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The Purpose of Blogging – Why do we do it?

In the past few blog posts with the subject of communication and along the lines of what is relative to that, the way we feel, how we get our words and points across to the world and how we do it to reach out to others, and to share with the world our points of view, opinions, suggestions, to raise awareness on issues, to advertise, promote, social issues, recipes, tips, organizational ideas, simplifying life and so much more. We all have our own perspective and our own purpose when blogging and writing about our life. The question is why do we do it? Why do we spend time with writing? Why do we post our blog entries?

To answer those questions is quite simple. We all have a voice and existence in this world and there is just so many stories, journeys, experiences, moments, memories, being helpful, useful and beneficial information about life, travel, food, the holidays, situations, issues to address to the world and things that happen to us to share, to give our insight, and so much more. We spend time writing is because it gives us a boost, and the most important thing is how we feel, and how we want to communicate to the world. Blogging is a therapeutic yet rewarding feeling. It is like writing in our diary, but a virtual diary that we want to post public. We post blog entries to contribute something, an idea and something to share with the world.

Now with this being a virtual diary, there comes responsibility and thinking before we press the post button. There are private issues and things that should not be published of real private matters in ones home, in ones personal life. back in the day and maybe until now people have a personal and private diary, and I am sure you do not want certain people to open it up and unlock your diary of real personal things that you do not want people to see, its almost like the same thing with public blogging. You do not want to post private matters for the world to see, so always be mindful and think before you post something so personal.

Never keep your blogging private. It defeats the whole purpose of writing and expressing to the world. If you want to keep some of your writings private, make a diary, and keep it for yourself in hiding, but hiding a blog is pointless. Somehow no matter how private a blog is, somehow it can always be seen in a way.

Never stop blogging, never stop writing and most importantly never lose your purpose and perspective on why you started blogging in the first place. Never give up what you enjoy doing, never ever let anybody tell you to stop doing what you are good at. Well, nobody is perfect, however that should not define anything. You are in control of your own destiny, your own goals you want to attain from blogging and writing to the world. Remember you do not have to be a perfect blogger, its how you feel and what you want to accomplish. The beauty of blogging is something that is indescribable and the future of journal writing which is now.

So, what is your purpose? Why do you do it?

Communication Style – What is your Type?

As we go through life from the moment we are born, communication is and will always be a vital asset in our day-to-day lives. We need communication when we speak to our family members, boyfriend, girlfriend, wife, husband, partners, groups, friends, colleagues, our bosses, fellow students, teachers, traveling, in social media, sending e-mails and so many different types of communication.

I attended a seminar “Inspire For Tomorrow” at my Armenian Community center and it was about communication, and I learned so much in a couple of hours. It put things into a new perspective, it gave me new light, new ways to deliver our speech, our stories, and so much more. There are several ways you can communicate, but here are 4 styles of communication, that I have observed in my life and my thoughts on it all:

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- The DriverSomeone who is direct, to the point, detail oriented, who speaks their mind, who produces results, attaining goals, gets into competitive situations, taking charge and being in control, wasting no time to beat around the bush.

- The RelaterSomeone who cares about a situation, who can connect with others by thinking of the other person first, who’s relationships and friendships mean the world to a person, someone who is relaxed, and feel cared for, becoming silent, introspective and withdrawn, being helpful, coinciding with others, comforting others.

- AnalystOne who always seeks data, second guesses people, making decisions after analyzing a situation, testing people, giving people to focus on interpersonal and communication skills, those who despise making mistakes, double-checking everything, not being able to trust situations and people until doing further research on a person.

- ExpresserSomeone who recognizes emotions, who expresses feelings, and what that person wants to say, the over sharing person who keeps on talking, and beats around the bush, making a small story into a big one, gets excited, giving feedback, boring people because of overusing communication, explaining ideas to the core then saying things out of turn which then makes it into an argument and problems can arise of sharing too much information.

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All those 4 styles have good and the bad, but we must find a way to be consistent when we communicate with others, using the right tone, words, following up with someone privately about something that you feel is gone wrong, not announcing it in a public, group setting, taking up issues with the person directly, instead of involving others in the mix. People will appreciate it when someone brings the other person to the side and discuss with them a problem, situation or something going on, then finding a solution to the problem, solving whatever issue, and finding the right words, tone to express those feelings.

We must always think about how we are going to present ourselves, no matter where you are, whether it is about self-regard, being assertive, emotional self-awareness, self-actualization, independence. It could be a beautiful thing, but it is in the way we utilize it all.

Communication is a never-ending learning process, and nobody is perfect and makes mistakes, however to always learn from them and progressing to do better, to improve in relationships, friendships, is something that is imperative. If you believe you have made a mistake, do not worry, focus on the future and make it better, improve the way you speak to others, always ask for advice, always have a mentor, someone whom you can talk to a person whom you can trust if you are unsure of how to deal with a situation if you are unsure yourself. It is always good to ask, then to stay silent.

Always be confident, express your ideas to others, be in communication, always tell a person how you feel about something without offending them. There is always a way to go around it. How do you normally handle situations that are presented to you? What have you learned from it all?

Why is communicating and expressing yourself so important? Everyone has a voice, everyone has something to contribute to the world, that is why everyday in technology, and things of the world are being invented, new innovations, new concepts, context, perspectives, theories, discoveries are being made across the world, because many people communicate, and want to get out what they feel is right for the benefit of the world and its people. Each one of us can make a difference in this world, and communication is one of them and we begin just doing that. Without that everyone would not have a voice and this world cannot continue to move forward. That is exactly why Communication is key and so important in our daily life.

So no matter how we express ourselves, the most important thing is the way we do it and a way where it will not hurt others, and where we can find common ground with everything in our lives.

How do you communicate? What is important to you to get across to others? Best wishes to you in your journey. We can all do something positive, say great things and to avoid messy situations, by just changing our tone and the way we communicate.

Never Apologize for The Way You Feel

A lot of the times in life we go through many feelings, emotions, and sometimes we tend to apologize for what we are feeling and telling people our emotions. You have every right to feel what you are feeling, You never have to explain yourself to anybody. Never be ashamed of your feelings. I know they say that you have to express your feelings everytime and tell people exactly how you feel, however sometimes you cannot control feelings, you cannot explain the way you feel due to a certain situation. I know no matter what you have to tell someone how you feel, and not keep anything inside of you, but some circumstances say otherwise. It depends on the person and whom you can confide into easily.

If you keep on living your life on other peoples terms and the way they want you to feel, the way they want you to live your life always telling you what to do, forcing, commanding you to do something is not somebody you want to associate with. Find the path and the people who can relate to you, do what you feel is right for you. Sometimes you need to get out from the norm, and do what is best for you. If you keep on living your life to please others, to always try and impress others, to always keep proving yourself and working hard for other peoples approval, you are not going to get anywhere in life and all you are going to do is just live for other people.

Sometimes you need to put your foot down and say, okay enough is enough. People talk so much about you and your life, gossip, spread rumors, put words in your mouth and what you should do with your life, however sometimes people need to look at themselves in the mirror first before they point fingers, criticize and belittle you. Some people have nothing better to do, than talk smack about other people, when they need to sort out their life and what they need to do. Remember nobody full knows you and about your personal life and what you are going through, and you never have to explain yourself to nobody.

Ignore people who talk so much bogus about you, and ignore people and block them out of your life. Life is too short. Be happy, be you, live your life on your own terms and your own comfort, and do not worry about anything else. People are always going to judge and point fingers. Don’t let it affect you and your life, well-being and who you are. True, compassionate and understanding people will be there for you every step of the way without explaining yourself. Remember others opinions of you, do no matter. Its how you make an opinion of yourself that matters. As long as you feel good about yourself and bring yourself up with good thoughts, confidence, the way you are is what matters the most.

People will always do and say mean things, but never let that take control of yourself.

I have realized a lot of things in the last little while, that you cannot expect people to understand you, your feelings and be on the same page as you, not everybody will be your friend and agree with you. I recommend that people should never stop being themselves, be who you are, feel what you want to feel. In the end we are all human beings in this world, we do make mistakes, we do wrong in social issues, we tend to sometimes associate with people whom we always have to try to fit in, do things to stay in the loop, however you never need to try to fit in, try so hard, and try to stand out, because there will be people who will appreciate you for you and there will be people who will love and cherish you and the memories shared and will share in the present and the future.

Wishing you the best with everything and remember never apologize for the way you feel. Always be thankful and just go on with life. There is only so much you can do and life will never give you more than you can handle.

Why Do Good Soft Hearted People Always Get Knocked Down?

Recently, in life there have been some unpleasant things going on in general that I am not liking whatsoever. For example, when you are so great with what you do, and who you are as a person in your job like, and when so many people who are fans and supporters of that actor/actress on a TV show or Soap Opera, people high up always tend to ruin a good thing and they do not even realize that many fans and supporters hearts will be broken from a good hearted and soft hearted person getting let go from the excellent work that they do. It really is terrible knowing that you are just a number and can be replaced like your nothing when your time is up or not. They need to realize that, messing with fans emotions and feelings and taking fans for a ride is not a laughing and joking matter. It is quite serious and that is losing and betraying the trust of all of us who are/were supporters. These people controlling and making decisions seem like they do not even care. Its very sad and disgusting.

Its like ordinary people in daily general life. In the world people take advantage of you, and do not even care about you and your feelings and the outcome of it all, because they know that they can keep asking you, and counting on you to do things and you never say no and they know that they can get anything from that person, they know they can run and walk all over you because they know how to get things done, and they do not care who gets hurt from it all.

Its something that I cannot make sense of at all and I just need to ask why Good and Soft-Hearted people are often the ones who get knocked down, get mistreated and shafted when not needed anymore? It is so unfair, life is so unfair, especially to the good people, Easily being replaced or looking for another person to do the same thing to. I just cannot understand it at all, and I am trying to look for answers, that I cannot even look for.

In this life, sometimes being a soft-hearted, good hearted, person does not work in some cases. Learning to speak up,  being tough, putting your foot down, standing up for yourself and your rights and saying no once in a while does not  hurt, it just puts others to the ultimate test to see if they are real and good friends to you and to see if those people are walking all over you. Sometimes there are people who take others for a ride all if not most of the time and the Soft and Good hearted person does not see it and will do anything and everything for other people, but when it comes to that individual, and when you ask the same from others its always a struggle to get things in return. I know some do things all the time from people without asking anything in return, but its nice to be acknowledged once in a while and having others do nice things for you.

Some realize that what they are doing is wrong, and they still do it because they do not even have an ounce of decency in them and they do not care who they hurt in the process, unfortunately they always run to the good and soft people because they know that they can play with that persons heart, and emotions. It is sickening. I am just so frustrated because I have been there, I have been through so much with always saying yes, I have been naive, I have been blinded by being used, with people always putting me to the side when not needed anymore, and a lot of fake people are around and this society has become that. Fake people hurt others like crazy, and It puts a scar in your life, because no matter what you do, its like Damn if you do, Damn if you don’t. Now, from your perspective, what do you think of this? What do you do when this issue arises?

In the meantime, Do not worry, keep up being great, soft-hearted people in this world, they are great traits, keep it up, As for those fake people, and those who take others for a ride, someday, I hope that they will realize and sit down and think long and hard and say what I am doing is wrong, and I should stop it, apologize to people and make better choices in society with socializing with others. It will make the world a better, friendlier and nicer place. I hope that I will see that day.

Have you learned to be more tough in this life? How have you handled it? Would like to hear from you.

Madonna’s Photo Post of Her 13 yr old Son Holding Alcohol – So Wrong

On Saturday January 4th, 2014, as you may or may not have heard with this news circulating on the television and on the internet social media, It was reported that Madonna had posted a controversial photo of her Son Rocco who is 13 years old posing with a bottle of Alcohol.  Soon after that photo went viral and so many thousands of people have seen it. Madonna then said, nobody was drinking, we were just having fun. Then she quoted, calm down and get a sense of humor. Then she said, do not start the year off with Judgement.

My opinion on this is, that it is so wrong, no matter if nobody was drinking, it is still wrong to hold an alcoholic bottle, especially in an underage persons hand. What are people who sees this picture to think about it? What are people supposed to do? Sit there and stay quiet? It doesn’t matter how humorous something can be to some people, it can be serious to others. This is not something to joke about, especially when it comes to alcohol. That sends out a message to other teenagers who are underage, that they can do the same thing too, then post it online for the world to see, then having people on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and other people around the world can view it, then the school, and the parents can get a hold of that picture quite easily. Yesterday, I had written about spreading rumors and being careful of what to post online. This is something else that needs to carefully be thought of before posting it.

Madonna should have known better then having to post that picture online. A mother should not allow her son/daughter act that way, even if it is just for show, and actually taking a picture. Okay if you are going to take a picture, at least do not share and post it to the world, and especially on social media. It sends out the wrong message making it okay for everybody to do the same. It is not something to joke about. Of course people will be judging and giving their opinions, just like I am right now. You cannot expect people to be encouraging this type of behavior. Remember, what gets posted online is there forever, and now that picture Madonna has posted has landed in many peoples computers, It has landed all over the internet. Where do we draw the line here? It should be illegal for even posing with alcohol and at 13? Come on! That is just sickening.

Society these days is saturated with things like this, some people do not know their limits, some people post anything and everything, whether if its true or not, whether its disturbing or not, whether its something that can be trouble or not, Its just terrible and ridiculous, and especially for a parent behaving that way is uncalled for. That is just asking for trouble. That teenager and those young children who see that, will say, Okay, let me go to my dad or mom’s liquor cabinet, and take a picture of myself and post it online. Nowadays, children and teenagers are so bright with technology, that they will know a way to post pictures, and then if that picture gets in the wrong hands, there can be serious consequences, and in the end the parents will be in trouble and that family will be in jeopardy. I think that social media is spiraling out of control and make it seem okay to post every little thing, well, its not okay. Especially when it comes to Alcohol and other things.

I do like Madonna’s music, and I have grown up with her music, but I must say this stunt, just caught me off guard. She should have known better. That is all I know and that is all I think about this.

I Am Very Happy These Days – I Am Feeling Incredible

These days I am a very happy person, because I am finally on my way to having my dreams come true and with hard work and determination I know I can get there. It feels great to share with the world who I am and I believe I can move mountains with my words. I want to be able to reach out to my readers and tell my readers who I am and what I do in my life. I feel that when you have a personal approach and an approach to others that reach out to them, that gives the reader a sense of belonging and comfort knowing that what I write will impact readers in such a great and positive way which is what I strive for. I love being real and being real with everyone. It is who I am. I do not like to be a person who is fictional, I like to be a person who is real and who talks about real life issues I have had in my life, sharing my experiences of life, and amongst so many things. I am a very happy person and I feel so incredible. It has been a great couple of weeks with topic and discussions that my readers want, and what my supporters and fans want to hear. I have received many e-mails and messages from people that they want to know more about me and want to know my purpose.

My purpose in blogging and writing is what I always talk about making a difference in this world and in my previous blogs, I have a lot of topics that include all that and what I want to do with my path in getting out there. I am someone who is passionate about social subjects and social aspects of the world and how socializing and social acceptance comes into everything, I don’t like to see people isolated, and the fear of interacting with others. Nobody should have to feel that way and nobody should have to feel rejected when with the social society aspect. I want to help people, I want to help get people going with their lives and that makes me happy more than anything else, to see smiles on peoples faces, to see people happy, and that is what is making me happy too.

In my daily life, I always try the best of my ability to always be positive, no matter what life throws at me and these last few weeks has been great and so much positivity has been happening, I have been out more with my friends, my best friends, and been to the movies, watched some interesting movies, and my social life is getting a lot better and it has been better. I have so many people to be thankful for, for making my life incredible, and I give them credit for everything in my life, but I have to also work on my own happiness and work on being more happier which I am and its such a great feeling to be that way. I feel a different approach to life and that is something very important to me. I am on my path to happiness and my path to making that positive change in the world. I am very happy all around. Thank you to all those who have faith in me and knowing that is what makes me happy in all the days of my life and I have so much to be thankful for. It is incredible to know when your work and your life has been appreciated and given credit for.

It feels so great to be appreciated, it is so great to feel these positive optimistic feelings. Everyone should always feel like this and I wish everyone the best, and may you all smile and be happy everyday like I am. I know we all have our problems to deal with and I know that all of us have unfortunate things happen to us, but never lose faith in happiness and never lose faith in smiling and feeling good about you and yourself, Remember to take charge of you and your emotions and you will see how great life really can be. Thank you so much and have a lovely day.

If You Have Nothing Nice To Say To Someone, Don’t Say Anything At All

In the last few weeks, I have been getting rude, snide, obscene, and cruel comments directed toward my blogs I write. I am doing my best to give out positivity to people all around the world, I am doing my best to encourage people to be happy in their lives, to think and feel optimistic and among so many things. I do not appreciate all that whaling and penalizing me for NOT being “The Perfect Writer” or the “Perfect Responder” Every time. I do read each and everyone’s comments and when I get to reply to them I will. People need to start looking in the mirror and analyze ones blog before penalizing and criticizing other peoples blogs. I like sharing my stories, my opinions and the way I see things in life and what I see in the society today. I have seen it all out there. I am a very social person and whenever an event comes, I go to it and I see different personalities all the time.

I don’t find it fair at all to have to open up my e-mail everyday to find people commenting on my blog on how poorly it is written, when it is not because I know a lot of people and people I don’t even know who darn well think it is wonderful and written from the heart. Nobody is perfect in this world, nobody. I don’t appreciate those who think they are all that and who think they are so perfect in everything and those who think they can run their mouth with terrible remarks all the time. I am sure not perfect, and I make mistakes, and I admit on doing them. It takes a lot to admit mistakes, but some people don’t have the guts to admit that obviously. If people do not have anything nice to say to others, people shouldn’t say anything at all. Yes sometimes rude and cruel comments are needed to have someone improve on their writings and stuff, but there is a way to write to someone, there is always a respectful and good manner to write to someone with.

I know a lot of people have written respectfully toward me, and I appreciate that and I have read and acknowledged them, but there are those who are the total opposite and go all haywire on me and write things I find not to be fair at all. I am tired of people running their mouths like they are so high and mighty in front of their computer or laptop screens. I love to write everyday because it is something I am passionate about and what I am committed to. I have a lot of things in my life and I want to share them with everyone, but not everything I will share though. Only things that matter to me. You know how many blogs I have written about positivity, optimism, being happy, and having self-confidence? I don’t ever want to hurt anybody, and I don’t like to yell at people and keep telling people what to do, but people need to read my blogs because it serves a purpose and that purpose is something that I want to do to better this world, and to give people that encouragement, hope, and good feelings about life and I want people to be more happy. You all are special in my eyes and each one of you have many talents and everything. Each one of us have something good to offer in this world.

I just want the best for everyone, and I want to make that difference in the world. I am sorry I haven’t replied back, and you guys are right about that, but I don’t need to hear it all the time, I do realize it and I will improve on that, I will. I need to have a lot of time to do it and when I do, I will. I do not need to be reminded everyday. Thank you and all the best to everyone. I love you all, and I appreciate you all.