clad, I will not be letting others walk all over me. Yes although sometimes it is great to assist people, and care about what people do in their lives and how they live their lives, and who they talk to, or whatever, and it is great to see people genuinely care and everything which is awesome, but then again you shouldn’t let people overpower you all the time. You are an individual, and there is going to come a time where ultimately the decisions that you make you have to do it yourself. You have to develop independence, you have to develop a self of being just you, and you making whatever decision that reflects you.

Sometimes we make choices in life that we are not proud of and we all make mistakes, we all sometimes get vulnerable in certain situations, but if it is something that you don’t learn from and you keep making the same mistakes day in and day out, then that is a course of concern. Stand up for yourself, even if it means standing alone. When you are deciding something as a group, when its something that is a mutual agreement, mutual understanding, and mutual decisions or decisions as a team and if you all are on the same page on something than that is great, but then when you are not on the same page, and you know in your heart its not such a great decision made, then that means that you should speak up and be heard. If it means that you lose those friends, that means they weren’t your true friends to begin with, so I would rather stand alone then have people make decisions for me.

Assumptions are a big hazard and it can destroy friendships, relationships and bonds and you have to be very careful when you assume things on other people, it can backfire on you and you will not have a great outcome on it. The next time someone decides to dictate you and what you have to say about something or acting on something, just tell them kindly, you know I appreciate your willingness, and your strong personality and telling me what to do, and what to say, and being forced into things, but I am going to have to disagree with you and tell you my feelings and my thoughts on this certain situation. the point I am trying to make is that don’t let others force you into things that your heart and mind are not into, and don’t let others force you how to feel, what to say, what to do. Ultimately it is your life and how to deal with it, and don’t let others ever govern your life. Stay away from people like that. You will know who your true friends are and you will know who sticks behind you 100% when that happens. Just think about it, and go with the flow.

I am always here for everyone, and I am always here to help you on your journey, give advice, and hopefully give great advice that you will take with you in your life span. All the best to you and remember, you are you, and don’t let others tell you otherwise. I wish you all the best.